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well i got into a fight with a friend of mine, something she did really hurt me, but it isnt something so horrible that i want to end the friendship over it, basically this would all be solved with an appology but im not sure how to go about this. its been two days and i havent talked to her since then, so should i need help on what to do, should i wait until she IMs/calls me and appoligizes or should i do something else? 18/m if that matters at all (link)
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I think it would be okay to talk to her calmly about whatever happened. Hopefully she will offer up an apology herself. Let her know it hurt you but you are willing to forget about it. :)
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Me and my best friend kelli used to really like this kid named brian...after we both had our share of asking him out he turned both of us down on the account of wanting to be single....now he barely ever talks to us and we really miss him...we went to friendly's all 3 of us together...and a winter carnival but i miss him a lot and so does she...we used to be a three sum but he kind of left...i love him as a friend and i want to earn him back for the both of us...please help me hes a really good friend...i love him like a brother
Rachel (link)
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Tell him all that and ask him why he isn't hanging out with you anymore. See what he has to say for himself. :)
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oh of my best guy friends likes me, and he has for a while. at first i didnt like him but now im starting to. but im afraid if we go out, then break up,that i'll lose one of my best friends. but im also afraid if i dont tell him i'll regret it. so my question is shold i tell him i like him or not?
plus i dont know if i really like him, or if im just really flattered that he likes me (link)
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Give it a try. Your boyfriend should be one of your best friends so you have a head start.
You can remain friends should you break up. Just don't let dating change your friendship. A lot of times people will stop talking to each other or will try to impress one another just because they start dating. Don't do that. He already likes you just the way you are. Just speak your mind as you probably do now as friends. :)
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ok sorry if this is long..
my parents have been getting on my last nerves lattely. i am the oldest in my family and so i got to put up witht hemm ebing soo over protect.. it iasnt because they care to much it is that they dont want me to have a life.. i can almost never leave the house.. if i want to go somewhere with a friend tot he mall my mom has to talk to there parents and make sure they are coming with us.. my best friend from new jersay came to vist and i havent seen her for 2 years and we qwanted to go and hang out at her place and just talk but no my mom wont let me.. my mom is always yellina t me when i dont do anything to her. she tells me to do something i do it with no questions asked.. i have a boyfriend who i love sooo much and i have been going out with him for almost a month now and i have only seen him ONCE. i effin hate this i want to run away from all of this my parents dont let em do anything and when i talk on the phone or i am on the computer all they do is complain. they want me sittin downstairs with them and i dont want to listen to the crap they have to say.. then pn top of all of that my mom says,"your the one whoi is going to kill me" because she isnt supposed to yell and she always yllin at me when i dont do anything to her.. i cant wait to turn 18 and leave and have my own life.. that is 4 more years from now (i am 14) everytime i try talking to my parents they NEVER listen to what i have to say.. they think they r living 20 years ago where u get engaged and then married and your parents choice who you marry.. i dont know what to do.. last night i was mindin my owm bussiness in my room laying down writing poem my dad walks in yells at me terlls me to go to sleep and turns of my light. school doesnt start until 2 weeks and he already yellin at me.. can someone please help me out?? i want to run away for a couple days to my best friends house and teach my parents that if they dont want to listen to what i have to say then i wont listen to what they have to say..
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i am plannin to let me boyfriend come over and meet my parents btu they are raciest and my boyfriend is black (carmel color) and i dont know what there reaction will be even though my boyfriend will make a good impression on them.. (link)
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Where do we start?!
I want to say that even though you don't like what seems like you parents breathing down your neck...they do it because they do care. Kids get in so much trouble these days because their parents don't care what they do or who they do it with. That may seem like fun but it isn't. Those kids will be in trouble before you know it. They have it all now but they won't have much future.
You need to calm down a bit and try doing things the way they want you to. I know that isn't what you want to hear but, it will make your existence oh so much more happier. I know you don't believe that but its true.
Running away...not a good idea. It will just make them put that many more restrictions on your life. Don't want that, right? It will make you seem immature and irresponsible in their eyes and they will take away whatever privileges you now have.
