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hi. im one of those girls who get all the attention from all the guys. yeah they literally follow me around and fight over me. i like the attention, sure, who wouldnt... but it gets realllllly annoying. like im trying to hang with my girls and they just keep talking to me and fighting over me and other girls think im a slut cuz all these guys are always FLIRTING with ME. its not like i come on to them.. what should i do?
thanx alot
-sick of being ms popular (link)
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Well, first of all in a way you should admire nad appreciate all the attention. Some girls would kill to be in your place. But, I understand what you are saying. Maybe next time all these guys come up to you when you are around other girls your could introduce the guys to the other girls. You could be like "Billy, have you met Susie.." and let it work from there. Also, you could totally shock them and be like HEY we were just talking about how I just pooped..did you just poop? They'd prolly be so shocked and walk away and you'd get a laugh. Don't take what you have for granted though. :)
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does thermasilk work if you let your hair air-dry then straighten it ? (link)
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Yes, in short Thermasilk does work under those circumstancaes; however, thermasilk if not applied in the appropriate moderation can make your hair look oily and peicey..YUCK. I would suggest you to try BioSilk($9 at Ulta or Sally Beauty Supply) and apply it only to your ends NOT your roots (just like you would Thermasilk). Then after you let it air dry spray Biologe Thermal Active Setting Spray($10-15 Ulta, Sally, or Salon) then straighten. This protects your hair from getting damaged by a straightener and it also makes your hair stay straight and frizz free with out making it feel stiff like hair spray would. :)
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My friend has a boyfriend and she says she loves him...she wrote i love him on her hand...but she says she also says she loves this other guy from a class she is in..i think this is wrong.But she obviously doesnt since she is always saying she loves both of them.Should i tell her boyfriend?Should i try and convince her that it is wrong?This is advice for my friend also...please anwser soon!!! (link)
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It seems like your friend sounds really young. She is most like just going through "puppy love". When you love some one, you REALLY love someone and you wouldn't go around confessing your undying love for another. I think your friend is too young to understand the full and real meaning of "love". I wouldn't tell her boyfriend, because it's not your place to say, that's between her and him. Eventually your friend will mature. In the mean time, you could make subtle comments like " I feel like when you are in TRUE/REAL love, it's only with one person, maybe one day when that happens to you, you will feel the same" This way you are saying what you want to say but you aren't being rude or fighting. Just give it time. Let her come around on her own. :)
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(15/I)OK, I have a boyfriend and we JUST started going out yesterday and I think my best friend is jealous that I have a boyfriend and she doesnt. She says little things like.. "I have nothing to wear tomorrow..oh well it doesnt matter,I have no one to impress anyways." She never did this stuff before I had a boyfriend and I know I shouldn't feel guilty but I do. Plus she's being SO picky with boys now.. I was trying to hook her up with one of my boyfriend's friends but she's saying she doesnt like any of them. Is there anything I could do to make her feel any better? Thanks. (link)
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Well, you seem like a really good friend. What your friend is feeling is actually pretty natural. In time she will learn to act more maturly and get over it. But in the mean time, you should talk to your friend, tell her that you can tell he attitude is changing and that you are sorry and want to help her. Yo could ask her what kind of guy she is looking for and pick and guy she will be sure to love. Also, you two can spend like girls day out nights together and don't talk about boys. Another thing, next time she makes a comment about what to wear..Compliment her. Like, "I'm sure you'll look great in whatever you wear, you always do..that's why everyone admires you" or something like that. She'll get over it soon and I'm sure she'll find a guy! :)
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Hey, on my Advice Column it says i've been rated 6 time, and my average is 4.83, but when i take a look in feedback i've been rated 16 time, and i calculated my average to be about 4.9. What's happening there? Is advicenators just stuffing up or is it me doing something wrong? (link)
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When I look at my feedback page and count up ratings, the numbers don't match my average. Why?
