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Hi everyone so when I shave my legs I always get razor burn. It's happened for years. Any suggestions? Does "Nair" work? Should I lotion before hand? Should I use thicker shaving cream? Any advice please. Thank you!
I never liked the idea of harsh chemicals on our skin. If you are sensitive enough to get razor burn, nair likely will be too strong for your sensitive skin. Try using aloe vera jelly. Some people use coconut oil. It will be just the oil solidified to look like a white butter in a jar. You can find both items at a health foods outlet.
I'm 20.and i have an akward sleeping pattern. in the day around 7am till 9:30pm i sleep and then wake up around 9 or 10. therfore I'm sleeping in the day and at night I'm always active and awake. I've never had a job that works nights so it can't be that. and I'm a fit person so it cant be my health pleasd help as it is getting in the way of me doing norrmal stuff etc see family I've have had it for around 3 weeks.
So if I understand this right, you need 14 hours of sleep now and i assume it used to be anywhere from 6 to 8 hours before? Thats a big difference. I am no medical person. So my best advice is that you go see a doctor and tell him/her what your normal pattern was before and what it is now. They will need to run some tests to discover what is going on with you. You did not mention currently having school or job. Have you tried getting up earlier or does an alarm clock not rouse you? All of this is important information for your doctor. People sleep a lot when depressed but you did not mention that. However if there have been any drastic sudden changes in your life as of 3 weeks ago, maybe that is contributing in some way. Good luck.
I have a serious problem.I am 13 years old and i feel like having sex with my aunt. She is single and beautiful. I feel guilty because of this but i cannot help it. Should i approach her? Please help
What are you asking exactly, to approach her and confess how you feel or approach her and ask for sex? Don't do either, because it could make her feel uncomfortable around you.
So are you weird or demented? NO. It is just as natural for a male to be attracted to a female their age range as it is to be attracted to an older female or for older men, to be attracted to younger females. It is a preferance you are born with and is part of who you are. This is nothing to feel guilty about. However you will need to exercise control of those feelings until you are of legal age. If once you're 18 you still feel more attracted to older women than younger ones, go for it. My husband was like that at your age and knew it then but waited until he was old enough. Have you heard the expression MILFs? Its Mothers I'd like to F*$k. Not necessarily their own mom, but their friends moms. And I suppose Aunts and teachers fall into that catagory too. This means there are plenty other guys you will discover over time who feel the same way you do. Don't ever think you are weird. Just don't act on it right now. The adult would be in trouble with the law for doing anything sexual with a minor.
I KNOW my English is so bad and not clear but please read I need help please I need help the school will end after 5 days and I don't want to lose respect from my favorite teacher :(
so I moved to a new school.and from the first time I have entered my class
she was their (Eng teacher who think I am lesbian) and she was very nice and kind
In semester 2 I had suffered from my classmates because they are the worst and the most naughty class in the whole school.They bullied me saying to me stupid ,short and more
The worst thing is that they call me stupid ,because I got an (A) in all classes but I have mental disorder.Then one day I was talking with a girl from my classmates about this bullying ,so she messaged the teacher on twitter and told the teacher without telling me.Then the teacher told the girl to tell me that she want to see me I went to the teacher.This situation made me cry in front of her because I don't want to tell her.
after that in the same semester my classmates pictured and video another teacher when she was screaming at them but I don't tell about them the principle or Eng teacher,because she is the responsible of my class
In semester3 there is a mystery girl in twitter called (Johy) as her nickname.She told the Eng teacher about the girls that pictured the teacher when she was
angry so she my Eng teacher argued them ,and made them delete the video from cameras and phones.The worst thing is the Eng teacher thought that I am Johy(the girl who told her)
and now I don't know what the girl says to the Eng teacher.
I don't know sometimes the teacher be kind with me and sometimes she looks at me with eyes full of hates
and my class girls keep saying to Eng teacher "who is that girl(johy)?"
so the teacher point at me smiling :/ and said "this is the girl"
but girls denied .Then she said I am joking.
I felt curious so I watch the Eng twitter and the girl twitter
I went to her next day and I told her that I am not the girl but she laughed and smiled to me saying "ohhh I am joking"
After 3 weeks she stared to write words
like "your face is stuck in my head"
and the teacher changed her twitter pic to a person look like me 90%
then she posted a pic wrote on it "it was this easy to left me after all this cute stuff you said like It was nothing.and like I was Nothing.and we were nothing" I am mad .What is happening.I think the girl was flirting with her .Then she left maybe.
then she wrote "don't ask the liar because they will answer u by another lie"
#then at the end of semester now the Eng teacher just wrote something like "you are like coffee without sugar in the {morning} and bedtime story before sleeping at {night}"
#"I don't have a hope to get u back I just want to take you off of my heart"
I feel afraid of this because I love her as my teacher so I follow her on my own twitter.After this She stop writing this hurtful words
then she wrote" something New.that's all what I want
Right now there are no regulations on teachers and students friending each other on FB or tweeting each other but governments are working on that. All I have heard is that it is best that a teacher does not give her personal online pages to student and only have a professional one connected to the school where students can contact about lessons.
