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My column is dedicated to telling it like it is. I will always give you the best information available to me or the best advice I can. I will be upfront and never hide the truth from you.

The one thing I will not do is you homework. I will try and point you towards the answer or help you find the answers you looking for. Ultimately you will have to find the answer yourself.

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i'm 17/f
i'll be a senior in high school this year, and it's time for me to decide what i wanna do with my life.
i'm going to be going to school next year to get my cosmetology licence. ( my school has a program where i transfer half a day to beauty school )
but when i think of going to a university or something, i always think that i might wanna go to be a dental hygienest. i'm gonna be honest to those of you who dont know, it takes alot of science and math. i KNOW that with alot of hard work that i can get the grades i need in college to get into hygiene school. but it's going to be very hard for me. it takes me a long time to understand those types of things. my mom has worked in dental offices forever, as long as i can remember, so i pretty much grew up in them, i already know alot about the dental business and everything, and i think that i could make a really good hygienist.

i really think i might wanna do it, but would it even be worth it, since it would be such a struggle for me to get the good grades in the math and science? i wanna know an honest opinion. thank youuu!

Hard work has never hurt anyone, in fact the harder work for something the more you appreciate it when you succeed. To try, work hard and not reach your goal is nothing to be ashamed of. To ask if is something is to hard to try for because you are afraid to faile, is something to be ashamed of. There is nno shame in failing other than what you attach to it. If. You can say you gave an honest effort then you have nothing to worry or be ashamed about.

You know what the work is, you have seen the work being done. If this is the life's work,you want todo then speak with those doing then work tomsee what you need to study. Itt might be better to forget about the cosmetology class's and take class's that will give you a jump start on the dental classes you will need.

No one can make this decision for you. This one of the many adult decisions younwill face in life and must make for yourself. People can offer advise, you hav to make the decision yourself.

My advise is this: In bad economic times people willmstillmneed to take care of their teeth and may have insurance to defray the cost. Will the have the money to go to hair stylist or will that money go towards something more important.

i'm actually starting university this year (in a few months), the problem is that i always wanted to study abroad but now my parents(now divorced) do not have the finance, so i am stuck in the local university, and this is really tormenting me, so much that i do not even sleep some days... :( please tel me how to live with it..thank you :)

You may not like my answer but it is from the heart.

Studying abroad is not an entitlement it is a luxury as is a university education. I am making an assumption that your parents, even though divorced, are paying for your university education. Not all children are as lucky as you and graduate from university with large debt.

If I am correct in what I am assuming then you live with this because your parents are doing for you what they can afford to do for you. They have set aside their differences in your best interest. To see it any other way is being selfish and self serving on your part.

That being said there is a way to have your cake and eat it too as we say in my country. If you really want to study abroad you could ask your parents if you can have the money they would spend on the local university to put towards the costs of a university abroad with you making up the difference.

How you make up the difference is either you work summers for it or like in my country if you can take out student loans to cover the cost of your college education you do so. When your education is completed you pay back the loans.

My advice is if your parents are going to pay for your local university schooling and you can graduate debt free. Then you do this. There are worse things in life than not being able to study abroad.

My boyfriend and I have been together three years and we are both in college.

Please hear me out, but keep in mind that this is my probably-heavily-biased side of the story.

We have a lot in common, but our differences drive me insane at times. For example, he's a night owl and I'm a day person, up at the crack of dawn. I like having plans and a set schedule (maybe to an extreme; I am always planning out my future class schedules and what classes I will take which term to make sure I have a good plan). He, on the other hand, is a last-minute-plans kind of guy.

He is also a last-minute-cancellation kind of guy. Which, when tied into his sleeping habits, really ticks me off. Because he'll say things like "Let's do so-and-so tomorrow", and we'll make plans. I will then make no other plans and the next day, will have to wait for him to wake up (which can be anytime from 3 to 6pm), at which point he is prone to cancel on me, IF HE EVEN REMEMBERS WE HAD PLANS TO BEGIN WITH.

