Hey, How are ya? I'm Andrew, wether you need advice about relationships, life, or even what colour suits you best, ask me and I'll be happy to help :-). Bye!
E-mail: smithy000@hotmail.com
Gender: Male
Location: Victoria, Australia
Occupation: Unemployed...Student
Age: 17
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Member Since: September 14, 2004
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I love my boyfriend so so so much but he's kinda insensitive and he's always busy or wont give me a reason why he doesn't want to meet up or anything. He talks more to my friend (who's in all his classes) and his ex girlfriend (she doesn't live near but he texts her all the time.) I don't want to break up with him even though I know he doesn't love me but I can't keep on crying over him every night..what should I do? (link)
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If he is so distant and you barely talk, and he appears to never want to see you, and he's insensitive, perhaps you should break up with him. You might love him heaps, but you don't deserve to go throug all that, and you shouldnt cry every night over him, because that means your not happy with your relationship. Talk to him first though, tell him how you feel and what you've seen and thought, and give him a chance before you break up with him. Hope i helped.
Good Luck :-)
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For some reason pretty girls make me jealous. I don't have a man that I think they will steal but just seeing them makes me hate myself even more then I already do. There are only 2 things I like about myself, my eyes and my voice. But there are all these pretty girls out there and I am just not one of them. I don't know how to make myself feel better about it. I have tried making myself look good...but I can't even do that. Any idea on how I can get over this?! PLZ ~N~ thank you!
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In all honesty, your just the average female. Every girl goes around thinking thoughts like that, usually due to the way media depicts celebrites and models, women think that if its in a magazine, it must be right to look like that, and get jealous about it, and look down upon themselves. Sometimes it can get to serious and can cause eating disorders n shit, but im sure thats not what your going through. Just forget about it, everybody is different, and you may not think your pretty, but most girls don't, when i'm sure you actually are pretty. Nice eyes are good, and it may not seem it, but alot of guys go for girls that have nice eyes...dont make me explain it because its so hard, but its true, believe me. So don't worry, your mind may say your not pretty, but other people think you are. Hope i helped, :-)
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My friend is annoying as hell. She considers herself punk. She wears HER OLDER BROTHER'S CLOTHES. And she literally wears a size 1, and her brother, in womans, is like a 5. So they're all baggy, and she wears his belts, shirts and shoes too. It's so annoying. She's really pretty, but she never shows it. She wears argile socks that don't match (literally, she miss-matches them on purpose) and her hair is PAST her butt. She hasn't had it cut in like 6 years. I hate that people look at her and talk about her funny, but seriously, it's so weird because she doesn't even dress or act like a girl. Should I tell her?
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Just leave her, it's the best thing to do. At the moment she'll be getting attention and such, but wait awhile and it'll all go away, just let her do her own thing. If she's your friend you'll understand that, and respect what she does, not get annoyed just because of what she wears. Don't argue that she shouldnt dress like that because she's pretty...if she's pretty, she's pretty with whatever she wears, she shouldnt have to wear superficial clothing to make her seem pretty. And in all honesty it sounds like your a little jealous of the attention she's getting, but thats not the issue. Just leave her and eventually it'll die down and go away, just be patient, its a phase.
Good Luck :-)
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Im 16 and madly in love with my boyfriend. We have been dating for over a year. The only thing is that he doesnt know that im in love with him. He does know that i care about him soo much.I have been wanting to tell him for the longest time that im in love wit him but i just dont know how. We can be jokin around and he will say sumthing and then i will say yea love ya to. and he just says you dont love me. His cuz even told me that he said he loved me but he wont tell me. I just want to kno how i can tell him b.c i want him to know. plz help! (link)
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You just need to say it, sometime when your both alone, with no distraction when your just together, you know those real peaceful moods where ur just kicking back with each other and talking and stuff? just say it then, just go "(his name here), I love you, more then you know" and kiss him. If he loves you he'll say it back, but in his own words. Hope it all goes good for you.
