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:.Hey x3My name is Emily and blah blah blah.
:.I have a lot of personal, family, and friend issues of my own so a lot of times, I can probably relate to you a lot of times if you have personal, family, and/or friend issues.
:.I can offer a lot of information, help, and advice on family and friend relationships, love lives, depression, stretching/flexibility, weight loss, violin, being organized, dog training, forensics (public speaking), keeping up with school/extracurricular activities, eating disorders, writing (stories and poems), and probably a lot of other random stuff like what to drink when you eat something spicy and why.
:.Although I can help a lot of you guys on the above subjects, I don't tend to take my own advice so it can become quite an awkward/ironic/contradicting situation for me or make myself sound like a complete and utter hypocrite.
:.Hannah Whitall Smith once said, "The true secret of giving advice is, after you have honestly given it, to be perfectly indifferent whether it is taken or not, and never persist in trying to set people right." I agree 100% of it. Advice is advice and it is given when asked for. I give it and I leave it at that. It's up to the questioner/advice seeker to take it.
:.That point leads onto my philosophies in advice giving:
1. Advice is given when asked and no time else, unless your friend is about to irritate a black bear, then you should definitely advice your friend to back away and run for his or her life.
2. Advice is not critical, not judgmental, and definitely not biased. Advice is advice and should remain neutral.
3. Advice is to help, not to get 5s on every answer. As a result, my advice ends up being quite blunt and frank with a hint of rambling mixed in.
If you have general questions on the topics I can be a lot of help in (as listed above), most likely, they will be in my FORUM
If it is not, you can inbox me to request me to put it up.
:.If you want to ask me a question directly...
a)if it is not urgent and can wait a week or so, inbox me.
b)if it is an urgent question such as "I'm being eaten by a shark! What do I do???" first of all, I'm quite amazed that you can type while being eaten and second of all, e-mail me at cancel.life@gmail.com. I will answer you by midnight of that day (or if it's 11:55PM, probably by 3PM the following day).
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I've been in love with this guy now (ever since 8th grade), I'm still in highschool. He's a teacher and I'm pretty sure he's into me. We touch and have our "moments". I promised his one of his family members that I wouldn't get him in trouble but lately we've been all over each other. He's so perfect in every way. What should I do?
Wait you're a student and he's a teacher...
Love isn't about gender, age, religion, etc. But getting "involved" with your teacher and persuing it from both sides is a bad thing to get into especially if you're still in school. Sooner or later someone find out and he will be fired or be forced to quit. I can't tell you and say "Oh, omg he's a teacher. Ew what's your problem stay away from him.." blah blah. But you need to think about this. You're a student..he's a teacher. It would come off as you trying to get easy grades or him being a pedafile [sp?] --I'm NOT saying that this is the case but to some people it may seem that way and I'm just warning you that it won't be pretty.
Until you're out of high school, you guys should control your emotions for each other and just keep it low. When you're out of school, feel free to do whatever. But while you're still in school, if you continue with your "moments and touching" he will get in serious trouble
When I broke up with my boyfriend for cheating on me, I gave away a 40$ necklace he gave me to my best friend. She was so mad at what he did, she broke it into a ton of little pieces.
Now my mom wants me to give the necklace back to him (she doesn't know my friend broke it) but I don't know what to do! I don't want to tell her my friend broke it, but I have no clue what to do now!
Why does your mom want you to give it back?
Tell her that it's no longer in your position and you gave it to your best friend. IF she wants more explantaion, tell her but otherwise, leave out the whole "she broke it" part.
I went to the dermatolagist last year and got a product that worked. I ran out of it and now my acne is coming back all over agian and it seems to get worse each day even though I wash my face twice a day it doenst seem to help. Are there Any products that I can get cheap from the store that will help clear my acne fast. It's really embarrasing and I want to have clear skin for once. And my skin is also VERYYY senstive so I need a product that wont irrate my skin.
OH my. Do not pout lemon juice. It's acidic and when you step out into the sun, even if you've washed your face afterwards, will concentrate on that one spot and you'll have parts of your skin where you applied the lemon juice to will be darker than the rest.
No matter how weird this sounds...use green tea. You won't see results right away but it's gentle and it works steadily and it's not that expensive. Just get green tea powder or something and mix it with water and splash it on your face as much as possible at night for a few minutes.
hey i saw this on the advice coloum about a girl whos mom is her best friend.
"secluding yourself too much from kids your own age could have so bad effects on you"
what are those effects?
just wondering cuz i think thats what i'm doing.
thanks!!
