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can't sleep because of this..
18f. one of my grandparents passed away about a week ago, basically the first person ever close to me to pass away. well i get really freaked out about death and ghosts and stuff, and ever since the wake and funeral i can't sleep, i wont allow myself at night because i'm terrified. everytime i close my eyes i see my dead grandmother in her casket, or the casket at the cemetery .. and it truly is frightening who wants to keep being reminded of that? or at night when it's really dark i feel like a ghost is in my room and every sound i hear i get freaked out to the point of me breaking a sweat in the verge of crying. i won't go to sleep until like 7 in the morning when it gets light out because i feel at least more comfortable but this no sleep thing has really been taking a toll on my body, i feel so sick :( i still live with my parents but they can't do anything about it. i go sleep with my mom in the morning when my dad goes to work, because i feel safe with someone. my dad won't sleep in my bed, haha embarassing i know but honestly i don't know what to do .. i'm terrified and i need sleep !
is there anything i can do..
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I express my sincerest condolences.
I know how you feel. I only have one grandma left...
Well, I think first you will have to rethink your view of death. It's more comforting to think of your grandmother in peace. If you are religious, think of her in heaven, happy. When you think of her look at old photos of her. Remember her when she was in health and having fun. I see how terrifying it is to think of her in a casket...When I think of my deceased gradparents, I think of a special memory. It makes it a more comforting.
Have you tried to sleep with the light on? If right now the dark is scaring you, then turn on a a desk lamp. This way you don't have to wait till the morning to sleep.
Also can you try to sleep in your parents room some nights? Or maybe they can sleep in your room. You can also invite a friend to sleep over so you feel more comfrotable.
You shouldn't worry. Bad things happen all the time. And you know, your grandma probably feels sad beause of how you are suffering. :)
I really hope this helps! And best of luck!!
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ahh im really sorry about what happened :S
this has never happened to me so i dont really know what you're going through. but maybe if you feel more comfortable sleeping at 7 why dont you just leave the lights on & go to sleep then?
maybe its a little harder but i bet that after not sleeping at all you're really tired. or maybe if you have a TV in your room watch TV before oyu go to bed. don't watch smth like ghost whisperer or CSI or smth. watch friends or whatever else you think is funny (;
it really does help cause i cant sleep lately because I'm lovesick & lost a good friend etc. i know its not as bad as what youre going through but it does help cause watching TV is quite tireing. also what you can try is read a book. eventually that'll get you really tired as well.
and as i said .. try going to sleep with the lights on. and close your curtain so you cant see the darkness outside ^^
another thing you can do is listen to music. it obviously takes the silence away & maybe that'll make you stop from thinking that there is a ghost in your room.
hope i helped a little . good luck! :]
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I know how you feel, and if i were you, i would've probably felt the same way. You know when my grandma died, her body was left at home for a whole day with us, and my mom would go and sit beside her and hold her hands, and it was just so freaky, just sitting there beside someone dead, like, has no life in them,I have no idea how my mom could do that lol. I would never come near a body, no matter who the person is lool But here is the thing, come to think of it generally, this is not a scary movie and no matter what, the body will not get up and kill you, and who are we even talking about here? its your grandmother and you were close and she loved you, and she would never come back to hunt you or scare you. Think of her, her when she was alive and with you, and how nice she was, and how there is nothing about her that would scare you.
I don't know if you believe in god, but if you do, pray for him and pray for your grandma before you sleep every night and maybe talk to her, tell her nice things, and remember the good about her, and i promise that praying would make you feel better and safe before sleeping instead of thinking that a ghost might come out or your dead grandma might come back, thats not gonna happen, your grandma loves you, and even if she was a ghost, she would never be an evil one hehe
Its just a phase, it'll pass i promise. Try to sleep elsewhere, or sleep with the lights on or if you have a tv in your room, put it on.
Hope i helped, please be free to contact me if you need anything else. Best of luck :D
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ohhhhhh im soo sorrryy to hear this!i feel soo bad for you. death is a natural process.we are all dying its just that some of us get there before others.
i know saying that wont change anything but here are some things you can do to help you sleep.maybe having a night light in your room or sleeping with the door open.make sure your room is tidy before you sleep so that no shadows are frightening you.
if you can,go see a school or uni counsellor and just talk about what you feel.even try talking to your mum about it or writing it in a diray. read before you go to sleep and have some tone down music running in the background so that its not so quiet in the house.
i really hope one of these things work.ofcourse time helps every problem.its onyl been a week since she passed away just give her time to rest in her grave and soon things will go back to normal <3
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