I'm here to listen and give advice as best as I can. If I don't have the ability to answer your question, I will tell you straight up. I have been told that I give good advice by my friends and some people I just meet at random. I'm here to answer whatever I can. Thanks for your time.
Gender: Male
Location: East Texas
Occupation: College Student
Age: 19
Member Since: July 15, 2005
Answers: 28
Last Update: August 11, 2005
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Hello. My name is Kacie. My boyfriend and I have been together for about seven years now, so we are sexually active at this point. However, my boyfriend is in an advertising company and has to travel most of the time. So when he's gone, we have phone sex together. But everytime we have sex hard and fast, I end up bleeding because I keep hitting a bump which I think is the cervix but I am really unsure. What do you think might be causing my bleeding? PS: I do not use toys or anything when having phone sex with him. Thank you so much. - Kacie (link)
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Having sex hard and fast will cause bleeding because the tissue in your vagina is sensitive and you can cut yourself or sometimes just the pressure can cause you to bleed. Hard punding in that general area will cause you to bleed.
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this will be very long..sorry! well me and my boyfriend have been going through a lot lately..and hes been wanting to me to prove to him how much i love him cause sometimes he wonders! so i went out of my way and paid my friends sister to take me to the mall so i could get him a bracelet he wanted carved with our names on it! so i spent like $74 on that and then i found the cutest card ever! well then since last night he has been acting kinda distant..like we couldnt really talk or anything! well then today he had to go help his grandpa so i thought no big deal ill talk to him when he gets home! well i looked at his buddypic thing and he took my name off and just put he had a girlfriend and added some other girl on there too which scared me! so i texted him and said something..no response! so then i called his house and he talked to me and said hed get online in a minute! well then he tells me hes going on vacation, he just got a job, and hes doing modeling so we wont really talk anymore so he thinks its best for now if we go on a break and i prove to him how much i love him! and he said after i send him his stuff he will read it all and think about it! and he said he cant talk on his cell cause his aunt wont let him and now he cant get on the computer either for like a week! it kills me so much cause ive never felt this way in my life..hes supposably bought me a promise ring and everything else! well i IMed that girl that was on his buddypic and seen what was up and i guess shes in love with him or something! and he was talking to her with me and i found out another girl says she loves him too and im so scared that he will move on although he keeps telling me he wont and those girls are too good of friends! i wanna believe him but its so hard! well i have his password for everything n he has mine too..well then he decides hes gonna change his AIM password and now i dont know what to think..im so scared something might be going on! i just dont know what to do! i have done nothing but cry since i found out! he told me after i send his stuff he will write me a letter back and i guess thats how we have to talk for now! i really dont know what to do cause im use to talking to him all day..it kills me so much! and i dunno what to do! do you have any cute ideas i could do with his card and bracelet that i can send through the mail? thanks so much! (link)
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You want a cute idea for you to send to him? Girl, this boy is freakin' shady, drop him! I have NEVER heard of a guy wanting a girl to prove her love for him, unless he was like some psycho or something. You should not have to buy him something to prove you love him, you tell him your feelings and he should believe you, you shouldn't have to go out and do anything. The buddy pic name thing, would arise my first suspicion. Then again it's just a buddy pic icon, maybe he just wanted a change, but the reason for him to change it to "I have a g/f" is kind of dumb. Adding the other girls, is not cool at all, especially if you don't know them or have even heard their names, I consider that sneaky. The "break" thing, I consider that BULL-CRAP!!! That is just a nice way of saying that you aren't together, but MAYBE you will get back together. In other words, he wants nothing holding him back when he is gone. Again with the "prove your love" thing, you shouldn't have to do that. It seems he is keeping out of contact with you on purpose, but that's just me. The reason being because he can't talk to you, but through a letter, that's crap. It's understandable that it is hard to believe him when he is talking to all of these chicks, you need to talk to them and find out if he has been trying to hook up with them, but that is for your knowledge. The AIM password change, further proves my suspicion that he is trying to get with other girls without you knowing. You really need to think this through, it is all your decision, just so you know. My advice for you is to start getting over him now, since he is gone for awhile, when he comes back you will be able to talk with him and explain why to his face you don't want to be with him, because he is shady. Talking to other girls on the computer and they "love" him? If they actually say that, then he has been flirting with them and maybe more, but I don't know how far he has gone. This whole "break" thing is just s ploy to lead you on and keep you still within his grasp, but allowing him to go and do whatever he wants while he is gone. Your best bet is to take the bracelet back, and see if you can get your money back, if not, go pawn it and you can at least get a little money out of it. A relationship should not this way with you worrying so much and him being out of contact. If I was gone from my g/f, I would do whatever I could to get in contact with her. A letter is not trying very hard. One call a week, will not put his aunt into debt, he should be fighting to call you just to hear your voice at least and see how you are. My opinion, this guy is pathetic and is leading you on. Try and get over him now while he is gone, so it won't be as hard when he comes back. Don't send him anything! If he wants a break give him a break, let him contact you, you are just doing what he said, so he can't get mad. While this is going on, pull yourself together and try and get over him as best as possible and when he gets back, don't call him, let him call you. From there you can decide with all the evidence you have gathered whether or not to stay or go. I THINK YOU SHOULD LEAVE HIM, HE IS TOO SHADY!!! A real man keeps one girl and holds her dearly to his heart, he doesn't play around with other girls ont he internet. It is for this reason I will not give you a cute idea to use in your letter with the bracelet. I'm sorry, but that's just my thoughts. Good Luck, girl. Save your tears, he ain't worth it.
