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Virginity
Ok so Ive known this guy about a month in a half and we just started dating like a week ago. Things sorta went fast, maybe I little too fast for my comfort, but nothing I can do now. Anyways, we recently had sex and he was my first; we did it 3 times. I cried while driving myself home from his house, he lives 30 min away from my house; I had to pull over 2 times because I was crying so hard. I came home and talked to my best guy friend who I love dearly, he was trying his best to calm me down and everything. He kept saying it was normal to feel like this: empty, almost wishing you hadn't, just cold.... like someone just did the most rotten thing to you but worse. My best friend is away for a week and I cant talk to her and I need to talk to someone other than a guy. Is this normal??? HELP ME PLEASE!!
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Yes. Its perfectly normal. Sex is a big step in any relationship, for anyone. Its pefectly normal to be acting that way also. If you really dont want to do this again, you may want to talk to your boyfriend and tell him your really not comfortable with doing these things so early. He cant take back what he did, but maybe he can try and understand, and you guys can do other things that dont involve sex.
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Well if it was with the right person you wouldnt feel like that. You're just having regrets but eventually you'll realize theres nothing you can do about it and you just move on but it'll take a while
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You probably just weren't ready for it yet. That's okay and normal. Just let him know you are not ready for it and don't plan on a repeat performance soon. If he can't understand that then find a guy who can. Let it go and start over. :)
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well im sure leaving him wont make either of you happy. im sure hes confused as hell cuz he had the best night of his life with some one he thought had the best night too and now shes out of his life like she didnt exist. guys can be emotional too you know. i cant fully understand the emotions that go into sex for girls the first time for guys is not the same my first time ment nothing to me and maybe thats why sex is really not a big deal for me good bad or whatever. i guess you should just follow your heart
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It is completely normal to feel this way. Your virginity is a very personal piece of you. Losing it can be an extremely emotional experience, especially if you weren't completely ready for it yet.
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i felt the same way. i was in denial that i actually had sex i kept telling myself that i didnt even really want to do it and that he made me. you are feeling completely normal. but you know what, its done and you cant take it back you should tell him how you feel, and if he really cares about you then he will understand. you dont want this to cause a wedge in your relationship. this was just a hard lesson you had to learn and you will be a better and stronger person after these feelings pass. to learn from your mistakes you have to make them first. have a little more confidence in yourself and you decisions you must have wanted to do it at the time if you let it happen 3 times cheer up and if you need to talk send me a message
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This isn't a normal response to having sex, sex can be wonderful, but it a normal response to making a big mistake. You didn't feel right about having sex with this guy. You know now it wasn't what you really wanted to do, you probably feel hurt, empty and a little ashamed.
I've been there. It feels awful all over, makes you want to cry, throw up, shower a million times, anything to get the feelings out of your system.
But the fact is, you did what you did and you can't take it back. What you've learned is to think more seriously about where your relationships are headed and be more concious about what you want to do with your body.
You'll be better for this and wont make the same kind of mistakes agian. The important thing now is to trust yourself and your feelings and do what you need to take care of your mind and heart.
*huggles*
Good luck.
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This is normal.
But if you feel that you regret it, maybe you should wait. Don't have sex again until you are ready for it. If your boyfriend won't wait, dump the bastard.
Sorrty if I seem a bit harsh...
If you ever want to talk, feel free to inbox me. ^^
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i was never in your situation, but sex is a big thing and i think its pretty normal to feel that way. you can't regret doing it, because you can never go back and change it, so learn from the past and move on for the future.
-hope this helped
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yes it is very normal, if you dont feel comfortable have sex then dont have it again. Tell your boyfriend you want to take things slow
hope i helped!
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