To be fair, he doesn't flake out on me ALL THE TIME, but it's just often enough for it to stress me. And while at times it's not even his fault, the fact that I have to waste an entire day waiting for him to let me know nothing is happening is irritating.

It bothers me that, the day before we are supposed to hang out, he doesn't compromise. He knows that I'm up early, but rather than sleeping a little earlier that day and say, waking up at noon (which would be pretty much a halfway point between our normal wake-up times), he stays up all night and sleeps in. The only thing that gets him to agree to this is a long and tedious negotiation / argument. And usually, when I ask him to sleep earlier, he says he can't help it, as if he is being forced to sleep late. Now, I understand that it is difficult to break from some sleep schedules. But then can someone please explain to me why, when we're together and it's around midnight and he lies down and is undisturbed for a few minutes, he falls asleep? He tells me that it's hard to fall asleep when he's awake, but he seems to have absolutely no trouble doing so when I'm around.

The reason I'm posting isn't just about our plans, though that is a big part of it. He is exceptionally bad at coming through with any sort of promise or anything. Once, I asked him for help with something for a job I was applying for. I needed it ASAP, but even with my constant nagging, it still took him a week (by which point it was already too late). And this happens all the time. If I ask him for something and he agrees, he will forget all about it unless I nag him until the end of time.

And every time he fails to keep his word or cancels on me, I just get VERY UPSET. I can't help it. It makes me feel like I'm not worth waking up a little early for, or like he can't set aside some time from his ridiculous gaming habits to write a reminder post-it note to help me out.

What do I do about this? Am I simply expecting too much of a video-game-obsessed, impulsive guy with a shit memory, or is the problem with him? or with both of us?

Your boyfriend sounds like a typical teenage male. My son was a lot like that, a night person for most of his educational life. Nothing changed no matter what my wife or I said or did until he went into the military. When he came home and went back to school his old sleep habits returned again to that of a night owl.

Once he finished school and got his first real job did his sleep habits really make a change for the better. Since a lot of teenage males are like this with their sleeping habits I can only theorize as to the why.

As for his failure to keep promises and blaming his sleep schedule; that is just plain rude and there is no acceptable reason for that.

As for his failure to plan that is his problem. There is an old saying; "There are those who fail to plan and those who plan to fail." Your boyfriend is one of the people who fail to plan. He will find out someday that this is not acceptable to employers regardless of how good you are at your job. Employers want to see a plan. If you have no plan then you are planing to fail. He needs to realize this before it jumps up and smacks him in the face. This is something you have already learned.

As to what if anything you should do about this, that is not for me to say. I will leave you with one other old saying; "opposites attract."

I am a guy who really is trying his hardest to be a servant of God. Can you give me any tips or advice to resisting the urges of pornography and sexual feelings towards girls(Please don't answer with masterbation)?

It is only inappropriate to have sexual feelings towards women while serving god if you become a Catholic Priest or join a religious order that forbids it. So as to the question of sexual feelings towards girls unless you plan on becoming a Priest or joining an order that forbids it I do not believe there is anything wrong with this issue. You can have these thoughts and even have sexual relations up until you take your vows of chastity. You might want to ask your clergyman to enlighten you more on this question as my answer is most definitely a layman's answer.

As to pornography: That is a battle I believe we all face in one form or another. I read once that exercise is a good way to work off sexual energy brought on by pornography and other sexual stimulation. It is unfortunate but in one form or another some types of pornography are all around us; from the way things are advertised to television plots to hard core pornography.

The good thing about pornography is we can pick and choose what we read and view. We do not have to expose are selves to it voluntarily.

17/F

Recently, my friend was rushed to the emergency room due to something that we thought was an asthema attack. However, the doctors are saying they can't find anything wrong, even though she's in lots of pain, can't eat, and has trouble breathing. She says she has a piercing pain in the left side of her chest, as well as her stomach and heart. Her eyelids are pale, she's very weak, and she says she's starving, but whenever she thinks about eating, it makes her sick. She says she's dizzy and she has difficulties breathing. They took blood tests, but it didn't show any signs of pneumonia or anemia, so they're assuming it's an asthma attack, but she's still in the hospital even as I write this. I'm extremely worried about her. I know I can't get a professional diagnosis here, but I really want help to try and find a reason to suggest to the doctors as to what might be wrong! If it's not pneumonia, not anemia, and not an astham attack, what other illnesses do her symptoms match up with? She thinks she might have Myelodysplastic anaemia is what she texted to me recently...

