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it still hurts?
im 18/f and my boyfriend is 19/m
I lost my virginity to my boyfriend 2 and a half weeks ago, it hurt a lot at first but the pain then subsided. I was very very tight, i was extremely wet and everything, and my boyfriend was gentle with me. We had sex again the next night, and again it hurt, he had more of his member inside me before it began to hurt that time however, and again the pain subsided.
ive heard of pain at the beginning of sex lasts for the first two or so times, we had sex again today and it hurt really really bad. It has been two and a half weeks since the last time we had sex, so i dont know whether it was cause my body wasnt used to it again or something. The pain took longer to subside this time and im just wondering if this is normal and if this pain will be expected everytime i have sex now?
I was extremely turned on and wet so dryness isnt the issue.
is it normal?
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I can relate because I too just lost my virginity a couple months ago to my boyfriend too. The pain will go away after a while though once you have experienced more of it, I mean having sex a couple times. Then when sex becomes a regular thing like once a month or more then you are used to it and you begin to feel more loose. To feel pain at begining of sex if you are a virgin and also if you haven't had it for a long time is completely normal. The pain shouldnt be expected every time though. You get use to it and it doesnt hurt as much after. This is completely normal.
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If I were a doctor I might have a better answer for you. I'm not so the answer or suggestions are the best guess thoughts I have.
You mention in the first paragraph that you were not fully penetrated during your first intercourse. If this is still true this could be a reason for your pain.
Painful intercourse is normal for a virgin female but only for the first few times. My best guess is one of two things are at play here. The most likely problem is that you are not fully relaxed. You can be aroused and wet but still not be relaxed to were your muscles are allowing easy penetration. The second could be your boyfriends member is larger than most and it is causing you to stretch further than normal.
According to the latest Ansel Research Survey; the average male penis when erect is between 5.1 & 5.9 inches long. The Average girth of a penis is between 3.9 to 4.9 inches in circumference.
Keep in mind that this is the average, the middle between the largest and the smallest, above the micro-penis (below 2 inches in length). The survey states that size varies based on age, time of day, level of excitement and ambient temperature.
What you are born with is what you have. There is no way to enhance, or enlarge a penis even with surgery. Penile surgery is usually done to assist those with erectile dysfunction when there is no other medical solution that will help.
Average Vagina Size
Relaxed
Length 3 1/2 to 4 inches
Diameter 1 Inch
Aroused
Length ("tented) 5 to 6 inches
Diameter 1 1/2 to 2 inches
As you can see by the size chart of the average female vagina. Any penis over 6 inches in length and 2 inches in girth is larger than the average vagina can easily accommodate. A larger penis will cause a woman with an average sized vagina pain during intercourse, especially if the male is not a thoughtful and considerate lover.
As you can see by the Ansel survey if your boyfriend is larger than average you could be experiencing pain until you can relax enough to where you can learn to accommodate him . If neither of these seem to be the problem or if this goes on for much longer I would suggest checking in with your gynecologist to see if the doctor might be able to help you.
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