If they are truly racist people then you need to tell them all about the boyfriend before they meet him. Don't let him walk into a hostile environment like that unprepared. He will be uncomfortable and that isn't fair to him.
Good luck :)
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my dad has never told me he's loved me until last week when we were on the phone. I said it first, but i am glad he said it back. it is awkward to say it again. My question is...is it normal for dads not to say he loves his daughtor and should i keep on saying i love him when i see him or talk to him on the phone? (link)
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I think it would be nice if you did. Dads don't always say it because their dads probably didn't say it to them. Doesn't hurt to get them in the habit of saying it! It will get easier for him to say...keep it up. :)
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Ok so my best guy friends are freshman and im a sophmore and all i can say is that i love them more then life itself. i would seriously do anything for them. well they just became freshman so they will be moving up in my youth group at church,and they will be with me more.my friend adrienne(who is also a freshman)and i are kinda like leaders in our grade. and my guys friends(the freshman) are known to sometimes talk during service and they just pretty much dont care about it. my friend adrienne and i have gotten in trouble many times because of them talkin but we love them so much we just defend them. so we are trying to decide whether or not we need to still sit with them in church , because we are scared that they might bring us down. please let me emphasize how much i love this guys the thought of telling them that i wont sit with them brings almost brings me to tears. im just really stumped i need help please (link)
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Talk to them. Tell them since they are moving up they need to act a little more mature. Tell them you will sit with them so long as they do that...If they don't THEN move and don't sit with them until they straighten up and fly right. :)
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latly i relized that my closest friend dana liked me back but she has a bf. so she dosent wanna think that way of me in that way. that kinda bums me out. but yet i got this friend i've know for about 4 years and well i've loves him since like grade 6. but i dont think he likes me back. he never gave me a streight out awnser. then there is my xbf brandyn who i broke it off with. its a really long story and i dont wanna talk about it. long story short i freaked out on him and i feel really bad for breaking it off. *sigh* her is my question. which one should i focuse my heart and love on? and please dont say flip a coin. (link)
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Salem...what a cool name.
Have you considered someone totally new? Just a thought...:)
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When my boyfriend & I started dating, naturally things were a bit weird at first. Then we became more comfortable around eachother & it started to seem like it was more about touching then talking. Now we talk on the phone more since we're back at school & don't get to go out as much. The day before yesterday, everything was fine & we were having a great time on the phone but yesterday he didn't call me. I texted him & we had fun texting back & fourth but then when I signed on he didn't IM me. I'm not sure if I'm overreacting (please don't be mean if I am, it's my first relationship). I'm hoping he's just overwhelmed by school because I really care about him & I would hate to think that I felt stronger about him then he does about me. What should I do?
xox kelly (link)
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I think hes probably just busy with school stuff. I do think you should ask him and talk about it with him if its bothering you. It will make you feel better :)
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my sis broke up with her bf last night and she is 21 and im 13 and i dont know what to tell her to make her feel better i really want to help her cuz im sure she would help me if something like that happened to me please help me (link)
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Just let her know you are there for her if she wants to talk about it. Breaking up is pretty hard but, there isn't much you can do to help other than that. Let her talk it out. It takes time to get over something like that. :)
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My best friends friend who i meet on AIM, is now my boyfriend...i havent met him yet but we say i love you and stuff. I'm not sure if i really want to break up with him but i dont want to have my first kiss with him. I mean he's nice but not cute, and i dont know if i should tell him i dont want to kiss him becuase he said he really wanted to,can anyone help me? (link)
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You don't have to kiss anyone you don't want to kiss. You aren't really "going" with him anyway since you have never met. No need to break up since you may never meet. Just be friends for now. If its meant to be more it will be someday. :)