Good Luck :-)
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I don't know where to put this. Anyway, when I wash my hair I just use normal shampoo, whatever is in the shower. But my hair is sensitive, I have this scalp...thing and it makes my hair look really dirty really easily. If I use too much moose, gel, or spray, it looks oily and dirty and makes my scalp flake. Nasty, I know. But I was wondering if there are any shampoos or products I could use that aren't that strong, but would give my hair a really straight, sleek, shiny look without making my hair look greasy? Thanks for any help. (link)
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The best thing for that is to use Head & Shoulders, it's the best for sensitive hair and scalps, and it'll make your hair look straight sleek and shinny...without it looking greasy.
Good Luck :-)
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i like this guy but i alwayse make excuses not to see him. I broke up with my last boyfriend, and it was really bad. I think i'm just scared this new guy will hurt my feelings again. What should i do? (link)
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Don't be scared, thats the only thing you should do. If your scared of this guy hurting you, then your going to be scared of all guys if you don't get with him. It may sound weird, but it's true. It's like when your riding a horse, if you get bucked off, you should get right back on, because if you don't your fear will just keep growing, and you'll find it harder and harder to get back onto a horse as time goes by. So you should get with him if you like him, don't be scared, it's true, he may hurt your feelings, but it's all apart of life, and we all just need to accept the good with the bad.
Good Luck :-)
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Hey,its me again with another problem so here goes. Well Ive been seeing this great guy named Luis. I've know him for a long and I really like him but the problem is that he lives about an hour away from me but he has been visiting me at least once a week and everything is great. But the problem is that theres another guy named Jessie who I've known for a long time also but all of a sudden I feel happy and sometimes when its really cold in the mornings he gives me his sweater or hugs me when I'm cold wich is now giving me second thoughts about Luis. Because I know that I really like Luis but i don't know what to do about Jessie. Please help A.S.A.P. (link)
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Well you have to figure out wether you like Luis more of Jessie. If you like them the about the same, I would go for Jessie, just on the fact that you see him more often and he'll be there more for you then Luis. But if you like Luis to much, then stay with him, because it'll mean your just playing Jessie around when you really like Luis. So depending on your situation, its rather Jessie or Luis. Hopefully whoever you choose is the right choice for you.
Good Luck :-)
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Okay...my friend who is 13. Recently just went oit and got hammered..on whisky. and its not like this is his first time either. He is my best friend..and yeah i kinda like him. He said a lot of things when he was drunk..but i wouldnt know because i got up at 2:30 am and walked alone, all the way home..and he just stuck his head out the door and said :make it home safe: well..my step sister said that she mothered him the whole night. he drank half a bottle of whiskey. He said that he wanted to fuck me, that i was going to be so pissed at him..a lot of shit.
Should i beleive anything he says? he keeps on apologizing to me..
well my question is, how do i tell him that im really dissapointed in him without making him feel shittier then he already feels? (link)
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You just need to tell him that although you do forgive him, that you are disappointed in him, because what he did wasn't right, but the things he was saying that night and the things he was doing was because he was drunk, you need to understand that and forgive him for what he said and did, but you need to tell him that him getting that drunk isn't a good idea and your not happy about it, but still be there as a friend. I'm sure if you tell him he'll figure out the problem. You just need to tell him, thats all there is to do, he may feel a bit shittier, but it'll help him in the end.
Good Luck :-)
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ok im not a player or a guy that cheats i have friends taht are attracted to me.I always end up having sex with them i wanna know because after i have sex with them they get attached and they think there going out with me, or think i like them a lot and when they find out i had sex with other gurls they get all jealous wat should i do
should i stay with one out of all?
or should i just stop listening to my little head ?
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Dude, no offence, but that IS what a player is. Your getting around to all these girls, just having sex with them and then moving onto the next. You really need to choose one otherwise sooner or later you'll be getting a bad reputatoin, and no girl will trust you in a relationship. So pick one that you like, and stay with her, prove to everyone your not the player they think you are, because thats all they're getting jealous over. Pick one, stay with her awhile, and you'll be alright.
Good Luck :-)
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Hey everyone,
I'm playing a character in play where i have to keep a straight face while someone sings to me in German... does anyone have any advice on how to keep a straight face and not laugh or giggle during the performance?