It is really inappropriate to even try and guess at what may be wrong with your friend. My only suggestion would be if she is in a small regional or community hospital she could ask to be transferred to a larger city hospital. Preferably a teaching hospital or trauma center. These hospitals have more medical resources than smaller community hospitals do.

My bf and I have been active for about 2 years. He always wears a condom and I am also on BC. I never have enjoyed intercourse very much, I always finish just by him touching me after intercourse, which I am fine with, but still I would like to both be enjoying it at the same time. It is not that sex is painful for me, just not comfortable enough to be that enjoyable. Anyways, recently we got a little bit... ahead of ourselves and did it without a condom, and it was like... amazing... ha ha. It was the first time that I had actually gotten pleasure out of it. I really don't want to take the chances of doing it without protection but that's the only way I feel pleasure out of it... and I have tried more lubrication with the condom, and that works a little better but still after about 30 seconds of thrusting I just want it to be over with. The feeling is as is if it is not enough friction, like it slides too far in and is too big for me... haha. My bf is great, well he is willing to try anything to make me feel good too but I think he still feels kind of bad that he can't make it good for me. And also we are not ready to be taking our risks with pregnancy. Does anyone else have a problem similar and what should we do? Sorry my english is not so good.

Condoms do offer an extra layer of protection. You may not like the feel of latex condoms and that is understandable. Have you tried the natural variety of condoms sometimes called sheepskin. They don'offer the same protection that latex offers but hey may give you the feel you are looking for.

Below are two links that better explain the different types of condoms on the market.

http://www.condoms4canada.com/condoms-materials.html

http://condoms-review.org/condoms/materials.shtml

somedays ago i found a woman aged 43 on facebook who was ready to adopt me..since no one loves me..she was ready to love me..she was single and divorced..she wanted a son and i wanted a mom..everything was going ok..but then i contacted her friend..and asked some question about her,.her friend told her about it..and she got mad at me and now she wants me to stop contacting her..she means my family and my world..i cant live without her..i can do any thing to get her..i love her a lot..plz help me ..i need a mom to love me iam 17 now and my name is brock

I agree with raindrops812a. If this women was really who and what she presented herself as; a few questions to a friend would not have up set her. Their are a lot of scam artist out there not to mention pedophiles and other weird types.

Facebook is a great place to make make social contacts and make new friends. It is not a place to make the type of family arrangement you are looking for.

I think your need for a warm motherly type love may have blinded you to what may have been this women's intentions. While you may not realize it at this time,her breaking off contact with you is probably the best thing that could happen. The fact that she wanted to keep your relationship secret is giant red flag of danger for and to you.

You did not say what has happened to your biological mother; if she has left you and your family or if she has past away. Which ever is the reason facebook is not the place to find a stand-in or replacement for her.

Im about to enter middle school and im stressed out! any advice?

My best advice is to relax. When my son was your age he too was all stressed out about going to middle school, having to change classroom, make new friends and find his way around a new school. That summer he drove us crazy. First day of school came and went, he came home and it was like I wanted to strangle him for what he put us through that summer. He had a great time, made new friends and loved his teachers.

It is normal to be somewhat anxious over new places and new adventures; just not to the point of being totally paralyzed. Your teachers understand that this is all new to you and your classmates feel as you do.

Middle school is not that much different then elementary school. It is just that you are treated a little more like the older students you are and less like little kids. You'll have a little more freedom an free time in middle school then you had in elementary school.

