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my boyfriend and i are in a long distance relationshiip i love him and he says he loves me neither one of us wanted to fall in love with the each other but we are the thing is though sometimes i have doubts about our relationship and wanna call it off but he said he'd be dissapointed and hurt if i did i don't wanna hurt him nor do i wanna lose him i just want everything to be right between us, he is a great guy so what should i do when i start to doubts about our relationshipsor his love
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talk to him and tell him how you feel..if you feel like you don't love him or if you doubt it then you probably don't..don't stay with him just because you don't wanna hurt him..to me it's kinda like using him u know? just be honest with him and let him know whats going on and what you're thinking. hope i helped.
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If you have doubts about loving him, chances are it isnt love. When you love someone theres no doubt in your mind that its right. It seems as if your just scared of losing him, or him hating you, so your hanging in there to preserve the friendship. If thats the case, then dont sacrafice your happyness, to save something like that. It isnt fair to you.
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Oh man, I know how you feel. I just got out of a long distance relationship of 8 months. I loved him too, very much. I still do, but differently now b/c he broke up w/ me b/c of distance. I only wanted us to break up if it was what he wanted b/c i was sure of how I felt. I was afraid of falling hard for him b/c of it being long distance and I told myself that Lord willing I would only fall in love w/ the man I'm going to marry. Well, I don't know if that's the case in his and I's situation, but things didn't go according to plan. I know what you mean by that...he'll let you know when things are getting more tough or more worth it. You'll be able to tell, I was. Trust how you feel, and believe me, he'll let you know somehow someway how he feels about your relationship. I hope I helped. Good luck.
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Communication is key and crucial to any relationship and friendship. Having doubts about the other person or even yourself is perfectly normal in a relationship. It's best to confront them as soon as possible. Really, if your boyfriend felt that you were cheating on him somehow, but you knew something like that never even crossed your mind, you'd want to know and set things straight, right? You need to tell him: hey ya know, i have some doubts and need to sort things out. No, having doubts does not mean you have to break up with eachother either. It just needs you both need to comminicate your feelings with each other more often or should be even more open with eachother than you are now.
Doubts can even be fixed by explanations. You might find it easier if you maybe wrote down any and all doubts you might have about your relationship, wether on your part or his. If you don't think you should continue the relationship due to distance, write that down. Then wrtie down any reasons you can think of to support that. Writing all of your doubts down and reasons might help you gather your thoughts a bit more clearly, and maybe even make it easier for you to tell him. If you find it too difficult to meet up or even just tell him about it in person, write it to him. It'd be easier in a letter or an e-mail, rather than over the phone or an IM, so it's all at once and not in pieces so different things don't come to mind if you have more than one doubt and want to explain them all fully.
If you feel any doubts, right away tell him. Try not to wait a few weeks to do it either, but make sure you are ready and clear about what you need to talk about. You can even tell him straight-foward: hey look, earlier today you said/did this this and that, or someone said this and that, etc. Keeping your feelings to yourself and all of your doubts will eventually hurt him even more in the end if you don't tell him when the time is right.
Long distance relationships can be rough, but can definatley work out. Try and be more open with each other and not afraid of telling him how you honestly feel about anything...because you would want him to do the same [not doing so might actually hurt your relationship]. Good luck.
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OMG i know how you feel i am in the same sistuation and i have been with my boyfriend for a month and i have only seen him twice and sometimes i am scared that i am nto with him that he gets a tmptation and that he will cheat on me. what you have to do is just believe and trust him that he wont cheat on you and you need to believe that he loves you....** Guys love you more than you love them if they are serious in your relationships.** you need to keep your head up and think of the positives. hope this ehlsp you out.
*~Stephanie~*
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You should talk to him about what you are feeling... if he loves you he will understand and hopfully be feeling the same way about the worry... Maybe it would be best if you took a break and then see how things go and then you can hook back up in the end!!
Hope I helped tiffany<3
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