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I have a friend and he is thinking of suicide..I try talk him out of it,but he won't listen. He has problems in school,family life,relationship problems. I don't want him leaving me. We have been best friends so long!
HELP!
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WOW tell an adult RITE NOW either your parents or his parents or someone that can help him. he will probably get really mad at you but that doesnt matter because he will thank you later i promiss!!hope i helped!!! XoXo
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Tell a responsible adult who can help him. Will he be mad? Yes he probably will be but, he might live to get over it. If he did something now you would never forgive yourself your not saying something. So, do it right now. If hes told you about it that's a cry for help...get him some. Make sure it is an adult who won't blow it off.
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Tell an adult as soon as possible if he is seriously thinking of doing this. I know that you think that he'll be mad at you for doing this, but it's better than him taking his life.
A friend of mine had the same problem but I didnt know him that well at the time & I thought he was just talking. I didn't think he would actually do anything. A week later, he tried to overdose & was in the hospital for a week.
After that, I took him seriously & the next time he talked about doing something like that, I called his mom & she got him help. He wasn't even mad at me. I thought he would be, but he cried & thanked me. Now he's doing a lot better & he doesn't talk about suicide at all.
I hope everything works out.
x33 ;; Always,
ADViCEx4xY0U
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This is serious stuff & i know you think you can only keep it to yourself but you cant. you need to tell your parents & then they can tell his parents. He should get into therepy. I hope i helped. & good luck. much luhhv, Lauren
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till your friend nothing is that bad that you have to end your life, and when things go wrong life goes on
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tell his parents or the cops....ya he'll be mad but i would rather him be mad then be dead...would you!?!?
hope i helped bi
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Just tell him what things he will be missing out on like the future.If he is ever going to have kids and how much you guys are friends.He has other ways to solve this like go to the school counserler because killing yourself is NOT the answer!!
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I dont care how many times he begs (i mean even on his hands and knees puppy-dog pleas with threats that he'll "hate you forever") you cant handle this lightly. Do yourself a favor and pretend you were him for a moment. i mean, you claim u've known him forever, so pretend every problem revolving around his life is every problem consuming your mind even if only for a moment. if it seems impossible that the things driving him to consider suicide could possibly drive him far enough to commit the act, then just talk to him to him about it because then you'll have a special understanding of it because you walked behind his eyes (and what he ***NEEEEEDS*** is someone to talk to. so throw out a basic "shut up and listen" for your friend. that ALONE could save him) Also consider that the worst cases of neurotical depression or other suicidal-resulting diseases are the cases that are kept absolutely silent. if this so-called friend of ures is going around bragging about threatening to take their own life, slap them and tell them to give it a rest, kill the drama, and stop fishing for attention. ***BUT*** i doubt you wouldve come here if that was the case. So, if ure friend has only told ***you*** (how nice of him to drop the load on one person, too, eh?), and no matter what you say he ignores you (which isnt exactly the best friendship-like quality if you ask me...) and you are too scared to tell any1, SUCK IT UP AND OPEN YOUR MOUTH!!!! fuk if he says he'll hate you forever. if he's threatening it at all and not takin it lightly, he doesnt deserve the attention he's gettin from you. you never know, he may just be thinking about it because he wants attention. well, give him the attention, maybe make him feel bad bout how a real friend wouldnt leave their friend behind to possibly copy the act, and if he becomes stubborn, then tell sum1. if he becomes quiet about it for a while or begs you to the point of tears not to tell any1, tell sum1 neway. if he threatens (i mean THREATENS as in "this isnt worth it... life isnt worth this fight. here's a letter for you. i'll miss you. i. sorry...") then EFFIN TELL SUM1. i know it'll be hard to come rite out and tell sumone.... trust me.. i know.... but you have to put everything aside and save ure friend's life. i know you dont wanna lose him as a friend, but isnt that better than losing him completely off the face of the earth? im more than dead serious here (no pun intended btw). he COULD be in trouble deeper than u coudl imagine. there may even be things about his life that he couldnt explain to you if he tried... if its racking your brain now what ure friend is doin to you, think of how youd be if he actually went... think of how it would be your fault. dont try to kid yourself by sayin you couldnt have done anything. you can save his life. trust me. this is a now-or-never situation. please. trustme and tell someone if this gets any worse... please... so another great friend doesnt have to leave their partner behind....
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First of all try talking to him again! Reason with him that things will get better, I know from a fact that when things get really down for someone they want to take the easy way out which all to often resulting in their own life being lost.
And if talking does not work go talk to his parents/ a grown up who can help! They can get your friend the professional help he will need to get through life. It will not be easy but you must now take full action on this matter, when someone talks about committing suicide, all too often the act will soon follow! Your friend will need you more now than ever before
Best of luck I hope you succeed in stopping him from making the mistake of his life.
Let me know if I helped in anyway!
~Teen Guru~
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I know that your friend is going through some crazy stuff and your trying to help. I know it must be really difficult for you. Tell your friend that everything he's going through is temporary and it won't last forever. Tell your friend that he has the opportunity, that one day he won't ever feel pain again; that one day all the tears and hurt and shame and lonilnesss and sorrow and grief will all be wiped away. Tell him that he if never feels love from people again, Jesus will always love him. NO MATTER WHAT!.
(In Heaven)Revelation 21:
4 He will wipe every tear from your eyes. There will be no more death or mourning or crying or pain, for the old order of things has passed away."
Whenever your friend feels like the world is crashing down on him let him know this
Psalm 9:
9 The LORD is a refuge for the oppressed, a stronghold in times of trouble. 10 Those who know your name will trust in you, for you, LORD, have never forsaken those who seek you.
If your friend pursues God, things WILL change in his life.
-God Bless
Jesus Christ CHANGES EVERYTHING!
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the best thing to do is not only tell him that you care about him but show him that a lot of people care for him. Don't just tell him not to do suicide. Show him that you care. Do things together. What i mean by that is like hang out with him. For example go to the mall, go bowling, or go to the movies. Try to take his mind off of suicidal thoughts. If this doesn't work you should tell a family memeber or someone you trust. They will help you.
~~I hope this works for the best..remember to stay positive ...b/c life's too short...~~
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tell him that you REALLY care about him and you would die on the inside if he was gone. tell him he is one of your really good friends and you dont like seeing him suffer but tell him that suicide isnt the way to go. tell him that you'll always be there for him if he needs anyone to talk to and you will help him through the tough times he is having. i hope i helped. feel free to ask me anything else and good luck with you friend. tell me how it works out.
♥ leah
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