My advice: Relax, enjoy your summer vacation and don't stress yourself out over middle school. You'll love it.

im 18/f and my boyfriend is 19/m

I lost my virginity to my boyfriend 2 and a half weeks ago, it hurt a lot at first but the pain then subsided. I was very very tight, i was extremely wet and everything, and my boyfriend was gentle with me. We had sex again the next night, and again it hurt, he had more of his member inside me before it began to hurt that time however, and again the pain subsided.

ive heard of pain at the beginning of sex lasts for the first two or so times, we had sex again today and it hurt really really bad. It has been two and a half weeks since the last time we had sex, so i dont know whether it was cause my body wasnt used to it again or something. The pain took longer to subside this time and im just wondering if this is normal and if this pain will be expected everytime i have sex now?
I was extremely turned on and wet so dryness isnt the issue.
is it normal?

If I were a doctor I might have a better answer for you. I'm not so the answer or suggestions are the best guess thoughts I have.

You mention in the first paragraph that you were not fully penetrated during your first intercourse. If this is still true this could be a reason for your pain.

Painful intercourse is normal for a virgin female but only for the first few times. My best guess is one of two things are at play here. The most likely problem is that you are not fully relaxed. You can be aroused and wet but still not be relaxed to were your muscles are allowing easy penetration. The second could be your boyfriends member is larger than most and it is causing you to stretch further than normal.

According to the latest Ansel Research Survey; the average male penis when erect is between 5.1 & 5.9 inches long. The Average girth of a penis is between 3.9 to 4.9 inches in circumference.

Keep in mind that this is the average, the middle between the largest and the smallest, above the micro-penis (below 2 inches in length). The survey states that size varies based on age, time of day, level of excitement and ambient temperature.

What you are born with is what you have. There is no way to enhance, or enlarge a penis even with surgery. Penile surgery is usually done to assist those with erectile dysfunction when there is no other medical solution that will help.

Average Vagina Size

Relaxed
Length 3 1/2 to 4 inches
Diameter 1 Inch

Aroused
Length ("tented) 5 to 6 inches
Diameter 1 1/2 to 2 inches

As you can see by the size chart of the average female vagina. Any penis over 6 inches in length and 2 inches in girth is larger than the average vagina can easily accommodate. A larger penis will cause a woman with an average sized vagina pain during intercourse, especially if the male is not a thoughtful and considerate lover.

As you can see by the Ansel survey if your boyfriend is larger than average you could be experiencing pain until you can relax enough to where you can learn to accommodate him . If neither of these seem to be the problem or if this goes on for much longer I would suggest checking in with your gynecologist to see if the doctor might be able to help you.

I am 18 years old and I live in Pennsylvania. I have not yet registered to vote, but I'm confused on how to register.

I am going to a New Jersey college this fall and I plan on living there. Does that mean I register as a NJ voter, or a PA voter? Does it matter?

Thanks!

I would suggest that you register in the state where you presently live. You can then vote by absentee ballot. You are more familiar with the issues up for vote in the coming election where you presently live than you would be with issues in NJ. In the Presidential 2012 election if you desire to change your legal residence to NJ you can them register in NJ or retain you PA residence and once again vote by absentee ballot.

You may also want to check into early voting in your home town area. Most states are now offering early voting which would allow you to vote at a polling place during a weekend trip home negating the need for an absentee ballot.

I'm a 13 yearold girl and i know it's normal to not have great skin because of puberty but how come celebrities get beautiful and glowing skin? What do they do? Please help I really would like pretty skin.
It's not really bad just not how I would like it. Thanks for eveyrones help!

Celebrities have there problems with their skin too. In general when we see then they are made up by professional make up artists or their photos' have been retouched by photo artists.

At one time I worked for an Airline that catered to many celebrities. When they traveled they generally are all made up and you know exactly who they were. On occasions these same celebrities would take a late night flight, the ones we called the "Red Eye flights" because they were usually over night or arrived in the very early hours of the morning. Many celebrities didn't bother with make up for these flights. Guess what; without make up for the most part you can't tell them apart from any other passenger.

Once I totally missed the star I was sent to greet when the flight arrived as I didn't recognize her. At the time she was the hottest female star in pictures. I was also greatly infatuated with her. I couldn't believe I missed her even though I was standing on the Jetway at the door of the plane. When I found her in baggage claim I found her dressed in blue jeans, a baggy sweat shirt no make up and her hair was a total mess. End of infatuation.