Some of your sentences were hard for me to understand but I think i picked up that all of this was not a teachers professional page. Students at your age have all sorts of issues with self image, bullying and you made it sound like your teacher joined in. I am not talking about the one time she said she was teasing. My opinion is that her conduct was unproffessional for a teacher. If you have issues with how she treats you then talk to school counselors. A teachers job is to encourage and inspire students to grow and reach for goals they did not think they could reach. You might admire some things about her but I am not sure she is someone you should be admiring at all.
Where did she write the following stuff like: "you are like coffee without sugar in the {morning} was she posting this on her own page? Or was she posting it on yours? If on hers, maybe thats something for a boyfriend of hers, cus it sounds like something that belongs in a love letter to a sweetheart. You did not have to go to her page to read it. You can not make any connection to anything just because of something you saw her post as status. If she wrote it on your page or sent a message to you saying those kinds of things...that is inappropriate. You were already tormented by classmates. Bullying is not right and schools are locking down on that...zero tolerance so for someone to alert your teacher was the right thing to do. You shouldnt be embarassed for something you did not do wrong. You may be shy and have a low self image and are therefore,an easy person for others to pick on.
This might be your teachers way of teasing you but look at what it has done to you. It has you so worried that your teacher is bi and thinks you are and you confused thinking that maybe you are. If the teasing did that to you, it is obvious that no teacher should be even in fun trying to tease, play and make funny jokes or pranks like this with a student. Not right at all dear. You are the victim here of some nasty bullying and teasing. I doubt your parents know. You cannot be so afraid of telling. If you don't learn to say something to the right people who can help, you will have to learn later in life as an adult. Better you learn now dear. Your parents have a responsibility to keep you safe and feeling secure.
As to all this non sense about who might or might not be bi sexual...ones sexual orientation should not be a factor open for discussion by anyone, students or teachers. It's none of their business. Its none of yours if all your teachers were bi or gay. The only time it is an issue is if it interferes with their teaching. I am not sure you understand what being bi really is. A bi sexual female will be sexually turned on by not just a man in her life but aroused by and want sex with certain females she is attracted to. A non bi female can admire a woman and not be bi, you can love another woman like a bff but it is love like for mom or sis, not desireing to have sex with her. A non bi female can also admire the beautiful look of another female, I do. But unless you also have sexual desire to bed her, you are not bi. Talk to someone local dear who can help you, parents, school counselor. Don;t hold back. Show them what you can online if anything is saved. Let them know what the kids have been doing and what the teacher has been saying and how it makes you feel. If you do not tell anyone and over the months and next year the pressure becomes so unbearable, you are a great candidate for depression or dropping out of school and we dont want to see either happen. Remember, i said this is one of many lessons you need to learn in life, to speak up for yourself. So do it now. good luck!
Hello, I'm coming to you guys for advice as I believe that I am falling for my best friend. I am 18, female. He is 19.. obviously male. Last night, I had a party, it was gonna be a bunch of people but I decided I didn't want it to be crazy so I just invited over a few of my girlfriends. I told my guy friend that he could come over but he would be the only guy unless one of my girlfriend's boyfriend came over. He said it didn't matter if he would be the only guy so he came over. He wound up staying the night. We were watching a movie in my living room when he started to fall asleep. I wasn't sleepy, yet so I stayed on the same couch as him. I wound up falling asleep on the same couch as him anyway. We both woke up a lot through the night because it was uncomfortable but neither of us moved to the floor or the other couch. However, it wasn't next to each other on the couch, he was on one side and I was on the other, our legs met in the middle of the couch. I'm not sure if that means that he is just that comfortable with me as friends of if he may want to be with me, too. Everyone at my party was saying that we just need to get together already. We were near each other all night. I was sitting on my freezer, I went into my house to get something and I came back out, he took my spot on the freezer but he moved everything that was on his other side of the freezer and let me sit on the freezer next to him. Anyway, I know it isn't a lot to go off of but I was just wondering your thoughts. Do you think something is there or are we just best friends? Thanks!
He could at any point he woke up just say, well I better go home and leave. But he didn't. Maybe too sleepy or just comfortable around you. If he makes space for you to sit next to him, he wants you to be near him, something both guys and girls do when they are very interested in someone. You just might have a guy there who is very polite and will leave it up to the lady to make the first move when she is ready. So just tell him that you are beginning to have other feelings for him beyond friendship and wondered if he has felt the same way. If he says yes, then ask why he hasnt said anything or made any move to kiss you.
Let him know you've wondered what a kiss with him would be like and then kiss him. If he says he feels like you are just a good friend. Ask why he likes hanging with you instead of looking for a girl he is romantically attracted to. It may be that he is attracted that way and doesnt realize it. I doubt he will say he is not attracted to you that way. Good luck
I told a close mate that I love him. And oh my god he told me he feels the same for me too! He's 16 from America. But I'm in Europe. :/ And he told my friend that she doesn't have to worry about him breaking my heart. Then he said 'But just keep in mind, we do live on separate continents. All though I meant everything I told her, you never know what may happen.'