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Ok so Ive known this guy about a month in a half and we just started dating like a week ago. Things sorta went fast, maybe I little too fast for my comfort, but nothing I can do now. Anyways, we recently had sex and he was my first; we did it 3 times. I cried while driving myself home from his house, he lives 30 min away from my house; I had to pull over 2 times because I was crying so hard. I came home and talked to my best guy friend who I love dearly, he was trying his best to calm me down and everything. He kept saying it was normal to feel like this: empty, almost wishing you hadn't, just cold.... like someone just did the most rotten thing to you but worse. My best friend is away for a week and I cant talk to her and I need to talk to someone other than a guy. Is this normal??? HELP ME PLEASE!! (link)
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You probably just weren't ready for it yet. That's okay and normal. Just let him know you are not ready for it and don't plan on a repeat performance soon. If he can't understand that then find a guy who can. Let it go and start over. :)
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ok, well i really have liked this guy for 2 years, i think i love him. he knew, he hated me for it. lots of horrible stuff happened. now i'm going to a different school next year & i'm almost over him, which is good. i met a guy at this school who i really like [through the drama camp], & i really want him to know how i feel about him & how i can't stop thinking about him, but i don't want to tell him i like him, because he barely knows me. i don't want any of my friends to do it for me because i don't want to cause any tention between us. all the guys i've ever had feelings for have hated me in return & i don't want this to happen again. someone please give me some advice. i'll rate you for it if you want. (link)
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Don't tell him how you feel. Get to know him by talking to him and being friends and maybe HE will one day tell you how he feels. Just hang in there. :)
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I liked this one guy, weston. i thought he was a total sweetie and he always made me feel good about myself. he said he liked me too, but then i was over with him and some friends and i hugged my friend goodbye and he called me a whore but according to his friends hes just mad and still totally likes me. the thing is, im not big on forgiving people after they've just called me a whore so, yea. i still like him a little. then, there's this other guy, chris and he is also totally sweet and cute and i absolutley heart him. he made me feel a little better about the whole weston situation and he says he's starting to like me. well, i liked him a lot a little while ago but i never thought he would ever like me. so i also like him a little bit. so basically, my question is should i forget about weston and become closer to chris and who knows what might follow, since he DID call me a whore. or should i just wait til weston gets over his issue with me hugging other guys? im the kinda girl that just hugs all of her friends, ya know? so should i change who i am for weston or stay how i am and go for chris? (link)
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Go for Chris. Why waste any more time on a guy who calls you a whore for a simple hug? I think he needs to grow up before he dates girls :)
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how do u get a guy not to talk about the things you've done when you dont want no one knowing and you know he will
~Katie~ (link)
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You tell him you'd like to keep your private business to yourself. If he continues or does it anyway...find someone else because hes worthless. :)
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Alright well Just a fiew minutes ago this guy asked meh out. And a fiew weeks ago I really wanted to go out with him till I did stuff with him ( i sorta reegret it ) and I felt like he used meh. But he was pestering meh and all this stuff. and he was like we can hang out Ill bring you to movies and take you out to eat and all that stuff.. So I finaly just said yes. But I have a feeling he is still using me and I dont want that. I want a real relationship. Im suposed to hang out with him tomorrow but i dont know what to do cause i know he is gona ask me to do stuff and he is gona be like well we are going out now. so he will use that as an excuse. And I dont want to do stuff cause I know it will be because he is using me and doesnt really like me! What do I do. HOw do I know if he really likes me at all or if its ALL just for sexual stuff?
Love maddie
Ps im 14/f (link)
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You tell him you are not ready for sex. If he keeps going out with you and doesn't pressure you after that...he likes you.
If he breaks up with you or still doesn't keep his hands to himself...hes using you. :)
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Hi, you're being really patient with me hehe
When you say I could need a break, I don't quite understand it, but the tv series FRIENDS comes to my mind (don't know if you watched it), when Ross and Rachel were "on a break". Are you meaning a break from our relationship, or just some time to be by myself?
This is a scary situation for me; I wouldn't want to hurt my girlfriend, she's such a good girl, and I am pretty sure she never had these doubts about us, so it makes me feel like a bad person. That is so sad, oh, God...
Again, thanks for lending me your ear (your eyes in this case). Don't worry if you cannot find that article, that's ok. Anyway I guess I will have to find things out by myself.
