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Can this work?
I am a seventeen year old female and I am in love. What is the problem with this, you may ask? I shall tell you. The man I love is 7.5 years my senior (he's 25) and he lives in another continent. He says that he loves me as well, but I'm not sure how to make this relationship work. Can a 17 year old and a 25 year old really make it? Especially with him being so far away... He says he may move here in December, however, but then what? My parents would never approve and I crave their approval like I crave oxygen. I am at a loss. I don't really know what I'm asking, quite frankly, and I won't be surprised if no one replies. I suppose I'm just looking for opinions. Thanks.
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Have you ever met eachother? Talking online and on the phone is good, but to ge the best idea of a person, you want to meet them in the flesh. Maybe you can plan a trip to meet him, or vice versa, if you haven't already? The age difference isn't so bad, but maybe you want to wait until you're 18 to plan any kind of a trip. I wouldn't say something to your parents until everything is concrete. If he moves there, then you can tell them and talk to them honestly about how you feel about eachother. If they still don't approve, however terrible that may seem, take a close look at your feelings, and try to see that you don't really have to choose. You can tell your parents that you still love them and would like their approval and respect, but if they won't give it, then you'd like to just keep that subject quiet. Hope this helps.
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It doesn't really sound good for you. Not that I don't think you could work it out because of age differences though. If he moved here and turned out to be all you expected (doubtful if met online) it might work out great. But, if parental approval is what you need to be happy, and you don't believe you will get it...won't work. Good luck. :)
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i wouldnt work right now,but next year you will be 18 and allowed to make whatever desicion you want,so maybe you should just wait a year until your old enough (legally) to be with him...hope we helped
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well this is only my opinion...
if it were me this would never work because of the long distance and the fact that my parents would never approve..
however..you will be 18 next year, which makes you an adult..and your parents will have to accept it ..your situation is complicated..i mean wow hes far away! you can always make it work and if its trrue love, it will work somehow..but major comprimises will have to be made to make it work..like you going against your parents.. and you two being so0o far apart...(my opinoon)
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It probably could work if you set your mind to it, but it would probably eventually die away because you live too far away. Also I think he's a little old for you (this is only in general there could be exceptions).
But remember that you are only 17 and you're in high school (or college). An older guy who doesn't even live with you could be a distraction to college applications (if you're applying) I know this sounds really annoying and nerdy but you should focus on your schoolwork for now. Guys will come and go. But if you let this man get in the way of college you'll regret it later on.
Or if you're not applying, see first paragraph.
Hope I helped
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im not gunna give you the answer the other smart a$$'s gave. it moght not be what you wanna here, but it's true.
long distance is obviously harder. almost all of us have had them, and we know that you have to put extra effort into it. the thing about your parent's is really understandable.
exaple- i'm a 16 year old guy, and my girl friend doesn't live far away, but her dad won't let us see each other, cuz i snuck her out of the house. your probably thinking, "what does that have to do with my question?".
it doesnt matter if the person lives over sea's, or 2 block's away. parents are parents. they're just concerned about tour well being. but if your in love, they have to accept that, and the day your 18, they'll have to live with it. it might be hard, but you have to tell them how you really feel about this guy, and that you seek their aproval, and they need to give you a chance with it. that's really all i can say. i hope my advice helped, at least a little bit.
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Okay, the question here is, do you know him or did you just meet him off the internet? Like Panramos said, don't be surprised if he's 14. If you did meet him off the internet, I'd suggest not going any further with this guy. People can be totally different in person then chatting with them on the internet. If he is someone you know, person-to-person, yes, I believe that you could make it work. I'd wait until you are 18 however, then you nor him could get into any kind of trouble; since you're an adult and you can do as you please. If you really love eachother, I'm sure you could make it work out and everything would go great! If you are willing to make it work, you just need to have a nice long conversation with this guy and see where you and him as a couple stands. If you are both on the same page in life and such. Since there's a big age difference, I'm sure there's going to be difference in what both of you want in life. Maybe he'll hold you back from some of your dreams, or you hold him back. This is why you both need to have a talk with eachother.
♥ Krissy
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My opinion. He probably wont actually move, and if he does what does that say about him exactly? That he has no real connections in his homeland, no solid friends or family, no one he wouldn't give up for a 17 yearold he hasn't meet and who doesn't think they can make it work? Thats not only kinda pitiful, it shows a lack of relationship building skills and common sense.
You on the other hand, have parents who must love you, and a whole lot of future. But your wasting it waiting on this guy. Live in the world that actually exsist please, mourn the relationship that never really was or will be, and find more productive uses for your love and your energy.
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Im assuming you met him on the internet? If so don't be surprised if hes 14.
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