I believe you can have good skin tone by taking care of your skin. But if you are judging your skin by what you see of celebrities you may be setting an unattainable goal. In the case of celebrities what you see is not what is always theirs.

I am a 13 yearold girl and everyone says I'm skinny when I ask or they will just tell me and my stomach is skinny but my legs aren't as good as I would want them too. There not wicked muuscley. how can I get them thinner and have more muscles? I am self conscious in my suit bottoms so please help! :)

Your 13, your body is just starting to transform itself from little girl to young woman. You may feel or even look as if you have the body of a young woman though the transformation is far from complete.

For right now I would suggest proper exercise and a good diet is what you should concentrate on. When school reopens in the fall ask you physical education for a proper exercise routine that you can do at school or at home to keep your body fit and toned.

Your way to young to be this concerned with your physical image. Support your changing body with proper exercise and diet and you body will mold itself properly. When your a few years older you can then work to tone up those area that might need a little extra attention.

I'm a 21 year old male, and people don't seem to like me. I have some friends who if I really bother will do things with me, but I am still really insecure about whether or not they really want to be around me.

This is mostly about dating however, I'm having trouble meeting people. I tried online dating, but I find most people on there to be incredibly broken in some way, no offense but I'm not interested in a drug addict or someone who is my age with 3 children.

I have really worked to get in good shape, and have lost over 50 pounds and think I'm in good shape now. I'm in the last year of schooling for a great job in the medical profession. I'm responsible, have my own place which I pay for, and have a good relationship with my family. On paper I sound pretty good if you ask me, but I don't think people ever give me a real chance to get to know me, those who do know me well like me but its hard to get past that first 'hello' for me with someone I'm actually interested in.

Anyway my main question is how do I meet people who are single, and are in a situation where they are dateable?

I don't totally agree with everything the others have said but there is good advice in each of there responses.

I believe there are two types of women today. Those that still like the dominant male; the one who says we are go here and doing this. Then there are those women who like the more considerate male who ask what is it they would like. This is the male who is considerate of their pleasure. If I were a women I think I would want to look for the second male as I don't think many of women care to take orders or be dominated.

Their are a number of ways to meet people. At 21 you are still young, young enough to go places and do things you enjoy. This is the key to meeting and conversing with other people; having something in common to talk about.

You say you are in the last year of schooling. I'm sure that takes up quite a bit of your time. Hopefully you do have some free time that you can enjoy some recreational activities you enjoy. Make a list of those things you like to do. Be they camping, hiking, photography, painting whatever it is you enjoy.

Once you have your list number that list from 1 to whatever in order of enjoyment. Then look for clubs or social outings, ones that might caterer to singles and join in. Now you have something in common with the others something in which to start a conversation. Once you have a conversation going a friendship can grow.

I'm only 13 so I don't have to worry about it yet, I hope. And I'm a girl but should girls shave there vaginas when having sex? What do guys like?

DearAbby92 is giving you the best advise; your way to young to be worried about sex.

Let me tell you something about teenage boys. They confuse lust with love. Like you they too are going through puberty and have all these hormones running through their body. They are pre wired to find someone to have sex with so as to relieve the sexual tension buildingwith in them.

They are not concerned about pregnancy, abortion, adoption or raising a child. They just want to have sex and will say or do just about anything to get you and other girls to have sex with them.

Don't let some young boy talk you into doing something you may or will come to regret. Don't listen to him when he says "if you love me you'll have sex with me." That line goes back to the cave man. The boy that say something like this does not love you. He is just horny.

Your virginity is the most precious gift you can give to someone. Save it for someone who truly loves you. You may not marry that man but at least you will enjoy a romantic relationship.

As to your question" It is 50/50 as to what men like. When your ready and the time is right ask the young man what he likes.

19/f
ok so when my boyfriend and i have sex a few times the condom has got like stuck inside me. not like stuck but it slips off and its still in me..is that normal? is that a bad thing? im just curious if that is not suppose to happen or what is causing this to happen..thanks!

