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boyfriend help
Hey me and my boyfriend have been going out for a year now and we are very protective of eachother. Like if he thinks im looking at another guy then he get mad @ me and it ends up into a huge fight. I cant talk to guys either. We are just soo over protected and it gets us into huge fights everyday. Got any suggestions on how we can stop this jealousy and fighting and be less protective?
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It sounds to me that you guys need to learn to break away a little bit from eachother and trust eachother. I don't understand why you guys get sooo mad at each other just for talking to another member of the opposite sex! It is definitly okay to have friends of the opposite sex. Trust me, when it comes to guy problems, it alot easier to talk to a guy about them instead of a girl. You get clearer answers. And i think you should just do whatever you want. i kno that may sound harsh but, come on get real! lol you should learn to trust eachother and to make sure that you can be together. If this is going to be a major problem, i dont really think its worht it.
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It seems like trust issues are coming in. This is a very awkward time cause it can mean many things, and i won't lie to you, their not all good. Ive noticed this happens when rather a boyfriend is trying to find an easy way out of a relationship, or he's just really starting to get into the relationship and has realised what a great person you are, and he doesnt want to lose you. It is mostly the second one though, so i wouldnt worry, theres nothing you can really do to sort it out quickly, it will just dissolve away over a short period of time, dont't worry, it'll all end up for the best. Good Luck :-) (P.S. A Kiss followed by a sweet smile always goes along way, especially to do with trust, try it out)
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Tell him that he needs to trust you... unless you've done sumthing in the past... u havent given him a reason to be suspicious... sumtimes u just cant avoid talkin to boiz... so he needs to learn to trust you
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You both need to except that there is always going to be other beautifull people, you need to trust eachother and get some self confidence!!!
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i think you should talk to him and tell him that it should be ok for you to have guy friends and juss talk to him bout trust and communication.
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You've just gotta know - both of you - that you only really have eyes for each other.
You should be able to talk to people without your boyfriend getting overprotective and jealous. Talk to him about the way you feel, and ask him why it bothers him so much if he thinks you're looking at another guy.
Reassure him that he's the only one for you. Point out to him that you don't like all this fighting, and you want to do something to fix it. The two of you could work out a fix for this better than we could. Talk it out - you'll figure out something.
I hope this helps!
-Siren =)
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Hey there. Well, I've totally been in the same postion that you are now in. I know it doesn't seem like it now, but that's really unhealthy. It's not good to fight a lot! It's bad for the relationship. If you two have been together about a year you obviously have something working for y'all or you wouldn't of even lasted this much. So build from there. Talk to your boyfriend. Sit him down, but don't make him feel cornered. Have a nice and CIVIL conversation about all this with him without all the fighting and yelling. Tell him that you care about him, and explain to him how much he means to you and how you feel about him. Make sure he knows without a doubt. Tell him that you understand where he's coming from about not talking to guys, but that he should trust you and let you at least talk. It's not like your asking to go over to another guys house. Tell him that he needs to trust you and communicate his feelings with you in a healthier manner. Give him about 2 weeks or so and see if he makes any improvements. If he does, then great! If he doesn't give him one last chance and kind of give him an ultimatum. Tell him he HAS TO CHANGE his ways or you will have to leave him because you can't have him control your life. Make sure that you are equal in this and trust him and give him his freedoms too. Relationships are a two way deal. You both need to put effort into each other. You both need to be happy and live your lives. :)
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