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The Ugly Truth?
I have never been called ugly, but I've also never been called beautiful. I'm not sure. I mean, I've liked guys but none of them have ever liked me back. In the 5th grade I told a guy I used to like him but don't anymore. (It wasn't true that I didn't like him, I just wanted to test the waters. I wanted ti see his reaction.) That was thhe biggest mistake of my life because after I said I didn't like him anymore, I heard him say, "Good." My mom also once told me that the only guys that would want to hit on me would be pedophiles, (I'm really short so I look like I'm 14 even though I turned 18 in February.) the sad part is that I think she might be right. The only guys that have ever "liked" me are old guys and some of the creepy guys at our school. Whenever I even try to hit on a guy they laugh in my face. I feel like I shouldn't be so down on myself and sometimes I look in the mirror I feel like the prettiest thing in the world, but other times, I look in the mirror and feel completely disgusted with how I look. Is there a way to get people to tell you the truth about how you look?
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It actually doesn't matter how conventionally good you look. The main things are that you are clean, dress appropriately for your body and skin tone and are nice, have a sense of humor and some brains. It would also help if you are into sports (particularly football, basketball and/or baseball).
We are all handed a certain lot in life. Don't stress over that which you can't really control (for example, you're height is genetically determined and you could still end up getting taller, it just depends on your genetic code) and just keep moving forward. If you meet enough people someone or several dozen someones is going to want to have you as their partner.
On the other hand, if you seem moody and depressed all the time because of how you perceive your looks nobody is going to want to date such a sad sack. I know a girl who is pretty homely (but really smart, funny and a sports fan) and she has had boyfriends (and has one now). So don't worry, unless you lock yourself up in your house all the time you'll be okay.
Go to college, do well, meet people, love yourself, live overseas after you graduate, and just keep on rockin'.
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You need to see yourself as beautiful, both on the inside and out. Don't let a few people and their judgments of you control how you feel about yourself. Never let anyone make you feel less than what you are. Work on your inside beauty and it will radiate to the outside. Be strong and confident. Men like that. Carry yourself with pride and dignity. Always remember, accept yourself as you are. Stay beautiful.
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It sounds cheesy, but once you learn to let go of the notion that you need the attention of a man to make you feel attractive, you will actually be happier, and you'll find nice men are attracted to you more. The "pedophiles" your mom talks about aren't attracted to you because of how you look. They are attracted to you because you throw off a vibe of desperation and insecurity. That's what guys like that gravitate toward. Its like a scent. They can smell a girl who is needy and insecure and unsure of herself. They like those girls because they are easy prey. Work on finding things in your life that you love to do, hang out with people you enjoy, and stop worrying about what guys think of you. Ironically, when you learn to stop worrying so much about it, they'll be all over you!
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liking someone isnt all about looks. if someone only likes you cause you look good theyre not worth it and it's no way to start a healthy relationship. of course people can tell you their opinion on how you look but everyone has a different taste so one guy might think youre pretty while another one doesnt. and besides that i know a few girls who are gorgeous but still not liked because they act like complete bitches. and my boyfriend to be honest isnt the prettiest guy in the world either but i still love him for who he is because he's one of the nicest people i know :)
so dont worry you'll find the right guy and stop worrying about your looks. i used to be like that and it really brought me down!
good luck :)
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