the most important thing to keep in mind in this situation is your age. yes, that sounds stupid, but it is soooo important. when i was 13, one of my best friends asked me out (i had known for a little it was coming, so considered what i should do. i loved him so much, in a friend-way, and he meant so much to me. yet!! i have seen what happens to the best friends around me that went out then became enemies after they broke up!!! i mean, i would have loved to go out with him... but i was so young, and whne you go out with someone at such a young age like 13... you are soooo bound to breakup and lose an awesome friendship. man i sound like dr. phil or sumthing.... ignore the cheesiness of this whole response. laugh out loud (yeah, they block the abbreviation of that... go figure...)) and when he asked me out i said no. i, personally, set my own priorities in an order that suits me. for all i know,you could really be into that whole dating at a young age thing, or you coudl be like 17... whatever. i just decided to let you know what i did in that situation... i really hope you make the rite decision for yourself. my guy, adam, and i became better friends after i said \"no, im really sorry adam.. but i love you, just not in the boyfriend way, and i love you enough to knwo i dont want to lose our kick-ass friendship if we would breakup...\" i knew our breakup would have been inevitable... and he is such a great guy. i may have hurt him a little, but it all came out for the better

um.. its not really ure business though i dont like the thought of it at all and im sure you dont either. just malke sure u tell ure parents about how uncomfortable you are with it and if they dont knwo by now then DANG you gotta tell them!!

this is gonna sound stupid, but dont laugh bcuz it works. start a kind of "i heard this going around...." kinda thing that you like him. make sure one of ure close friends talks to him. then i would straight out make small talk bout homecoming to him and see how he reacts. if he is all "um... no i dont have a date and i dont want one, you scary woman get away from me. cooties... COOTIES!!" lmao then back off :P but if not, lead him on to ask you to tha dance!
good luck

to make this answer quick and simple... my parents are 8 years apart. nuthin stopped them. dont let what any1 else says stop you.

If she is being stubborn about meeting new people its cause she's scared and shy. all you can do is be the best friend you can to her. if she is a good person, she'll see what you mean to her. thats all you can do...

oh geez... dont worry yourself! i went for nearly a year without getting my second (and i aint pregnant either i'll tell ya that much :,P)

dont get scared over nothing... your doctor is just gonna tell you what im typing here. i dotn have much more to say than its prefectly normal (and i sound like my mother) lol

dont worry about it. unless that guy is a serial killer or some diagnosed-maniac.. ure friend is gonna be okay. dont stress over it. trust me.. i've "plotted revenge" for waaay bigger reasons than that. and... i can tell that since that guy reacted in a "ooh... im gonna get back at them..." way.. it means hes embarrassed.

dont bother telling your friend, she is gonna be fine.

it seems that she might only be dating you for the status that comes along with a 13-yearold relationship. Status as in... the privilege of being able to claim the ever-popular "of course i have a boyfriend!" I dont mean to diss her or anything, i just mean that if thats true... she's a pretty low girl.

****BUT**** that is just one possibility. I wouldnt ride all my money on that either. i doubt some1 like you wouldnt have figured out she was like that after a year of going out.

Now i doubt any1 will give you this to think about...

ok, well, i personally understand how different girls are about relationships than guys are. i mean in the sense of even telling their families. Guys... they dont have a problem with it usually. I mean, yeah, sometimes they get teased a lil bout it or crap like that from their older brothers and stuff like that ... but that doesnt affect their hearts or minds or anything. i guess guys can be stronger mentally around their families....(now if im totally off from you as a guy in exampling like that, read on anyway cause the next part is important yet hard to comprehend)

Girls... are different, if u wann aplace it in those exact words. What i mean is, a the impression i have of guys is that they are able to roll with punches easier. What i mean by that is.. while a boy can be teased by their parents bout having a girlfriend, laugh it off, and keep living... girls tend to care WAY too much about what their closest people(family ESPECIALLY) think of them.