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okay well there's this guy i've liked for a pretty long period of time. we've been best friends since like 6th grade. (going into 10th now.) he always just liked me as "a friend." anyway, i got over him in about april or may...and we havent hung out since. but we hung out this past thursday and he was being really really flirty. like we were all messin around with homecoming and i was like wanna go with me? and he said sure. but idk if he was jk or noT! and plus he's been like begging me to hang out.. is this him being friends or is he starting to like me? I RATE HIGH.! (link)
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If the guy starts flirting and stuff, I personally, believe that he likes you. Maybe his feelings towards you have changed and now he likes you. It's too hard to tell if he likes you by you describing one instance to us. Go hang out with him and this time you flirt a little and see if he does it right back, if he does then he is showing some interest in you. From there is where YOU decide if you are going to go on and hang out more and become more attracted to one another or keep is strictly friends. Good luck.
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Okay, I consider myself kind of pretty. I have had guys admit to like me but I have never had a guy ask me out! Why will the openly tell me what they would like doing to me (sexually) but never have enough courage to ask me out? (link)
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Most guys are just horndogs, I should know, I'm one of them. They may be doing that just to see if you will take the bait. They probably are just telling that to you to see if it grabs your attention and, in turn, do something with them. Then again they might just be afraid to ask you out because to them you seem untouchable, or in other words you're too pretty to be with them and they would have no chance in getting with you. They are probably just scared, not because of your looks, but because thing don't think they would have a chance at all. Hope I helped.
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Okay so my boyfriend and I had sex. And now I am worried that I may be pregnant. I won't know for a few more weeks however. I thought i had pregnancy symptoms like I was really hungry, tired, and bitchy but then I was thinking about it and I get like that a week before I get my period. However I heard that even if you get your period that you could still be pregnant. I thought that was completely wrong but I am not sure. So can you be pregnant even if you get your period? I know you start spotting if your pregnant but your period and spotting are different. SO someone please help me out. (link)
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From what I know, it is only in rare cases that you will continue your period if pregnant. Preganncy isn't determined for a few weeks, as you mentioned, but if you get your period you most likely will not be pregnant. Here's some real good advice right here...HAVE HIM WEAR A CONDOM!!! If there is one thing you need to learn from this experience, is that unsafe sex is not something to play around with. That's great if you decide to move your relationship to the next level, but don't be stupid. Use protection next time, so you won't be going crazy as you probably are right now. It will save you a lot of worry and stress. Back to the topic, I have been told that it is only in rare cases that your period won't stop once you are pregnant.
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I'm 13 and never been kissed all my friends have. and all my friends have boyfriends and i don't, is there something wrong with me. I think it might be because I take things slow with guys. please help!!!!!!!!!!! (link)
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No, no, no. Just because you are thirteen and haven't been kissed doesn't mean anything is wrong with you. I believe that a thirteen year old shouldn't be kissing or cating anyways, but that's just me. From my point of view, you don't need to worry about being kissed, and it's a good thing you take it slow with relationships that way you can notice anything that is going on that shouldn't be and you can end the relationship and not have to worry about things you did with him, etc. etc. There is nothing wrong with you, the time will come and you will get what you seek.
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How do I make my ex-boyfriend jaulose so he would come back to me? or should I just want untill he comes to me what should I do help. (link)
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You could either get a good male friend of yours to start going place with you and stuff to make him jealous, or you can just wait it out and wait on him. Either way might work.
