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What is a quick and not so painful to kill yourself or how do I die? I'd rather not kill myself, I want someone else to do it for me... how do I go about doing this?

I dont think someone else will do it for you cause that would be considered murder.
just get over yourself & deal with your problems.

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i know what your thinking... "is this chick stupid?" but hear me out. me & this boy were messing around & he was fingering me. then he started rubbing his "head" on my vagina. he told me i was too tight to even go in ,but through out the time i guess i kinda got a little loosened up or whatever. he said that "only the head was there." no idea what that meant. i just kept telling him to please not go in whatever he did. i don't wanna lose my virginity at 15. so did i just have sex? :/ i wasn't meaning to go that far. OH & he was cumming while rubbing it on my clit. so could i get pregnant? he told me no. idk.
please help . :(

i'd say that once a penis enters your vagina you had sex. but as the person below me said, different people are gonna tell you different things.
as for the pregnant thing: there is deffinetly a chance that your pregnant cause the sperm might've gotten into your vagina.
and next time you should really use a condom cause even if you didnt have full on sex there was a chance of him cumming while "only the head was there"
so be careful!

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i like this guy but i used to be mean to him what should i do?

female 16

just be nice to him now. say hi etc.. and maybe once you talk more tell him that you're sorry. then he'll know that you at least like him as a friend & then you can give him hints that you fancy him and see what happens.
:)

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15/f.
I really like this guy. We've been talking for almost everyday in the past few months. We talked to much and always got the conversation going pretty deep. My friends knew I liked him, even they said that it seems like he liked me too, but the problem was that he sends mixed signals. I missed my chances of telling him, and no I wasn't scared of rejection. I was scared of loosing him as a friend. Then at around January, we just stopped talking. We were so close too. We trusted each other and understood eachother. I don't know how to make it the same. We're extremely good friends. Although at school, he never says Hi to me. (never did). Hardly, but he says Hi and talks to me in the classes we have. I really think I should get over him, because girls are always flirting with him, it drives me insane. I don't like the feeling of envy. I don't know how to get over him without ignoring him, because when I do, we just won't be friends anymore. People told me to just think of things you hate about that person, but the truth it, there isn't anything wrong about him that I can think of. It really bugs me.
So how can I get over him without ruining our friendship?
Thanks a bunch!

if i where you i'd just stay friends with him.
i was in a similar situation; i really like this guy ALOT. and we where also REALLY close friends and shared so much & he understood me so well etc :/
and he also send me mixed signals & i thought that he may like me too so i told him how i feel. then he just stopped talking to me & now we're not friends anymore. it hurt me so much & i STILL cry over it even thought it was like 6 month ago.
& then i realised that i dont bother that much about him not liking me more as a friend but him not wanting to be friends anymore. he may be an idiot for this but the whole thingy made me realise that sometimes friendship is more important than a relationship. so i'd suggest that you continue talking to him and being his friend cause if you ignore him and stop you'll probably feel worse than now.
and besides .. so what if he doesnt fancy you? he obviously values you and thats what matters. & if you really want more you can try becoming even closer friends and do smth after school etc. and maybe then he'll eventually fall for you. (:
sorry i couldnt answer the question about getting over him etc :S i wish i knew myself :S im still not over my guy either so ..
but hope i helped a little. good luck! :]

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18f. one of my grandparents passed away about a week ago, basically the first person ever close to me to pass away. well i get really freaked out about death and ghosts and stuff, and ever since the wake and funeral i can't sleep, i wont allow myself at night because i'm terrified. everytime i close my eyes i see my dead grandmother in her casket, or the casket at the cemetery .. and it truly is frightening who wants to keep being reminded of that? or at night when it's really dark i feel like a ghost is in my room and every sound i hear i get freaked out to the point of me breaking a sweat in the verge of crying. i won't go to sleep until like 7 in the morning when it gets light out because i feel at least more comfortable but this no sleep thing has really been taking a toll on my body, i feel so sick :( i still live with my parents but they can't do anything about it. i go sleep with my mom in the morning when my dad goes to work, because i feel safe with someone. my dad won't sleep in my bed, haha embarassing i know but honestly i don't know what to do .. i'm terrified and i need sleep !

is there anything i can do..

