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my bf wants sex but i am 12. help?
am 12 he 13. he wants sex, but i told him i was scared, he respects my response,but he keeps saying that he 'wants to fuck me bad.' the more he says it i want to, but am 12 dont know what to do.some advise???
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Sex is special, especially when it's with someone you adore. Don't let him pressure you in to something you're unsure of doing. Have time to think if you really want to have sex. Age doesn't really matter on when you have sex either, what matters if you're ready or not.
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If you said no then that what you mean.Tell him that if he doe not stop you will break up with him. If you were really ready for sex you would not be asking us. Wait instill you 18. maybe you be ready then. But only you know when you really ready. That's not now.
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Hate to say it, I am usually really open minded about this sort of thing as I understand different people mature at different rates but you are both a little young. I don't know where you are from but here in the UK age of consent is 16 and maybe you need to tell your boyfriend that.
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He should listen to you, no means no. I had the same situation with my boyfriend, and he almost got me convinced but I ended up dumping him. Now I am 14 and am happy that I am still a virgin. Boys brag at school, and it would be total humiliation. He should respect your first, and hopefully final decision. Plus he shouldn't say things to you like "I want to fuck you bad", it is very rude and disrespectful so women.
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You have said no. No means no and he needs to stop pestering or harassing you for sex. From a very legal stand point once you say no that is the end of the conversation:
His continued harassment or pestering of you to get you to have sex with him: Makes him guilty of Sexual harassment.
If you give into his harassment, it is statutory rape. As you are not old enough, by law, to consent to having sex.
He may be 13 but he is still old enough to be charged with these crimes possibly as an adult. The law is weird this way. He is a juvenile in all ways under the law though for some laws for certain crimes a juvenile can be charged as an adult and rape is one of them.
If he doesn't know the law inform the boy; it might just keep him out of trouble. Fact is you don't have to say a word. He brags to a buddy who says something to his parents. They get outraged and call the police. End of story and he is looking at life through bared windows. Real world adage; If he wants to play in the adult world he should be prepared for the adult world consequences.
That was the law. The human side is you said no. No means no. His problem is he is a typical 13 year old male who confuses love and lust. He like you is going through puberty. He has all these new hormones floating around in his body causing him not only sexual awareness but sexual tension. He wants relief and is seeking a girl to give it to him. Telling her he loves her and if she loved him she would have sex with him. That is not love that is lust.
He does not love you in the way you love him. Once he gets what he wants from you guaranteed he will seek other girls to get sex from them. If he can't respect you then find somebody that will.
Both of you are far to young to be having sex and that is also a fact.
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he says that he wants to 'fuck you bad' ?
wow ._. doesn't sound very romantic to me ..
if you dont want to have sex yet then dont! wait for the right guy who should be someone who respects your feelings towards sex and who really loves you and doesn't just want to 'fuck you bad'
If he keeps saying that it seems like he's just out for sex. I dont know him so I cant be sure but it seems like it. and even if he's not he shouldnt say something like that to you. It would make me feel like some kind of object. especially at the age of 13 he's probably not mature enough to use protection correctly. dont let him pressure you into it and wait for the time when you're ready or else you'll regret it. I was 16 when i had my first time and i was fine with it. I'm not saying that you have to wait that long but i do think that 12 is a bit too young.
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I suggest you be the smarter one and tell him to grow up and live above he influence. Tell him that if he really loves you he won't discuss sex especially because he's only 13, it's mega immature. Btw you're 12 you are still considered a kid and he's 13 he is new to the teenage years he wouldn't now how to use a condom. My advice , don't have sex and don't get pregnant.
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Good for you for saying no to him. Most girls would fall under the peer pressure and do it. But anyways, if he keeps pressuring you to do it and saying stuff like that to you, then your best bet is to break up with him. He might respect your opinion at the moment, but he might try to take advantage of you. You are only 12. That's way too young to be having sex. Think about the consequences of what would happen if you were to get pregnant from him. Don't do it.
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