And when she told me this I got scared all though its true. But I don't feel safe somehow. He said to me that him being with me sounds perfect.. And I promised him that we will meet one day and he did too.
If he would really mean everything and really believe in us and love me, such a thing wouldn't happen right? :c
When you're a teen and fall for someone long distance I understand it can be really love. But realistically, though you both feel that way, since you are not at this point in time able to be together to cement that relationship in doing things together, going to school dances, dating, it is all to easy for life to bring along someone equally perfect for you, or for him. That is the danger of a long distance relationship that has ONLY been on line so far with no history of being together in real life.
Let me ask you, do you intend to hide yourself away from life, never talk to any guys, never go to any school dances or otIf it was the other way around andher activities because you don't want to encourage any boy. Once you graduate, instead of college, you'd have to go straight to work and start saving up so you can afford to go fly over and meet your guy if he is still available. Lets say he is. So you meet and hang out with him and discover that though you loved him online, in person you don't feel any charge of electricity, any chemistry when you kiss. Thats not a good sign for a relationship. If you still forced it, the relationship won't last long if you don't have enough chemistry.
There are so many 'what if' scenerio's between now and when you finally meet. So even if you both rejected any people who wanted to date you, there is no 100% guarantee that it still will work out. Your boyfriend already realizes this. You can not be angry at him. He is being a realist. Thats how he, and I see things. You see things differently. You have to decide if you are going to enjoy and participate in what life brings your way or become a recluse and wait to meet him some day. It can be a very lonely long wait. Sorry but if I disappoint you. Its not for me to decide how he should live his life or you yours. I can only present you with all points to look at
I think she has some type of mental disorder but she will not go to the doctor and she doesn't think that she's crazy. She wants nobody to help her. She's scared to stay by herself because she thinks that her whole neighborhood is out to get her. Her house is falling apart, she has junk everywhere she's a hoarder. Her roof has holes in it and her walls are literally splitting apart at the corners. She refuses to get someone to look at her house cause she knows it will be condemned. She thinks that her neighbors are climbing on her roof and getting into her basement. She thinks that they are throwing heat and hydrochloric acid at her and her house.
She has No type of air conditioning and she refuses to leave her house. It REALLY so hot and she sweats a lot all she has is fans that blow hot air. She thinks her neighbors are trying to KILL her because she thinks they are throwing chemicals on her and her house and they are messing with the weather. She gets so scared that she wants somebody to stay with her. But her house is not safe or comfortable for someone to live in. She wants me to move in but I've stayed a couple of nights cause she was scared. Her electricity doesn't work in most rooms, she has plumbing problems and she doesn't want to leave her house. She thinks her neighbors stay up 24/7 with machines blowing over her house to tear it down and make it hot. She keeps a gun laying around and all she does it talk about how her neighbors are trying to destroy her house and kill her.
She has loads of trash and junk ALL over her house, she thinks they're antiques. She says her neighbors are sneaking in her house when she's not there. Her front and back doors to her house are raggedy and easy to get in. No one is going in her house! She thinks people are in her basement. She has so much junk in her house you can barely walk in some places.
She constantly sprays water inside and outside her house and its tearing her house aopart because she thinks it stops her crazy neighbors. She's always pointing broke remotes around the house. She thinks that people can see her through her TV. She thinks her neighbors put cameras in her house and they watch her. She also thinks they are watching her through the TV.
I don't know what to do about my grandma. She wants me to live with her and I can't. I have to go to school and stuff. She talks about her neighbors 24/7 and if you don't agree with her she will get angry and say she's not crazy. If she does see a doctor about this she will not take medicine. I don't want for her to have to live in a nursing home when she gets older & I know her house is going to get condemned. She throws trash on her walls and floors
I think she's going to get crazier when she gets older. My whole family thinks she's crazy. I just can't explain it all. What do we do about her?
Honey, you can not help her by going to live with her. It scares me that your parents are not doing something about her situation. She sounds like she has either Schizophrenia or Dementia. With Alzheimers, she would get to a point of not knowing who you are. My brother had schizophrenia and my old landlady had dementia. So I know what those conditions sound like and look like. What you have described in detail sounds like that.
Have your parents tried to get local authorities in to remove her? The way she is living is a hazard to her own health. If no one intervenes soon, she will die from heat, or cold or the roof falling on her to crush her, rats and mice infesting the place and getting sick from their feces. Or she will die of malnutrition since she has hardly any working electric outlets. In fact, if the wiring is so old that most are no longer working, it just takes an old broken wire inside a wall to spark and cause a fire that burns the place down with her inside it. Even if your parents don;t have the ability to take her in, they need to at least let authorities know. I'd start with calling the local hospital and asking there where to call who to contact to remove her and condemn the house. Where they will take her if she doesn't have any money, i do not know but she can't stay there.
