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I have been trying to kill myself sense I was ten. It never worked out right, either there was some-one to stop me or they found me before I could finish. I really don't want to live any more. But I don't seem to have the strength to go on. I don't want to feel this way any more. It scares me and each thought is stronger than the last. I want these feelings to go away. What can I do? Nothing ever seems to help me. I feel that my only option is to kill my self. I still WANT to live though! I'm scared that I might take this to far. Please help me, I don't think I can hold on much longer!

I really hope that by the time I answer this, it's not too late.

Obviously, if every attempt you have made hasn't worked, there is a reason for you to be here.

God loves you, and He has amazing plans in store for your life. There is something that you are meant to do in your time on earth, and maybe that's relating to someone like yourself, and possibly saving their life. Who knows?

There are so many wonderful things in life to be thankful for, I pray that you can open your eyes and your heart and see the beauty in life. I hope you can find something that makes you happy and helps you to enjoy life.

I sound ridiculous, I know myself that life isn't always smooth-sailing, and it's damn hard to always look for the good things in life, but everyone has hardships, and there is someone out there who can relate to you and who understands your pain. You're not alone.

My advice for you is to stop considering suicide. Things may not get better for you tomorrow, or the next day, or even next month.. but I promise you that one day, things WILL get better, and all of the pain and struggles you have endured will be so worth it.

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i sweat a lot and i use secret clinical strength..but i still sweat so much that it leaves sweat stains and stuff. i'm not overweight or anything i just sweat a lot even if i'm not really hot. but now that its summer i sweat more and i don't know what to wear or do about it. i wear black mostly but i want to be able to wear anything. this sucks a lot, any suggestions? can a docter help?

yes! yes! yes!
go to a dermatologist!

i had the same problem. i sweat horribly under my arms, even when it wasn't hot. and my hands would sweat too which makes it awkward to hold a guys hand.

i tried every deodorant, everythinggg.

i'm on a medicine called ditripan.
i take it every night, and i no longer sweat, unless of course it's 100 degrees outside, and in that case it's normal to sweat, haha.
it's virtually safe to take on a long-term basis, and the only side effect is a dry mouth.

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Ok, so i'm going to raise money for a charity, but, i havent narrowed it down to which one i want to do it for yet. there's just so many and im not familiar with most charities. I've looked up some, but if anyone has any really good charities they'd like me to know more about, could you let me know? thank you.

st. jude's, susan g komen, and feed the children are all good choices :)

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Ok I really really REALLY want an emo boyfriend but how do I get them 2 notice me, I'm already emo but its just I don't know how 2 talk 2 one and they don't come 2 me so how do I get them 2 come 2 me if I'm alreadly emo

Do you even know the meaning of the word emo?

It's not just wearing black, listening to sad or suicidal music, and cutting your wrists or whatever else you want to do.

And I don't understand why being emo is such an important factor in having a boyfriend.

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I have been going to a therapist for a while now and she always says that i show signs of someone who was molested and she really thinks that i was. I do not remember ever being molested, but i just finished reading The Perks of Being a Wallflower. AT the end the main character realizes that his aunt used to molest him, i know that it is only a fictional book but everything in this book was like exactly everything that i am going through. And i guess basically i am just asking if someone knew how to explain to me that someone could forget that they were molested, or if that happens in real life besides just books? or if there is some disorder that makes you like block out a painful memory or something.

It is possible that this experience was so painful that, unknowingly, you are preventing yourself from remembering it.
Or perhaps it happened at a stage in your life where you were too young to remember it.

However, therapists/counselors/psychologists can make you think that something in your life happen simply by repeatedly suggesting that it did happen.

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I know this sounds stupid, and I'm not like going to have sex or anything but could someone please tell me like, okay How does birth Control work? When are you supposed to take it? And what does it do for you? like someone said something like it clears your skin? And also do you take it everyday and you can have sex whenever? I'm just kind of confused here. Please help! (:

It's true, birth control does clear your acne. It also regulates your periods, and can even lessen your cramps/headaches or other side effects of your menstrual cycle. Certain pills can even reduce your periods to 4 times a year.

The birth control pill I am on is specifically for acne, and because it's such a low dosage, it's not strong enough to prevent pregnancy. So if the reason you are going on it is so that you can have sex, make sure you talk to your doctor and are using the right pill.

And of course, the pill isn't completely effective for preventing pregnancy. You should always use a condom, even if you are on birth control.

A couple disadvantages to birth control are..
-You have to take it at the same time every day.
-Missing a pill could cause spotting or starting your period early.
-Weight gain.
-Blood clots.

