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My boyfriend went to prison last year . We were together 1 year before he went to jail. I met his mother and was around her only tow times. The house he lived in before he left I'm here now holding it down until he comes home. I pay some of his bills and mine and were still a couple. I'm faithful and we email each other every day. Oh I met his sister once I don't see her anymore. But I'm starting to feel that I'm just here to watch his house for him cause his family don't come around me at all. If he's my boyfriend I should have contact with his mother at least right? His dad call to check on me but his mom no. Should I ask him why his mother don't come around ? And he said we gone get married and I'm his everything but its just weird cause his family don't come around me and I live a this house. Please help

Often we don't give our inner voice any credibility. If yours is giving you feelings that something is not quite right about your role there, then maybe it's time to heed that little voice and decide where you go from here.

If he owned the house and family wasn't interested in it, or who's staying in it paying bills,maybe there's a reason. It could be that he and all his family were never close or perhaps very disfunctional people.Who am I to say. You did not elaborate much on details as to why he went to prison or for how long. Depending on the details, he may be a nice guy who was falsely arrested, or he could have a long history with the law and not be the best prospect you could find for a boyfriend or future husband.

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So i really feel uncomfortable putting what happened during my past... but i like this girl and we are having an awkward relationship... So i want to just try make a huge step and hold her hand... how will i o it? Just slide my hand slower and slower towards her hand?

The piece of information that is missing is what you said happened in your past that makes you feel uncomfortable. Is it something that happened with her or a different girl? Can't answer the question if I don;t have the whole story.
I could say sure, slowly move to grab her hand but my answer might be different if I knew about what happened in your past experience

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I asked a question earlier about how I didn't know if I should get engaged before my sister got married. By the way, I should have made it clear that I don't want to get engaged for the attention. I was saying that I ideally would like to wait so that she can have her own attention and so can I, but I don't know if that can work out. I came up with an idea a short while ago that I hope will help the situation. My sister just got engaged and is getting married in June of 2014, so what if I waited until February or so until I got engaged. Actually I don't know when my boyfriend will propose to me, but I guess I could talk to him about this and see how he feels. If we did that, then my sister could be in the spotlight by herself for almost a year and we would only be engaged together for a very short time. I'd still like to wait so that we can each have our own spotlight spotlighting the time we got engaged until the time we got married, but I don't see how that can give me enough time to plan a wedding by the time we are needing to get married.

Only thing I can think of is, Has someone been planting the thought in your head that it is important that you be married before your sister or at least engaged before she marries? I do not understand your focus so much on timing here.

I think the focus is better spent on whether you and he are right for each other...not obsessing over when you get engaged, married. Perhaps you will not marry this man after all. Don't feel like you have to marry the first person who shows an interest in you. You are not an old maid if sister is engaged and married before you.

Do you both strengthen each other, not weaken each other. Can you be yourselves without having to change who you are for the other. Does this man support and uphold you? Is there really a spark between you romantically or is it just sex.
These are the things you'd be better off focusing on. If he is the right one, then you will be engaged and married in due time. It is nothing to be rushed.

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my boyfriend and I recently went through a rough patch, we made up by talking talking about it, then just dealing with it, then making out. he initiated the kissing, he was mostly having a problem with me, but i was annoyed with him for being distant. he leaves for college in a little over a month. we made up about five days ago, and on the fifth day, we got a lot closer. he fingered me for the first time. we were so close, and then his best friend was hanging out with us that night, ans he acted weird. he only acts differently when he is around that one guy friebd of his. he seems uncomfortable around me, and doesn't touch me.other than that, he is great, we talk, kiss, and have a great time now. but even when he is out with him and i try to talk to him, unaware he is out, he acts weird. is this normal? should i ask him about it? am i clingy? was it wrong of us to get closer?

