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My Friend is Jealous :-/
(15/I)OK, I have a boyfriend and we JUST started going out yesterday and I think my best friend is jealous that I have a boyfriend and she doesnt. She says little things like.. "I have nothing to wear tomorrow..oh well it doesnt matter,I have no one to impress anyways." She never did this stuff before I had a boyfriend and I know I shouldn't feel guilty but I do. Plus she's being SO picky with boys now.. I was trying to hook her up with one of my boyfriend's friends but she's saying she doesnt like any of them. Is there anything I could do to make her feel any better? Thanks.
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No there is nothing you can do. You friend might not exactly be jealous, but she sure is trying to make you feel sorry for her. Don't give her the satisfaction. Her little self-pity trip will end once she relizes no one is spaying attention to it.
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The same thing happened to me not too long ago. What I did was explained the problem to my boyfriend and told him that i needed to spend sometime with my friend, he understood, and I spent time with my friend and she felt a lot better. When we were out she met a really nice, cute guy and they talked and are still going out today. I'm not saying that every guy is understanding but some of them are.
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I think part of your friends jealousy may be rooted in the fact she's scared she'll lose you to your boyfriend. Just keep spending the amount of time you would with her despite your boyfriend, and she'll realize your boyfriend won't change your relationship with her.
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personaly i think shes a psycho bitch that needs her face rearanged but its not about wut i think its about wut u think so u need to decide wut is more important a jealous friend whos makin u feel guilty or ur boyfriend
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Well, you seem like a really good friend. What your friend is feeling is actually pretty natural. In time she will learn to act more maturly and get over it. But in the mean time, you should talk to your friend, tell her that you can tell he attitude is changing and that you are sorry and want to help her. Yo could ask her what kind of guy she is looking for and pick and guy she will be sure to love. Also, you two can spend like girls day out nights together and don't talk about boys. Another thing, next time she makes a comment about what to wear..Compliment her. Like, "I'm sure you'll look great in whatever you wear, you always do..that's why everyone admires you" or something like that. She'll get over it soon and I'm sure she'll find a guy! :)
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She's probably not jealous, but sad. She doesn't have a boyfriend and you do. She is probably just frustrated that she can't find the right person. Don't try to hook her up with some random person because then she will feel like your stressing her into a relationship and that's not good. Give her time and she will get a boyfriend that she likes and ultimately, that will make her happy.
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