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somedays ago i found a woman aged 43 on facebook who was ready to adopt me..since no one loves me..she was ready to love me..she was single and divorced..she wanted a son and i wanted a mom..everything was going ok..but then i contacted her friend..and asked some question about her,.her friend told her about it..and she got mad at me and now she wants me to stop contacting her..she means my family and my world..i cant live without her..i can do any thing to get her..i love her a lot..plz help me ..i need a mom to love me iam 17 now and my name is brock
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Hi Brock.
I don't understand why she is being like this. This all depends on the type of questions you asked her friend. You have to try your best and show her you did it out of love. Then again, you are 17 years old, and a young man and you don't NEED her love. Clealy, she's mad over something small. If she doesn't come back to you, realize that you are capable of making a life in your own. I know it is going to be tough and I do not know your financial situation, but I'm sure there is a way you could work things out somehow. For now, try talking to her even if she doesn't want to listen, because she'll still hear you.
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My gut instinct is that this 43 year old woman was never seaking to adopt you but rather to have a realtionship of another sort with you. When you reached out to one of her friends I'm sure it became obvious that what she was doing was inappropriate so the 43 year old quickly ended the relationship in fear of getting in trouble.
Brock, I am so sorry that you have lacked so much through your life especially by way of feeling loved and a part of a family. Everyone deserves to love and be loved including you. However, because of what you have gone through you know first hand how much it hurts yet you still have so much love to give and your experiences have made you stronger. Use your experiences to love others. You are 17. Very soon you can go off to college or get a job or both and meet new people, try new things, and find out who YOU are. Then you can find that special person to settle down with and be the father and family for a beautiful child that you can love and be loved in return. This is the time of your life. Don't be stuck on a 43 year old woman. There are wonderful girls your age that I know would love to be a part of your life and would be lucky to have all the love you have to give. You will see. I promise a better future is ahead for you if you will just allow it. No need to settle for someone on facebook. For all you know, it's a man who's crazy looking to hurt you not love you. You don't deserve this. You deserve a face to face companion of even age and experience happy to share in furture excitement and experiences that you have yet to discover.
Brock, it is true we all need a mother to nurture us and guide us to adult hood but you are past that point. You are at the point where you can be that parent, that leader, guide, and an emmense amount of love to give. Anyone whould be lucky to have you in their life. Please leave this 43 year old woman alone. She is not good for you in any capacity. For her to dismiss you so easily should be a huge red flag if nothing else. Her intentions were not pure but selfish and you deserve so much more. Please know how wonderful you are.
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OhKayy.. Dhis is ah unusaul situation to start out with.. Bhut to be truthful yhu dhid dah right thing about askinq her friend about her. Bhut if she truthfully loved yhu she wud of understood and not be ignoreinq yhu ( and to be truthfully she is actinq like ah child ). Bhut in her eyes she believes yhu don't trust her , which dhat isn't true .. So dah best thing yhu shud ov dhid is to ask her nt her friend .. TO say i hope yhu believe dhat yhu didn't do anything wrong because yhu didn't . Andd if she dnt understands dhat oh well because it's her lost because she probably missed dah best kidd she kud ever have ! (: iHope yhu find ah mother ! (: HAve ah nice life .. Love, Neice(:
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Ending your life is never the answer, especially over one person. There are millions of other people that will care for you and give you the guidance you need. Try going to your local church or even talk to a counselor that you can find through your cities welfare system. There are always a reason things happen and she obviously wasn't the one for you. I hope you find what you're looking for and good luck.
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You are 17, In a few more months you will legally be considered an adult and you will be an independent.
I don't know the entire situation, Your given details were very brief. Adoption is a very big decision and I'm going to assume I could be totally wrong...
It could be she is stressed, confused or she could of even changed her mind. If she wants you to stop contacting her then all I can really say is you need to stop. This women doesn't want any further contact for whatever reason is to her to know. You are 17, You've made it this far and soon you will be 18 and free to do whatever you want.
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I agree with raindrops812a. If this women was really who and what she presented herself as; a few questions to a friend would not have up set her. Their are a lot of scam artist out there not to mention pedophiles and other weird types.
Facebook is a great place to make make social contacts and make new friends. It is not a place to make the type of family arrangement you are looking for.
I think your need for a warm motherly type love may have blinded you to what may have been this women's intentions. While you may not realize it at this time,her breaking off contact with you is probably the best thing that could happen. The fact that she wanted to keep your relationship secret is giant red flag of danger for and to you.
You did not say what has happened to your biological mother; if she has left you and your family or if she has past away. Which ever is the reason facebook is not the place to find a stand-in or replacement for her.
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have you ever seen her in person? because if you where only talking to eachother on facebook it's probably a scam.
i think that if she really meant it she would've gotten mad just because you asked her friend a few questions. to me it seems more like she has something to hide. I wouldnt trust her.
i'm sorry that you feel like you dont have anyone but i think facebook isnt the right place for you to search for love.
just hang in there :)
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Brock first I would like to say that I am sorry that you were left alone in the world.. It must be so hard... I want you to know that you can always come to me for advice and you can email me at stephiesadvice@aol.com if you want to talk or just need a friend... As for this woman try to contact her and let her know how you feel... Tell her you did not mean to offend her in anyway and if you did you are sorry and you would like her back in your life... if she is not willing to accept that then you need to know that you are going to be okay... I know it is hard but it will get better... If you need a friend I am here to talk... I am so sorry that this is happening to you.. I wish I could help more good luck and remember you can email me or message me on here anytime
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You need to make this woman sit down and listen to you. You have to make her understand how hard your life has been so far and all you want is to be her son. Explain to her how hard it is for you to trust people, due to your past, and that you needed to know that she was sincere and kind.
Let her know you're truly sorry for contacting her friend without her approval. Tell her how much she means to you!
It may take awhile, but eventually she'll forgive you. You just have to be patient. :)
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