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Alright...So, I've always been the rebel type. Stayed out late...never did what I was told. I couldnt WAIT til I was 18 and could do whatever I wanted. You know the type. As my 18th birthday is coming up...i've felt completely different. It's like I dont want to grow up. Its not that I dont want to deal with the "real world"...its just that I dont want to be grown up? lol Anyone else going thru this??
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Well, the "real world" is being kinda thrown at me, through college/auditions, etc, and I'm sixteen. My seventeenth birthday is in october. I know how you feel, I think.
I used to be all excited for college and leaving home and all that, but now it's scaring me. It's natural to feel that way. The farther away something is, the less...intimidating it is. When it gets closer and it seems like it might actually happen, things appear clearer and more real, hence me "AHH, I'm leaving home in less than a year! *whiiimper*"
-Siren =)
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Yeah, its completely normal. When you're a teen, you wish you were grown, and don't care what anyine thinks. I think every teen goes through this at one time in thier teen years. Youy should be glad you've finally come out of this stage and are beginning to see how the "real world" really is. You're not scared. You're just maturing.
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I must tell you that although it was a million years ago, I felt the same way when I was 17. I hated not being in complete control of every decision made in my life and I deeply resented anyone telling me what to do. I used every trick in the book to stay out late and sometimes all night. I argued with everyone that I could do it all on my own, but at the same time, I was very bad about taking care of my day-to-day obligations (school, household chores, family expectations, etc.) I was heavily resisting becoming the dreaded "responsible adult". I hated the idea completely.
Your feelings are completely normal. Just because you crave independence and complete control over your own life, does not mean that you want to be a stuffy and responsible grown up. The good news is that although with increased age more responsibilities are inevitable, you always have control over remaining young and carefree at heart. I have found that the secret is to maintain the best parts of my childhood persona:
* Try to never take yourself too seriously. If you spend time worrying about what other people think, you will make yourself miserable.
* Find away to laugh at everything (even inappropriate things) because it helps to not let the insane things that happen in this world bring you down.
* Don't forget that life can be as fun as you make it and conversely, it can be as miserable as you let it. Grown ups sometimes just accept that as adults, the fun is supposed to fade away. It doesn't have to be that way!
Keep these things in mind and know that with becoming an adult, increased responsibilities and complex challenges are sure to follow, but you ultimately have control over what kind of "grown-up" life you will lead. Best of luck to you.
Kind wishes,
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everyone goes through that it's called faceing reality no one really wants to grow up but think of all the freedoms you'll have that you never did before... it's time to face reality and start a new life as an adult.
***~Maddy~***
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hi Im the rebel type too. I always stay out late and never do whatim told. i always go with my boyfriend and his friends driving around and drinkin all the time. My parents dont care about drivin around with friends and my boyfriend.. she just cares that i drink. But i still dont listen to her.
Its not bad that you dont want to grow up. I was the same way. Iwanted to be 21 so i could drink legally. Now that im gonna be 15 this weekend.. I just want to be me. Same old person i am now.
If you want to stay the way you are. You dont have to grow up if you dont want to.
Christine
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It is just because you are maturing for your age. Everyone goes through it but some people react differently toward it. Its not that your afraid of growing up it is more so your afraid of losing all of your childhood and thinking that you cant have anymore fun.... and thats not true! there are still going to be many of times were you will have fun. Believe me. But this is normal to feel like this. So i hope this has helped and good luck with all you do! Have Fun!
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Its called MATURING. Most ppl get it. Embrace it, because even though youre afraid, thats what life is. Like your first job- you may be nervous, but you need confidence to enroll for it. So, think of that. Even though its scary, what doesnt kill u makes u stronger- honestly. And parying to god never, ever hurts!
XoxO Alissa_marie
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It's not the fact that your growing up that is making you feel weird. It's the fact that all the things your doing like staying out late and such you can do when your 18 without being a rebel. Most people like to be a rebel, we all do actually, and then when you find out that your ALLOWED to do it, it just doesnt make it as fun as it was. The thrill of being caught or that ur just not suppose to be doing it is a good feeling and makes things fun, so your different becos all that fun stuff just aint going to seem as fun when ur 18. Well, that's my theory anyways, you look at things and it seems to be right lol. Good Luck n happy birthday :-)
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I was sorta the same way. I used to stay out late and party alot when i was younger. It was a blast and i couldn't wait to be 19 to be able to drink legally (Canada). Then when i turned 18 i felt so much more grown up and partying wasn't as much fun as it used to be. I think its because my parents gave me so much more freedom. I was an adult and i could do what i wanted. When i was a kid i could always get in trouble if my parents found out the things i did. Then when i turned 19 and could legally drink and go to clubs, it wasn't as appealing. I hardly ever wanna go out now. It's weird and sometimes it sucks but i guess that's just growing up.
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