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push off
so me and my boyfriend keep trying to have sex. the last time we did it he was inside me but i could tell he wasn't all the way in because i kept tightening up on account of the pain (was a virgin btw). i love him and i want to do it but i just can't seem to relax enough to let him go all the way in. how do i fix this? he fingers me, im wet enough, and i know i want to do this, so it's none of those reasons. help???
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When its your first time it will hurt but you have to relax. Tell your partner to be gental with you because your tight.
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I like what ducttape said: If you are tense and nervous, you won't be able to enjoy it at all. If it doesn't gross him out, have your boyfriend try giving you cunnilingus (oral for girls).
When you're doing it don't focus on what you think should be happening, or on making sure he gets in all the way. Instead, focus on deep steady breathing. Pleasure will come, eventually. Have faith.
Good luck!
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If you keep pressuring yourself that you need to relax and such you're just going to make it worse. The next time you're about to have sex you're going to be like "OMg I need to relax or it's not gonna work blah blah" and that will just get you tensed up. Next time try not to like plan it or something. Let nature take its course and just go with the the flow and try more foreplay and stuff like that to get you and him to both relax
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