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i feel so hurt..
Okay...my friend who is 13. Recently just went oit and got hammered..on whisky. and its not like this is his first time either. He is my best friend..and yeah i kinda like him. He said a lot of things when he was drunk..but i wouldnt know because i got up at 2:30 am and walked alone, all the way home..and he just stuck his head out the door and said :make it home safe: well..my step sister said that she mothered him the whole night. he drank half a bottle of whiskey. He said that he wanted to fuck me, that i was going to be so pissed at him..a lot of shit.
Should i beleive anything he says? he keeps on apologizing to me..
well my question is, how do i tell him that im really dissapointed in him without making him feel shittier then he already feels?
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First of all, he shouldn't have been drinking anyways! But hey~ when you're drunk, ya say a lot of crazy things. So, be understanding about that. Tell him that it's not right to be drinking, and just tell him it makes you upset and everything you just explained.Good Luck, 'n Hope I helped!
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tell him all the things he said that made you pissed. But beyond that.. he was frigen drunk. I doubt 97% of what he did wasnt really what he thinks/feels. You'll have to understand that when people are drunk they go into a different frame of mind....
SO, just understnd i guess..
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What a person says when they are drunk, can be over exagerations of whats really going on. When he said "I want to f*ck her" he most likly meant in sober-talk, that he likes you, and when he said "she'll be pissed at me" he probably meant, you'll be dispointed in him.
Seeing as how you're best friends, i'm sure he knows that you're disapointed in his actions, just let low from him for a while, make sure you let him know that you don't like the drinking, and espically talking about you when he's drunk.
Don't tell him you're dissapointed in him, because i'm sure he already knows, considering he is your best friend, and best friends know a lot about eachother.
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You need to tell him the truth about how you feel or it will only keep happening. If you simply tell him "I forgive you, but please don't do it again" then he is not going to get the message.
You need to explain to him exactly how it made you feel. He needs to know every thought that went through your head about his dissapointing actions, how upset you were, how worried you were for him... He NEEDS to know all of this. Of course it's going to make him feel a little shittier, but he needs to know that what he did made you feel bad. He needs to feel as bad as he made you feel when he was acting like that, and maybe he will get the message.
But, along with telling him exactly how dissapointed you are in him, you need to let him know that you care about him and will still be there for him no matter what stupid things he decides to do. If he knows that he can rely on you for support, then he will continue to go to you to set him on the straight path if he ever fucks up again.
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hey if u want to tell him ur dissapointed in him kind of cover it up but make sure he relizes u said it like here is an example: Its okay i forgive u but please dont get drunk next time cause that kinda hort Okay. Somthing like that.
Hope my advice helped:
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Tell him to stop apologizing it's okay, but it really did disappoint you... that shouldnt make him feel bad, if you tell him its okay
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You just need to tell him that although you do forgive him, that you are disappointed in him, because what he did wasn't right, but the things he was saying that night and the things he was doing was because he was drunk, you need to understand that and forgive him for what he said and did, but you need to tell him that him getting that drunk isn't a good idea and your not happy about it, but still be there as a friend. I'm sure if you tell him he'll figure out the problem. You just need to tell him, thats all there is to do, he may feel a bit shittier, but it'll help him in the end.
Good Luck :-)
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