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okay, before reading this .. please don't judge me. thanks....
So i'm 15 , i'm a female.. ehhhh , so i lost my virginty too my ex boyfriend/Bestfriend on june 20th 2011... we dated for a while then things dident work out so we broke up , YES we used condoms, i only did it once, Well .. once school started i started talking too this other boy, (i've been single for 4 months now..) and we was hanging out one day after school ,
we was in his car, and he kissed me. and things dident go as planed. we got real sexual. and ended up having sex , well... we still talk now, but i dont want a relationship because hes a man whore , he has alot of girls. and some how ALOT of people from my school found out about me having sex with him, and now they think im a whore/Slut.... when i walk down my hall at school all i get is stank faces from girls, and i can hear them wisper. but i just try to ignore them, i never really hung out with girls , i always hung out with a couple of girls, and alot of boys. just bc its less drama yaknow ? well anyways , i have big boobs so boys are always talking about them, and girls will say "ew shes a whore!!! dont hug her you might get aids" and start laughing , i mean im a cheerleader, i do all kinds of sports, i am a happy person(: i'm always smiling and laughing.. i guess im too friendly ? but when i get mad, i flip the fuck out, and all these rumors , and people picking on me, it;s making me sad . and making me wanna slap them girlss !!! AHHHH right now i just hate my life (link)
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In high school, when you do something like having casual sex, you will be talked about. That's just how it is. That's how girls are. Having unplanned sex with him wasn't the best choice to make, however what's done is done. You have to be able to deal with the fact that people will always talk about things they hear that you did. That's life. Just ignore them and try not to make any more mistakes like that again.
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This is my first time shipping something and I am soo confused!
I am going to ship a medium sized package (filled with about 20 DVD's) using United States Postal Service (USPS).
I know that you can get boxes there for free. But i'm just really confused on what type of shipping to use and how much it will cost me. I think I'm using Priority Mail but I'm not sure. Is this a good idea if i'm shipping dvd's?
The place I'm shipping it to sent me a mailing label with their address on it, so i have to put it on there.
Is there anything else I should be aware of? Thank you! (link)
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For any questions, go to the post office and they will explain everything-- where to put the label, how to tape up the box, which box to use, etc. They will explain each of the shipping methods. Priority means it ships faster, but there are various types, such as overnight shipping which is super-fast. The last time I mailed a big gift, I just went into the post office and packed it all in and the guy working there told me how to do everything! Hope I helped!
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I want to buy an iPhone 5 and sell my iPhone 4. I don't want to sell my current phone until I have a new one in my hand. When will be the best time to sell / buy the iPhone? How much will the iPhone 4 be worth when the iPhone 5 comes out? It's $400 on Amazon for a used one and mine is brand new. (link)
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The best time to sell the iPhone 4 would probably be BEFORE the 5 comes out..because once the 5 comes out, the price of the 4 will drop maybe to $300 or even $200. The point is, you have to sell your 4 as far from the release of the 5 as you can, because right now, the 4 is the newest thing out there. However, if yours is really brand new, if you keep it in pristine condition, you can sell it after you get the 5 and still get a good amount for it. However, it will definitely be less than the iPhone 5. Good luck!
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I am soooooo darn self conscious about my pubic hair. Female by the way and Im sixteen. Please yes I understand I shouldnt be having sex ( which for the most part Im not) but I lost my virginity about two years ago. Now i havent had sex since then because Im extremely self conscious. Not even just about my pubic hair but about all aspects of my vaginal area. I try shaving but Im very susceptible to ingrown hairs so I alway get a bunch of red bumps almost immeadiately. Ive even tried that lotion thats supposed to prevent it.needless to say, It didnt work. I dont want the bumps because i dont want a guy to see or feel them and just be grossed out. I also dont want them to feel hair down there because I feel for a lot of men these days are disgusted by that. And went it comes to just the area of course I keep it as clean as i possibly can but its impposible to be 100% percent clean especially with the hair. I dont want the white stuff that likes to acumulate in between the lips to be there. I dont feel like i have a normal vagina either. The gyno said it is but imnot sure. I wont let anyone go there because of my feelings and fears. No matter how bad i want them i cant bring my self to let them touch me. I dont want them to be grossed out of feel weird especially when if i do let someone touch me im so focused on their expressions trying to figure out what theyre thinking or if they are disgusted i dont even concentrate on how it feels for me. I dont know what to do about my problem i feel like imnever going to let my self be touch agagin because of my self consciousness. Help. Please & thank you. (link)
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Have you ever considered waxing? I got my first wax at 16, and it's amazing. I don't know if you are allowed to get a full Brazilian wax at your age, though. Some spas don't do that unless your 18, and other waxing places will do it for girls your age. Waxing keeps your pubic area very clean and is much better overall. You won't get a million red bumps the way you do from shaving, and it grows back much later. So I really think you should look into waxing. The first time I waxed, I never shaved again. As for the self-consciousness about the smell or taste,if your gyno says that you have a healthy vagina and you yourself keep it clean, your vagina should smell completely fine. Don't stress it. If you're healthy, then you'll be fine.
