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true best guy friend?
18-female. i've always had feelings for my good friend but never implemented i wanted to go further because i knew it would just make our friendship more complicated. i just don't even know if he's the "good friend" i thought he was, but then when i think about it i have doubts..
we go to different schools. he's best friends with my guy cousin - they go to the same school. recently my grandma passed away (also my cousins grandma) and i know my cousin told the guy that she did and he told my friend she was in a better place blah blah .. but the thing is he never once called or even texted me to see how i was doing or to even say sorry to me about my grandma. to me, that doesn't seem like a good friend. although he talked to my cousin, he couldn't bother also talking to me about it? if his grandma were to pass away the least i would do would text him saying hey sorry to hear about your grandma, always here for you or something like that.
what do you guys think? am i overreacting about this or do you really think he's not being a good friend..
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No honey, I don't think you're over reacting, I think that he's being a really good friend to your cousin, but not to you. And I might've told you that you are over reacting if it was in normal situations, but for something major like your grandma passing away, which i'm so sorry for by the way, he should have definitely been there if he really was a true friend, but here, i'm not gonna tell you that he's a bad person or not a true friend. He is a good person, and he is a true friend, but not a true friend to you, maybe to other people, but between you and him, you are not best friends and you are not even close. And maybe you thought that both of you were something, like really close and tight, but thats not what he thought about it, maybe in his own mind, he just sees you as a friend, not close enough to be there for you and to care that much and remember. And that doesn't mean that there is something wrong with you or bad about you that would make him not want to get close to you, its just how he feels, and not every friendship is meant to be, and if it is, sometimes you're not meant to get close.
Maybe one day you'd get closer and he'd actually be there for you, but for now, your not, and don't waste your time trying to make something out of nothing, if something is meant to happen it will. You just act normally for now, the way you've always acted, and don't even question him about why he wasn't there for you, and don't expect him to be, and don't get upset or stop talking to him or anything. Just be normal, that's the only thing you can do.
And i'm not even gonna talk about the having feelings for him part, because you are not even close as friends, you are not what you thought you were.
And ofcourse its another case if you want to get closer to him intentionally, you'd have to talk more, hang out more, try to show interest in his stuff, and he'll show interest back, you get my point? Show him that YOU are there and you care,and that you want more, as friends, to be closer friends.
Hope i helped, if you want to talk more or if you need anything else, please be free to contact me. Best of luck :D
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it depends really...has he always been there for you?i think you need to weight out the good and bad points instead of just thinking of one thing.it may have no occured to him that you could be hurting too. he may have forgot to let you know hes there for you.like my guy friend he has a thing about death and just doeant like talking about it.he tries to avoid it as much as possible so that could be a factor. I understand where your coming from.if this means so much to you for him to be there for you then it could be an indication for you to not go there.i dont know him well enough to judge but has he been there for you every other time youv needed him?have you been there for him?
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