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Yes friends is/was a good show. That is kind of what I meant...only if things don't work out. Talk about it first. Get her input and see what you feel then. I know you don't want to hurt her, and I hope things work out for you both. I truly do. You will feel much better after you hash it out with her. Go find a quiet place and do some thinking. Maybe write some tings out to get them straight in your head. :)
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Hi. Well it's a bit late now (2:30 AM), but luckily I warned my partners at work I wouldn't be going tomorrow so I guess I can spare a few more minutes before going to bed.
Now let's see. Reading about your husband reminds me of me; that's curious... and scary at the same time. I believe I am having the same thoughts at this stage of my life; the "being with other women" part I mean. Well I haven't been exactly what you would call a heartbreaker, and have only had another girlfriend prior to my current 6 1/2 yrs relationship, so I'm kind of lame in that aspect :) but anyway that feeling is still there.
We went to live together about a year and a half ago, and we've gotten along pretty well, except for my mood, which sometimes is a bit jumpy. Of course, I was going through a disheartening job situation, which led to my firing (that's another story) one year and a month ago. Then, unemployment for a couple of months and after that a new enterprise with two friends from the art school; this project is sucking a lot of time from me, but I almost never had to steal time from the moments Ispent with my girlfriend. I fear something could be wrong with me, causing me this bad mood that sometimes come out.
I also fear that my feelings for her have become just a "caring for her", and this hurts to say... If anything, I am confused, lost, you could say. But I still feel something for the other girl, be it a fantasy or not. I still don't know if I will tell her anything, we'll see. If I do it I won't be asking her out or anything like it; just plain confession from a friend, but again we'll see. What I will most definitely do is talk to my girlfriend about this, in a few days when I feel more calm. I seem to be feeling a bit better (on and off) so I guess in a few days I'll be ready to be concentrated enough.
Oh and nope, you didnt bore me with your message. It's comforting, to say the least.
I'll be glad you read what you want to say. I feel sleepy now, so maybe I am missing seomthing I wanted to say. (link)
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Yes your story sure sounds familiar! I hope it turns out as well.
It may very well be that you just need a break. I hate to think that since you have already invested 6 years, but better to find out now before you are married with children to think about. If you try and it doesn't work that's OK. Just so long as you make sure it is whats right for you. Wait and see what she has to say on the whole thing. You never know, she may say something that makes you love her all over again.
So long as the caring is there...there's some hope.
I have been unable to turn up that article I read anywhere. I am still looking.
Since you have some time off today (you seem to be about a 7 hour difference from Kansas time) why don't you go somewhere quiet...like a park or lake, and sit and think things through. It might help.
I'm glad you're feeling better off and on. Better than being in a constant funk. You may be having some depression which is perfectly understandable. There is nothing "wrong" with you.
If you need to talk between now and then, you know where to find me. I hope you have a nice day.:)
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i'm just wondering, who would you guys recommend as giving the best advice??? like you could say people on the top rated columnists but i want ones from other people's personal opinions. thanks! (link)
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In my case I would recommend anyone on my favorite columnists list. Everyone has one if you check the columns. :)
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Theres this boy I've known like 6 years.. me and him just started messin around and he knows I care deeply for him ... aka like him. I love him.. but he doesnt know it, i guess. But we just had sex, and I sleep over his house sometimes and we cuddle kiss... and he kisses my forehead and tells me 'Goodnight beautiful' .. but when everyone else is around hes rude to me and he ignores me. He doesnt call me anymore, he doesnt even IM me much. But his friends all tell me he likes me, and right now I'm trying to ask him how he feels - and he wont friggen answer me! I'm 17 years old, I know I can find someone older than me that wont play games (hes only 15).. but I cant help the way I feel about him. (link)
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It seems obvious by his behavior that he doesn't want anybody to know about your relationship. He is rude when others are around.
He is getting what he wants now and then and that is all he cares about. He is using you. He has been arrested. He is troubled and I don't think you need that in a boyfriend. If you want to stay friends that's okay, but, I think if you're expecting a big romance he isn't the guy for you.
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Ok, so im a teen girl and i masterbate are there any good techneys or things thats could make it better ? (link)
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http://www.coolnurse.com/masturbation.htm
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