If you do, you won't be able to socialize with kids your own age as well as you would if you hung out with them more often. Also, you're not going to be to be able to get advice from teens your own age...if you were to ask a question about teenager stuff they'll answer is based on their teen years which was years back...I personally think it's better to get advice from people that is your age right now.
It's true that you can always rely on a family member but when you're dealing with family issues, you need friends out there to support you then and there. Also when you go out into the real world, you're going to be too used to family love that you may not be able to deal with all the drama that always never seems to stop...
can i be pregnunt if i get my period the next day after i have sex?
No...if you have your period, you're not pregnant period. However it might just be light bleeding from having sex so watch out for that
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i take advanced swimming lessons and my teacher keep asking me to join the team but all i do is say i'll think about it.i want to join because there's a competition in march that takes place in my ex-boyfriend hometown,so i wanna join so i could see him again(to hopefully not beat the crap outta him if i do)but i don't because i would have to practice like 6 or 7 days a week and i live far from where practice is and i wouldn't be able to get a ride.so my question is what should i do?
IT seems to me that you're only joining to see your EX boyfriend. He's your ex...get over him right now. You guys are EXs for a reason.
If you're joining because you love the sport and you want to meet new people, you should talk with the people on the team that live somewhere close to you if they pick you up and drop you off
okay so heres the deal i want to have a six pack as soon as possible and i wanna have a hot body...i am 13 i wiegh 133 and im 5"4...i just wanna wiegh 115 as soon as possible too but i dont know how or what to do. i mean i have tried excercising n eating right but i see no improvement...also im so tired of seeing my love handles sticking out and having big thighs ugghhhh i hate it!!! i just wanna lose wieght and look hot for the boys and for myself because i always feel self confident everywhere i go! please help me give me tips and stuff k thnx bye
Okay, first if you're doing toning exercises right now, those won't help very much. You need to get rid of your excess fat first.
Do cardio, aerobics, and high energy stuff and run everyday or every other day. Stay away from junk food and sodas and every drink but milk and water. But water should be drank the most. You should definately go to the gym with your family or friends for fun, play sports for fun like tackle football, basketball..LASER TAG!!!
HAha, yes I love that game. Also pilates is uber awesome and you should do it. But mostly run, eat healthy food, drink lots of water for now. When you've lost most of the excess fat, you can start toning your body with weight lifting for your arms and thighs and legs, etc. You can do squats and leg lifts for your legs..obviously. Do crunches and curl ups for your tummy.
me and my boyfriend had sex on sunday. it was only like for 2mins long without a condom. when he got his penis out he cummed. did some of it stay in me? what should i do?
Just because he pulled out before he came doesn't mean he couldn't get you pregnant.
You should first relax...then if you miss your period around your regular time, go get a pregnancy test and test yourself at least once a week for a month. If all of them turn out negative, super.
I like this guy but I have heard that he may be gay is there any way of telling ?
please give me some answers
No quite unless he's ready to come out.
Rumors are rumors and you can't believe them and such stuff. There are no base for rumors.
Asking him if he's gay might offend him so I wouldn't ask.
But if he is, and he's ready to come out, you'll know by his actions. But if he isnt, you can't quite tell unless he is open with you and is willing to tell you
This is a long story but please read it I need help. My current boyfriend Kahn had a gf when i started to like him. He liked me too and we decided to go out when he dumped his other gf who was one of my good friends. But before he dumped her people found out what me and hi were planning to do. We ended uop going out but then i dumped him cause i didn't like him anymore. Then i started going out with robbby who i REALLY liked but all my friends started saying i was a slut to him. so we broke up and then i asked out Kahn again, even though i don't really like him. Should i dump him AGAIN, or shuld i stay with him because i dont want to be mean????????? PLEASE HELP!!!!!!!!!
Okay, first of all if you're going to vaciallte among guys because of what people say, you're never going to have a good strong relationship.
And another thing, you're not a slut. Your crush on him simply went away and that's all and Kahn should be the one being criticized for dumping his gf for another one.
Anyways, give Kahn a chance. Go out iwth him for as long as you think you can endure. Who knows, you might start liking him again. If after a month of going out and you still don't lie him like that again, go and ask Robby out
I was just wondering about 2 things. First off, I have noticed alot of people look in your eyes when they talk to you & I tend to look at someones mouth more when we are talking. What is the difference & what does it mean? Also, how can you "read" someones eyes? All I see is a glassy eyeball. How can you tell how they are feeling by looking into their eyes? Thanks!
Okay, the first one I'm not too clear on but if this doesn't answer your first one..then I didn't get it..obviously. Haha.
