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well my ex boyfriends birthday is coming up and we decided we were gonna spend the day together after school or the following day together! weve been broken up for almost 7 months now! ya i know a really long time! but through it all weve been like best of friends and we talk all the time! and weve hung out twice this summer! well he does tell me he knows we both want to be together but it wont work right now because he is dating another girl but they arent going out cause she cant have a boyfriend! and even after being broke up hes like i love u and i always will! and just last night he said he missed us! and i still really care about him! but anyways for his bday i wanna do something really cute! i was already thinking about making him a cake and decorating it all cute and getting him a card! but i was trying to think of something else special i could do to show him how much i care! any ideas? thanks so much! (link)
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I don't know how arty you are, but you could make him something personal. It can be anything, something you have decorated or made.
For Christmas, my best friend made me a stocking and made a fairy to go on it, this is something I will treasure forever, so you could do something similar to this?
You could get a photograph of the two of you together and put it in a frame. You could decorate a frame, or just find a nice one he would like. Or perhaps put a picture of you both on his birthday card, or just make him a card personal to him.
You could organise a trip somewhere that you spent time together. Perhaps a picnic at a beach or park? It doesn't have to be expensive.
Having said all this, are you sure he is the right person for you? He says you should be together, yet is dating another girl (who can't even properly have a boyfriend.) I wouldn't like to think of you putting lots of time and effort into his birthday, only for him to hurt you by remaining with this girl. Perhaps you should talk to him first?
Good luck and I hope things work out! Let me know how you get on!
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I dont know whats wrong with me. Like, I can be the center of attention in front of my friends but at the same time Im the quietest person you could ever meet when I want to be or when I just dont know what to say and I get nervous.
I'm going to a new school next year and I already have a small group of friends there, and I'm able to make friends easily when I want to, it's just when I present in front of the class that bothers me. I dont know what it is. Like, I'm not afraid about people hearing my voice or anything. I'm not afraid of being nervous, because it's not even that I get nervous. I just BLUSH. I HATE blushing. I hate when people see me blush because they make a huge deal over it and I dont know how to control it. Even if I'm not embarassed I'll still blush at times. And even if I blush when I dont even realize I'm blushing people go "Omg are you EMBARASSEDDD!?" and stuff like that and make jokes. I mean I can make fun of my self too when I want to joking around and all that with people and all but, I dont know.
-sigh- okay. Basically. Im fine presenting. Its just my blushing problem. And then when I FEEL myself blushing, thats when I get majorly nervous.
How can I control this? Please help. Any tips.. any at all. I just want to be able to stand in front of the class without fucking blushing for once, and sweating and feeling all gross and shaky afterwards.
It's been like this ever since I can remember. It's torchure. Can anyone help please? (link)
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I know there is a concealer you can get from The Body Shop that is green in colour and helps hides red cheeks. This may give you more confidence, as when you are blushing, it won't look so bad, then you won't get so embarrassed and blush more.
My Mum has this exact problem, she blushes even when not embarrased, just because someone spoke to her, so I know exactly where you are coming from.
There is no quick fix for it, sometimes hypnotherapy can help, or breathing techniques. It could also be a symptom of hyperhydrosis, which is excess sweating. You say you feel sweaty, so this could be the case. Perhaps you could speak to a doctor about this, as there as certain things you can try to stop these. If your doctor isn't sypmathetic, try another. I found this problem, but they are there to help you, so keep trying.
Please contact my inbox to let me know how you get on or if you want to talk!
Good luck!
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i wanna make my myspace pretty. so can someone give me like two really good colors that blend really good and it would be really pretty! thanks so much! (link)
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Picking a light and dark colour of the same colour usually looks good. e.g. light green and dark green.
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my sis broke up with her bf last night and she is 21 and im 13 and i dont know what to tell her to make her feel better i really want to help her cuz im sure she would help me if something like that happened to me please help me (link)
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You could buy her some some chocolate, offer to watch a movie together, spend time with her. Just someone showing they care will help her.
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Okay I've been with this guy for about six months and we just recently broke up. When we broke up I asked him if it was over completely and he said no. Now I am wondering what I should do? Should I wait on him or should I choose to move on? I still like him a whole lot and he still likes me but I'm not sure if I should wait and see what happens. This is the second time we've broke up. What do I do? I live in California and there is so many guys that are hot here. (link)
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If you both like each other, why did you break up? I think it is probably time to move on. If you really were meant for each other, you wouldn't keep splitting up. I hope you find someone soon!