The situation is that I live at my mom's with my half brother step dad and half baby sister. But I don't want to bring any of my friends to my house as It is scruffy. And my mom and step dad like to drink lots of alcohol on a weekend. But one morning I woke up an I found remains of white powder on the kitchen worktop. Now I'm scared and I don't know weather to move somewhere else e.g.(dad's, nannas or grandmas) or just stay
Do you have white flour, corn starch or powder sugar in the house? If none of those are in the cupboards, then yes I can understand you reason for alarm. As for the drinking, as long as children are not being abused or neglected because of it, theres not much you can do about it, just because you don;t like how they keep house. Now on the other hand, if you do witness them taking street drugs or the drinking has them so drunk that any one of you feel in danger, report it to school counselors and they will get the authorities and at the same time let your birth dad and grandmas know. If you are still terrified, then go ahead and confide with one of your grandma's so she can help keep a closer eye on the parents to see if there is anything to be worried about. If step dad becomes drunk enough to attempt rape or something, leave the house before he has you cornered and pound on a neighbors door and call grandmas/dad immediately. I am sorry to hear, that homelife is rough for you right now. If there is missing information that would help me to know better what is really going on at home, write back to me dear. worrying about what ifs 24/7 will take its toll on you
I am a 24 yr old female. I have lost myself.. I have forgotten how to be happy... I have forgotten how to live my life fully.. And most importantly I have started hating myself.. I dont know why I am living.. Can any one here help me out? Everyone has his/her own share of joys and sorrows and I too have my share. But I dont find any interest in anything.. I dont know what to do.I want to be hale and hearty just I was about 9-10 yrs back.
Sometimes the changes in our life that start robbing us of joy are subtle, nothing sudden that can be easily spotted. I have a feeling that little things slowly built up to affect you. After all you recall being whole and healthy 10 yrs back so it slowly wasted away over that span of years.
When there is no interest in anything, that and hating oneself are signs of depression.
The term depression refers to something being depressed, or another way to say it, running low. Such as fund in the checking account are depressed.
So what is running low in you?
It's called neuro transmitters, hormones that your body creates on its own. They are called serotonin, oxytocin and dopamine. When the levels of these have dropped for too long and are not immediately built back up, a person becomes sad, loses happiness, desire in life and ends up finally in a state of depression. A medical doctor will treat people by prescribing a medicine that is a synthetic of the naturally occuring hormones in your body and you take these daily. I will admit that some people will end up having to get a doctor to treat them. However i don't believe that all need to go that route immediately. I have one daughter who tried what I will share with you, she got her neuro transmitters up NTs all by herself and now knows how to keep them that way. In the year she has done that she was promoted to a lead and now an asst. manager where she works all because of her extremely friendly cheerful happy outlook on life and all the customers love her. The other daughter had post partum depression and never got better trying to handle it on her own and had to get the extra meds from a doctor.
You won't know until you try if you can get your depressed levels of NTs up until you try.
For those NTs to rise, the body needs the right conditions. Its actually very simple. ONe is giving and recieving bear hugs, the ones that last more than a second or two. You know that happy feeling when your spirit briefly feels so light like a balloon like its about to float right out of your chest. Thats the feeling you are looking for, cus when you feel that, your body is working to produce serotonin and the others. It really is hard to get the 8 hugs a day minimum that is prescribed in hugging therapy. I do not make this up. Check it all out online your self including NTs and the 'tonins'. Another thing that raises your sense of well being and helps also with raising your spirits vibrational levels is singing, music, not all music, just those few songs that you know used to make you feel good, could lighten your mood. Start going through them. Its not the words but the melody that does it. For example, one of the songs that does it for me is "Clocks" by Coldplay. Movement for the body helps too such as in running or jogging which i hate but I tried Skipping like we all did as little kids. It made me feel like a kid and felt silly and i couldnt help but giggle when i did it. Dancing is very good too. Once you have your NTs up to normal, it will be easier for you to evaluate and see what might have been stealing your joy to begin with. Life is stressful. After a day out in the world, it is good to come home and recharge. Often we dont do that...and that's where we make a crucial mistake.
Another thing to do, my own suggestion knowing from experience it helps, is to surround yourself with really positive happy people. You can check out Meetup.com on line and find meet up groups in your area. Go for even a coffee meet up, board games, whatever your interests are but also I would suggest looking under self help, healing, meta-physical, new age. This is where you can find meditation groups, people who practice various energy healings. Thees are people aware of what can affect our bodies and none of it is harmful in a spiritual way, no matter what your beliefs if any. Find a couple groups and try them out. You don't have to know how to do energy healing, Reiki or whatever, they love to have someone new to help. You may find you enjoy this and go on to taking some classes so you can also help others. But that's for sure where many positive people can be found all at once. Don't worry about interests. They will either come back or you will develop new ones. Joyful blessings to you.
My boyfriend and I have been dating on and off for the past six years. We have had our share of problems that in the past we could resolve peacefully. Now the simplest thing will turn into a screaming match. We are rarely intimate or even sleep in the same room. Im only 28 he is ten years older then me and has a son. I love him but I find myself depressed and very lonely. I don't know if I should stay and continue to try and repair this very broken relationship. I need advice.