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i really want to die. this feeling never goes away. i'm not exaggerating, i've felt this way for almost a decade.
I've done everything. many types of therapy, different drugs, trying to OD, i still cut myself.
I'm sick of it.
Peoplesay they care, but it's so fickle. when they decide they don't need me, they change their minds.
My mom hates me.
My dad left because of me.
My family blames me.
I have no friends.
I just want a way to end this.
I'm sick of people telling me to not do it, because it doesn't help, it makes me feel worse.
ODing doesn't work, i can't get my hands on a firearm.
If life wants me to quit so badly, why can't it make it easier to do so? (link)
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You wanna know the real reason why life isn't "quitting" on you? Because you can get through it. And because life is a privilege. You don't know if you'll have that privilege tomorrow. Some of the happiest people in the world get that privilege taken away instantly without their choosing. It seems impossible to deal with, right? Well it's not. You were born and put on this earth because you are strong enough to deal with the crap that life throws at you. Why does your mom 'hate' you? You have to try and find the source of the problem that is causing your pain. There's all sorts of help you can get to turn your life around. You need to think as positively as you can because it's the only way that things can brighten up for you. If you continue to bring yourself down, you'll make everything worse. If all your attempts to take away your own life haven't been working, don't you think that's a sign that it's not meant to be? Most people that want to commit suicide don't really want to die...they just want a way out. You can find that way out. Suicide is not the escape route.
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For about 2 years I have had an on and off peeing sensation which is extremly annoying. I do not have a bladder infection, I do not have any other infections which could cause the sensation. I went to a gynocologist and urologist who also checked if the outside lining of my bladder is sufficient. Everthing is ok. I do get yeast infections easily and recently I had a bacteria infection. What can I do to loose that peeing sensation???? (link)
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It most likely is a yeast infection or some sort of vaginal infection. You should go to the doctor/gyno and get medication to get rid of the yeast infection, but if that's not possible, drink lots of yogurt and cranberry juice (must be unsweetened). Also make sure to take a shower twice a day to make sure you stay clean and the bad bacteria can't continue growing and causing the infection.
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Im 16 and my boyfriend and i have been dating for a few months now. We talk about having sex and decided not to have sex until im ready so for now we're just getting into foreplay. About a week ago i gave him a handjob and his sperm landed on my stomach and hand, all of our clothes were on. After it got on my hands we wipped it off and we went to wash our hands with soap and water. Im expecting my period and its a few days (2-3) delayed...should i be worried? (link)
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If it wasn't in your vagina, then no. Impossible. You might be late because of stressing over it, but I honestly thing pregnancy is the last reason in the world. You'll be fine!
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I NEED HELP... i HAVE REPEATEDLY ATTEMPTED TO END MY LIFE....I NEED ADVICE,,, I HATE MYLIFE... I FEEL AS IFF U GUYS HAVE TO BE IN MY SHOES TO KNOW EXACTLY WEA IM COMING FROM... ITS NOT EASY LIVING THE LIFE THAT I AM LIVING...... ETC, (link)
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Just remember that many who commit suicide don't want life to be over, they just want someone to help them and they want the pain to stop, whatever it may be. You need to find someone to help you get through this. Life is the most amazing privilege in the world and if you're alive I really believe that God thinks you can get through this. Like the answer all the way at the bottom, there are a number of things you can do. There IS always help, and you have to remember that your life is worth so much more and you need to make the most of it. You only get one shot and no one wants to see you go. Please get help.
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I'm going to go tanning in my backyard tomorrow and im fair skinned. Does anyone have any tips for me to get a good tan? How long do i have to stay out there? If i ware sunblock will i still get a tan? I will rate! (link)
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Definitely don't stay out too long. If you're fair skinned, you'll get red right away. Don't do more than an hour, and that might be pushing it. Use protection..seriously. I have very tan skin and I tan really easily, but when I wear sunscreen not only does it protect me, but it gives me an even nicer color (with less of a burn!) Tanning a little every day will prevent a burn and you'll gradually get a nice base tan. Hope it works!