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okay, i really really like this guy. ive only hung out with him twice, he used to go to my school before i moved, but was in the next grade up & we didnt personally know eachother. well, he & his friend came over to my friends house one day while i was there. usually im pretty shy around guys, but since i didnt know him and didnt like him at the time i wasnt too worried. we had a lot of fun, and the next day the guys invited us over, well we ended up only getting to stay about 30 min because he had to go home. that was about two weeks ago and i havent seen him since, i live an hour and a half away but im constantly going back and visiting, so theres a possibility it could work out. which he even mentioned that. he says he likes me, and he knows i like him too. usually we dont have much to talk about, and im afraid ill lose my chance with him if i wait any longer to go to the next step. hes very very hott and i know he could get a lot of girls just by his personality (hes soo sweet) i want to hang out with him more & possibly eventually go out.. what should i do? ill rate high for good advice (link)
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Could you ask your friend for his number/email/IM address and drop him a message to see if he wants to hang out some time? Or you could arrange to do something as a group, that way it isn't so embarrassing but you get to spend more time with him in the hopes of it leading to more?
Good luck!
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okay well i really like this one guy.. and i mean hes like soo soo perfect... and i know hes noticed me and i think we might have a chance of going out cuz were already friends and i just dont know what to do.. i mean i no i cant ask him out soo please help me please hes soo important to me but he just doesnt know that..
signed so so confused..
*I RATE* please answer me soon* (link)
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Could you try and hint to him? Ask him to see a movie, out for some food? You don't have to outwardly tell him you like him, but just make it clear?
Maintain eye contact, talk to him a lot, laugh at his jokes, spend lots of time with him.
I know it's hard, but keep it up and he will realise soon enough!
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how do i Lose Weight Safely? dont be mean about it! i am 150 pounds and i am only 14.
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You could join a local slimming club and follow a healthy diet. This includes eating five portions of fruit and veg a day and cutting out sugary foods like chocolate, chips etc.
You could also try and do some swimming, which is excellent for losing weight and keeping you toned.
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ok, well my ex girlfriend and i just got done breaking up with each other cause we aggreed on it and stuff on saturday night, well today i was hangin with this girl and i really like her (ive only known her for 2 days, but theres somthin about her) and i dont know if i should go into a relationship with her, or if i should still think about it, cause really i dunno
14/m (link)
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Perhaps you should get to know her first. At least give it a few weeks. You might not get on as well as you think you do, or you may get on even better if you give your friendship some more time.
Whichever you choose...good luck!
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I just crashed my uncle's truck into this stupid stone wall, it got dented and the headlight is cracked. I don't know how to tell him, or my own parents. It's a really old truck, but that doesn't mean I can go breaking it. I'm really scared, I don't want to be punished for it. It was an accident after all. I know if it were my car, my parents would be more understanding but I know they're going to flip, atleast if my uncle doesn't murder me. How should I tell him what happened? (link)
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I would first tell my parents, explain to them what happened and get them on your side. Then explain to your uncle what happened, be really apologetic about it and offer to pay him back for the damaged. Hopefully he won't make you, but at least you have offered.
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I really love to sing and my friends say I'm good. I don't think I am all that good though and I want to know some good ways to get better without taking voice lessons because I don't have a lot of money. My goal isn't to be a proffesional singer but I just want to be a source of entertainment to my friends because singing is a huge part of my life. Please answer I'll rate 5's
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I would make a mix CD of a different range of songs (high, low, pop, classical) and play it all the time and sing along, to test your voice.
You could also hit Karaoke bars to practise. Free and an audience!
Good luck!
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Okay, I'm ususally the one giving the advice, not asking for it, but here goes...
School's going to be starting up again soon which means that the Homecoming activities will be coming up before too long. I was thinking about getting my nails done before the dance. I've never had my nails done before, so this is all new to me. What I want are those arcrylic nails that they don't paint on. I don't know if you know what I'm talking about or not... but they look like real nails, but they're fake. And I don't want the people at the nail salon to paint them either, because the dress I'm going to wear is black and white. I just need to know what this is called so I don't waste my money on something that isn't the right thing. (link)
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I know a number of people who have had those kind of nails done before and when they take them off their nails are all crumbly and yellow, so beware. You can get very decent false nails that don't damage your nails.
If you do decide to get them, make you you go someone that has been recommended, not just any old place that could ruin them.
Good luck!
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I've been invited to a party by a girl I don't know that well and I can't decide whether to go. One one hand, I know some people who are going, and it should be fun b/c theres no parents or anything.
On the other hand, she knows some kind of... rough people, and it could turn nasty. She is always going on about how many people they beat up etc. Also she is telling everyone to bring someone, and in our neighbourhood if the local chavs (hooligans, yobs, call them what you want) might well gatecrash and beat people up.
So what do you think? (link)
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Why don't you take a friend you trust with you? If it starts to turn nasty, leave.
But if you really don't feel comfortable, then stay in. Better safe than sorry.
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im 19 yrs old, college sophomore, i met my ex "james" when i was a senior in high school. strangley enough my friend "pat" put my pic up on hot or not and "james" saw it and clicked meet me. come to find out he went to my high school and graduated a few years ahead of me. his brother was also one of my high school friends.
he was in the army when i met him, (this was in december of my high school year) he had been over seas for 2 years. we talked online and on the phone to eachother every chance we got and he came down on leave for his brothes grad party which i was invited to because his brother and i were friends.
we started hanging out and eventually dating. i broke up with him before i left for college because i didnt want to worry about having a bf and his school and mine were 2 hours apart. he told me he loved me but i broke up with him reguardless
he now has a gf "kerry". he started dating her 2 months after we broke up. apparently he used to date her before he left for iraq. they have been dating ever since.
well the reason i am writing is because after him and i broke it off we still continuted to talk and even hang out on occasion. he has been cheating on "kerry" with me for the past month and 1/2.