If you were able to resolve things peacefully in the past but not now, I wonder what changed.
Heres a possible answer: Likely, nothing has changed and the problem was still there before, just not noticed yet.
My ex husband and I sound much like what you describe, all sorts of issues that set off arguments...although i learned early on to not shout back,,thats like adding fuel to a fire and he got angrier. We were a Christian couple who had all intentions of sticking with our relationship but what we did not see is that something visible thing that even when we were both happy would make us feel at odds with each other when in the same room, not even talking to each other and as a result the sex life was poorer than poor. I stuck with him because of 3 children for 30 yrs before I left. You say the kid is his, so it might be best if you left, you have nothing to tie you to this relationship.
Don't think of it as you failing at a relationship. You are like two opposite ends of magnets. Ever try that as a kid, to force them together by sheer will power and muscle power. It was impossible. The repelling action could only take so much pressure before one magnet shifted off to one side or the other as it had no where else to go. Two people who aren't meant to be together will have a history of on again off again relationships, lots of kiss and makeups before one or both tire of the cycle. Then there may be two immature people who will have the same results because of their immaturity. Thats not the case or I doubt you'd have written in asking what we think. It isnt a failure if the two weren't capable of having any kind of relationship at all because their energy patterns, their spirits, all work at a totally different level and frequency and irritate each other like fingernails on a chalk board. I know it is hard to start over. You can't imagine that you will find someone better than him, but it is possible. I did...4 yrs now with a man i can call my soulmate. Think hard and make a list of what about boyfriend you didn't like and a list of what you did like. Also make a list of who you are and your needs and wants. This will aid you when reviewing any men in the future who have interest in you. Good luck dear
what do I say if I think someone likes me and I do like him help plz
Usually if theres an interest, people will stare at each other a lot, smile a lot, find excuses to be near the person they have interest in, and actually start up conversations with or pay compliments to the person. This would be obvious they were targeting just one person of that sex, not any of the others. So if you have these clues, you can be pretty sure he likes you back. Guys these days are really shy and when younger have no idea yet how to start conversation with girls. Girls know how to have conversations from doing so with girl friends. Talk to him as you would a girl friend. Just walk up and say, "Hey, I've been noticing you for a while and I have seen you watching me lots. So I was wondering if you'd like to......" and put in "have lunch with me" "walk outside with me" "hangout after school" or whatever works based on how old you are too. If in same classes and you want a study partner, ask him and invite him for that to your house. Once having convo regarding homework it becomes easier to talk about anything and you can go on from there. Good luck.
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Hi. I've been in a job for a few months. It's weird, because I moved to a different city and I've had to make new friends. But because we all work together, I stick with my housemates.
I've always been the type of person that prefers one close friend, as opposed to many not so close ones.
I've also always been quite shy.
The thing with this job is, there are a few bars that are pretty much at work. After work, everyone from top managment to the cleaners go there. They're institutions, that everyone knows and everyone goes to. Except me. I've been a couple times. I'm just not a big drinker -I have a relatively low alcohol tolerance, but don't get me wrong - I do enjoy a drink.
Someone new started in the office a couple of months ago, and he was talking about how he went and met all these people, and was sharing his anecdotes.
I just don't know how to do that. When I see a big group of people sitting and talking, do I introduce myself? Do I go over and ask to sit down? I just don't know how to make new friends, without someone approaching me first, or being introduced to them by a mutual friend. The new guy went alone, so I just want to get your lots advice on how this is done.
Any advice?
The few times I have been to bars, it was ones with live music and the music was too loud for talk. I can't say that i know what people do for chit chat at a bar but I do have a recipe for overcoming shyness. You can practice it at the bar. But if I were you, I would practice it with people you really dont know total strangers or faces you see at work whom you dont know and don't work with, until you are comfortable enough to strike up convos first at the bar with co workers.
How to Overcome Shyness
You can skip any steps you already have mastered.
None of this involves using people you already know because you already have some comfort level there
1. Smile at strangers every day as you come across them. When you are comfortable with this, move on to step 2
2. Smile and add saying hello to people you don't know. This is already harder because your mind will be going, "They're gonna think I'm nuts cus I am saying hi and they dont even know me." When you can do this without feeling shy, move to step 3
3. Smile and say hi to and then pay a compliment to another person you don't know. It could be telling the grocery clerk you love her necklace. Keep paying compliments to people until you can do so without being fearful of their reaction or simply the act of doing it.