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hey alright to cut to the choice i really like this one kid that i meet at my work (community center job) and he seems kinda of shy and nervous but in front of his friends he isnt that i no of. i havnt really talked to him but he loves to play pool and so do i he cute funny and i mean i dont really no his personality to well but everytime i see him its likes i get all werid and i mean i like him alot and stuff or something like i start to get shy because i havnt talked to him or anything well i am to scared to go talk to him what do i do?? please help me sorry soo long (link)
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You might try flirting a little to catch his attention, if that doesn't work, then you will have to initiate the conversation. You might try after getting the conversation started, throw in the idea of going and playing pool sometime. You say you like to play pool, well that means you should know the basics of pool. You might try this to get is attention totally focused on you. Ask him to help you with a shot, because you're not sure what angle to shoot at. That might help you some, but if he is shy and you are shy, someone is going to have to start the conversation. So just start with small talk and then flirt a little later on, and finally try to go play pool or something. During that time you can get to know him and see if you like him, if you do the whole "helping with the shot" thing will help you to reel him in. Hope that helps.
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how do i tell the guy i like that i like him when we barely talk ..., but he likes me back so i dunno (link)
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Your best bet is to go up and start a conversation with him. If he is with a group of friends, either wait until he is done, or tell him you need to speak to him. Take him off to the side and express your feelings, and since you said he likes you back, he will probably respond with "I like you too", and so on. You are going to have to instigate the conversation between you two. The reason being, if someone likes someone else they usually keep it to themselves and hope the other person will realize it. Well people can be dumb and not notice these things, I am one of these people. So if you want this relationship to happen or at least become better friends, you will have to initiate the conversation. Good luck, and I hope I helped.
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ok. guys id like to ask you this: me and my bf have been going out for about 2 months and we never like kiss or hug. what can i do to let him know that i want to do that kinda stuff without makin him feel pressured or bad.?
yall are the best :) (link)
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My friend had this problem, they went out for 3 months and he never kissed her or hugged her, or anything. In the end they broke up, but that isn't what I'm telling you to do, it was an example. Your best bet is to sit down with him and discuss your relationship. Hear his side and then tell your side, in the end you should have a better understanding of how each of you feel. It sounds like a stupid thing to do, but it will help a lot. After you have spoken to him, you can then decide if you want to proceed with the relationship, or just be friends. YOu may want a guy who hugs a kisses, but if he is not that kind of guy, then maybe you should just be friends. Well there's my 2 cents. Hope I helped.
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my boyfriend's best friend (we'll call him..bob) just told me he loves* me. but i love* my boyfriend. but i admit, ive had a tiny crush on bob . wat should i do?!
~thanx in advavnce~
*love as in lik a whole lot (link)
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Your best bet is to stay with your boyfriend as of now. You like you boyfriend a lot and this other guy only a little bit. IF you are having troubles in your relationship then you might start thinking about breaking up with your boyfriend. By troubles I mean: he treats you poorly, he is very jealous, he hits or pushes you,degrades you in any way. But if he is a good boyfriend and always treats you right and puts you on a pedestal above everything else, then you need to stick with him. Don't let a little crush ruin what great relationship you already have. In the end, it's your choice, so think about it, pray about it, and make your choice. Hope I helped.
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get ready for a long one..please help!
ok well one day i met this girl online, jackie, she seemed cool..over time we became best friends and called eachother all the time and stuff, gave eachother b-day presents in the mail (( by the way i live in fl and she lives in Ny )) and yah well one day i scammed her favorite sn and jackie didnt know it was me..yes she has a verry good reason to dislike me!!.. so0o its been about a year and i told her..she hated me for a while, but we soon became friends. now on the othher hand, jackie has a friend named paige and she is always trying to break me and jackie up..well she finally did, paige hacked all of jackies sns and then changed the password to caroline,((that was the pw of the sn i scammed)), and made it look all like i did it but i didnt and jackie doesnt belive me, now shes leaving me nasty messages and mean calls on my phone and i didnt hack it i tryed to explain that to jackie, but i want my best friend back, please help me!!
luv, x3 hannah (link)
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Man, you are in a bad spot. You can't make the girl think what you say is right, although we all wish we could. She has a mind of her own and there is nothing you can do about it. All you can do as explain yourself, no matter how many times it takes, keep telling her the truth, and maybe someday she will believe you. A relationship over the internet is usually destined for failure, but it's your life do what you want. The only thing you can do is stick to your story and continue telling her the truth. That's all you can do...oh and pray that things change.