I agree with the others that your boyfriend needs to try a smaller sized condom. There is one other possibility where in your boyfriend is loosing his erection and slipping out of the condom before withdrawing. In which case he needs to come out of you before he looses his erection and you can retain the condom while he withdraws.

Most likely the problem is he is wearing the wrong sized condom.

I am soooooo darn self conscious about my pubic hair. Female by the way and Im sixteen. Please yes I understand I shouldnt be having sex ( which for the most part Im not) but I lost my virginity about two years ago. Now i havent had sex since then because Im extremely self conscious. Not even just about my pubic hair but about all aspects of my vaginal area. I try shaving but Im very susceptible to ingrown hairs so I alway get a bunch of red bumps almost immeadiately. Ive even tried that lotion thats supposed to prevent it.needless to say, It didnt work. I dont want the bumps because i dont want a guy to see or feel them and just be grossed out. I also dont want them to feel hair down there because I feel for a lot of men these days are disgusted by that. And went it comes to just the area of course I keep it as clean as i possibly can but its impposible to be 100% percent clean especially with the hair. I dont want the white stuff that likes to acumulate in between the lips to be there. I dont feel like i have a normal vagina either. The gyno said it is but imnot sure. I wont let anyone go there because of my feelings and fears. No matter how bad i want them i cant bring my self to let them touch me. I dont want them to be grossed out of feel weird especially when if i do let someone touch me im so focused on their expressions trying to figure out what theyre thinking or if they are disgusted i dont even concentrate on how it feels for me. I dont know what to do about my problem i feel like imnever going to let my self be touch agagin because of my self consciousness. Help. Please & thank you.

Two things you need to know about men whether your 16 or 61. Men do not care what your vagina looks like. The younger the man is the more interested he is in whether you are going to allow him to use your vagina for one of its two intended purposes.

All men want to have sex though the younger the man the more important having sex is to him rather then getting to know you first is.

As for razor burn, those are the little red bumps you are talking about. Anyone, male or female, who shaves get them. General cause of razor burn is you are shaving to close, pressing to hard to get the closest shave. Those of us, again men and women, who have fair skin should not try to shave that close. Try a lighter touch, it is okay to have a bit of stubble.

When I was younger I never heard any of my friends tell me they had met a girl with an ugly vagina. As men we do not see a vagina as ugly. We see them as either hairy or shaved. Some of us prefer them saved some of us do not. With the feminine hygiene products on the market today it should make no difference if a women is shaved or not.

Most of us who prefer an unshaven women like the stronger sent that comes from being unshaven. As long as you bath daily you should not have a problem. The feminine hygiene products on the market are meant for your use for how you feel. Don't worry how you smell or taste; as I said if you bath daily you should be fine. If you have an extremely strong sent, one you can smell yourself then you may want to check with your doctor as you may have a yeast infection or something else. Otherwise your scent is what attracts the male of our species, I believe they are called prohormones.

Know for some fatherly advice. You are becoming a young lady. All of us be we men or women need to become more comfortable with the adult bodies we are growing into. It is all part of the process of growing up. From what you have written you have nothing to be embarrassed about. I'm sure any young man you choose, when you get older, to show yourself to will be please to see what god has given you.

This type of questions and others you will have are the type of questions you should be discussing with your mother and even with your father if you are comfortable in talking to him. Yes, some of the questions are of a sexual nature. But they need not be discussed in such a way that says you are sexually active. They can be discussed in a conceptual manner. Such as mom: Are guy/men turned of if you have a strong odor? Trust me here; mom had the same questions when she was your age and I'm sure she can answer your question. She can also show you the proper way to use a razor. Not by shaving you down there but watching you shave your armpit or legs.

Parents are a great resource for these types of question. You should not be embarrassed to ask us. This is one of the functions of parenthood; answering our children's questions to the best of our ability so that they get truthful answers. This of course is age related such as you do not explain the birds and the bees to a 4 year old who ask where they came from.

I'm 11 yrs old and I love kids. I have taken care of my lil sister who is 9 and took care of my 3 yr old cousin. I'm pretty mature and an honor roll student. I already have a trillion ideas to entertain kids with?

Do you think I'm good babysitting material?

