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Getting over someone ?
15/f.
I really like this guy. We've been talking for almost everyday in the past few months. We talked to much and always got the conversation going pretty deep. My friends knew I liked him, even they said that it seems like he liked me too, but the problem was that he sends mixed signals. I missed my chances of telling him, and no I wasn't scared of rejection. I was scared of loosing him as a friend. Then at around January, we just stopped talking. We were so close too. We trusted each other and understood eachother. I don't know how to make it the same. We're extremely good friends. Although at school, he never says Hi to me. (never did). Hardly, but he says Hi and talks to me in the classes we have. I really think I should get over him, because girls are always flirting with him, it drives me insane. I don't like the feeling of envy. I don't know how to get over him without ignoring him, because when I do, we just won't be friends anymore. People told me to just think of things you hate about that person, but the truth it, there isn't anything wrong about him that I can think of. It really bugs me.
So how can I get over him without ruining our friendship?
Thanks a bunch!
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if i where you i'd just stay friends with him.
i was in a similar situation; i really like this guy ALOT. and we where also REALLY close friends and shared so much & he understood me so well etc :/
and he also send me mixed signals & i thought that he may like me too so i told him how i feel. then he just stopped talking to me & now we're not friends anymore. it hurt me so much & i STILL cry over it even thought it was like 6 month ago.
& then i realised that i dont bother that much about him not liking me more as a friend but him not wanting to be friends anymore. he may be an idiot for this but the whole thingy made me realise that sometimes friendship is more important than a relationship. so i'd suggest that you continue talking to him and being his friend cause if you ignore him and stop you'll probably feel worse than now.
and besides .. so what if he doesnt fancy you? he obviously values you and thats what matters. & if you really want more you can try becoming even closer friends and do smth after school etc. and maybe then he'll eventually fall for you. (:
sorry i couldnt answer the question about getting over him etc :S i wish i knew myself :S im still not over my guy either so ..
but hope i helped a little. good luck! :]
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Sometimes there are things we just simply have to accept, there is nothing that you can do about it, its a feeling and it sucks, and the only thing you can do is to adapt.
I'm not really sure about the mixed signals or that he might like you, but from the information you shared, it doesn't tell me that he likes you or feels about you the same way as you feel about him, I think he's just being friends and this is his way of being a friend, and when sometimes you think he's sending a signal, no, he's just having a bit of fun or fooling around, but not with the intentions of liking you and that there might be something, cause if there was, he would've told you or been more obvious instead of suddenly you stopped talking to each other, and its not like he's in a relationship or there is some other girl, its just you and there was plenty of space for him to come forward and express his feelings, but he didn't, and that sucks i know. But the only thing you can do is just to accept it, try enjoying his company of just being a friend, because you never know, because if you ever did get together, maybe things wouldn't work out, and you would find that you don't really like him that way, and that you were better off as friends. So you really never know, cause going from a friendship to dating this person is a complete 180 degrees change and it changes everything. So sometimes we just have to appreciate what we have, and be grateful that you have him as a friend instead of neither a friend or a lover.
So if it really really hurts you being friends with him while having feelings for him, then maybe you should just start to back out really slowly without being obvious about it, and eventually you'll just drift apart, as if it were naturally, and you don't have to ignore him completely, cause thats not really an easy thing to do since you already see him and it will also be hard on you. Other than that, just accept how it is, and i promise that if you do, after time, you'll find that you moved past your feelings and you'll just be glad that you have him as a friend. So just try not to think about it, and maybe try to get to know new people, or someone else, just anything or anyone to distract you and occupy your time.
Hope i helped, if you need anything else, please be free to contact me. Best of luck :D
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