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hey. i'm going on a date to a thrice, finch and zox concert on thursday and i was wondering what i should wear. it's a first date, so how should i wear my hair and makeup? i'm 5'5", i have brown eyes, brown hair and i'm preppy. thanks.
wow i am so jealous i want to go haha...ok well these bands are all pretty much punk (which is awesome) anyway people are going to be pretty much dressed casualy like in band tees and black eye makeup maybe some studded belts skater clothes like umm volcom and stuff like that.
personally i would wear a cute jean skirt and a black tanktop or something. maybe the ones with the decorations...abercorombie has some really cute ones for like 20 bucks...and express is having a sale as well...as for shoes is the concert going to be outside? i would wear some flip flops or some cute sneakers you dont want to overdress.
as for makeup dont make your eyes TOO dark, but try and emphasise them. put some eyeliner on the top and bottom lids, some mascara and some black eyeliner on the outer part of your eyes...with your eyes getting a lot of attention i would not wear too much blush. foundation and maybe a little bronzer and some sheer tan/light pink lipgloss.
hope i helped a little.
i dont know if this in the right catagory but oh-well
I shave every other shower and after i shave my legs are really itchy. is that normal?
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yes its normal i dont know what everyone else is talking about. lasers in your skin? if you were going for funny with that comment, it didnt go over too well. and DONT rub salt and vinegar on your legs your not a freakin chip, plus it would smell and it would really sting.
your legs are itchy because they are dry, thats all. your not dying and you dont have some skin condition, all you need to do is just get some nice moisturizing lotion and put that on after your shower. i personally like palmers cocoa butter it works really well and makes your skin nice and soft.
my boyfriend cheated on me & my best guy friend gave me a shoulder to cry on. while i was venting to him, he just kissed me. why he did this i dont know, but Im just really confused. did he do it to make me feel better or because he likes me or what? i'm really confused.
when harry met sally...awesome movie...this question reminds me of it. what kind of kiss was it? was it like a passionate kiss or like a forehead kiss or cheek...FILLL ME IN GIRL
okay i have this guy friend that i'm really close to. were always playing w/each other but is it flirting? like today on IM he said "omg you looked so HOT today! j/p" and i said "yeah you too ;-)" but i mean is he flirting w/me??? were pretty open w/each other and everything. but he asked my bff out and she turned him down and i don't think he's quite over her... is this flirting? thanks
yes it most certinly is.
he is feeling you out seeing how you take it so he can maybe ask you on a date or to start something more than a friendship
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My best friends friend who i meet on AIM, is now my boyfriend...i havent met him yet but we say i love you and stuff. I'm not sure if i really want to break up with him but i dont want to have my first kiss with him. I mean he's nice but not cute, and i dont know if i should tell him i dont want to kiss him becuase he said he really wanted to,can anyone help me?
first you shouldnt tell someone you love them, do you even know him? sorry that was mean im just bitter about my own situation. but anyway sweetheart dont do anything you dont want to do. dont ever do anything you dont want to do, i know you have self respect because you wouldnt be asking this question if you didnt. well when you have a boyfriend you are with them because you care for them and you are attracted to them and to me it seems like you want the emotional part of having a bf and not the physical part. which is fine i just dont think you are ready for a boyfriend yet, give it a few years, months even, you never know you could find the perfect guy to have your first kiss with. dont waste that moment on someone you barely know.
i just had sex for the first time last night, and now i have a clear, odorless, jelly-like discharge comming out. is this normal?
yes that is normal, its called mucus. you have it in your throat and in your nose it keeps everything moisturised it keeps your throat from getting try and your nose from being crusty and gross and it makes it easier for sex. some people have trouble producing this mucus and thats why they need ky jelly.
I honestly dont know, I just feel horrible. Religion has nothing to do with it because that hasnt really been apart of my life for at least 3 years; not braggin' but its the truth. My family is religious, I'm not really. It sorta is that I feel like I left my family, friends and myself down for having sex so young. I always preached how I would wait until I was married or older or something along those lines because I wouldnt fall into the "it" thing to do. Im more or less disappointed in myself for doing it I guess, I just hope I can get rid of these feelings soon enough to get on with my life.
i understand what you mean. you cant dwell on it forever and if you really love your bf and he loves you then it wont be difficult to have a nice little talk with him and tell him how you feel. you should slow down a little bit, you did only just start going out, so taking things slower will be a welcome change. if, or when, you want to sleep with him again it will be more natural and you wont feel as bad after.
Im glad to hear that I'm still sane and not going nuts... It just hurts soo bad to think about what I did and how it was approached. Im not in denial that I did it, because I know I did and only 2 other people know about it and I rather not have people knowing cause they will jsut pass judgement and I hate that. I did tell him and he feels extremely bad and wants to help me but I feel like I just need to get away from him; I feel like I want to just push him away. But at the same time I miss him and want him in the worse way. Not like I just had him, but like I just want him to hold me and tell me everything will be okay and tell me that he loves me again, but I cant have that because I feel so sick to my stomach. I'm not denying that I wanted it to happen, I just didnt think I would feel like this afterwards... sorta sucks.
What about you?? Do you want the sex to happen or did he really force you into it? Did you tell your boyfriend how you felt. If so, how did he take it?
Thanks again for responding!!
i wanted to have sex with him i loved and trusted him and we had been going out for almost 2 years. i didnt tell him anything about how i felt and i pushed him away. i ruined a great relationship, i still talk to him now but things are not the same. i eventually got over those feelings but it takes time. why do you feel so bad about it? becasue of how you were raised, religion, or is it just because your virginity is gone?