4. Smile, say Hi, and start a conversation with a stranger. Here's an example. When I'd be at a clothing rack and another woman was there...no matter her age, I would make a comment to her about the clothing. I'd pulling an item off the rack, something that looks absolutely hideous and showing it to her, "Look at this. Can you imagine people wanting to wear this. It would make them look like a......" Or "Even though I am small, I have a hard time finding things in my size, do you have the same problems? Keep trying ways to get responses from a person. If they don't open up and start responding and sharing some of their story or thoughts then they are part of the 10 % of people who are hermit like and don't like being around people or talking to them. I took a class that taught about personality types and discovered that 90% of people are very friendly but will not start conversation first. If you can learn to start conversation first, in every situation, you will find that the majority of people respond in a very friendly way. They won't find the fact that you start talking too weird. Once they figure you're a naturally friendly person you will see them willingly respond back and share bits and pieces of information and such.
I was trying to pick ripe but not over ripe melon one time when an older woman was tapping and listening to the melons. I asked what she was doing and she explained that there is a certain sound it makes when it is ripe, so I learned something. Later we bump into each other in another aisle, and I say, "Well Hello again!" Her response, "Hello again. Do you use coupons?" "Sometimes." "Do you buy this product," she shows me something in her cart, "Yes I do." "Well I happen to have a coupon for a great deal on it if you'd like," and without waiting for my response reaches into pocket and hands it to me. You'd be amazed at the conversation you could have with people and be able to share helpful info with them or vice versa. And sometimes in the conversing you may find people who you have some things in common with and you decide to keep in touch with and exchange cell numbers and /or get their name for facebook friending. If you can learn to start conversations away from the bar, you will be able to do it there as well. Although, everyone is just sitting around drinking and not doing something that might give me a clue. If a seat is empty just ask if anyone has claimed that seat yet. If they all say no, then seat yourself and start listening to the conversation around you. If they are talking about things you have an interest in or comment to add, do so. If not, just continue listening for a while, & if no topic comes up that you like and you are bored, get up to get a refill and use that chance to walk up to another cluster of people. Say hi and what are you guys talking about. If you feel comfortable you might say what the others were talking about but you aren't interested in that. Maybe give an example of what does interest you. Start a convo about food. Everyone has to eat and has likes and dislikes. Ask if they really like bar food. Give a chance for answers. Next ask if anyone has gone to such and such restaurant nearby and whats the food like there. Or mention that you like Thai or whatever your favorite is and ask what others think are the best places to go for that. If no one seems to like the ethnic food you like, dont give up, ask about another type. Tell a story about bad service or great service you got at a place. The bad service stories I have shared were really incredible, stuff i couldnt believe was happening to me at the time. This should capture attention. It takes practice adding bits to an always active topic before you start one of your own.
This should help you.
My sister is going out with a boy who gave her hiv he is now in prison for burgalry. He is determined to get her pregnant when he gets out of prison as I've seen letters saying when i get out I'm definitly getting you pregnant i now its non of my buisness but i really. don't want my sister going down the wrong path abid getting hurt by some scum. she's only just turned 16.and i know its wrong for me to% butt. in her buisness but i only want wats best for her is thier any advice i can give her or persuade her to give up on him
Where the heck are your parents in all this? Were they totally oblivious to the fact that she was dating a guy who ended up in prison, has HIV and is in contact with him? He is a person who is lost in life and does not know how to or want to get on the right path. She may feel all grown up but the real fact is that non of us are able to make real good adult decisions for ourselves that are in our best interest until we reach our mid 20's because thats when the portion of our brain that is responsible for good decision making is finally done growing and complete.
So until she reaches that age, she is not going to be able to make good decisions for herself. Since she is still underage, anyone having sex with her at that age is illegal, or if forced, is rape. She at her age is still under the care of her parents who need to know all that is going on with her in her life so they can do what they feel is best for her as the parents. In two years time, I doubt she'll be able to make any better decisions than the bad ones she's already done. Let her know of your concerns and point out why you feel he's not good for her. But I really think your parents should be involved. They won;t know unless she tells them which she won't. Or unless you tell them. But only you know if you must do it or not. If you don't you will always wonder if telling the parents could've made some change for the better for her. If you do tell, perhaps she will dump the boyfriend but not want to speak with you and be angry and avoid you for a long long time. Neither scenerio sounds good. So, really it is up to you to decide. Sorry to hear about your sis. But it is wonderful that you care so much about her. If a friend of yours was talking about committing suicide, would you also think it s not right for you to butt in and tell her parents? Situation might be different but I think the principal behind it is the same as it is for you.
There's this guy at my job I'm attracted to. I only worked with him once and throughout the whole day he kept asking me if I was ok and he offered me food a few times. He said he had to make sure I was ok. Then later on in the day when he saw me eating he said if i knew you wanted something I would have got it for you. After that day I only see him once in awhile but hes always with his friends. One day out side he did reach out and touch my arm and said hi to me with a smile. I think he likes me but Im not sure what should I do? Should I approach him and talk to him more?