There are several reasons the numbers may not match up. First, if the rating is over 30 days old, we don't count it. This gives every columnist a chance to have a "clean slate" if they've been here a while. Second, if the rating applies to a private question, we don't count it. It's a public thing.
Much more info about how all the adspects of rating work: Click on FAQ at bottom of left hand panel. :)
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i really like this guy that lives in my neighborhood, but im scared that if we ever go out it'll be awkward cuz we're neighbors...what could i do? (link)
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Well, for starters you should quit being scared. Everything happens for a reason. I think you should go for it with this guy but tell him before hand that you always want to be friends and you don't want things to be akward if things don't work out. Tell him exactly how you are feeling, just speak the truth! Like, make a pact..just live your life and don't have any regrets! :)
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There's this guy that I think is really cute. Everyday at school he always looks at me. I don't know if he looks at me because he thinks I'm wierd or ugly, or if he looks at me b/c he likes me. If he did like me, I wouldn't even know how to approach him. HELP!! (link)
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Chances are if he's looking at you everyday there's something about you that has caught his eye. So be brave and call him out on it. Be like (in a jokin' free-spirit manner) "sooo am I just that ugly that you have to stare everyday, or do you want me". Guys often like when a girl takes initive-it will show him your interested. And if he's like "No, not because you're ugly, you're beautiful"..then yay..work from there!! If he's like "Uhh, your weird, be like okay and it's not polite to stare and you're obviously weird for looking at someone weird! "Just have fun with it. You have nothing to lose; it's just a boy!! e brave and have no regrets! :)
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I like a guy that is nice, funny, but he flirts with everyone!!!! We aren't really dating yet, but we like each other. How should/ or should i talk to him about being more of a boyfriend? And if i do than how should i ask him? (link)
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Well, that's great that you ike someone and have found someone that likes you back. If you aren't dating yet you really can't control him or tell him what to do and how to act. That isn't your place to say. Even though y'all may like each other, the fact that he flirts with other should tell you a little something about his character. Your best bet in this case would be to nicely talk to him about where you two stand relationship wise. Ask him is he's even looking or interested in having a g/f right now. If he isn't well then this guy isn't the committed kind and just like to flirt, but if he is then go from there. Then take the initiative and ask if he wants to go to the movies this weekend or something. Give him about a week or so and if he's still flirty with others, bring it up, and tell him how it makes you feel. Don't yell or anything. Calmly explain it to him. Then give him about naother week or so to change, if he doesn't then I would begin to move on because he obviously isn't a guy that's going to be all about YOU and that's what you deserve! :)
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I'm 13. I have 5 pairs of shorts, 2 pairs of pants, 5 shirts and 2 sets of pJ's.
I keep asking and asking my mom to take me out shopping, but she always keeps saying no. I get in trouble at school a lot because my shorts are to short and my pants are too tight, but I can't help it if my mom never takes me shopping!
