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hair? selfconscious
I am soooooo darn self conscious about my pubic hair. Female by the way and Im sixteen. Please yes I understand I shouldnt be having sex ( which for the most part Im not) but I lost my virginity about two years ago. Now i havent had sex since then because Im extremely self conscious. Not even just about my pubic hair but about all aspects of my vaginal area. I try shaving but Im very susceptible to ingrown hairs so I alway get a bunch of red bumps almost immeadiately. Ive even tried that lotion thats supposed to prevent it.needless to say, It didnt work. I dont want the bumps because i dont want a guy to see or feel them and just be grossed out. I also dont want them to feel hair down there because I feel for a lot of men these days are disgusted by that. And went it comes to just the area of course I keep it as clean as i possibly can but its impposible to be 100% percent clean especially with the hair. I dont want the white stuff that likes to acumulate in between the lips to be there. I dont feel like i have a normal vagina either. The gyno said it is but imnot sure. I wont let anyone go there because of my feelings and fears. No matter how bad i want them i cant bring my self to let them touch me. I dont want them to be grossed out of feel weird especially when if i do let someone touch me im so focused on their expressions trying to figure out what theyre thinking or if they are disgusted i dont even concentrate on how it feels for me. I dont know what to do about my problem i feel like imnever going to let my self be touch agagin because of my self consciousness. Help. Please & thank you.
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Two things you need to know about men whether your 16 or 61. Men do not care what your vagina looks like. The younger the man is the more interested he is in whether you are going to allow him to use your vagina for one of its two intended purposes.
All men want to have sex though the younger the man the more important having sex is to him rather then getting to know you first is.
As for razor burn, those are the little red bumps you are talking about. Anyone, male or female, who shaves get them. General cause of razor burn is you are shaving to close, pressing to hard to get the closest shave. Those of us, again men and women, who have fair skin should not try to shave that close. Try a lighter touch, it is okay to have a bit of stubble.
When I was younger I never heard any of my friends tell me they had met a girl with an ugly vagina. As men we do not see a vagina as ugly. We see them as either hairy or shaved. Some of us prefer them saved some of us do not. With the feminine hygiene products on the market today it should make no difference if a women is shaved or not.
Most of us who prefer an unshaven women like the stronger sent that comes from being unshaven. As long as you bath daily you should not have a problem. The feminine hygiene products on the market are meant for your use for how you feel. Don't worry how you smell or taste; as I said if you bath daily you should be fine. If you have an extremely strong sent, one you can smell yourself then you may want to check with your doctor as you may have a yeast infection or something else. Otherwise your scent is what attracts the male of our species, I believe they are called prohormones.
Know for some fatherly advice. You are becoming a young lady. All of us be we men or women need to become more comfortable with the adult bodies we are growing into. It is all part of the process of growing up. From what you have written you have nothing to be embarrassed about. I'm sure any young man you choose, when you get older, to show yourself to will be please to see what god has given you.
This type of questions and others you will have are the type of questions you should be discussing with your mother and even with your father if you are comfortable in talking to him. Yes, some of the questions are of a sexual nature. But they need not be discussed in such a way that says you are sexually active. They can be discussed in a conceptual manner. Such as mom: Are guy/men turned of if you have a strong odor? Trust me here; mom had the same questions when she was your age and I'm sure she can answer your question. She can also show you the proper way to use a razor. Not by shaving you down there but watching you shave your armpit or legs.
Parents are a great resource for these types of question. You should not be embarrassed to ask us. This is one of the functions of parenthood; answering our children's questions to the best of our ability so that they get truthful answers. This of course is age related such as you do not explain the birds and the bees to a 4 year old who ask where they came from.
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If shaving it isn't your thing (and lots of women and the men that love them still prefer hair down there) then just keep it neatly trimmed.
You can also get it waxed, but that can be painful during the actual waxing. So you might try that if you feel you just gotta be bald there (I personally prefer women with no or little pubic hair).
And honey, there is no such thing as an ugly vagina. I have seen a lot of pussy in my life and none of it has ever been unsightly. The combination of the opening and the lips reminds me of a flower. As long as you bathe every day you will have no reason to feel self conscious about it. So relax and stop picking at yourself.
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Have you ever considered waxing? I got my first wax at 16, and it's amazing. I don't know if you are allowed to get a full Brazilian wax at your age, though. Some spas don't do that unless your 18, and other waxing places will do it for girls your age. Waxing keeps your pubic area very clean and is much better overall. You won't get a million red bumps the way you do from shaving, and it grows back much later. So I really think you should look into waxing. The first time I waxed, I never shaved again. As for the self-consciousness about the smell or taste,if your gyno says that you have a healthy vagina and you yourself keep it clean, your vagina should smell completely fine. Don't stress it. If you're healthy, then you'll be fine.
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