Thats an awkward way for a guy to say something to talk to a girl he's interested in...I mean asking all day nothing other than, Are you ok? But guys don't have a clue when it comes to how to talk to females. I would have wondered if I looked kinda pale or sick if I was asked that too many times. LOL He did try to share some food or snacks with you. I don't know what you replied or if you ate or not. From what you say about eating later, i assume you didnt accept the food offered earlier. Even if you really didn't want it, but wanted to encourage him to pursue you, then you could've said something to encourage him like, "Oh how sweet of you to want to share your food with me. I truly am not hungry right now but it's certainly looks great, I'd wouldn't mind tasting a bite." Later when he saw you eat and made his comment he would have got that for you..."Really, my goodness I could become very spoiled rotten having someone do special things like that for me." What did you say to him when he touched your arm outside to gain your attention to say Hi. He is showing all this interest and in his mind these are strong enough clues to let you know he likes you. The fact this is so on your mind that you would write about it shows you have already picked up on it, you just wanted someone else to agree with you. Is there a new restaurant you'd like to check out, a movie you'd like to go see, some community event or fair you'd like to attend. Think of something to invite him to go with you to. Next time you run into him, just go up and ask, "There's a movie I'd like to go see, it come's out on Friday and my girlfriend can't go and I hate going alone, Thats no fun. You are such a fun nice friendly person, I just thought to ask you if you'd like to see ...."
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I have a friend at my work that I have a crush on. He's a team leader, aka supervisor. I am not on his team however. But, what I'm saying is.. I guess I kinda like him. We flirt constantly when we both had the night shift or at least he started to. He'd come up to me and start talking or even pull up a chair to hang out. Sometimes when I dress up he even says where are you going tonight or are you going on a date? There were other times he has flirted. He looks at me from across the room. Now from hearing from guys at work, all I hear is he's a player in which I doubt since I know a friend that lives by him. I want to know if he's interested, but I don't want to be blunt. I want to play games do I don't seem too attached. Any advice? It'd be nice to hang with him too, he's playful. Idk what to think of him.
I don't want to be obsessive, I want to be calm and collected
Honey, there's nothing obsessive or abnormal about spending time away from work to get to know someone a bit better. Does he flirt with all the women at work? Or does he flirt only with you? I would not base my assessment of a person based on what others say. Only on what I personally observe. And at work is a totally different environment, men have to abide by strict rules so they aren't found to be sexually harrassing women. We all have to be on our professional behaviour at work. You and he are not likely to really let your hair down and relax and start to be yourselves until you meet somewhere other than work. You will need to flirt back in a way that you ask a question and get answers you need. Next time you dress up and he asks if you're going out to dinner or on a date. Tell him no,"No I don't like going out to dinner alone. But the position for dinner date is open if you'd like to apply." and smile prettily at him. If he doesnt pick up on that and say he'd love to go out to dinner and actually suggest a time, date and place right then and there, then he's not interested enough to go with you. Some people simply enjoy flirting but don't want to go anywhere further than that. If he is one of those, don't wait for him to invite you, go with the next man who shows a true interest in you. Hope it all goes well for you
Me & my boyfriend have just got back together after a few months of breaking up & he's acting different this time, walks ahead of me when we are out, hardly sits next to me at his mams & always saying 'I'm going to plan a lovely night for you tonight' then never does or forgets, I'm starting to feel insecure, we've had a few problems in the bedroom lately aswell with him going down on me.. He's also supposed to be trying for a job & get a house but it seems to be me doing all the work.. I know he loves me I'm his 1st proper relationship I just don't know what to do/: I tell him how I feel he says sorry & he will make it up to me.. Never does, empty promises, what should I do?
He's 20 I'm 17 we have a little girl 9months
I am going to ask you a question. When you answer this question, forget the fact that he is the baby's daddy. Base your answer only on who he is as a male to you.
Does this man strengthen you or weaken you?
If you need clarification, strengthen means, someone who supports and upholds you, loves you as you are, and gives unconditional love. You never have to wonder what to expect from him because he is a man of his word, he sticks to his morals and beliefs, and so is dependable.
And weakening you means: Asking you to change who you are to suit him, the love he gives is conditional to how he feels at the time, his concern is for himself only, he is not a man of his word. etc...
So again, does he strengthen you? Yes...stay with him. No, leave him. I married at 20. The husband said he loved me but never treated me like it. Many years later after confronted by our friends, he told us all, he loved me as a person but was never in love with me. Believe me, there's a big difference. At your ages, you still have much to learn what real love is. So if he says he loves you. Maybe he believes it is true based on how he evaluates love. But as I had to learn...there is so much more. Making the break with kids involved is hard, but life is never easy. Learn the lesson now because you can't run from it. At some point or another, you'll need to choose a man based on his character and how he treats not just you but all women, who is the man at core...his values and morals as far as women are concerned. I hope this gives you something to think about for you have some important decisions to make.