Ok so Ive known this guy about a month in a half and we just started dating like a week ago. Things sorta went fast, maybe I little too fast for my comfort, but nothing I can do now. Anyways, we recently had sex and he was my first; we did it 3 times. I cried while driving myself home from his house, he lives 30 min away from my house; I had to pull over 2 times because I was crying so hard. I came home and talked to my best guy friend who I love dearly, he was trying his best to calm me down and everything. He kept saying it was normal to feel like this: empty, almost wishing you hadn't, just cold.... like someone just did the most rotten thing to you but worse. My best friend is away for a week and I cant talk to her and I need to talk to someone other than a guy. Is this normal??? HELP ME PLEASE!!
i felt the same way. i was in denial that i actually had sex i kept telling myself that i didnt even really want to do it and that he made me. you are feeling completely normal. but you know what, its done and you cant take it back you should tell him how you feel, and if he really cares about you then he will understand. you dont want this to cause a wedge in your relationship. this was just a hard lesson you had to learn and you will be a better and stronger person after these feelings pass. to learn from your mistakes you have to make them first. have a little more confidence in yourself and you decisions you must have wanted to do it at the time if you let it happen 3 times cheer up and if you need to talk send me a message
is it worse for you to take laxatives befor or after you eat? what is the difference?
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darling are you asking for help in becoming anorexic? taking into consiteration that you spelt anorexic wrong you must be very young. i have struggled with my weight since i was 16. i dont know if you are overweight or if you are just caught up in the image the media portrays young people to look like but you definitly need to talk to someone about this. its very serious and not something to play around with. if you need to talk to anyone i am here i dont want to post my life story about weight issuses on here but you can leave me a message anytime...
How much does lemon juice actually lighten your hair. and how much are you supposed to put in? and what are some other ways to lightn your hair without dying it?
thanks.
it dosnt really lighten your hair and it makes it dry. try sun in and then buy a leave in conditionar because all that stuff makes your hair really dry. sun in works really well.
my sis broke up with her bf last night and she is 21 and im 13 and i dont know what to tell her to make her feel better i really want to help her cuz im sure she would help me if something like that happened to me please help me
give her some flowers and or a card/note that says i know im young but im still your sister and if you want to talk, i am here.
I went to a party thrown by my boyfriend's family and my boyfriend went to bed around 11:30 that night. Well, the rest of us were partying still at 2:30. His friend that I have known since we started dating was hanging out with me rather close. (just like we always do) Well, we ended up making out and had this touchy feely thing going on all night and the next day I told my boyfriend so he would not hear it from someone else. My boyfriend was not mad and just total accepted it. Well since then I am still thinking about what happened and I am looking for to seeing his friend again. But, I am wondering since alcohol was involved..was it just that or could it be more? Should we talk about it? I really love my boyfriend but I really like his friend. Help!!
your bf was fine with it? well you have one hell of a bf!! how long have you guys been dating? you maybe getting that itch to try something new if you have been with him for a long time. dont be a cheater those suck. i would talk to your bf a little more about the whole thing..who goes to bed at 11:30? tell him to wake up if he wants to keep his gf!
well me and my friend went to this concert, and then we met up with some other friends..and one of them i happen to like..so we sat next to each other..and he was all cuddly toward me..and my friend said he was acting like he liked me..so we started talking after the concert through email..and he said mabye we should hang out sometime..i want to tell him how much i like him..but im just not sure if he likes me..i dont know how to take it to the next step...help please..
if i were you, i would not say a word! i am not saying to play games or anything but being just a little hard to get works pretty well. im not saying to be a total bitch but you know. talk to him when he talks to you and yes go hang out with him. how well do you know this guy? you could go do something fun or intimate depending on how much you know him. it might freak him out if you tell him you really like him just when you are starting to hang out alone so hang out with him for a few times before you spill the beans.
So my boyfriend and I have been together for a year and a half on August 23rd. We decided that we would just get each other something small and $25 or less.. but I have no idea what I should do and I'm stumped.. If you have any ideas, please let me know.. thanks a bunch!
well if you have been together for a year and a half then i am sure you have a bunch of pictures or movie stubs, concert tickets...things like that...make a little memory book or collage in a frame so he can hang it up ;)
Well, my mother doesn't like me hanging with almost everyone that I want to be around. She always complains about every single person that I'm friends with or trying to be friends with she hates. She usually complains about their wealth, looks or just some other characteristic.
And just recently I've been banned from the mall for no reason at all.
Another thing they wont let me have a boyfriend, not even let me talk to boys on the phone. And I'm 13! I'ev already got some people asking if I'm... bi or lesbian :/ and I'm not. I have a boyfriend right now, secretly. But I want to know what to do in the means of going on dates and whatnot.
My mother always laughs at me when I bring the subject of boys up. It really lowers my self-confidence in a way. D: I don't know what to do...
wow you sound just like me when i was 16...my mom was always down my back trying to live my life for me. she controled who my friends were and who i could hang out with and what days of the week i could go out, what activities i could do in school...everything. are you the oldest in your family or the first child?
you should sit down and have a talk with your mother and say look im 13 im growing up, do you remember what it was like when you were my age? most likely she will remember and that could open doors up for conversation so she can level with you and see things from your point of view.
explain to her that you need to make your own mistakes so you can grow and learn from them. you dont want to go to college and not know anything about anything. thats what happened with me, i was exposed to so many new things in my freshman year of college it was very hard and stressful.
ask her why she does not like your friends or you talking with boys.
the best thing to remember throughout this whole talk is to stay calm and not flip out as hard as that might be. this will show her your maturity you dont want to be yelling and screaming.
good luck!!