"james" tells me that he is probably going back overseas to fight in october. he told me that i should get over him because he isnt sure when or if he is going to come back. and i deserve a guy who is going to be there for me(he is sched for 2 years over there. i dont know what i should do. i dont know if he is still with "kerry" because he loves her or if its not the right time to break up with her or if he is going to break it off when he goes, if he loves me still i just dont know what to think. i need someone to look at the situation from another stand point and give me some advice, i am at a total loss. (link)
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Firstly, you haven't really clarified your feelings for him.
I can imagine dating someone who is posted abroad would be very hard and a big strain, and especially hard with someone who you don't entirely know what your relationship is with him.
You want a guy who will be there for you, but someone who is dating another girl at the same time as you isn't going to be the best guy for you.
Have you tried talking to him? It doesn't sound like he has cleared everything up with you, he needs to clarify his feelings for you. Ask him what he wants - you or Kerry?
I don't know if you love him, but I would lean towards cooling things off before he goes abroad. Possibly drop him a friendly letter or two while he is away and then wait until he comes back and see where he stands with Kerry and you, and see how that goes.
Please let me know how it goes and good luck!
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ok i know its all unlikely your pregnent from a guy having some jizz on his hands then fingering you...but has anyone heard of a particular case where this did happen? or can someone find a story about this happening to somoeone online for me? thank you so much! (link)
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Yes, it is entirely possible and yes I have heard of people getting pregnant who swore blind they had never had sex until this is pointed out.
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Hey. Im 17 years old, and my boyfriend is 21 years old. We live together and everything, but one night, when we were having sex, we didnt even notice the condom slip off. Well, he came inside of me, and then we looked frantically for a condom we though was still on. The next day it came out of me, but there was no cum in it or anything. it was as clear as it was when it first came on. Also, im not on birth control. It has been 2 weeks since, and I was just wondering if there is any chance of getting pregnant. Also, it was only 2 or 3 days after my period. So, can i? (link)
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If you are lucky enough to not be pregnant this time, and it happens again... why don't you take the morning after pill? You can take it up to 72 hours after the event.
Most doctors or clinics will prescribe it. I'm a little shocked you didn't seem to think about it after it happened if you don't want to get pregnant.
I would also advise you have some kind of back-up of birth control, like the pill. There are many ways of taking this, including injections once a month, the daily pill and an implant in your arm that doesn't need replacing all that often.
Back to the issue at hand, you really need to see a doctor to confirm whether you are pregnant or not, to put your mind at rest. A pregnancy test will also confirm it, but the doctor can talk you through all your options.
Good luck.
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do guys think its unnatrictive when your hip bones like stick out and they're a little wider than the rest of your body? xoxo (link)
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Not all guys think it would. Curves are a good thing. Who wants to date a stick insect?
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I have a social to go to soon, and I was wondering if someone can give me a couple websites or stores with really nice dresses. I don't mean prom dresses, but like a nice strapless black dress. Thanks (link)
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If budget is low (or even if it is not and you have plenty to spend) eBay is a great site. ebay.com for the US and ebay.co.uk for England (or google for your own country.)
Or here and here.
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My husband and I were talking the other day and he said that if he died he would not want a funeral. I was shocked. Of course he should have a funeral, it's a great way for family and friends to say goodbye. I feel it is more for the family of the deceased anyway. He disagrees, and is shocked that I would not respect his wishes. Who is right here? And if he did die, what are we as a family suppose to do? I would like the love and support of my faamily. (link)
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I agree with you, funerals are for the living. However, instead of having a funeral, you could have a get together at your house or a favourite place of his, that way, you are respecting his wish to not have a funeral, but you are still getting together with friends and family and getting support that way.
My Nanna died recently, and the week after she died was spent making arrangements for the funeral, which kept our minds busy.
Could you point this out to your husband?
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Fellow atheists: I have a friend who is a militant Christian, meaning, she thinks it's her job to convert everyone who isn't Christian into one, including me. She knows I'm atheist, but it really bothers me when she tells me that I'm going to hell for not believing in Christian ways. I've told her many times that I don't believe in a god, afterlife, or book of worship. Yet, she still has the nerve to constantly bring up "god" and how I NEED to be a Christian. Other than that, she's cool. Are there any ideas on how to get through to her that I really don't want her help when it comes to religion? I'm going to snap if she comments to me one more time. (link)
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Point out to her you would like to remain friends, but you feel you can't while she behaves this way. Ask her why she constantly feels the need to bring up religion against your wishes. I would personally say I could no longer be her friend if this continues, which would be a shame because you don't want that to happen.
If her behaviour doesn't improve, she isn't worth it.
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