So the first one, some people like to make eye contact because I guess they feel like the person they're talking to is listening and they want to address you directly. And when you look at somewhere else while someone talks to yu, you probably don't feel comfortable making eye contact and it's perfectly fine because I don't like it either.
Reading someones eyes...if they're naturally an expressive person, it will be a little obvious and easy to tell. But "reading" someones eyes can be sometimes hard.
For me, I have to know the person very well in order to tell. You can tell from day to day what mood they're in because you've seen them so often at different situations that you've practically memorized their body language.
Some people are very expressive and some are not at all expressive. ME...well I'm expressive with my actions and expressions but not with words but with some other people it's vice versa or neither.
Did my rambling make sense?
I had sex with this guy.
He asked the next day "is it everything cool between us?"
What does it mean?
He was just wondering if everythings okay...like he wanted to know if you were feeling okay and what not and that you guys still have a good friendship or whatever
What's the difference between a hotel, a motel, and an inn?
I don't know about an inn. but Hotel is basically a much better version of a motel
so me and my boyfriend keep trying to have sex. the last time we did it he was inside me but i could tell he wasn't all the way in because i kept tightening up on account of the pain (was a virgin btw). i love him and i want to do it but i just can't seem to relax enough to let him go all the way in. how do i fix this? he fingers me, im wet enough, and i know i want to do this, so it's none of those reasons. help???
If you keep pressuring yourself that you need to relax and such you're just going to make it worse. The next time you're about to have sex you're going to be like "OMg I need to relax or it's not gonna work blah blah" and that will just get you tensed up. Next time try not to like plan it or something. Let nature take its course and just go with the the flow and try more foreplay and stuff like that to get you and him to both relax
k so i am a female and i've had my period for 2-3 years now. and i don't have arm pit hair. not that i'm complaining! haha it's great not to have it, but i was wondering, is it like weird not to have it, like is it normal..thanks in advance
It's normal. Everyone developes at differente rates
the hair grows when you sweat more constantly
so if you play a lot of sports or sweat profusivly then. heh...
Is there anything I could do to my jeans?
I've cut out fabric and made holes in the shapes of hearts and stars and put in pieces of fabric.
Is there anything else? Maybe with safety pins? Bleach? Or chains?
Pictures?
Well, you can get the whole "worn out hole" look thing by rubbing rough rock thing at a certain spot but if you cut holes, it'll look weird. You can also take your jeans outside and splatter it with bleach. Like get an old pain brush, dip it in bleach, lay your jeans down on the road outside and just splash it all over.
My friend got those paints that won't wash off and decorated her whole jeans and it looks cool
I put little hearts (fabric cut out) on my converses and they look pretty.
Okay my little brother is sooooo anoying! He comes in my room bugging me to death! Then when my friend is over he comes walking in saying can I do that to? He just won't leave me alone what do I do?
Okay, well I'm going to assume you're the older sibling, yes?
I'm the yougest of all the family members. So I can relate to your little bro a little. He just wants to fit in with you and aact all grown up. He probably thinks it's cool and everything
I know that when my sister kept on getting mad at me, ignored me, and locked me out and won't let me even talk to her friends, I was really down and sad and it just made me want to intrude more often.
So just have your friends over one day, let your little bro sit in your room with your friends and start talking about HISTORY
Well, I don't know how old he is though. Just tlak about a very dull and trite subject and ignore if he tries to change the subject and keep on asking him to get you guys this and that since he's in the room and not participating in the conversation XD
By playing sports how can you pop your cherry and would i know if i pops? How do i know if i already popped it?
Sorry, for all the questions, im just really curious:-)
Yes
You may or may not. It can bleed or have pain but it can be severe or just very light and unoticable.
how do you ask a boy out in a note please tell me
Just write something casual down:
Want to go get something to eat with me?
Do you want to watch (movie name) with me on(day)?
Wanna get together sometime?
This guy at my class always look at me and smile. He finally start to talk to me 2 weeks ago, and being really sweet to me. He asked me out for little thing as getting coffee, buying cds...etc., but never a real date. (since I knew him the second day)
Most importantly, we only knew each other for less than 2 weeks.
We went out today after class for coffee, when I said bye to him, he kissed my cheek for goodbye.
Is he just flirting with me? or Does he like me? what should I do? I think he's a really nice guy, but hardly even knew him..... I'm confused.
HELP!!
He likes you my dear.
You don't know him that well. That is true but he's having an infatuation for you and you should give him a channce becasue you're gonna regret it when you do get to know him and see what a wonderful guy he might be and etc.