I can think of only one other possibility which is far fetched but in this strange evolving world of ours, very real. Perhaps he is bi-sexual and his best friend is his other partner. Like I said, far fetched but if i understood correct, if boyfriend and best friend are out in public and you accidently happen across them, he acts very weird. There is no reason for him to feel uncomfortable to be discovered out with his friend unless he feels guilty about it, like it is cheating on you.
When you do ask him questions, don't ask for partners but ask if he is gay or bi sexual. You have a right to know. If you are ok with just being friends no matter what he tells you, say so. But you need all honestly from him.

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well i just got out of a 9year relationship and I was wanting to know if any one could help me out with some fun thangs I could do to get my mind off of him and find ways that wont make me if bad for doing them

May its time for self re-discovery...who were you before you started the relationship. Are there favorite hobbies or interests you stopped pursueing. Pick them up again.

Or try something new. A fun way to meet people and learn something new is to go to Meetup.com click on find. Put in your city or zip and start searching. I looked to see hot the hot trends are, they were web apps and designs group, and a meet for Jamba juice or coffee mommys with strollers group who all spend some time having their favorite drink and then take babies for a stroll together.
There are energy healing groups, walking, hiking, vegan fans groups, etc...almost anything you think of. Just takes some time to find it, do your searchess under every main title so you dont miss anything. I have participated and love them. 2 of my 3 adult daughters have used meetup.com also. and have met many interesting people and had lots of fun.
Give it a try. And hope you find joy in life again.

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I haven't been living on my own for long.

I decided to clean my bathtub with something other than soap, so I took the (Clorox) bleach my mom gave me and poured it in the tub and started scrubbing. It was clear/bluish.

But then I noticed it said to always dilute it and I used way more than it said to. I looked more carefully at the directions after the smell was too much.

Will it hurt the drains? Also, I think I got some on me, but I washed it off right away. What happens if you don't dilute? And will effects on skin show up right away?

If you feel the need to use bleach at home in the future, dilute but still wear rubber gloves to protect your hands and ventilate the homes. The fumes are not good to breath in.
It won't hurt your drains. Washing it off right away was good. If you ever get a splash on clothing, most fabrics I have experienced will experience a distortion of color or total loss of color, a white spot...so best to wear your grubby clothes you dont mind accidental bleach or paint spots on.
There are non toxic alternatives to use as cleaning products at home and way less expensive. Also non toxic and safer for a house hold of little kids.

Vinegar, lemon juice and baking soda. Go on line and read about the amounts to use.

Lastly, only in prolonged repeated exposure to bleach will there be problems as scientists have found for tumor or cancer...probably such as a career cleaning houses daily for other people.

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I have this coworker, and he and I have become pretty good friends. I think I'm falling for him, and it appears to be mutual, I can just sense it. Before, about a year ago, we were acquaintances and kind of joked around. Then our friendship started growing, and we became pretty good friends, to the point where we have a 6 hour long conversations on Facebook about serious stuff, funny stuff, the whole sha-bang. Now it's sort of taken an awkward turn. When we're scheduled on the same shifts, at first we are sooooooo awkward. Then as the shift goes on, we're close again. He's even started playfully teasing, and we've got some witty banter going on. Great development, right? Awesome news, eh? WRONG.

See, there's an important factor I think we both like to forget... I'm a hardcore Christian, and he's an Atheist. It says on his Facebook he's a "Proud Atheist", and not that Facebook has the overall say in life, but if he took the time to write that and become part of a FB group with that same title, then I'm thinking he's pretty sure about it. I'm very serious about dating/relationships. I'm 18, and I've never dated anyone. I didn't want to date in high school because 9/10 times they fail, and are just drama-infested wastes of time. So, I date with purpose, I don't mess around. I can't date anyone who I couldn't see myself marrying. Not that I have to know RIGHT AWAY, or even in the first year. But if I knew I'd never marry that person right from get-go, I can't date them. Whether addicted to meth, never want to have kids, that sort of thing. I graduated in 2012, and since then I've just been waiting to meet the right dude to date. And... I think he takes the cake. He's intelligent, yet sensitive. Hilarious, caring, understanding, supportive, confident not big-headed, musically inclined, and he's witty, yet mature in the important ways. He's a nerd, like me. He's perfect in every way except one! HE'S AN ATHEIST. Whyyyyyyyy me?

