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my parents have been getting on my last nerves lattely. i am the oldest in my family and so i got to put up witht hemm ebing soo over protect.. it iasnt because they care to much it is that they dont want me to have a life.. i can almost never leave the house.. if i want to go somewhere with a friend tot he mall my mom has to talk to there parents and make sure they are coming with us.. my best friend from new jersay came to vist and i havent seen her for 2 years and we qwanted to go and hang out at her place and just talk but no my mom wont let me.. my mom is always yellina t me when i dont do anything to her. she tells me to do something i do it with no questions asked.. i have a boyfriend who i love sooo much and i have been going out with him for almost a month now and i have only seen him ONCE. i effin hate this i want to run away from all of this my parents dont let em do anything and when i talk on the phone or i am on the computer all they do is complain. they want me sittin downstairs with them and i dont want to listen to the crap they have to say.. then pn top of all of that my mom says,"your the one whoi is going to kill me" because she isnt supposed to yell and she always yllin at me when i dont do anything to her.. i cant wait to turn 18 and leave and have my own life.. that is 4 more years from now (i am 14) everytime i try talking to my parents they NEVER listen to what i have to say.. they think they r living 20 years ago where u get engaged and then married and your parents choice who you marry.. i dont know what to do.. last night i was mindin my owm bussiness in my room laying down writing poem my dad walks in yells at me terlls me to go to sleep and turns of my light. school doesnt start until 2 weeks and he already yellin at me.. can someone please help me out?? i want to run away for a couple days to my best friends house and teach my parents that if they dont want to listen to what i have to say then i wont listen to what they have to say..
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i am plannin to let me boyfriend come over and meet my parents btu they are raciest and my boyfriend is black (carmel color) and i dont know what there reaction will be even though my boyfriend will make a good impression on them..
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Well doll. Im sorry to say this but if you run away your parents can press charges and you could get sent to juvi cause its considered breaking the law. So dont do that. Just try your best to hang in there and if you can try and ask them why they are being so strict.
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ok well i totally know how you feel. i have the same exact problum with my parents.they scream and yell at me for no reason all the time. well one day i just walked out of the house with some clothes and stuff and went to my friends house for like a week. they had no clue where i wuz and wen i came back they were all omg were soo sry it wont happen again things will change,but they never do.(i run away alot)so i wouldnt suggest going to your friends house without them knowing because if the cops get involved it gets really nasty.and that will just piss them off more.so maybe ask them if you can go live at a friends for a couple weeks because you need to get way for awhile.if you have AIM definetly IM me or write sumthin back in my inbox cuz this is really long.
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I want to say that even though you don't like what seems like you parents breathing down your neck...they do it because they do care. Kids get in so much trouble these days because their parents don't care what they do or who they do it with. That may seem like fun but it isn't. Those kids will be in trouble before you know it. They have it all now but they won't have much future.
You need to calm down a bit and try doing things the way they want you to. I know that isn't what you want to hear but, it will make your existence oh so much more happier. I know you don't believe that but its true.
Running away...not a good idea. It will just make them put that many more restrictions on your life. Don't want that, right? It will make you seem immature and irresponsible in their eyes and they will take away whatever privileges you now have.
If they are truly racist people then you need to tell them all about the boyfriend before they meet him. Don't let him walk into a hostile environment like that unprepared. He will be uncomfortable and that isn't fair to him.
Good luck :)
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Well, it could be because they feel how close you are to leaving as well and want to spend as much time as possible with you before you take off. Try telling them that you're feeling smothered, but don't yell and rage at them. If you can show that you can discuss your feeling in a calm, adult manner, they may loosen up a bit. DO NOT run away, that'll just piss them off and make them keep you on an even shorter leash. On the boyfriend thing, that may be how they were raised, if so, it may be harder to change their mind, so I'm kinda stumped on that one.
If all else fails, consider calling child services and telling them that your parents are nuts. It probably won't works, but if nothing else helps, it might be worth a try...
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wow...umm..i can relate!!! (sorry if the stories long) i had to live with my grandparents for a while and i met their neighbors(their son is 15..im 14) i went out with him for 3 months..i was head over heals in love with him. my grandparents didnt like him so they wouldnt let me hang out with him hardly ever. you know how hard that was to live by him without seeing him? REALLY HARD!!! i wanted to run away with him so badly but i knew i couldnt. we ended up not staying together but i learned a lot about living with strict "parents" running away doesnt solve anything. i know you want to but just think you ll be a better person in the end by dealing with your parents. when you get older it will make you a stronger person when life gives you shit that you have to deal with. It is kinda hard to explain but tell me if you get it by giving me a feedback!! please!!
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Oh wow. I can relate to that story in some ways. Exept my parents are'nt raciest. Anyways I do know how you feel. When I was under a lot of stress and my parents always yelled at me I just wanted to get away and leave the house for a while. But honestlly now that I relize that wasnt the answer. You have to put up with it. Even if you left for a while you would have to go back home and deal with it all over again. Your parents are just really over protective and so are mine. They still ask if an adult is going with me and my friends. I just tell them NO! I`m old enough to know what I`m doing. Since you are the oldest they are expecting you to set good examples for the rest of your siblings. And the hardest you try they want better. Now if they have to talk to your friends parents before you go somewhere thats fine. I know a lot of people who do that. There isnt really anything wrong with that but it does get annoying. Your parents do want you to have a life trust me.. and they love you very much thats just why they are trying to protect you the best way they can. They dont mean to be mean or anything its just that you also have to understand that your parents might also be going through a lot that you just cant see. My parents are always complaining when I`m on the phone or the computer.. psh a lot of peoples parents do. Since your parents wont listen to what you have to say write your mom a note. That always works! Thats what I did when I was going through this. The note idea might sound a little crazy but honestlly its the only way that it will get through her. She has to understand that you are a teenager and that you need to have fun and be with your friends. You only get to live once so live it up to the fullest!! Good luck!
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well running away is not the answer... i know a few people that got in huge trouble for that (both with there parents and the law)
well sometimes parents just get angry and yell and all that but it sounds like your parents or going a little over the top with the yelling and they sound a little too protective you just need to explain to them that they won't always be their and that you need to start making your own decisions because and some point they won't be around to make them for you tell them that you are coming close to being an adult (which in 4 years you will be) and that you would like to start being treated a little more like a young adult
i hope that works
and about the racsim no offense but i think thats horrible that your parents are racsit
they need to see that your boyfriend is just a normal guy
good luck
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