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Ashley Green plays in the Twilight movies as Alice Cullen. I know she's not like a main character but I really like her and was looking up pictures of her on Google. Well, I found this photo of Ashley Greene and I LOVE her hair because it looks so natural and beautiful. How can I get hair like Ashley Greene in this shot? My hair is naturally stick straight and hard to curl so...advice?
http://1.bp.blogspot.com/_dRRTz1ErBww/Sb2ymQUsc6I/AAAAAAAACB8/zw-0VIx-fY4/s400/ashley+greene+saks.jpg (link)
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I'm going to say your best bet is blowdrying it out, and then using a curler to make big curls at the bottom, but don't hold the curler in for too long. So, like in the picture, it'll be straight but have a nice curl/wave at the ends. I do it all the time with my hair, I have wavy/straight hair. It's easy and looks really nice! Hope I helped.
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19f.
please don't ask if it's the right guy or anything of that. this is someone i'm not dating but close with - don't judge. i'm not asking IF i should have sex with him or not i'm asking how to make it happen.
to be honest i'm not one of those girls comfortable with the dirty talk. i'm to the point of just wanting to jump on this guy everytime i see him hahaa and i know he would have sex with me in a second i just don't know how to bring it up. whenever we talk or see each other he always starts the inappropriate talk that i like, and i just go along with it. he will even text me just being like "wanna fuck?"
i just don't think i could ever text him asking that ha. i'm done with the whole "just watch a movie together" blah blah blah..
basically i want to say something to him that will make him just really want me and make it known i want to have sex with him. maybe this will be more of a friends with benefits situation but i'm fine with that. don't give me a big speech about it i know what i'm doing with that part i just need to make it actually happen.
even just texting him i could say something or next time i see him but i think i'd be more shy when saying it in person because like i said .. i'm bad with the dirty talk.
any suggestions? thanks!:) (link)
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I think you should just ask him to come over and if he starts flirting just like..get on that hahaha! Just text him and be flirty and say something like "pleaseee come over" or something. He'll probably get it. If you know he would, then you just need to initiate it.
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What are some good ways to enhance hair growth? (link)
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-Eat as healthy as possible, it will do wonders for your hair AND your skin.
-Try out fish oil pills, they're so good for you and they'll enhance the quality of your hair.
-TRIM!!! Every 6 weeks, then your hair will grow faster and fuller.
-Don't get too stressed...it can slow down your hair growth.
-Exercise. When your body is doing well, your hair will be healthier too.
-Try Main n' Tail shampoo, I know two girls who used it and it makes their hair long and thick
Hope I helped!
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When I comment on someone's photo, it doesn't show up on my profile to show that I have commented on it? Does anyone know how to change it?
Thanks (link)
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On the top right, next to your name, put your mouse over Settings. When the little drop down comes up with Account Settings, Privacy Settings, and Application Settings, click on Privacy Settings. Then click on 'News Feed & Wall' which should be the 3rd option. Then you can fill in the box that says 'Comment on or like a photo or album.'
Hope I helped!
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okay. im 15/f hes 15/m
so he nad his girl friends of a year just broke up almost a month ago. and he lied to her about hanging out with other girls okay. so theres some back history now heres my story.
im rachel and his names adam. i have like him sense i saw him in 7th grade he played base ball on my best friends team. well me and adam dated for a month and brooke up and we lost tuch untill we got to highschool now i see him evry day and everywhere. i like it.hes freinds with my friend becca so we all went to the movies (this is after him and his gf broke up)so becca had her guy zach and i had adam. it was really fun we saw taken. okay but we held hands and snuggled together the whole time. it was very nice. he was so comforting. and after we went back to beccas and hung out and ate some pizza. well we keept looking at eachother and smileing it was cute. okay so after they left he texted me and was like i liked snuggeling with you did you like it? and i said yes i did.but i sorta wanted to kiss you but i didnt know if you wanted me to. and hes like shit girl i wanted to lol. okay so its been a couple days now. and we hug but hes not over his ex gf and i dont want to be just a rebound. he says he likes me but hes all ways with her. like when i see him i see her. it uppsets me that he wont get over her but they were together for so long. im nto sure if i should stick around and wait for him or if i should just let him go. i like him alot i mean he makes me smile alot. like really big smiles but idk if he feels the same way. what should i do? (link)
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aww thats so cute! sorry haha. i'll help you out. it makes sense that he's not over his ex girlfriend, considering they were so close. but he DOES have feelings for you. get to know him more and see if he likes you as much as you like him. i think you need to talk to adam and tell him that youre into him, but you need understand that he still feels for his ex. let him know that you accept it even though you like him and are willing to give him some time to get over it, but still hang out with you and get to know YOU. don't hang around too long though, because then it'll hurt you. but trust me, he'll come around. good luck!
ps. flirt! make HIM want you and forget his ex!
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haha i have like the biggest crush on this person ive seen like 2 pics of. hes vanessa l. williams's son.. can anyone find more pics of him like nowadays for me? =]
-his future wife
hahah jkk.