I know there's no way I'm ever going to marry an atheist. My future husband will at least be aware of the fact that Jesus is our Lord and Savior. I probably sound snobby, but think about it. How would we raise our kids? Our mindsets in life would be so different. I'd be living for the Lord, alone. But... I like this guy a lot. I'm crushed. I think about him when I fall asleep and when I wake up. And I'll think "Why don't we date- oh yeah. Crap." and my heart sinks. I'm trying to cling on to some hope. I suppose my question is, do atheists convert often?

I wouldn't want him to make that change for me. Not at all. I'd want him to do it because HE wanted to. I want him to know the love of God, feel the powerful emotion the Holy Spirit can bring you, see life with God's Goggles, if you will, haha. So, what would you suggest I do? Do you have any advice/suggestions? Or should I just suck it up and move on? Thank you for reading.

I come from a hardcore Christian background. Perhaps I can give you some things to think about

I married a Christian man at age 20. Was a virgin, he wasn't. He could hear from God as I could, had many spiritual experiences, was an usher, part of mens group, a home group (cell group) leader, teachers in a Childrens Wed. night program. We were as involved as could be. Was I happily married? NO!
I wish he had been everything that you mention your atheist friend is. Mine was verbally abusive and it increased over the years. Due to how the church frowns on divorce, trust God to heal your marriage, I stayed with him 30 yrs. It was God that told me to leave him or I would be dead within 4 years. I left. I have since run into people who are of different faiths in a marriage and because they are mature people who do not force their partner to change views and are accepting of where they are at, it works. Looking back, I did not gain anything being married to a Christian. We were not even sexually compatible...30 yrs of that too on top of all else.
God showed me that some of the ideals I was clinging to were 'man made within the church" ideals. The notion that we must not be unequally yoked was more about 2 persons sharing equal work toward making the marriage work rather than being of 2 different faiths. God told me that much of the Word has been twisted by the church over hundreds of years to represent something other than God meant it to be. I have learned it is best, when anything concerns me, to get my info straight from the horses mouth...so to speak. So I have developed a good rapport with God and trust Him of-course to show me what is best for me. Why not ask God yourself? There is no guarantee a Hard core Christian will be perfect for you. No guarantee the Atheist will be either although he sounds real nice. God looks at the heart of an individual, right? And no matter how much we are told to witness to people, the pressure to convert thing, it has become is sooo wrong. Leading man to the right spiritual path has always been the Holy Spirits job, not ours. God is the one who quickens our hearts. Our only job is to be willing to be a sign post...in case someone asks why we have such peace...point the way. But how many Christians have people come up and ask for direction...hardly any because in my time in church...I saw that the majority did not know how to love themselves let alone their supposed fellow christians. And that meant they certainly did not see people of other beliefs or non beliefs to all be their brothers and sisters too, souls all created by God, all here to learn some lessons. How they learn is different for each one as it is in school with kids having different learning styles. One can't be forced to adopt a learning style that is not theirs. It does not work. If forced on some kid, the kid will drop school. I still believe in Jesus, have a closer relationship than during my church days, but I also have learned to trust Holy Spirit to teach them what they need and be open to love everyone for who they are...not as a convert prospect. It's that energy we Christians put out there that people can pick up like a strong scent and it repels them.

If you can not bring yourself to look at your friend as a convert project, then you must let him go. But somewhere in your life, I am betting you will come up across something similar if this is what God is working on in you. So go to God and be truly willing to hear anything He says. He will give no answer until He knows you are ready to hear...which could be weeks, months, a year or two. Blessings to you dear.