I will tell you up from you are not going to like my answer, but it is the truth.

First most states have laws concerning age requirements for a baby sitter. The state I live in requires a sitter to be at least 13 years of age as do the states that surround mine.

Second: To be CPR certified you must take a CPR certification course. The American Red Cross offers this course which requires students to be reading at an eight grade level in order to comprehend the material and pass. I would say that would mean you would have to be at least 12 or 13 before you are old enough to take the course.

Something to consider while you are waiting: The American Red Cross also offers a course in baby sitting which would include CPR which has the same requirements. When completed you would have a certificate of completion in baby siting from the Red Cross.

I'm sorry I could not give the answer you are looking for. I'm sure when you are a year or two older and have the certifications parents are looking for you will make a great baby sister. Until then enjoy being 11 and 12. We only get one childhood, don't wast it being in a hurry to grow up. You'll be a grown up before you know it and wonder where your childhood went.

i just want to know what can be the most unpainful way to commit suicide , I know some of u will try to convince me not to do it … but i’m afraid a won’t change my mind .my life right know is a living hell I really can’t bare it anymore , the thing is that I have a mom who’s driving me mad even though I’m really sensible and a kind of mature no drugs no drinking and certainly no smoking cause I’m really interested in sport , school report aren’t bad at all I don’t know why I have to stand all these things , I’v been really patient but it’s just getting worst I’v never thought I’d end up like this …. However I just want some answers because I can’t afford a gun or anything like that so… by the way I’m 17 years old ps: sorry for my bad English

The fact that your mother may be mentally abusing you is not a reason to kill yourself. I'm not sure what country you live in but if you live in any of the western countries there is help for someone who is being mentally abused.

Pick up the phone and dial 999 or 112 or whatever your countries emergency number is and ask for help. From what you have written you are not a bad person just someone who needs help to get out from under a bad situation. Suicide is not the answer to your problem, help is, and is there for the asking. Please make the call and let someone help you.

I'm 5'5" and weigh 145

Can I lose 20 pounds before august 25th?

I do workout and eat healthy and drink water

I believe I have seen this question several times in the last couple of weeks. I believe I also answered this question once. If you have not posted before I apologize.

There are no good quick diet plans that are healthy for you. If you are looking for a quick fix that requires little work on your part your not going to find one. We call it a dieting plan because it takes a proper plan to diet properly.

There are three parts to a proper and safe diet plan. Part One: Doctors supervision. Especially for the amount of weight you wish to loose. Part Two:Proper exercise. Part Three: Proper diet for proper nutrition.

There are no short cuts to a proper diet plan. Quick loss diets in general at best do not work; at worst can do you great harm. If you wish to loose weight follow a proper plan. See your doctor and find out what your median weight should be, then follow your doctors plan. Eat right and exercise properly.

Im married with 2 kids and there is this male co-worker who would joke that we are soulmates everytime we wore same color of shirt. His bestfriend sometimes teases us too. There are some instance where he would stare into my eyes n hold it for a second. I think im in love with him now? is it love or attraction?

I believe never2balone has said it best. If you take what never2balone has said and sort of take it to the next level you might understand your feelings better.

The attraction you are feeling for this coworker, yes attraction, comes from the amount of time you spend together. For those of us that work in an office we may spend as much as 45 WAKING hours or more together a week. Compare that to the number of actual WAKING hours we get to spend with our spouses; we actually spend more time with coworkers. I believe this how the term OFFICE WIVES AND HUSBANDS came to be.

It doesn't have to be this way. You can have an adult relationship with this man and not be in love with him or physically attracted to him. If he is doing something to cause you to feel this way, the wrong is on him. He knows your married.

If you do not want to ruin your marriage then you need to take action. If it is possible to transfer to a different part of the company try and do so. If not I would suggest looking for a different job. You should also tell this man he may be misinterpreting your friendship and that his advances are unwanted. If this does not stop him then you can either report him for harassment or find a new job.

If there is something wrong in your marriage that this man is picking up on; then you have some choices to make. You can either fix your marriage or welcome this man's advances. This will probably ruin your family life as it is today.

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