I hope I was helpful :)

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I've really been into yoga lately. Ive been seeing it done on tv & stuff. I swore to myself that it was stupid & i'd never do it but it looks like its really good for you and would help lose weight and gain flexibility. If anyone knows of anything good about it, or a good yoga video & where to get it, fill me in. Thanks a lot.

Steph
(( BlackbeltxO ))

wow, funny coincidence. i've just recently wanted to take Yoga classes with my friend. I've heard that it's really good for you. Do you have a YMCA nearby? They probably have a Yoga class, that's where I'll be taking mine. That way they can help you if you're doing something wrong. =)

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i want to make my boyfriend a CD for our anniversary with a bunch of love songs on it. can you please suggest some good songs to use? please include the name and the artist. Thank you!

Have You Ever - Brandy
For You I Will - Monica
When Can I See You - Babyface
Anniversary - Tony! Toni! Tone!
I Swear - All-4-0ne (personal favorite)
I Can Love You Like That - All-4-One
Nobody Knows - The Tony Rich Project
I Wanna Know - Joe
When I Fall In Love - Natalie Cole
Differences - Ginuwine (i love it)
i hope i was of some help :)

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Hey people i was wondering could everyone tell me what they think of a 15 year old going out with a 13 year old girl?

tell me ur honest opinions please

fine. its only two years, and if shes at your level of maturity there shouldnt be anything wrong with it. i met this guy when i was 13 and he was 15, and we started going out shortly after i turned 14. also, did she just turn 13? or is she about to turn 14? and when did you turn 15? surprisingly, you might not be that far in age. i hope things work out for you

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im really nervous to have sex with my boyfriend it'll be my first time and i feel really ready cus i really do wanna finally lose my virginity but im not sure sumone please tell me what i should do?!?! thnx

if your only feeling ready because your anxious to lose your virginity, than your not truly ready. your first time shouldnt be something really planned.. just when the moments right and you know for sure you're ready. i hope i helped

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Ok. Here's my problem. There is this boy that i like that is like 2-3 years older than me and I really like him!!! What should I do??? I just don't know what to say to him. I dont know If i go up to him and say hi and he'll ask me how old I am I don't want him to think I'm a little too young for him. Does it really make a difference in age??

how old are you and how old is he?
2-3 years doesnt really matter when your an adult and mature, but when your a teenager it can make the world of difference. you could try it with this guy, and if he thinks your too young im sure you'll find someone your own age. or just wait a few years for him. i hope i helped

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okay me and my girlfriend have been together for almost 5 months. i knew her a good while before, and fell in love with her before we started going out. she says she is so in love with me, and sometimes yeah, it seems like it i mean she brings me random gifts and calls me back right after we hang up. dont get me wrong she does many other good things too. but what im wondering is we broke up 3 times. i did it once, she did it once, and 1 time was a misunderstanding. each time i had to fight my little but off to get her back, shes so stubborn she wont even put forth an effort. she kinda seems like she just watches me try. well either way im in love with her so im forced to deal with it. whenever i try to get us back together, she just ignores me. its not fair, i just spin my wheels and she doesnt notice how upset i am, or she does and doesnt care. im in love with her and want her back but it hurts. she promised shes never leave but she did and now its really hard to get her back. i promised i wouldnt let her leave but she just doesnt care what i say. what do i do? she broke up with me this time... i mean how do i deal with this? dont say to stop talking to her cse its impossible and dont say try to get over her cse everything reminds me of her and it would be impossible nonetheless. please help me

thanks
-ger

girls are incredibly stubborn. not just about relationships, but about everything. she probably doesnt realize shes hurting you, or she might just be doing this because shes feeling you dont care about her, and wants to see if you'll come after her. sometimes we dont notice how much others really care, and you just need to show her that you do and that shes hurting you, tell her that if shes ever feeling that way to just come to you and talk about it, rather than playing hard to get. i hope things work out for you

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I am almost 16 and I have never kissed a guy. I've had the chance many times,meen I want to but every time I get nervice and tell the guy no. What should I do?

im fourteen, and sometimes i feel like im the only one whose never kissed. well, ive had one kiss but it wasnt anything special and i dont think it really counts. but i think you should wait until you find a guy that you actually want to kiss, and dont plan on doing it. just when the moment feels right and your ready, go for it. dont let him or anyone else put pressure on you to do it, because you'll regret it later. if your heart isnt in the kiss, it doesnt count. you have to want it. dont worry about it, you still have a lot of time for guys and relationships. wait till your ready. i hope i was of some help =)

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