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So I found out my boyfriend cheated on me after about a year and a half of us dating and I immediately broke up with him and took my space. Over the next few months he had done a lot to show his remorse and I really felt as though he understood the severity of what he had done and I loved him enough to try and work things out. We got back together and were together for another 8 months when I found out that he had cheated AGAIN with a different girl. Because of what he has done to me it makes it easy to walk away from someone so cruel but I am really struggling with how to move past the pain it has caused me. Does anyone have any advice on how to get through this? I obviously have left him but I am now left with so much pain because of all the deception and the lies that I thought were true and genuine. How can someone tell you to your face that he could never put you through the same pain again and never cheat again when its all lies? He sent me messages the day after I left him telling me how we are meant to be together and how I am the love of his life. Is this just blatant manipulation or do you think he really believes the words he says?

I have a variation of the well known saying, "Like attracts like." That saying is a cop out, not thinking in a broader sense. I believe, "We attract into our lives what we need to experience to learn and grow." You've heard of people who get married and divorced 6,7,8 times so obviously the cycle repeats because there is something they must learn. It is much the same as not passing a grade level in school because you did not learn what you needed to be able to move on without repeating.

Notice I did not answer if I think he believes what he is saying. It does not matter. He is just a tool being used in your life right now. It is good that you do not plan to go through this with him ever again. Perhaps that was your lesson to learn. I had a lesson to learn. 30 yrs with a verbally abusive husband who in the last 2 yrs was beginning to shove me as well. I had to love myself enough to leave that situation even though he would not grant a divorce.
I told you this so that you'd know I am not looking down at you...I know how hard it can be.
Look to your inner self and get to know the inner you. Your angels and the creator know what it is you need to get past and can tell you better than any other person. You know how it feels to have your conscience talking to you? It's much like that, soft thoughts in your mind, in your own voice but you will know it's not originating from within your own mind but recognize the wisdom and the love for you in those thoughts. I can not begin to guess what you must go through but in a BIG life lesson like my own, we do get tested once we have passed it, with another lesson like it so that as souls, we can know for sure within ourselves that we have learned, and are able to stand strong and not crumble in a weak moment.
That's You! You have been tested and you know you will not ever weaken and go back to someone like that. Perhaps the next lesson is forgiveness...for if he wasn't there to bring the hurt and deception into your life, it would have had to come from somewhere else. I am grateful I had the ex there so I could grow.
Maybe your next step is discovering how to become a better judge of character...I know I had to learn that. Decide to view this as an adventure.
Check out self help books that help point out character flaws in people and what the warning signs are. We don't automatically know this stuff, it needed to be studied at some point.
Write a list of things that describe who you are inside, not your hobbies, talents, vocation.
Example: I love being a mother, and gardening, but it's not gardening that defines who I am at core, it's what drives me to do those things...I am a nurturer. Once you have rediscovered you and what you are at core, it will be easier to comprise at list of what you are looking for in a man. Things that are not negotiable. They must be present in the man or you have no time for him.

With that, I wish you well. I know you have many blessings coming your way!

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Okay so i like this guy but we aren't dating. Hes moving away in 3 days and i STILL haven't told him i like him! I'm 12 so I'm very shy and insecure so i don't think i could stand the embarrassment of rejection. Will you help me?

Tell the guy that you like keeping in touch with classmates who move away. So ask if he has a FB page and get an okay to keep in tough there.
You will find it is easier to say stuff in print than face to face. Whether you ever tell him that you had a crush on him is up to you.

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13/m
so i want to talk to my mother about my "love life" since i got myself a girlfriend, and i cant keep it secret forever. So how do i start a conversation about what is going on?

Theres nothing wrong with having an interest in love that young. You might start by asking mom how young she was when she had crushes on guys. Then tell her you have a girlfriend and want to be able to spend some time hanging out with her. Find out what guideline she has for you and see if your girlfriend has any rules to follow too.

Sometimes it helps parents to be more comfortable with the thought of their children having someone they are keen on if the parents got a chance to meet each other.
Embarassing? Maybe but in the long run, I say from experience I was lots more comfortable knowing what the parents of my kids friends were like.