How do I get her to take me out shopping? (link)
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Well, you may not realize it, but maybe you and your family are having financial problems and she can't afford to buy you clothes. If that's the case maybe you could babysit for people in your neighborhood or something along the lines of that and then look for some stores with great bargains (ie. Dots has great prices (nothing more than $15-look @ dots.com for store locations)(Ross, T.J Max,etc) and you could shop there. Also, try to buy your clothes a lil' bigger so they are not quite as tight on you. Also, if you tell your mom you have earned this money on your own and found an in expensive store to shop at she will see that you are maturing nad responsible and maybe hse will be more apt to take you shopping in the future. :)
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I went out with a guy for about 9 months last year and it was the BEST thing that ever happened he was unbelievable, and I can't even tell you why we broke up because I don't even know why, I was being stupid thinking I didn't like him when I did. I have a problem of deciding to start a relationship because I always am afraid I will meet someone else during one and I don't want to hurt my boyfriend, but it never happens..i dunno i am just paranoid? It's been abouttt..6 months since we broke up, do you think it's okay to get back together? (link)
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Well first of all you should never let your fears keep you from your desires and your happiness. You are only given one life and you need to make the most of it. It's okay to be scared sometimes and cautious, but don't let that keep you from having a healthy relationship. It sounds like to me you are not completely ready to have a totally comitted relatiionship with someone. And, that's okay. Do things at your own pace and within your comfort zone. I think a good thing for you to do at this point in time would be to just date different guys and just hang out with tons of friends like in groups or just hang out with your guy friends. This way you can slowly but surely become more comfortable with dating and being with people but you don't have to worry about someone else being an option and not being able to get a chance with them. When you finally find the right guy for you, you won't worry or wonder about other guys; he';; satisfy you in all aspects. If you and your ex were to get back together I would suggest to just openly date him, explain to him how you feel and htat you care but aren't sure you can't handle a full blow serious relationship. Just give yourself the alloted time needed and most importantly, HAVE FUN! :)
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Hey me and my boyfriend have been going out for a year now and we are very protective of eachother. Like if he thinks im looking at another guy then he get mad @ me and it ends up into a huge fight. I cant talk to guys either. We are just soo over protected and it gets us into huge fights everyday. Got any suggestions on how we can stop this jealousy and fighting and be less protective? (link)
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Hey there. Well, I've totally been in the same postion that you are now in. I know it doesn't seem like it now, but that's really unhealthy. It's not good to fight a lot! It's bad for the relationship. If you two have been together about a year you obviously have something working for y'all or you wouldn't of even lasted this much. So build from there. Talk to your boyfriend. Sit him down, but don't make him feel cornered. Have a nice and CIVIL conversation about all this with him without all the fighting and yelling. Tell him that you care about him, and explain to him how much he means to you and how you feel about him. Make sure he knows without a doubt. Tell him that you understand where he's coming from about not talking to guys, but that he should trust you and let you at least talk. It's not like your asking to go over to another guys house. Tell him that he needs to trust you and communicate his feelings with you in a healthier manner. Give him about 2 weeks or so and see if he makes any improvements. If he does, then great! If he doesn't give him one last chance and kind of give him an ultimatum. Tell him he HAS TO CHANGE his ways or you will have to leave him because you can't have him control your life. Make sure that you are equal in this and trust him and give him his freedoms too. Relationships are a two way deal. You both need to put effort into each other. You both need to be happy and live your lives. :)
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i have 3" zits all over my legs with 1" whiteheads.how do i get rid of them? (link)
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Well, first of all are you sure that those are zits? Because sometimes you can get what appears to be zits from shaving or otherwise irratating your skin on your legs. Sometimes they are ingrown hairs that then get whiteheads on them. So first check if you have an ingrown hair and remove it with some tweezers..if it's just a zit then pop it!! and add something like clerasil or something else with benzol peroxide in it or you could use regular peroxide to reduce bacteria. It should then go away in a week or so. If it's an in grown hair and you get rid of everything oyu may want to put Neosporin on it or Mederma to reduce scaring. :)
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Hey, i'm 13 years old. When i wake up...my breasts hurt......is this normal for me? i read somewhere that maybe it's cuz i'm gettin ready to start my period, which i am.....but still...i need advice or whatever...from a girl plez tho......ASAP (link)
