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Should I stay or should I go???
13/m. me and my girlfried have been going out for about a year. But we have never really done anything like even go to the movies!!!! So yah. This is all because she wont tell her parents about us. Im not at all a bad kid. Im pretty good looking, good grades, never got suspended, nice, ect. I'm getting a little tired of this b/c i want to be able to do stuff with her. should i dump her and move on? or should I stay with her? Why wont she tell them? I no its not b/c her parents think she is too young, and she has like a really good relationship with her parents. What should i do? Stay? or go? Please help!!!! I RATE HIGH!!!
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Okay you guys should really have a talk about this. Just go to her and be like," Look I really really like you but why won't you tell your parents about us? Because I wanna be able to do stuff with you and hang out with you like boyfriends and girlfriends should." ( or something like that ) .. she just might be embarassed to tell her parents cause sometimes parents like to tease their kids and stuff like that. The only other thing I was going to suggest was that maybe it IS because her parents think she's too young to date and she doesn't want them to find out but you said you know that's not it =/ Yeah, I would seriously ask her about that. I don't know ; this is a tough situation...I might want to stick with her ( at least for awhile longer ) because all that's gonna happen is your gonna break her heart and possibly yours too. Just stick with her for awhile longer and if you guys still don't hang out and stuff like that, then I might consider dumping her because I mean you guys have dated what? A year? I think she should be able to tell her parents she's been dating a guy for a year, and boyfriends and girlfriends should hang out together, ESPECIALLY after having such a long relationship! And I think you deserve a girlfriend whose gonna hang out with you, have you meet her parents, etc. So just wait it out a bit, talk to her about it, and see what happens. If you want to talk more, then PLEASE IM me!! =)
I hope I helped!
Love,
MELii
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well if you reallly really like her stay with her and if you are reallly annoyed by this which i no i sure would be. cuz if her parents let her date so i dont c y she doesnt wanna hang out. maybe shes a lil shy or sum so invite another couple a friend of yours to go wihth ya to da movies she mihgt feel a lil more comfortable. hope i helped.
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Get a group of people together and all go to the movies together. Hopefully her parents will allow that. Maybe see if you could meet her parents if she has some people go over her house to watch some movies? Then eventually they will get to know you.
Talk to her about it.
If you want you guys to last you need to be able to communicate. Tell her if she doesnt take the chance in telling her parents then you dont see how it will work much if you guys cant see eachother or hang out.
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you have to dump her, you should never date someone who is ashamed of you, so she likes you shes just worried that other people wont, and thats no way to have a good relationship, so dup her and tell her y.
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whoa definetely some issues that need to be discussed. i mean you must have talked to her about this and if you havent then by all means please do. wow i mean it sounds like you are a good kid her parents shouldnt have a problem
and if it comes so far maybe you need to tell her parents
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it seems that she might only be dating you for the status that comes along with a 13-yearold relationship. Status as in... the privilege of being able to claim the ever-popular "of course i have a boyfriend!" I dont mean to diss her or anything, i just mean that if thats true... she's a pretty low girl.
****BUT**** that is just one possibility. I wouldnt ride all my money on that either. i doubt some1 like you wouldnt have figured out she was like that after a year of going out.
Now i doubt any1 will give you this to think about...
ok, well, i personally understand how different girls are about relationships than guys are. i mean in the sense of even telling their families. Guys... they dont have a problem with it usually. I mean, yeah, sometimes they get teased a lil bout it or crap like that from their older brothers and stuff like that ... but that doesnt affect their hearts or minds or anything. i guess guys can be stronger mentally around their families....(now if im totally off from you as a guy in exampling like that, read on anyway cause the next part is important yet hard to comprehend)
Girls... are different, if u wann aplace it in those exact words. What i mean is, a the impression i have of guys is that they are able to roll with punches easier. What i mean by that is.. while a boy can be teased by their parents bout having a girlfriend, laugh it off, and keep living... girls tend to care WAY too much about what their closest people(family ESPECIALLY) think of them.