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My friends parents keep tagging along whenever we hang out somewhere, my mom trusts me to hang out with people by myself. But I have never had this experience because my friends parents are ALWAYS there. So, what should I do?

Hard to know how to answer since i dont know the age group or gender of the friends.

I can see parents wanting to be present if the two young people are 10-13 or so and the opposite sex.
At that age, I told all my daughters they could make friends with males and invite them over to our house and/or maybe come along on a camping trip or something.
It sounds like the parents here are not doing the initiating as i would but tagging along like a younger sibling.
If we are talking 2 girls or 2 guys, then it becomes a little more serious.
It could be the parents have a trust issue with your friend or with all young people. Perhaps they imagine the worst might happen such as their child making bad decisions, like getting into drugs and such.
It's not like there is something you can do. Its not your parents. If your friend doesn't like it, they should say something to the parents and find out why they come along every time. I don't know how well your friends know the other parents. If they do, tell them and ask them what they think.

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I'll try to explain this as briefly as I can.. I'm a girl (19) and I'm secretly in love with one of my classmate. A few months ago, his best friend started approaching me, he asked for my number and we gradually became "friends". BUT :
1. he says very ambiguous things to me, gets jealous of other guys, texts me a lot and makes efforts to be near me in class, etc.
2. he often talks about his best friend (the one I love) and he invites him when we do things together.. the other day, he even said to me that his best friend was single (i don't know if he was testing me or something)

-> I don't know if one of them or both or none likes me.. What do you think ?
-> What should I do ? I don't want to hurt the "friend" but if I stop our relationship I won't have any contact with the one I'm really interested in..

Some of what you described the best friend as, could be warning signs of a serious character flaw. Either way, what matters is that we all learn in life to surround ourselves with friends and eventually a love who strengthen us, not weaken us. If you feel you must change who you are for anyone, that is not a good person to keep company with.

Whether you are right about the signs you are picking up or not, it doesn't hurt to tell this guy that you like him as a friend but nothing more.

As to why he would point out to you that his friend, the one you really like is single, who's to know. If you are ever curious about a statement someone makes, ask them at the time. like.."Why are you pointing out to me that he is single?" Communicate your thoughts and feelings, and ask questions. You will not be left in a position to wonder anymore.

Don't worry about hurting the friend. Be nice and polite but you can't let your choices in life be dictated by whether someone gets their feelings hurt or nose bent out of joint. Your life is yours to live, not to live for someone else.
Approach the one you are interested in and ask if he'd like to start hanging out with you and let him know that you only felt like a friend to his friend, nothing more.

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i am 17 and my bf is 18. i love him a lot and he too. we were in a long distance relationship for about 5 years. now he has moved into my city and he wants to give me this special gift of being physical with him on my birthday next week. it is okay since his family knows about us and our future plans so he will not dump me. but i am really shy. i do not know why but he took me out to a date yesterday and i did not even let him hold my hand. i feel butterflies in my stomach with him around. i tense up and sweat. i have told him this but he says that i will not be shy after the first time. but how do i get over the first time itself? the idea of him with me in bed , touching my private parts and seeing me naked, feeling him inside me,kissing him etc. is like too difficult . please help!! i have to do this and i want to...so please don't ask to postpone it. just help me with the shyness thing, maybe give tips on how to relax with him around. thanks.

Just because you have chatted 5yrs does not mean that you have gained a level of feeling comfortable in his presence. I have spent lots of time ongoing in on line chat with a guy and then when we finally meet face to face, though he's good looking and I knew his mind and personality, I didn't feel that sexual spark, that chemistry with the guy. There is no way to know if that will be the case for you.

So to plan to have sex with someone you have never held hands with or kissed or just spent time snuggled watching a movie is not a good idea. Spend time together as friends and let the attraction and desire to experience the steps leading up to sex, just develop slowly and naturally.