ahh im really sorry about what happened :S
this has never happened to me so i dont really know what you're going through. but maybe if you feel more comfortable sleeping at 7 why dont you just leave the lights on & go to sleep then?
maybe its a little harder but i bet that after not sleeping at all you're really tired. or maybe if you have a TV in your room watch TV before oyu go to bed. don't watch smth like ghost whisperer or CSI or smth. watch friends or whatever else you think is funny (;
it really does help cause i cant sleep lately because I'm lovesick & lost a good friend etc. i know its not as bad as what youre going through but it does help cause watching TV is quite tireing. also what you can try is read a book. eventually that'll get you really tired as well.
and as i said .. try going to sleep with the lights on. and close your curtain so you cant see the darkness outside ^^
another thing you can do is listen to music. it obviously takes the silence away & maybe that'll make you stop from thinking that there is a ghost in your room.
hope i helped a little . good luck! :]

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I sleep around

aww.

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I'm running out of new music to try. What are some really, really good bands or songs I would like if I already love paramore and a little fall out boy, but still like aucoustics?

try 'renfue'.. they sound a lot like paramore

look them up on youtube :)

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People say my eyes are really pretty in the light; they say they look like the inside of a kiwi and they sparkle. Is there any make up (no eyeshadow) that would bring out that characteristic??

i think you should deffinetely use mascara .. if your lashes are dark i'd use black & if theyre more blonde you could use darkblue..
black eyeliner would compliment your green eyes in a sexy kind of way. if its not your style though you could try using another shade of green. a friend of mine also has green eyes and uses green eyeliner & it looks really kewl

you could also try soemthing like this:

http://acclaimimages.com/photos/aa.jpg

http://www.smashbox.com/site/images/gtl_detail/softsmokydetail.jpg

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I don't have time for a shower in the morning, so I take one before bed. And sometimes I'll wake up and my hair is frizzy. Is there a quick way to bring down the frizz????

maybe try not to take one exactly before bed. i have the same thing .. i go to bed at about 10:30 on a schoolday so i shower at about 8 so my hair is quite dry when i go to bed & doesnt fizz too much.
plus it feels better because going to bed with wet hair is really annoying i think :/
i'd say try showering about 2 hours before you go to bed cause then your hair will be dry.
& of course you can use anti frizz spray etc..

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i'm very aware of how shallow this sounds but it's the only way i can explain.

15/f

so according to a very large group of boys, i'm considered hot.
and based on how they look at me and how they ignore me all the time and laugh at me, it seems as though a lot of girls (the popular brats in particular) think i'm a freak. like they seriously don't like me and think im really weird.

it seems like a very odd situation to me. I know i probably seem like im naive or asking for complients or im plain stupid, but i just want to know if its actually possible to be "a freak" and "hot" at the same time.

thanks:)

haha it seems to me that theyre just jealous :)

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13 almost 14f
i get REALLY turned on when i smell dudes clone. is this normal or strange?

thanks(:

haha naah, its suppost to turn you on :)
it turns me on too.
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Well, I where makeup most of the time, I wonder if my bf likes it or not? Do you guys like your girl friends with or without makeup? Or wat? He never told me not to wear it, so i dont think he minds it. thankss

i think everyone is different.
since noone knows your bf noone but him can tell you if he likes it or not. just ask him! :)
its no big deal x]
and as i said in general it depends on the guy.
i know guys who like make up, others who like it more natural.
i know that loads of girls say that guys like natural look more etc but i know loads of guys who like make up & theyre not perverts or anything.
it really depends.
ithink you should do whatever makes YOU happy :)

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like im a 13 m and im in high school i like this girl right but im pretty sure she doesnt like but the thing is she like one of my best friend what should i do

hii(:
i think you should just try & stay friends for now.
when i told this guy (he was a good friend) that i fancy him he totally rejected me cause he still has feelings for his ex (which i knew, but i STILL had to take a chance)
& now we dont really speak at all anymore & everything is ruined.
just be friends with her & if youre lucky maybe she'll develope feelings for you too. if not then thats okai too & you'll have to move on but at least you'll get to keep her as a friend which is good(:

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i'm so nervous for tomorrow, i'm getting my picture re-taken. i don't know what to do or wear or anything- the last one i got was so incredibly awful. but maybe i just think i'm ugly or something? i don't know.