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i'm not really sure, he's not as famous as his mom obviously. i see him at church all the time, though. ( we live in the same town )
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Hello. I am a first time user so i don't know exactly what to say. first i will expalin my problem. I am in highschool and i know dating isnt the biggest worry for me but its fun and something i would like to start doing. My parents disagree with me. They think i am to young to date. I have a boyfriend secretly right now. I dont know what to do. He says he is ok with my situation because he knows how my parents are. (he has never met them only heard stories). Can you help me either try to reason with my parents or give me advice to atleast get my parents to let me HANG OUT with guys (yea i am not even alowed to hang out with a guy this advice might be a toughy) (link)
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I'm in the same situation, except I don't have a boyfriend. My parents don't let me hang with guys--alone. I talked with my dad, and he said he'd be okay with it if when I hung out with guys, I had to have at least one other girl-friend with me. I haven't talked to my mom yet, though, but she's just...whatever. Do something that would make them trust you. DO NOT TELL THEM ABOUT YOUR BOYFRIEND!! They would be soo angry and not trust you for so long. You have to sit and talk with them for you to hang out with guys, so it's okay to be chilling. Don't raise your voice and just calmly explain that you might be missing out because your girlfriends always hang with guys, or something. Even try crying a little. Good luck!
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Ok basicaly i was new to the school i go to now at teh beginning of the year. I saw a guy in my choir class and thought he was really cute. Once i met some new people i told one of them i thought he was cute. Then one day we were walking to choir class and the guys was about 3 feet in front of us. My friends decided to yell "(my name) likes you" and he kinda cocked his head a little. Well to the point now, he keeps looking at me like he always looks at me now and i really like him well ok i dont "like" him cause well i dont know him but i would like to but i'm to nervous to even talk to him. So do you think he likes me or is just like ew she likes me" or what lol? (link)
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If he's looking a you a lot, it's a very good chance he likes you. I think you should start talking to him. What have you got to lose? If he's looking at you so much, it would be weird if he wasn't interested. I doubt he's looking at you like you're disgusting and ugly. (Which I also doubt.) So I think you should go for it!
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Does anyone know any good ways to write in big letters very neatly, i get extra points on a poster if everything is hand written. (link)
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Use a stencil. They have plenty at Staples, I'm pretty sure. Also use a ruler to make sure it's straight. Good luck!
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Recently, my friend's life just got a whole lot better. Everything is "perfect" now. Honestly, it is her year. At first I was jealous, but to be a good friend, her needs definitely go before mine. I'd rather be a good person, and squash my envy, than to lose a good friend.
Anyways, as a result of her "perfect" life, there is nothing to talk about. Nothing at all. We've already talked about all the "sweet" things her boyfriend says to her. The fact that he's going to give her her first kiss on her sixteenth birthday. The fact that her dad is throwing her a killer party. The fact that her grades are awesome, and she's winning so many awards.
There's just nothing to talk about. She doesn't call as much. Doesn't ask about me, how I'm doing or anything.
I'm just shocked. We had such a strong friendship. She (used to, anyways) claim that I am the reason she is her life is in order now, because I listened to her and helped her through all the hard times.
Can I save this? Does it even need saving? Is it worth it? (link)
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I think that your friend is just just overwhelmed with how good her life is right now. She most definitely cares about you, but it's just the excitement, you know? You can just tell her that you feel more distant, even though you're happy for her. If you take the time to sit her down, she will slow down. I wouldn't want to risk a friendship.
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The topic that I just read by the girls saying that the male body part is ugly,while the female body is so pretty.We are what we are.Why did the good lord put it on the outside,probaly so we can do the job that you are unable to do yourself.You can stick all kinds of objects up there but that won't give you what you want most.When you get ready to marry,who do you come to,us.When you want to have kids,who do you come to,us.Who is going to support your butt the rest of your life,who is going to pay for the home your going to live in,in other words,let me think,oh I guess it us.If you think the male organ isn't worth playing with,have fun with your tooth brush honey.You may be ashamed of showing yours but at least we are out in the open and proud of it.I do realize that at a very young age if you saw one for the first time your scared but remember that many girls still don't know what there's look like still.I like this site but some of the questions are from girls way to young to be thinking about sex with boy friends.At pre-teens you should be out there having fun in groups.Where are your parents?Do they know that there 13/14 year old are thinking of,let alone doing? Grow up first.There are enough Britney Spears out there,give yourself time to know what the world has to offer you and what you have to offer it. (link)
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Hey, I kinda agree with you. It's a little sad that 13 and 14 year olds are already talking about fingering and handjobs and what not. It's stupid when girls say that the male body parts are ugly when they are 13 and 14. I guess you just have to deal with it man. If it makes you feel better, I think male body parts are awesome. :)
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