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see my best friend jason and this guy i realy like both asked me to the opening school. my best friend, well i always had a vibe that he like me but this other guy ive been crushing on like all year. i kindoa like by best friend bac but i still dont know what to do!!!! (link)
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This is all up to you. You need to choose who you want to be with at the school opening, or whatever it is. Then go to the one you don't want to go with and let them down easy. Many girls will just not decide because they don't want to hurt anyone. Well someone's feelings have to get a little hurt now. Choose the guy you want to go with, and then confront the other guy and tell him you already have a date for the evening and you are not able to go with him. He might feel bad, but knowing guys, since I am one, he will find someone else. Don't tell him you can't go with him over the phone, do it face to face, it shows more respect for your friendship. Well good luck.
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what does "getting wet" mean? i know...its embarrassing
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Ok I think I am able to answer. "Getting wet" in the case of a female is usually refered to a female when she has gotten aroused. What happens is when the female is sexually aroused, blood flow to the clitoris and breasts increases. This inturn causes the the vestibule glands in the vagina to lubricate the vestibule and facilitates antry of the penis. So in other words, getting wet is just the secretion that lubricates the vagina for sexual activity. It's not embarassing, asking questions helps you to learn. If you don't ask, you won't know. Hope I helped.
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society tells us that having premarital sex is wrong, (risk of pregnancy, stds...) but also emotionally, that you cant handle a breakup after you lose your virginity to someone, it changes your life forever, etc. I know all of that, but is it true with EVERY SINGLE relationship that if you have premarital sex, it'll drive you two apart and you'll eventually break up. How wrong is it to have sex in highschool (only with 1 person of course and you keep it between yourself.) my boyfriend and I have been going out for 7 months and I want to have sex with him eventually but I'm afraid it'll make us break up... why does that happen? like think back in the 1940's, if you got pregnant both of you would drop out of highschool and GET MARRIED...why cant it be like that these days? (link)
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Premarrital sex has been accepted now days as the "norm." I believe that you should not have sex until marriage, but mainly it's your decision. Keep in mind that if your parents find out, you will never see a guy until you're twenty-one. A friend of mine had sex with this guy she was dating, and they got caught by a cop, mainly because the guy is stupid and didn't pick a good place to screw, but that's besides the point. She is only a sophmore in high school and she can't even go out with her friends because her parents are upset over her having sex at such an early age. I believe that sex so early in your life is not a good thing, emotions get tied up into it and the realtionship becomes emotional even if it is only the begionning of the relationship. Now the whole "if you have sex you will break up" thing is not entirely true, but I think what everyone is trying to tell you is that emotions get involved and IF the relationship ends, you will feel horribly for doing what you did with that person, and you will feel used or that it wasn't worth it. Now days you can't drop out of highschool and get married and live happily ever after. These days you need to be in school just to secure yourself a low income job. You practically need a degree to get any income at all that's not illegal. Having a kid and/or a husband while in school is really hard to do. I would rethink the sex thing at 7 months. You haven't been together long enough in order to go that far with your relationship. I would at least wait a year until I did anything and even then I wouldn't have sex. Your best bet is to try and keep your hormones under control and resist the urge to have sex. You aren't far enough along in life to be having sex yet and you really haven't been with the guy long enough to comfortably give yourself to him. So that's my advice, and I hope it helps you some.
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ok so i love "him" he knows it. but he likes "her". i asked him who it was and he wouldnt tell me. then i asked him if it was me and he said "i aint tellin no1". i really want to know who it is and its bothering me so bad. someone please help i rate high! (link)
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There isn't much you can do in this situation because most guys are stubborn about revealing information. The best way to get this information is to catch him off guard. Act like you don't care who it is he likes, then watch his expressions when you show you don't care. Eventually you will be able to ask him and he will have forgotten that he wasn't going to tell you that information. Also, you can just tell usually. If a guy likes you, then he flirts with you a lot, he goes out of his way to see you, he calls you more than anyone else. You should be able to tell by the way he acts around you if he likes you or not. I hope I helped some.