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just practice and practice, eventually you'll get it without laughing or such. Try not to focus on not smiling or laughing otherwise you will eventually burst into laughter. The first coupleof practice just laugh and get it out of your system, i've found its the best way.
Good Luck :-)
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ok, my boyfriend of 3 years wants to go into the army for about 4 or 5 years. i was just wondering, is there any chance of him getting hurt,dying,etc? b/c if there is..i cant let him go. please help me. ill rate high. (link)
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Of course when anyone goes into the army there's always a chance that they're going to be hurt. But I doubt he'll be hurt badly, like death or sumthing, maybe a few bruises n scars, but thats about it. In this day and age the army is pretty good and the warms arent all that intense anymore, and if your on the winning side it's pretty good chance you'll be totally fine. So if he wants to join the army, let him, but make sure you still see each other otherwise it could effect your relationship.
Good Luck :-)
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Alright...So, I've always been the rebel type. Stayed out late...never did what I was told. I couldnt WAIT til I was 18 and could do whatever I wanted. You know the type. As my 18th birthday is coming up...i've felt completely different. It's like I dont want to grow up. Its not that I dont want to deal with the "real world"...its just that I dont want to be grown up? lol Anyone else going thru this?? (link)
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It's not the fact that your growing up that is making you feel weird. It's the fact that all the things your doing like staying out late and such you can do when your 18 without being a rebel. Most people like to be a rebel, we all do actually, and then when you find out that your ALLOWED to do it, it just doesnt make it as fun as it was. The thrill of being caught or that ur just not suppose to be doing it is a good feeling and makes things fun, so your different becos all that fun stuff just aint going to seem as fun when ur 18. Well, that's my theory anyways, you look at things and it seems to be right lol. Good Luck n happy birthday :-)
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Hi,
Maybe u guys might think i am stupid or ignorant but right now i am really worried.
I never have had sex, but did indulge into foreplay with my bf.
Yesterday though, my bf rubbed his penis on the surface of my vagina (till he could ejaculate)but he didnt ejaculate near my vagina, could this cause me to be pregnant?
Need some advice....
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If he didn't blow in your vagina, or near it for that matter, you can't be pregnant. The only way you can be pregnant is if the penis blows its load in you so the sperm can get to ur eggs, and if he didnt then you can't be. So don't worry, your all clear...just make sure when you do have sex you use a condom! Hope i helped.
Good Luck :-)
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I'll rate everyone who answers this question!
I met this guy through a friend. We all hung out one day and it was really fun. I got his screen-name and we talked online and I thought he was so cool. Then we got to hang out again at the mall and I found out that him and my friend are dating. I was happy for them but kinda bummed because I was starting to like him. Then my friend's parents said they could not go out because he wasint white. So their broken up, but still really good friends. My friend said I could try to go out with him since she knows I like him. I might try and go out with this guy. Thing is, I have no clue if he likes me. He says I'm pretty and he says I'm funny. I just dont know if he likes me more on a boyfriend-girlfriend level. Should I keep talking to him, and wait till he says something? Or should I just be like "I like you!" I'm confused on what I should do because I've never have wanted to go out with a guy. Sure I've had crushes, but go out with them..nope! Oh yeah, he still likes my friend. But I think he's open to another relationship. (Hopefully with me) Any advice would be helpful. And I'll rate everyone who answers:-D
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Wait just a bit longer, if he doesn't come out and say anything, tell him how you feel, because you dont want to be waiting around forever for him to say something first. Wait a little bit, then tell him, you never know what he may feel for you, he might like you but is scared that being with you may hurt your friend. So talk to him and tell him. Hope i helped.
Good Luck :-)
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ok my friend is having a Hallow's Eve(halloween for those of you non-believers) and i wanna dress up as something dark(black and evil) or like a punk or goth or sumthin, but my mom wont let me be a goth 4 sum reason(no offense to goths, i luv u) so any ideas wut i should be besides the old fashioned witch crap(im already one anyways) (link)
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Go as a nun, they're always scary and evil and black lol. I had a halloween party a while back and I just up as a monk, it was pretty funny. Don't go as a punk cause thats not a halloween thing. Try going something like a nun or one of dracula's wives or something, that always looks good. Go to a costume shop and check out the range, sure you'll see something appealing.
