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What to say
So, my guy and I went ring shopping today and picked out rings.
The problem is gonna be my mom. He gave me an antique ring on valentine's day almost two years ago, and I've been wearing that one, but we picked one that will be sized to fit my left ring finger. Basically, we are engaged, but we're keeping it quiet until about halfway through college, when it'll be more acceptable to my parents.
This ring kind of looks like an engagement ring, but it's not a diamond. That's the only thing, though it is a single stone, which is symbolic enough. My mom is extremely against my getting married young (we're planning to get married in four or five years, so there's no rush at all, but my mom wouldn't understand that). I'm 17 and he's 19. I'll be 18 in October. Anyway, my mom's gonna freak out when she sees the ring on that finger, and essentially a wedding band on his.
What do I say to her?
Please, no smartass remarks. I'll just rate you down for stupidity.
Thanks in advance. =)
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Just say, " Mom this is what I want and we will handle it. Please just accect the fact that we're getting married. I understand I'm young but I'm able to take charge of the situation."
Then she'll understand. Hope I helped!
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Mom doesn't like the idea of you marrying young but I think after the initial shock wore off she would probably be okay with it. Explain you don't plan on marrying for 4-5 years. She should be over it by then! Wear your ring and if she asks tell her the truth.
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well ytou shouild tell your mom that you and your "fiance" were talking and that you guys shouild get married..but you need to tell her that your going to finish school and that you will get married when the time is right..its pretty sad that your mom will be pissed that you find your true love..and your "fiance".. well you shouold finish college first and then do what you gotta do with your "fiance"..and your mom shouild suport you 100%
but you no that your mom is proably going to be so pissed that your making a decison to get married..you shouildnt wear the ring around her right now..unless your ready to tell her what it means!! that your planning to get married a couple of years from now..but you just finish college and then think about marriage.. but you do what you feel is right..and try to find a good way to tell your mom..
hope i helped..
*love always*
Bridgete>ilovepink101
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okay. your mom is probablly freaking out! I mean what parent wouldn't if their 17 year old daughter was engaged to an adult? hello, wake up and smell the coffee, you're a minor!! She might have done something in her past that she doesn't want you to go through. what do you say to her... the truth!! for a stupid rating...you're on something! this is a stupid question.
Thanks for the question! aha.... dumbass
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Since you are nearly 18, your mom should have no say-so. My husband's parents objected to us getting married so soon but we told them that we were both adults and while we appreciated their concern, it was our decision to make.
Sit down with your mom before she sees the ring and tell her that your guy bought you an engagement ring but you are not planning on getting married until after college. Listen to her calmly, then tell her gently that while you appreciate her concern, this is your choice to make but you will think about what she said.
It seems to me that you're making a very mature decision and your mom should support you, whether she agrees or not.
Good luck with your mom and your engagement.
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Tell her it's a promise ring. Tell her that you both went out to buy eachother promise rings. A promise ring isn't an engagement ring, it's a ring to symbolize your relationship in a different way. It symbolizes that you two are happily together and that you both promise to stay together and be faithful to eachother. Another thing you can do is to put it on your middle finger (if it fits on that finger) and say you bought it for yourself. My boyfriend bought me a promise ring which looks more like an engagement ring and I had it on my left ring finger and people started saying that I was engaged. I'm 16, and that's young to be getting engaged. So now I just wear it on my middle finger and wear other rings on my ring finger and my thumb. So anyway, you can either tell her that it's an engagement ring or that you bought it for yourself. Best of luck to you!
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IF you two love eachother so much and you don't want anyone to know for a few years do you really wanna be actually engaged? Maybe you should hold of on the rings and just know in eachothers hearts that you are enganged and in love. The rings dont really matter its whats inside and the way you think. Having a ring on your left ring finger would def give your mom the wake up call that you two are in fact engaged...
hope i helped
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When people get engaged, the male doesn't wear a wedding band until they are actually married. However, if he wants to wear the ring, and your mother happens to notice, simply reply that they are promise rings. Promise rings are pretty big amongst people who've been dating for a while.
What is a promise ring? It's a promise to eachother that you will remain faithful to eachother, even though you aren't engaged or even married. It's a promise that one day you will get engaged.
Since the stone is not diamond, your mother would be more likely to accept that story. Although she might ask why you're not wearing it on your right hand. Just take it in small strides, and don't go around telling all your friends you're engaged. If you tell a lot of people it's bound to get back to her ears.
If it does get back to her ears, then don't lie about it. Simply state the facts that you provided me. "Yes, we are engaged, however we are not planning on getting married for another 4 to 5 years." That should ease her a little.
<3 Nyx
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well you shouldnt be afriad because at least you are willing to go to college and maybe if you honest with her she will get mad but in the end she wil be proud. im mean your almost 18 why not tell her when your 18 . it really isnt that bad i say your old enough to make your own decision. dont let your mom male you afriad to tell her good news. as long as your happ she should be happy for you to believe me every thing will turn out fine
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i think you should tell your mom how you feel about this guy. i mean it is your life and you cannt contol who you like and who you want to marry.. tell your mom she has nothin to worry about and that you guys are waiting a lil be4 getting married and that you arent rushing into things. it seems like you have been with this guy for a long time and that you truely love him and your mom needs to understand that what ur doing is fallowing you heart and that you love this guy and there isnt anything that will change your mind. you might also want to ad that your not a kid anymore and that you should be able to do anything you want. i hope this helps you out. and i hope you and your boyfriend(soon to be husband) have a wonderful life together. wish you the best of luck.
*~Stephanie~*
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