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afraid to become more than friends
I really really like my best guy friend. And if I ever lost him, I would feel like dieing. He likes me too. But I'm afraid that if we end up dating and breaking up, we won't be like we are now anymore. All of my ex's I barely talked to after we broke up. No matter who broke up with who. And one of my ex's and I who now hate each other, used to be really close. So if you even understand this sinse it's kind of confusing. Can someone out there please give me advice on what to do?
Ps- Don't tell me to forget about him-because I think about him all the time.
I've already thought about this for a long time and I still don't know what to do.
13/f
Sorry this is long but I will rate!!
Thanks
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ok well dont be afraid to go out with him. but if you ask him out or he asks you out let him know that if ou ever break up you dont want it to change anything. that no matter what happens you will always be there for him. but i think you should definetly take it to the next level and if you do break up just keep talking to him and hanging out with him just liek you do now.hope i helped XoXo
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do wat u think is best
if you make a mistake then learn from it and never make it again
*you never know, he could be the 1!!!!!*
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for me going out w/ my best guy friend was the worst thing that ever happened to me. ok now im gonna tell u my story. we were in 6th grade and we both knew we liked one another so he asked me out to a dance. well the date was horrible but anyway during school people were asking me if we were going out and i said well what does he(J.R.) say and everybody said that JR said i was his girlfriend. i was thrilled b/c he was my kindergarten crush. so we went to dinner and movies together and we hung out then one day totally unexpectedly he breaks up with me. then on the same day i got an invitation to his surprise party. so i went. blah blah blah. now three years have passed and i just got the confidence to have a normal conversation with him and when i do i find out from my friends that he didn't think that we were going out and that it was just a date. i have ruined my relationship with him and i regret every moment of it. now for my advice. keep your relationship just a crush and even tell him that you don't want to ruin your relationship with love.
modelkate11
sorry for adding my drama
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Well, ive gone through the same tough desision as you. i know how hard it is, but if he knows you like him, and you know he likes you, whats the point of torturing yourselves? go for it! thats what i did, yes we ended up breaking up, but now he's my best guy friend. it works differently with everybody. i have also had a bad experience with that situation. it depends on the boy you choose to date. if he is more sensitive and caring and he really likes you, he wont care if you break up. He'll accept the fact you arent dating anymore and be fine with it. before you make your desision, make sure you know his personality well enough to know how he will react. i hope i helped you out.
-Mary Beth
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ok i know exactly how you feel. if u dont want anyone to tell you to forget about him then dont. thats your choice. but not to be rude or anything but then why are you asking for advice. if you dont want anyone to tell you to forget about him and thats probally what most people would say then you should tell this guy how you feel. and hope for the best.
write me back and tell me how it goes.
always here to help
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If you feel that strongly about it, then I would just go for it, otherwise you will be driving yourself crazy. However, relationships tend to mess up friendships, so it just depends what you treasure more, friendship, or a possibly a short lived relationship.
If you are really that good friends, your friendship should survive.
Good luck!
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look. i know exactly, word-for-word, step-for-step how ure whole relationship will go down the drain if you go out with this guy. I think you need to understand sumthing, too. You said you are 13. If you like this guy in a "i think about him all the time" way, you'll shoot yourself if you choose to start a (lemme REALLY accentuate the bunny ears here) "ReLaTiOnShIp" with him. If you like him as much as you claim, then consider the rest of ure effin future for a moment. look into his eyes and decide whether or not you wanna give up a long friendship and (**keepthisinmind**)possibly a future REAL (not pathetic 13yearold junior high swing) mayberesultinginsumthingactuallyworhturetime relationship with one of the best friends u'll ever have LATER inexchange for a few weeks or "dating" him and having the privilege to say u have a boyfriend..!?!? i mean whatthecrap!!!? dont you dare lose that friend. youll beat ureself up until you die if you do.
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Go for it girl!!! You don't wanna live your whole life wondering if yall really had something do ya? If you are worried about not being friends after yall break up then do what I do. Just back for a lil while (the time varies according to dif. things) with one of my ex's it was a month the other it was a week. After you have both had a break from each other then start to talk to him again. Act like the past never even happened, just be friends again and it will all work out, just be mature about it! I think you should def. go for it!!!
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