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Hey there. Well don't worry this isn't weird or anything. You are actually correct, often times people breast hurt or are sore when touched right before their period is about to come ( and not just for the first time) this can happen every month. It's usually an indication that your period is about to come within the next week. Also, your breasts may be growing as a result of puberty. To appease your pain if you really can't take it make sure you dont sleep on your tummy (laying on your breasts) and take osme kind of pain releiver before you go to bed to knock the pain off at the pass. :)
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ok I have very thick hair a few inches past my shoulder..and I am starting to wash it alot more so it won't be frizzy..soo now I always have to do something to it or it will be REALLY big and poofy..well I can't blow dry my hair straight..it takes forever and it never works..so I got all those straightening poducts..but they're all for when you blow dry your hair straight..when you don't..it just makes it not frizzy ya know? I straighten it alot but to make it look good it takes SOOO long and I dont have the time and it's really bad for your hair..can't get it chemically cuz thats bad too and I got it once and it messed up..so any tips to help? (link)
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Hey there. Well, I know exactly what you are going through. My hair is really think and it's like naturally wavy/curly/ FRIZZY! A lot of times no matter how many products we use or what we do to are hair it's still blah!! Even though you wash your hair everyday, that doesn't necessarily reduce frizz (especially if you live in a really human place like i do). Here are some suggestion for you to think about:
-Invest in a Chi Blow Dryer (Made from the same wonderful people that brought you the Chi Straightener) $150 at places like Ulta BUT it reduces the blow drying time Ie: what would take you 45 minutes straight with a regular blow dryer takes just a mere 10 with the chi blow dryer..and it totally illiminates frizz!! (also you may wnat to attach a diffuzer to it or a reg. blow dryer
-you could buy a chi straightener which also reduces the time of straightening compared ot normal straighteners (about the same price as the dryer)
-Buy THERMAL ACTIVE SETTING SPRAY!! It is made my Biloage and this stuff is AMAZING...it's a spray and makes your hair hold, smells good, lowers amount of frizzies but unlike hair spray it doesnt make your hair knotty or stiff!!! $10 a bottle
-Try Kiwi Blow serum $8 when blow drying to also speed up process and ruduce frizz
-scrunch your hair with an alcohol free gel or a maximun (i like chlarol hermal essenses maximun hold) mouse and then apply the thermal active setting spray to make it really hold then on low heat blow dryu to get dampness out and still have a soft look
-blow dry your hair just enough so that it's dry not totally straight and set it in over night rollers and when rolling apply thermal active setting spray and then run over iwth blow dryer for 5 minutes to lock in good curls
-wear your hair up in a normal pony tail but add one of those blended hair colored scrunchies for a new look
-also make sure to conditioner only on your ends no scalp and you may want to try either john friedas shampoo or biologe shampoo and conditioner
good luck :)
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Ok, I'm 14/f
And there is this guy at my church. He is soo funny and he's a really good Christian, which is very important for me, and he has an awesome personality and is very fun to be around. The only problem is, he is really small. He is like 1/2 a foot shorter than me and weighs about 30 lbs less. Beside all this, I really like him a lot because of the inside, which is really what counts, but I'm afraid of what my friends would say if we dated. Because well, I've been known for going for the good-looking guys. So what should I do? (link)
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Well, the simple way of putting this is to follow your heart and do whatever makes you happy. This guy sounds GREAT!! So what about the height! If you are comfortable with it and so is he then that's all that matters. You should never let other people's opinions and thoughts determine your choices or happiness in life, because it's not them that are living your life it's YOU! One of my friends just recently got married to a guy that's 5'2" nad she's 6'0"; they have been together for 5 years and I've never seen two people so in love. Just because you usually go for a certain kind doesn't mean you can't mix it up a bit; you are young and you really don't have a set type you go for yet. You need to experience all sorts of people. If he's got great morals and physical, mental, and emotional aspects about himself then go for it. That's what really counts. If your friends seemed shock or give you crap about it SO WHAT!! Don't let them affect you, they are just being immature and childish They are acting the only way tjhey know at this point..Don't give up on something that you want or care about because of other people. Live your life for you. God Bless! :)
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i have like all these papers that i kinda get bad grades on what should i do (link)
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Okay, so the smart thing to do would be to ask for help. Go to your teacher for tutorials or start studying more and looking up things when you don't know them. Tell your parents -they are going to find out eventually any ways. You could also get a private tutor and set up study groups with friends. Whether it seems like it or not, grades matter...specially in high school. Work Hard! :)
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I get the worst cramps when I get my period. It's usually my first or second day when I get these horrible cramps. I take Motrin, drink tea and use a heating pad. Nothing I do seems to really work and my cramps get so terrible I just want to die. Is there something I can do or take that will make them go away? (link)
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Hey there. Well, don't feel alone. All us girls know how yoy are feeling.
