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stupid boys
Ok so my best guy friends are freshman and im a sophmore and all i can say is that i love them more then life itself. i would seriously do anything for them. well they just became freshman so they will be moving up in my youth group at church,and they will be with me more.my friend adrienne(who is also a freshman)and i are kinda like leaders in our grade. and my guys friends(the freshman) are known to sometimes talk during service and they just pretty much dont care about it. my friend adrienne and i have gotten in trouble many times because of them talkin but we love them so much we just defend them. so we are trying to decide whether or not we need to still sit with them in church , because we are scared that they might bring us down. please let me emphasize how much i love this guys the thought of telling them that i wont sit with them brings almost brings me to tears. im just really stumped i need help please
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You've gotten some pretty good answers from what I've read. Let me add just a couple of things. First, the Bible says that a parent who loves his/her child will correct the child. I know you're not a parent to these boys, but here's the principle: true, Biblical love includes loving, but bold confrontation. These boys are going to be freshmen. They know what they are doing is wrong. It is your responsibility as a friend and as a Christian to hold them accountable. If others in your youth group see you as a leader and you don't do anything to help bring these boys to maturity, then others will see the boys as leaders and start following their example. Galatians 6:1 says, "Brethren, if a man be overtaken in a fault, ye which are spiritual, restore such an one in the spirit of meekness, considering yourself, lest ye also be tempted." This verse says that in order not to be tempted to fall into the sin of your friends, you must realize that were it not for grace, you could be in the same situation. Then, with that in mind, restore them to usefulness by confronting them with God's Word. You've heard the phrase "tough love." You might think it tough to confront your friends, and it is to a point, but if your motive is to restore them and to honor God, then His commandments are not burdensome. I hope this helps.
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Well. If your a really religious person, when your in church its your time to become closer to God. Not your time to mess around and have to defend your friends. As much as you love them you have to tell them that when in church and yough group you need to focuse on God, and afterwardds you can joke around and such. Explain to them that its a serious thing and you would really like to be able to focus more on God than have to worry about defending them.
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What I got from your question is that maybe you're not as concerned about what they're doing as why they are doing it. Are you concerned their spiritual life is in danger and defending them will get them to not leave? Are afraid if they did walk away they would drag you with them? If this is the case, you need to be the example (leader). If you love them that much, risk the friendship by doing the right thing. It will make you even better friends down the road. Talk to them about, sit somewhere else if you have too, but most of all, pray for their hearts to be open to listen to what's being taught.
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Since you and your friend are leaders, I see no reason why one or both of you can't tell the guys that they need to be quieter during church. Let them know you find it difficult to concentrate when they're talking and tell them that if it doesn't change, as much as you hate to, you'll have to move to another pew during church.
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just talk to them and tell them that if they dont stop talking and getting you guys in trouble your not gunna be able to sit with them anymore.hope i helped XoXo
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Maybe you and your friend could try talking to the guys when you aren't at church. Let them know that both of you care for them, and would do anything for them. Tell them everything that you just wrote. It seems to be just a matter of your guy friends just talking, which isn't something major, and would probably stop if you asked them to. You don't have to be mean about it either, but make sure you are clear. Tell them that you don't mind, but everyone else is telling you to tell them. They wouldn't bring you down just for telling them not to talk so much. Everyone gets that all the time from everyone, everywhere. So go for it and don't worry too much. Good luck.
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do what you need to do. if you juss go with your heart everything will be okay.
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Talk to them. Tell them since they are moving up they need to act a little more mature. Tell them you will sit with them so long as they do that...If they don't THEN move and don't sit with them until they straighten up and fly right. :)
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