This is my first time using this site so bear with me. Hello. I'm 14/m and this year, our school is doing an eighth grade formal and i was thinking about asking my crush to it. She doesn't know I like her and I want to seem like its a friend asking a friend to dance. Not some crazy boy who likes you asking if he can have his arms on your waist your arms around him and your faces near each other's. I know not to do it over a text or note or a friend asking her because that would show her I'm shy and i kind of like her. So advice on what to say how to act and what all to do. Thanks everyone! Y'all are amazing! (Yes I'm from Texas if you couldn't tell)
I remember when my daughters were in eighth grade and they went to the dance even though no boys had asked them. Once there, out of their entire 8th grade, they were surprised that all the girls came alone and so did the boys. There were officially only 2 or 3 couples. The girls wanted to dance but the boys were too shy to ask. At this point, they didn't care if it was someone they weren't planning to date, they just wanted to be invited to dance as I recall them sayin. So if you ask a girl to go with you, you're probably ahead of all the others who won't ask a girl. Ask if she was planning to go to the dance. Tell her you are planning to go. If she says no...ask why. If she doesn't have an answer, ask if her parents won't allow her to go or if she doesn't have a nice dress to wear or if she would rather go with someone. If it's a problem, what to wear, ask if she could borrow a dress from a friend, or that you would be okay with her just wearing what she wears to school because what matters more is having fun at the dance. If she says yes she is planning to go to the dance, ask if she was planning to go just with her girlfriends, or would she mind going with you instead. If you chicken out to asking her to go, go to the dance anyways in hopes that she showed up too. And if she is there, ask her to dance. Her girlfriends will be jealous if no one asks them at all the whole dance. But she will be very happy someone paid attention to her.
I've had a crush on this guy for about 3 1/2 years now... I don't talk to him very often because of his "social status" but I can't seem to stop fawning over him because when we see each other, there's a weird glance passed between us, like "I KNOW YOU LOVE ME". Haha it's unexplainable and very teenager-ish but I want to talk to him.. How do I get past this dilemma with his popularity? Oh my this is ridiculous haha
When you say "social status" I assume we're talking of the "popular crowd" at school and the non popular, just regular kids. In our adolescense, all of us worry lots about how others see us, and what they think about us. It is something called "Fear of Man" plain and simple and since I didn't learn when I was your age to deal with it...I finally had to learn when I was 30. I can not say if he will fear his 'status' if it was discovered that he and you liked each other, assuming you're not in the same popularity crowd. Then again, some of the so called popular people are really down to earth nice sweet people like the rest of us. How other teens assumed a person belonged with and invited a person into the popular crowd does not always have any real good reason. If you've had a crush this long, it will not go away unless you explore a possible friend ship with him. If you feel that energy exchange, like a spark when your eyes meet, there's something there..yes. Whether its strong enough for a dating relationship to start, who knows. Can you find him on FB and start off talking to him there? Maybe write him a note and pass it to him. I assume he knows who you are by name. So what do you say? If you think you could handle having a conversation with him at school, ask if he would agree to meet you for lunch one day at school and talk then. Or if its too scary for you having other students watching you, see if he will meet you after school or on the weekend, maybe at the mall or some fast food place. Get him alone so you can tell him about "what you sense, are picking up on when you both look at each other. Ask him if he feels that strange feeling too? You could say you've been interested in him and watching from a distance for a while and finally decided you'd talk and see if you have some things in common or what ever it is you feel best to say. If he does respond favorabley that he is interested, then the real test will be if he doesnt mind being seen with you in front of the popular kids at school. If he is too worried about that, he isn't worth the time, no matter how much you are attracted.
Is there a decent free sex/dating site besides POF?
there is another called OK Cupid. I used to be on both. OK Cupid is a bit more structured, giving guideline questiions for you to fill out your profile better.
Is TRIGESTREL GOOD For me as a seventien year girl and it is my first time i use it. This medication was recommended at the clinic i was today they say it will help my mestruation be normal?
Hon, I really can't know how your body will respond to any birth control hormones, no matter what their name. From comments of females who wrote online, no matter which name brand hormone they got, there was always some side effects. Some had a harder time, some could live with it cus the side effects were minimal. Some found their periods never stopped, for some it stopped their cycle almost completely, totally different reactions from two women on same stuff. Best thing you can do is give it a try.
But please read up more on birth control, how it works and why it works to keep you from getting pregnant. The hormones you take, no matter which name brand, all fool your body into thinking it's already pregnant so it doesnt release an egg. If an egg is not released you can't get pregnant. But your body starts reacting to the simulated pregnancy hormones and starts taking on some of the changes that pregnancy may bring on in a woman. Not all women get all symptoms, some don't get any. For example, on hormonal BC, many gain weight even if no change in diet because in a pregnancy the body will naturally gain weight. Some lose their sex drive, libido, which is a real bummer since you got on BC so that you could have a carefree sex life. The list goes on. The best i can recommend is that you read as much as you can find on the internet about birth control and also check on non hormonal ones. In meanwhile, give the one your doctor recommends a try and find out for how long til your body should have accepted it and gotten the results you seek. Ask what side effects should be of concern so that you call Dr. immediately if they crop up, as he might want to take you off it right away and not wait the prescribed time. It's your body. Any time you don't like something that is going on with any BC, tell your Dr. Also, be careful during this time of trying to get on one that works for you. It is a risky period of time where you may become pregnant so use condoms until you have been successfully on a hormonal BC for a while with no stops and starting new ones.