Here are some things you can do:
-Take an Extra Strength Pain Reliever
-Avoid Salty food because this can make it worse
-When you are having the crap get up and move around
-Get those thermal patches that you can wear on you
-Try to use the restroom
-and lasty if the pain is that bad tell your mom so she can make you an appointment to see a doctor (gynocologist) ((fyi: they usually don't even have to examine you for this)) and you can ask for Birth Control. My friend was just like you, she would even throw up from the pain and she went ot the Dr. and now she is totally okay. :)
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i have a bf and one of my really good guy frinds i think is crushing on me..i don't like him..but how do i find out if he likes me? (link)
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Well, you definately don't want to totally igbore the situation because that could then allow it to escalate and cause problems for you and your boyfriend. On the other hand, you don't want to have your friends or you curiously asking this guy how he feels about you because he could think that you're asking because you are interested in him. Your best bet would be to make a subtle comment about how much you like/care about your boyfriend and how happy you are with him. This will let him know that you are committed and that way you come off as innocent not and he can assume that you don't know his feelings. You could also make a comment like I'm so lucky to have a great bf and a good friend like you. :)
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I met a great guy. He is so sweet and made me smile everytime he said something...but there is always a catch isn't there!! A few days later he told me he liked this girl as if he had NO CLUE I liked him..sooo..what's the deal here? Should I just lay off and not talk to him now that he is with this girl? (link)
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Well, thats great that you met someone you like. First off, remember everything happens for a reason and every person we meet is brougt into our lives for a reason. That sucks that he likes another girl and is with her, but you should be thankful that this guy was upfront with you and told you about the other girl. Some guys would have just led you on and not cared. The respectable thing to do (if you really care about him) would back off of showing a crush on him, but don't back off from being his friend. Tell him that you are happy for him and you are really glad you met him and you think he's great. Just be his friend, and who knows maybe things won't work out with the other girl and you two will date. Good things come to those who wait! :)
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this is going to be long...
I have this gut feeling that my brother is gay. I really believe that he is. I don't have a problem with it or anything because I love gay people. His best friend is bisexual even though he won't admit it. He's kissed guys in the back of school and I've seen him and he also kisses girls. So I pretty much know he's bi. So getting back to my brother, I just really think that he's gay! I swear it's like i have gay-dar or something like that, he's always staring at my boyfriend when he comes over, when he has his friends over, they are in his room for like 2 freakin hours WITH THE DOOR LOCKED and if he hears me walking up to the door he yells at me. I mean come on, he's never had a girlfriend and he always says he doesn't want one and that he'd never get married. He says, and I will quote, "Girls are a waste of my time." When I told some of my friends that I thought he was gay, they all responded with "I always knew something was up with your brother." Or something along those lines. Even guys that barely know my brother say that he's gay. My only worry is that my dad is homophobic, and my mom said that she'd be really upset if she found out that he was gay even though she has gay friends. How do I tell my mom of my suspicions? If it's true how would my dad react in the future when he comes out? How can I deal with this?? (link)
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Okay, so based on what you have written I am going to assume that your brother is older than you? Well, at any rate, that's great that you would/are supportive of gay people. IF your brother is gay, well then okay. Even if you have a gut feeling and everything indicates it you can't force him to come out. It's a big deal for people to come out of the closet, especially with your family and your brother is prolly really insecure at this point about telling your family because of how your mom dad you and the rest of your family may/will react. Give it time and let him come out on his own and when he does. But in the mean time, I suggest you stop telling your friends, that's not your business or place, even if you trust your friends and don't mind if everyone know, you brother obviously knows, so have some family respect and don't talk to your friends about it. If you want your brother to confess, you could tell him that you care about him and love him and are always gunna be there for him no matter what. Just be supportive. Be sincere. Give this whole thing time and when he comes out support him more than ever..you be the trong one and help your family learn to accept it! :)
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