Im not saying she hasnt told her family about you because she's ashamed of you... HELL no. And dont take into consideration that she has a good relationship with her parents. it doesnt matter how close you are to your family when it comes to revealing her affections for a boy.
its screwedup, yes. but hard to understand as a guy.
just.... stay. stick with her. i PROMISE you she is just to embarrassed to tell her family she likes a boy.. cuz family's can tease... mean...
trust me. familys can turn evil bout teasing...
stick with her... or you'll break her heart... and yours maybe too... itll be a loselose situaition..
one more pointer tho: you are really gonna wann ago out and do sumthing with her.. try going to the movies with your friends and her with hers and met her there. try stuff like that... but dont waste the time you are together... please dont waste it...
if you need more advice, write again and i'll look for you...
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When I had my boyfriends around sixth and seventh grades I was scared to tell my parents. Really it turned out my mom didn't care... not that I went out with anyone who's parents didn't drive around in BMW's and go to the Country Club (that's what I get for attending Prep School). But... don't dump her, give her time to think about the fact that it's better if she tells her parents then them hearing it from someone else, and they probably won't even care.
Hope I helped and good luck!
XOXO
oPreppyo
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I personally would be moving on.
1) She isn't telling you the reason she won't tell her parents about you. A gf/bf should be able to communicate and talk about anything.
2)She won't tell them so you can't actually date. That being the case, I see no point in being a token boyfriend for her around school.
With your credentials you shouldn't have any problem finding a girl who will be more of a girlfriend to you than the current one. Good luck in whatever you decide. :)
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Hmm. Tell her all of that. Read off to her everything you wrote, and tell her exactly how you feel. Ask her why she won't tell them. You never know, it could be because she is afraid they might not accept you and she'd feel guilty fot breaking things up with you in her parents get involved.
If you think it seems alright, call her parents over the phone. Tell them: hey my names so and so and i'm friends with ___. Tell them about yourself a bit, the basics, then ask if it would be alrite if you can meet up somewhere like the mall or movies or anything.
If that doesn't seem like a good idea, keep things going. Try not to pester her too much about it. Over time, help her gain the confidence and trust she might need to simply confront her parents and tell her. Maybe either of you could find ways to meet up at a place where its easier for the both of you, where neither of you are limited too much. Just because things are rough and limited, doesn't mean they can't get better. Good luck.
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dump her.
cuz she obviously doesnt like u enough to tell her parents about you.
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Just because her parents don't know about you doesn't mean that you can't go to the movies together. You can go in a group. I don't really know what else to say because I don't know why she won't tell her parents. I don't think you should dump her but I think you should talk to her and ask her why she won't tell her parents. Maybe she won't tell them because she is nervous to go out on like a 'date' w/ you. I'm sure there is some reason.
<3 Brunette27
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Before doing anything really drastic, I would just ask her about it. Ask her why she hasn't told them & let her know that you want to be able to do things with her. Maybe then she'll talk to them & you'll be happier with the relationship. If she doesn't tell them, I would try hanging out with some of your friends & inviting her & her friends. I'm sure her parents wouldn't mind her hanging out with a group of friends. Sooner or later, she's going to have to tell them & I'm sure she will eventually! Just give it time! If you need anything else, just leave it in my inbox! Good luck with everything!
x33 ;; Always,
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i think you should talk to your girlfriend about this first i mena maybe she has a reason to do what she is doing.. tell her how you feel. and about the movie thing.. that is werid.. i mean i am 14 and i got a boyfriend of 2 months and my parents dont want me havin a boyfriend but i still have have went to the movies with my boyfriend and went to the mall. just talk to her about it. unlkess u want to throw a years worth of effort all away because you made the mistake and not have talked to her about it... you got o listen to what she has to say and why she hasnt told her parents about her having a boyfriend there has to be a reason why.. hope this helps you out.
*~Stephanie~*
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