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i want to know the cause of heavy bleeding when a virgin is fingered
I went to visit a guy who was just a friend,in an attempt to rape me i told him am a virgin he did not believe me forcefully he fingered me and there was a pool of blood.i ask some of my friends who were disvirgined they told me is just a small quantity of blood that will come out i am afriad mine was a pool.i dnt know if any damage has been done to my virgina?
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First: This guy did rape you when he forcefully fingered you. You need to file a police report charging him with rape. What happened to you is a form of date rape. The fact that he did not penetrate you with his penis is not the only definition of Rape. In your case by fingering you depending on the laws in your state he performed an abnormal sex act on you. This is generally considered to be sodomy. Rape under a sodomy statue, in general terms is considered to be a first degree rape in most states.
You in one sense were lucky he may have only torn your hymen. He did not harm you in any other way. You may just save the life of any other girl he may try to rape in the future by filing charges against him now.
Once a rapist always a rapist. They believe you think you did something to cause the rape and because of it they can get away with it. Not true, you are a victim and until you charge him with his crime you will never have closure.
Second: Once you file your police report allow the police to take you to the hospital for an examination. This will do two things. It will allow the police to gather the evidence they need while allowing the doctors to examine you and fix anything that may have harmed you.
I doubt anything more than the tearing of you hymen happened. Whether it has been completely dislodged or just partially torn is something that needs to be checked out. The amount of blood from loosing your hymen varies with each women and also depends on how gentle the man is in taking your virginity.
Third: Even if you have lost your hymen or the doctor has to complete the removal of your hymen for medical reasons you are still a virgin. By today's standards and definition a woman or man is a virgin until he or she has had sexual, vaginal intercourse, where there is a penetration off a penis into a vagina.
I would also like to talk with some people who can help you with any questions you may have and with filing a police report. The name of the group is RAINN. RAINN stands for Rape, Abuse, Incest, National Network. The operate a 24/7 hotline that when dialed will connect you to a crisis center in your own town. The call is free and totally confidential. That number is 1-800-656-HOPE.
Please call them and remember you did nothing to cause this man to do this to you. You are a victim for which I am very sorry this has happened to you. Please put this guy where he belongs which is in jail before he hurts another women.
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Honey I hope you report this awful person that did that to you. He is not your friend and you should stay away from him!!! It is possible that he could have damaged something if the assault was violent. What he id is not okay and you need to report it to the police. If you don't he might do it again to another girl or try to rape you again. He is dangerous, violent and he is not your friend.
The blood most likely came from a thing call your Hymen. It's a membrane or just some soft tissue that is near your vaginal opening. It breaks usually with intercourse and the amount of blood you can have varies. I bled quite a lot when mine was broken I would definitely describe it as a "pool of bool." Some women don't bleed that much but some of us do and it's just fine and totally natural. Your Hymen can also break from fingering as well and that is probably where the blood came from.
Since it was forceful and not consensual you should report it to authorities. You could have been damaged internally and you should go to a doctor and get checked out. At least report this person so he can't do that to anyone else.
Good luck be strong!
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