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have you ever had a friend that thinks she can get with any guy and lies to her best friends and u know it and you want to tlel them but you promised!well i need help now and like you cant get her to stop acting like all that. and treats you so mean! o my gosh i need some advice!!! (link)
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My last girlfriend was like that to her friends and ended up lying to me as well. Sure she was beautiful on the outside, but on the inside she was ugly as Hell. Her friend told me about her lying, but I didn't listen, when I really should have. What you need to do is do like my friend did for me. Take the guy to the side some time when she isn't there and tell them you are sorry you have to tell them this, but you don't want them to get hurt. Then continue saying what you need to say. Follow it up with, "you can take my information to heart or throw it out the window, I just wanted you to know the truth, I hope you do the right thing." Then after that just walk away, make no more explanation, leave him to think on his own. Either way you planted a seed in the back of his mind that will make him think when he is with her. I hope that helps.
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i have a crush on a guy that everyone thinks is cute an dhe knows but he doesnt like me anymore than just a friend he says im pretty that i have a nice body but he still says that he only likes me like a friend and every time i see him with another girl i get mad. do you guys have anything to offer something that will make him like more or anything good will rate a.s.a.p (link)
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Aight here is what I think you might try. Ok so he doesn't like you, but thinks you're pretty and all. You need to show him what he is missing. Try this, pick out your cutest outfit, something not skanky or anything, just something you look real good in. Wear that to school one day, but when you do it, walk like you own the place, keep your head up like you know you're lookin good. When you walk by him say hey, if you want to start a conversation you can, but keep your confidence that youa re lookin good. You have to flirt some in the conversation though, it will catch his attention. Conclude the conversation and say you'll see him later or something like that and turn around and walk off. Put your own spin on the stuff I described and you should catch his attention. I, personally, think this would work, but it's cool if you don't want to try, but you never know that even if by doing this and it doesn't get that guy, it might attract another guy even better. But what do I know I'm a guy. I'm not saying to change yourself though just look real cute and stuff just for a day to get his attention. Hope I helped some.
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Heyy, I wanted to ask you a question b/c you have good ratings, and you're a guy.
Let me tell you the reason I'm having a problem first: I go to a mostly girls school and so I never really had the chance to converse with guys, and I don't really know how to talk to them. And I am 17 years old if that helps :)
1) Is it weird for a girl to just randomly walk up to a guy in public and just start a random conversation??
2) How come if a guy sees a "hot girl" he'll just go straight up to her and talk to her, but if he sees a nice girl who's a little overweight he won't talk to her?
Ok I think that's it. I've never had a boyfriend (unfortunately) and I wanted to know how to go about meeting new people. Thanks a lot. (link)
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Thanks for coming to me first of all. 1) It is considered wierd or odd if a girl walks up to a guy and just starts talking. They might think you are wierd, which is not something you want. 2)That's the way society is really as of now. Most men have been brainwashed that tiny wastes and big tits is the way to go, so therefore guys take that to heart and go after only the hottest girls. Chances are that if you do get a guy that has that mentality of just getting the hottest girls, then you won't be with him long and he will probably be a butt. The best thing you can do in meeting new guys is to just start some casual conversation with them. Ask them their name and go from them. You're better off talking to them slowly and getting to know them that way, don't rush it though. You might try winking at him or smiling at him from afar. This will usually get the guy's attention and from there he will probably initiate the conversation, but if he doesn't fall back on the casual conversation. Oh and don't forget to introduce yourself, you want him to remember the name of the angel he conversed with. Hope I helped.
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So I’m engaged to be married in one year. I was raised Christian and although I don’t go to church or anything any more my I do still believe. My fiancé is an atheist. It’s really important to me (and to my family) to get married in the church but he says that would be ‘compromising his beliefs’ and doesn’t want to. I don’t care if we never step foot in a church again but my uncle is a priest and I can’t tell him that he can’t preside over my wedding! I’ve always known and respected that we don’t feel the same way about religion but I want to spend the rest of my life with this guy but I don’t know what to do about the wedding. Any advice? (link)
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This is a hard subject to compromise over, so you might try the whole "it has been my dream to get married in a church" thing, guilt trip him into it. It's not the best way, but I have known some hard headed atheists who would not compromise or change anything even with accurate evidence behind it. That's one way. If he really cared about you, he would do this for you instead of looking out for himself. If this was the women I was spending the rest of my life with, I would compromise my beliefs to make her happy. It's only one day that you will both be happy during and you will always remember. When you get old you won't be thinking "oh that was the day I compormised my beliefs," instead you will be thinking, oh remember that day it was so great and you looked so beautiful. He needs to recognize that you are going to be together for the rest of the your lives and that this is something you have dreamt about since you were little and that it will break your heart for this dream not to come true. I don't think i helped any, but maybe you enjoyed reading my post. "God is good, all the time." God Bless
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