Have fun, good luck :-)
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so me n my bf broke up cuz i was grounded for like a month n he was sick of not bein able to c me. so anyway we r still friends and he invited me to his house this weekend. the problem is...everytime even now when he invites me somewhere i cant go cuz one time wen we were goen out i did something with him .. if uk what i mean .. and my mom found out. we had this whole fight about trust. so ne way i want to prove to him i can hang out so maybe well be bf n gf again but im afraid shell so no..which she prob will. HELPPPP ME!!!!!!!!!!!!! (link)
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Just try telling her your going to his place. She probably just thinks your to young, but prove to her your not. Tell her she can trust you, and that you really like this guy and you want to be together, just basically explain your case to her. When your finished, say something like "I just thought i'd tell you what was happening so I wasn't going around your back and you didn't yell at me" or something, send her on a little guilt trip, when your finished just walk away and go to your room, she'll say yes shortly after. Just try it, hope i helped.
Good Luck :-)
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Well, ok my b/f moved to Oregon like 1 month ago and we are still goin out..coming up on our 11month anniversary. I miss him sooo much and i dont know what to do. There's this guy at my new skool that likes me and i donno if i like him...but i kinda flirt with him. I think that i do that cuz i miss flirtin with my b/f..even though me n my b/f talk every night..my heart aches all the time. I really donno what to do..i love him and yet we are so far apart. I dont wanna loose him :`( (link)
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I know long distant relationships are really hard, but you need to go and see each other. If theres just to long between each time you see ecah other, perhaps it'll be best if you had a break, i know it'll hurt you both, but long distant relationships are extremely hard, and sometimes better if they just don't happen unless your both totally commited to it working, which if you havent seen each other for a month it doesnt seem either of you are actually looking at your relationship very hard. So take a step back, have a look at your relationship, and see if it's worth it. Hope I helped, if you want anymore help, post me a message.
Good Luck :-)
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Ok, I just started becoming closer friends with this girl this year, and now she WON'T STOP CALLING ME!! Like, every single day, twice a day! I don't wanna talk on the phone with her every day. How do I get her to stop calling without hurting her feelings? (link)
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You just need to tell her, say that she seems to be getting in your space and your not comfortable with her ringing you everyday. Thats all you can really do. Good Luck :-)
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I really like this guy... lets call him M. Well M is SO incredibly nice, and hes cute and funny too! We're good friends, so he's usually easy to talk to. I wanna talk to him, about being more than friends though, because I really like him... Well, everytime I go to talk to him, I can't. I guess he intimidates me because he's so GREAT. How do I approach him without seeming nervous or unconfident? (link)
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Breathe...walk up to him, take a deep breathe and spit it out. If you really like him you really need to tell him how you feel, if you don't your always going to be wondering. But if you can't seem to get the courage to tell him face to face, try writing a letter, might seem childish, but a letter is always good, and it works. Just get your feelings across to him and you'll be alright. Everyone gets nervous so you just need to push yourself a little harder. Hope i helped.
Good Luck :-)
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Hey me and my boyfriend have been going out for a year now and we are very protective of eachother. Like if he thinks im looking at another guy then he get mad @ me and it ends up into a huge fight. I cant talk to guys either. We are just soo over protected and it gets us into huge fights everyday. Got any suggestions on how we can stop this jealousy and fighting and be less protective? (link)
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It seems like trust issues are coming in. This is a very awkward time cause it can mean many things, and i won't lie to you, their not all good. Ive noticed this happens when rather a boyfriend is trying to find an easy way out of a relationship, or he's just really starting to get into the relationship and has realised what a great person you are, and he doesnt want to lose you. It is mostly the second one though, so i wouldnt worry, theres nothing you can really do to sort it out quickly, it will just dissolve away over a short period of time, dont't worry, it'll all end up for the best. Good Luck :-) (P.S. A Kiss followed by a sweet smile always goes along way, especially to do with trust, try it out)
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