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I've been having sex for a while now. I've slept with five guys and I've never been able to feel anything. My friends are always talking about how amazing it feels and I have no idea what that feeling is. I've tried masturbating and even then I still feel nothing. I do get wet while having sex but all I can feel is the penis going in and out but never a pleasure sensation or anything no matter what they do. The first time ever having sex it didn't hurt or anything i just felt nothing. What is wrong with me? I want to be able to enjoy sex. I also barley ever get horny the only time I do is if I'm watching porn not when someone is fingering me or eating me out. I have a bf now who I love and I really want to feel something with him but no matter what I just can't seem to?

As already mentioned, is this non-feeling related only to sex or do you not feel any other sensations as well like pain?
If this is related to sex, I can think of a couple things all which you need to see an ob dr for. It could be your natural hormones run on the low side.
Or if you are using a hormonal based contraceptive, the shot, pill, Mirena iud, one of the side effects is killing the libido. You may need a different contraceptive. So check with your doctor.

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I went to visit a guy who was just a friend,in an attempt to rape me i told him am a virgin he did not believe me forcefully he fingered me and there was a pool of blood.i ask some of my friends who were disvirgined they told me is just a small quantity of blood that will come out i am afriad mine was a pool.i dnt know if any damage has been done to my virgina?

In support of Adviceman...just in case you think he is over re-acting and making too big a deal of this, that's not the case.
Everything he said is correct. Please follow his advice.

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I'm a female in my late 20's..I don't want to overanalyze the whole "how long do guys wait to ask you out" thing, but oh, we'll. Months ago, I met a guy (dude # 1) and a few of his friends at a dance party, and got along well with one of his friends (dude # 2). I thought he was good looking , but didn't pursue him. I actually went out on a date with dude # 1, when really, I was secretly more interested in his friend (dude # 2). Fast forward to the other night, when I sent dude # 2 a drunk message on Facebook, saying that I think I went after the wrong guy (his friend, dude #1). He wrote back saying it was good hearing from me and asked how I was. I wrote him back, and when he replied, he asked if I'd like to meet for a drink sometime. I said I'd love to, to which he replied "great, hope to see you soon." SO, after that, I took the initiative and messaged him my phone number, saying we could make plans for when he is free. That was last night, and I know he's seen my message. It's only been a day, but I thought I'd throw this out there, especially to the guys: How long would a guy typically wait to initiate plans via text message in this sort of scenario? Also, did I maybe seem forthcoming in any way? I didn't think so, but I only waited an hour to reply with my number so I don't know if maybe I seemed too eager. Thanks for the feedback!

Yup...you are over analyzing. If he was enthusiatic and initiated the idea, he'd like to meet and see where it leads. of course he remembers how well you clicked at a dance party. If you hadn't exchanged numbers right then on FB, messaging it later was an important detail, not being forward because you already have rapport, an ease of talking to each other. It was the overlooked detail needed to talk and decide where to meet and be able to talk if one of you can't find the meeting place.

Yes, its been only a day. You can't have any way of knowing what his schedule is and how busy he is. Or what other unseen events could have come up. Give it another full day and then message him again with perhaps a place you have thought of to meet at and tell him you wondered if he like to meet there on....and pick a day and time.
Some people are terrible at setting appointments but will keep them just fine. If he agrees great, if he has another day and time that works for you, great too. and make sure while on there to exchange phone numbers. The only people i didnt get answers from til days later were ones who lost internet connection or their pc crapped out and had to be replaced or their cell phone crapped out (if they get internet on there) and had to be replaced. Believe me its happened twice, once a friend once a boyfriend.
Then you sit and wait. If he's interested, the ball is in his court. He must act if he meets to meet with you. If some crazy thing is keeping him from contacting you, he will eventually write or call but who knows how long that can be.
When he does contact you, you can always Make a statement but not ask so you don't sound like you had doubts about him. Say, I almost wondered if you had computer problems and not sure if you got my last message. Early on here, trust will have to be earned. If you aren't drilling him with questions he wont feel uncomfortable like being put on the spot. Again, you weren't eager or forward. Take a deep breath, relax. Good luck

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I have gotten myself into an immense mess with my studies; I make almost no effort. I don't seem to care, I can't commit. I'm lying to my parents - they don't know I dropped out of my first uni and am now doing another course in the same city and the worst part is, I vowed to myself I would work super hard this year and prove that I can do it but of course I've done the complete opposite.