Im not saying she hasnt told her family about you because she's ashamed of you... HELL no. And dont take into consideration that she has a good relationship with her parents. it doesnt matter how close you are to your family when it comes to revealing her affections for a boy.

its screwedup, yes. but hard to understand as a guy.

just.... stay. stick with her. i PROMISE you she is just to embarrassed to tell her family she likes a boy.. cuz family's can tease... mean...

trust me. familys can turn evil bout teasing...


stick with her... or you'll break her heart... and yours maybe too... itll be a loselose situaition..

one more pointer tho: you are really gonna wann ago out and do sumthing with her.. try going to the movies with your friends and her with hers and met her there. try stuff like that... but dont waste the time you are together... please dont waste it...

if you need more advice, write again and i'll look for you...

wow... 14, eh? this doesnt seem like a good situation for you to have gotten yourself into. If i knew you personally i'd actually be very proud of you for realizing the slight danger he is to you tho. I cant totally say he IS using you, but heck if you are noticing he MAY be... then there is a 99percent chance he IS using you. i actually think you are in danger, if not physically, but mentally and emotionally too.

what i mean is that if you get out of this relationship too late, for the rest of ure life you may not be able to trust any of your future boyfriends... dead serious here. i mean, you are only 14, rite? well, face it, you are so young that you have the rest of your life ahead of you.. the rest of your dating life, too. if you walk away from this guy after he used you to the extent that this situation may grow to... you will be scared the rest of your life...

i dont like thinking another 14yearold is gettin used... i dont want you to take this too lightly, because if danger IS there.. its better to be safe than sorry.. rite?

if i were you... i woudl probably bring it up to him that he acts like he uses you... then depending on how he reacts to that.. you may wann abreak it off... for your safety really...

um.. this is a hard situation... i can tell just from reading how you feel bout this... im not totally absolutely 100percent sure bout what im about to say (because, heck im not you) but i would probably handle your situation in this way...


Take a moment and look into his eyes and basiclaly tell ureself whether he's worth it. ask yourself if what he's doin to you by being so.. knowitall-y is worth ure stress. i have a feeling you dont wann alet this guy go because heck its great to have sum1 to care about you. I know how you feel, and i know how a breakup could wreck more than just a kick-ass relationahip... i cant help u more than just tell you to decide what's best for yoursel... be proud of yourself for finding such a great guy tho. few men out there are as caring as yours is (even if it almost seems near-stalkerish kinda jealous sumtimes, its actually just a man's way of showing he cares)

and no. just because uve been going out for a good chunk of over halfayear does NOT mean you should break it off. i think its great actually. if any reason you decide to break it off with him eventualy, i hope its not because you feel you went out with him 4 2 long.

im not sure, but try going to letssingit.com and doing a lyrics search... if the digits screw up the search, try writing out the time. good luck i guess

normal? idk. what i DO knwo is if he said he loved you after you showed him a pic of you.... maybe this aint the kinda guy you wanna go out with. ESPECIALLY if he said that his mom has to meet you which "could be a while". no. that isnt rite. duh you feel weird because this is a weird scenario for you. get sumthin to hapen fast, either meet his mom and see if he was talkin real or bs-ing or stop talkin to him before he hurts you. take this as a warning.

MAYBE URE LACK OF PERIODS DROVE HER INSANE!! lmao im just kidding dont worry. lol

i bet u any amount of money shes scared. she doesnt wanna get hurt, or there's another guy that she is scared will go after her when shes with you. its kinda a macho kinda "i can steal ure girl away from u" situation, but it would screw with her head. get what im sayin? if she went out with you, her options would also go down, too.

maybe its that she'd rather not go out with you at all, than go out with you, get dumped, never talk to you again and cry herself to sleep for months. i think if thats teh case, she's one heckuva smart girl you've got. a lil too smart to go for chances, but smart nonetheless.

maybe one of her friends is pressuring her or sumthing, too.

I feel for you man, but you have to do sumthing for ureself... dont let go. if you love her, then hold on. maybe this is a case of hard-to-get...

wow this is gonna verge on parental responses, but i think your hormones are just confusing ya. lmao i sound like my mother.
either that or ure jealousy if getting ahold of ure emotions. its screwedup, but i wouldnt worry about it.

