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I told him but I still feel like I'm leading him on.
So I have this friend, he's a really nice guy and a good friend but I really can't see myself with him. He likes me alot and does really cute things for me like brings me flowers and my favorite candy when I'm sick and always asks me on dates like in cute ways and I go on the dates with him cause I do like hanging out with him, but I told him I don't wanna be more than friends. Ever since I told him he still does cute things for me and asks me on dates and everything. Is he just being a good friend or does he not get it? He says he loves my personality and finds me easy to talk to and stuff and hopes that something would "spark" but I just can't see it and I told him that but he's still acting the same...what should I do? He's such a nice guy I don't want to hurt him but then again I can't force myself to feel something for him.
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Yeah, this guy has glommed on to you and will keep this up until you firmly tell him just what the "friend list" (the gulag archipelago of male-female interactions) really means.
If you can't take the bull by the horns and do the deed yourself, have a friend tell him what the 411 is. Remember, guys are dumb when it comes to understanding the signals from women.
Unfortunately, a lot of "nice" guys pull crap like this because they believe you will ultimately come around when, in fact, the continued attention on someone who has no intention of allowing him to see them naked only makes him look like a needy dork. Someone would be kind by giving him a reality check so that he doesn't repeat this behavior in the future with some other woman.
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Not to be totally rude or anything, but you REALLY need to hear a guys point of view.
I personally HATE it when girls act like this, when they say "i wanna just be friends"
Like, come on.
Follow your heart. All girls say they only wanna stay in the friend zone because their scared of committment or to be heartbroken. From what you have told me, this guy seems to be the real deal. Hes sweet, caring, kind, cool, polite, and he knows how to make you smile.
SHOULDNT THAT BE WHAT YOU WANT IN A BOYFRIEND? Instead of some punk ass football player who will break your heart in a week.
Im sorry, but this is what i dont goddamn understand about girls. They totally ignore the sweetest guy there, and go for Mr. Big-Shot whos hot and has a six-pack.
Follow your heart. Of course, you dont wanna force feelings, but i hate it when girls reject nice guys like this because literally, it is like rejecting a chance at true love. This guy could be your next husband.... you never know until you give him a damn chance for once instead of shooting him down all the time. At least give him a chance, because life will suck if you never take a risk. And if he doesnt work out, you can always be friends with him still. And btw, its not just with this guy, its with other guys too. Open your eyes, and look at what you really have and go for the BIG picture.
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Of course you don't want to force feelings for another because that always leads to undesired results. He may get it and honestly, I think him staying the way he is is a good sign, because in my opinion it means he isn't going to let rejection change your friendship as it is.(which typically happens a lot, rejection usually brings about ill feelings as well as a break in friendship). If you've told him your feelings for him (As in only wanting to be friends, and you aren't interested in him that way)and he's still being a kind caring friend, there's nothing to worry about. But I would suggest keeping a level head just in case and keep an eye on him and if you feel he didn't understand fully, sit down with him and have a serious talk and be sure to fully explain your feelings towards him.
I honestly believe he understands, but I hope you understand his point of view as well. Hope is what many human beings live off of anymore. Hope is the human legacy. It may even seem like something small and insignificant but it has to start somewhere, right? I hope this helped you in some way.
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