I feel like I cannot tell my parents about how sad and depressed I am and how hugely disappointed I am with my life - I fear they will disown me.

Every day I wake up feeling terrified and thinking about the future makes me so stressed my heart starts racing.

I am not entirely sure I will pass this academic year, which makes me even more terrified of having to come clean if I get kicked out for not obtaining enough credits.

I am living a lie and I am struggling to stay sane - I am ready to burst into tears everytime I think about what a fuck up I am and how majorly I've ruined my own life and I am only 20 years old.

I need some words of advice. Anyone who's been in a similar situation or knows how to approach my parents - I'm going to have to come clean at some point this summer.

As a side note; I've always been average at studies. Nothing special, mostly disappointing my parents who don't seem to understand it isn't easy for me to get super high grades and succeed at everything.
If I struggle, and I tell them about it they have always blamed it on my lack of trying.

Even if I failed a small test in highschool I would instantly receive a lecture on what a disappointment I am to them and how there is no excuse for failing.

I don't know. I'm in a mess, I have nobody to help me and even my boyfriend, although loving and supportive doesn't quite seem to grasp what a fuck up in my academic life I am.

I just..wish I could restart everything with my parents support and this is what I want to tell them but I fear they will me to leave and support my own life..which I am not ready to do...

Let me guess. Your parents wished they had been able to go to college or they did attend college and drilled into you the importance of going to college, and the importance of a degree. Am I right?

"Even if I failed a small test in highschool I would instantly receive a lecture on what a disappointment I am to them and how there is no excuse for failing."
That sentence right there tells all. I am guessing they probably are footing the bill for college which yes will make them upset if you drop out. But they pushed you into this. You went along with because more than anything, you have always wanted unconditional love from your parents but feel you have to perform a certain way to earn their love. Your life and how you live it, including school or not and whatever vocation you choose, is yours and yours alone to live. No person in the world, including parents can tell you what you are expected to do and force you to do it.
There is nothing wrong with finding a job that doesn't require a degree while you think about what it is you really want to do. Are you a more creative person? For example a creative person would look for jobs (and the training for those jobs) that allow the creative side of you out. Maybe beautician, clothing design, garden design, artist, song writer, book writer, singer, actress, etc. You might want a firm idea of which way you want to go before you tell the parents.
You can let them know that even though the pay would be less, that you want a job that you enjoy.
There's a saying in life, " if you aren't having fun, you are doing it wrong. "
It could be that as a soul, you are going totally against the reason why you are here and what you are meant to do. Perhaps your lesson is to stand up for your own life and learn to not let others dictate what you do. There are many people in life who like to control others. Obviously, you dont like it and its making you sick/stressed, mentally, emotionally. The spiritually will follow as well as becoming sick physically. All those things are connected. It's not worth seeing your life go down the drain. No matter how scary making your own way in the world, sounds like its high time to ditch college and do so.

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Ok, so this is not really about me, but I have a question just in general. So guys & girls who should make the first move in a relationship? Is it more proper for boys too? Or should it not matter? Thanks for the feed back!

No it shouldn't matter.
When just starting the dating game or a relationship, neither gender has had any experience how to do so. It will feel awkward in the beginning no matter who goes first.
Typically we see the males make the first move. In nature, we hear the male birds make their mating calls and the female responds to him if she is interested. There is something in a guy that make him more likely to make the first move. But many hold back for fear of being rejected. So if a gal suspects that may be whats holding a guy back whom seems to have interest but not acting on it, then it is fine to make a move. Ask in a way that he feels comfortable answering truthfully no matter if the answer is yes or no.