I dont care how many times he begs (i mean even on his hands and knees puppy-dog pleas with threats that he'll "hate you forever") you cant handle this lightly. Do yourself a favor and pretend you were him for a moment. i mean, you claim u've known him forever, so pretend every problem revolving around his life is every problem consuming your mind even if only for a moment. if it seems impossible that the things driving him to consider suicide could possibly drive him far enough to commit the act, then just talk to him to him about it because then you'll have a special understanding of it because you walked behind his eyes (and what he ***NEEEEEDS*** is someone to talk to. so throw out a basic "shut up and listen" for your friend. that ALONE could save him) Also consider that the worst cases of neurotical depression or other suicidal-resulting diseases are the cases that are kept absolutely silent. if this so-called friend of ures is going around bragging about threatening to take their own life, slap them and tell them to give it a rest, kill the drama, and stop fishing for attention. ***BUT*** i doubt you wouldve come here if that was the case. So, if ure friend has only told ***you*** (how nice of him to drop the load on one person, too, eh?), and no matter what you say he ignores you (which isnt exactly the best friendship-like quality if you ask me...) and you are too scared to tell any1, SUCK IT UP AND OPEN YOUR MOUTH!!!! fuk if he says he'll hate you forever. if he's threatening it at all and not takin it lightly, he doesnt deserve the attention he's gettin from you. you never know, he may just be thinking about it because he wants attention. well, give him the attention, maybe make him feel bad bout how a real friend wouldnt leave their friend behind to possibly copy the act, and if he becomes stubborn, then tell sum1. if he becomes quiet about it for a while or begs you to the point of tears not to tell any1, tell sum1 neway. if he threatens (i mean THREATENS as in "this isnt worth it... life isnt worth this fight. here's a letter for you. i'll miss you. i. sorry...") then EFFIN TELL SUM1. i know it'll be hard to come rite out and tell sumone.... trust me.. i know.... but you have to put everything aside and save ure friend's life. i know you dont wanna lose him as a friend, but isnt that better than losing him completely off the face of the earth? im more than dead serious here (no pun intended btw). he COULD be in trouble deeper than u coudl imagine. there may even be things about his life that he couldnt explain to you if he tried... if its racking your brain now what ure friend is doin to you, think of how youd be if he actually went... think of how it would be your fault. dont try to kid yourself by sayin you couldnt have done anything. you can save his life. trust me. this is a now-or-never situation. please. trustme and tell someone if this gets any worse... please... so another great friend doesnt have to leave their partner behind....

look. i know exactly, word-for-word, step-for-step how ure whole relationship will go down the drain if you go out with this guy. I think you need to understand sumthing, too. You said you are 13. If you like this guy in a "i think about him all the time" way, you'll shoot yourself if you choose to start a (lemme REALLY accentuate the bunny ears here) "ReLaTiOnShIp" with him. If you like him as much as you claim, then consider the rest of ure effin future for a moment. look into his eyes and decide whether or not you wanna give up a long friendship and (**keepthisinmind**)possibly a future REAL (not pathetic 13yearold junior high swing) mayberesultinginsumthingactuallyworhturetime relationship with one of the best friends u'll ever have LATER inexchange for a few weeks or "dating" him and having the privilege to say u have a boyfriend..!?!? i mean whatthecrap!!!? dont you dare lose that friend. youll beat ureself up until you die if you do.

Look, I'm only here because I've read the crappy advice people have given to those in serious need. I mean give me a break when sum1 threatens suicide and all the advicegiver can say is "golly gee how terribly! go to counseling and tell sum1 rite away!" yeah. I cant just read stuff like that when i know that the person on the other line still hasnt solved their problem. so look. im not not the kinda person whos gonna go round braggin bout my "super special fanstastically cool advice!!" (??) no. Im gonna write back the stuff i KNOW u need to hear and am going to hope to all god almightey im not wasting my time here.

dont bother lookin at my "favorite catergories" either. what a crappy idea to try and limit what kinda questions im gonna answer. god...


~sum12die4u

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