here's the thing, when i look in the mirror, i don't look great but i look okay. then when i see myself in pictures i look so awful, and other times i look even better than i normally do. it makes no sense. i know this is going to sound silly, but my face is really lopsided. people say no one's face is perfectly symmetrical, but mine is sooo noticeable. my left eye like, droops down and so does my eyebrow which causes me to constantly wear my side bangs in my face covering that eye so no one notices. in my last school photo, the one that was originally taken, (tomorrow is re-takes like i said), my hair is covering the other eye and i look really bad. but i've seen myself in other photos with it out of my face and i look really, bad too.
ugh i'm just so nervous and freaking out, i really want to look my best and get a nice photo. any tips? & should i wear my hair in my face or out of it?

hii(:
noones face is perfect.
& i wouldnt worry too much about the picture. i bet noones gonna notice it as much as you because most people are too busy looking at their own pic.
but as the person below said, try wearing something bright.
you can also maybe put on eyeliner & mascara cause that'll draw attention to your eyes.
and why dont you just smilee? cause then people cant really say anything against it if you look happy. a happy picture often looks better then some supermodel pouting.

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im looking for a good song that is talking to an ex and basically says i love you, but you've messed around/waited too long and im sorry but now i'm moving on and found someone else. i dont care so much for the song, but mainly just good lyrics that i can use as a myspace/facebook status.

rock/country/pop please =]

maybe 'i will forget you' by rediscover. (:

it doesnt entirely fit to your description but its quite good. check it ouut!

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hi peeps!

every time i am in class with this one girl I like i get a terrible boner!! I really like her and I am afraid she will see it and hate me or I will creep her out you know? i really do like her like not as in sexually but want to know her like a girlfriend. the boner thing is just that she is really really REALLY pretty. i feel stupid but how can i MAKE myself NOT have a boner?

thank you!

xD as all the other people said, just think about stuff that grosses you out.
like your grandpa naked or something haha x]

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Does anyone know any good songs about a guy you like dating another girl?
Or him choosing her over you?

Pop, rock, or alternitive gernres, please.

Also, don't list songs that are extremely popular. I've most likely heard them already.

maybe 'learning to fall' - boys like girls
its from the guys point of view though.
hope you didnt know it already :P
xx

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I had this conversation with my friend where she said her boyfriend had a total "boner" when she was making out with him the other night. I just kind of nodded and agreed with her about it and stuff because I don't want to sound really stupid. What is a boner?

it's when a guys penis gets hard. *.*

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I am a slut. I will admit it. I've had sex with about 20 or so boys from my high school and I don't even know how many I've given head to. I'd had sex in the bathrooms, in the janitor's closet, and behind the school. I've skipped class to do this too. I'm really ashamed of myself and the way I dress on a day to day basis. I feel like I'm growing up and I don't want to be that type of person any more. None of the guys at school have respect for me. The girls hate me because I've slept with a lot of their boyfriends. Basically I can't get a good boyfriend who is really interested in ME because he knows we will have sex and I can't have a best friend because the girls think I'm going to steal their boyfriends or something (I don't blame them though...A LOT of guys have cheated on their girlfriends with me).

I am completely unhappy with myself and I don't know what I was thinking when I did those things. I guess I just wanted some attention because my parents are working alllll the time and I don't feel very loved or that I'm special. ANYWAY, how can I stop being such a slut? I hate it about me...I want to stop...but I just keep...screwing up, for lack of better words. Help, please? It's like, I keep thinking things like, "Yeah, maybe this guy might REALLY be into me! I need to push this forward..." but I KNOW he isn't...ugh...I feel stupid...

i agree with dottie.
just stop doing it and dress differently maybe?
you can still be stylish but not so revealing?!
& just try meeting completely new guys who dont go to your school.
cause you cant really change your image in a few days.
just stop having sex with random guys & they will realise that you've changed. same with the girls.
good luck (:

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So usually when i cum i never actually "shoot", it just kinda rolls out. Do girls find it less attractive if you dont "shoot"?

as the the other person said, i dont think girls pay attention to it. i wouldnt. it really doesnt matter. some may find 'shooting' hott but i really dont think that its less attractive if you dont.

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