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I lost my virginity yrs bk wid my sex addict ex.. Nw m 22 n m wid a realy nyc guy. We dnt hv sex bt do othr thngs. 10 days ago he fingered me deep. He didnt ejaculate n i dnt thnk he evn touchd his penis. My period was due on 14th bt nw it's 16th n no periods. M rarely late. I feel dat m bleeding bt whn i chek it's a white/colorless discharge. M realy worried. I knw its sily 2 ask bt m i pregnant??? My exams r approaching, i cnt cncentrate bcz of ds tension.. PLZ HELP

There are some sperm in precum. But if he didnt touch himself before touching you, there is no way to be pregnant. It's too early to take a store bought pregnancy test even if you wanted to for ease of mind. As has been said, stress and other things like even having a head cold or something can delay a period. It is normal for your body to have discharge. Its your bodys way of normally cleaning itself out. If there is ever discharge with burning or itching and a bad odor, then you want to see an ob.
Definately see your ob or planned parenthood about a good contraceptive. I and if you have a medical plan that covers it, I advise you to check out all the different types very carefully and look on you tube for videos by those who have used a particular contraceptive, why they liked it or what went wrong. The shot, the pill and the Mirena IUD all use hormones which many women are having not so good reactions to. Lowers the energy, lowers the libido for one and other risks. Not that everyone has these problems, but its something to be aware of so when you do decide upon one, you know what side effects to look for. When Mirena wasn't around all there was is the copper IUD. This is said to be the closest you can get to as safe as having tubes tied, But it is easily removed by dr. and no waiting period to try to get pregnant after removal. No hormones being released into your body. I used it way back when and in my opinion it still sounds like the best. But check them all out.

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I have really large, almost buggy eyes that everyone makes fun of. they are big and they practically bulge. they're not that bad, but there's like a line under my eyes. they are blue. I have middle length blond hair that is really thin.. its light blonde and has a purple streak. I'm a girl, 13, and 88 lbs. , and 5 foot 2 and my breasts are 36B I'm not like stick skinny, though. I'm just skin, bones and muscle.

my best friends say I'm gorgeous and they wish they looked like me, but other people like some guys and girls say I'm ugly and weird. I get depressed about this, and one time I carved ugly into my arm with a pointy stick...

Do I sound ugly? I'm in middle school, also.

You can not base what you look like now on what you will look like once your body has stopped growing. You may still have some growing into your body to do.
People can play compliments and not mean it. However I believe you can take what your friends say as the truth because they did not stop at saying how pretty you are, They added that they wished they looked like you.

As for the others that say otherwise, they are only 13 or so. They have so little life experience that they don't realize that their opinion of you does not count because it's all about personal taste. For example my personal taste is men with brunette hair rather than blonde or redhead. It doesn't mean the blondes and redheads are ugly, just that its not what catches my interest.

As for your eyes, it is normal for some eyeballs to sit further out in the eye socket. Not as many people have it but it might run in the family as any other facial features do. Do you have a parent, aunt, uncle or grandparent with eyes that are more prominent?

Most people today are so brainwashed by what Hollywood and beauty related businesses says are real beauties that we have no idea what a natural beauty is any more. What they show us is fake. Hollywood uses makeup to create optical illusions.
We think we see a long thin nose when it's actually wide.
Do yourself a favor and look up online
"Celebrities without makeup" If you havent seen something like this before, you're in for a shock.
For example, Jennifer Love Hewitt of Ghost Whisperer, does not look at all the same without the makeup and bra;s and tailored clothes that make her look like a busty goddess! At 54, I am as great a beauty rival for them as anyone with their makeup off. If its between me or them without makeup on, I bet there's many who would think I was a model or consider me appealing for their taste, over the celebs. I'll bet the same goes for you. Keep in mind you still have some physical growing to do. My vote is that you are not ugly. Enjoy life and enjoy being yourself. Don't ever try to measure yourself to someone else. Be proud of you and create your own style and look. Good luck dear.
eel

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