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sis and bf
My sister is going out with a boy who gave her hiv he is now in prison for burgalry. He is determined to get her pregnant when he gets out of prison as I've seen letters saying when i get out I'm definitly getting you pregnant i now its non of my buisness but i really. don't want my sister going down the wrong path abid getting hurt by some scum. she's only just turned 16.and i know its wrong for me to% butt. in her buisness but i only want wats best for her is thier any advice i can give her or persuade her to give up on him
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you will have to strict to safe your sister from all this,because teenagers dont see the consequences but only see the one side of their fantasy.But being a guy can actually understand.You can explain her through a story...like in which a guy plans to do all...what your sis ..boyfriends wants to do and do stop from your sister all dis...
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Where the heck are your parents in all this? Were they totally oblivious to the fact that she was dating a guy who ended up in prison, has HIV and is in contact with him? He is a person who is lost in life and does not know how to or want to get on the right path. She may feel all grown up but the real fact is that non of us are able to make real good adult decisions for ourselves that are in our best interest until we reach our mid 20's because thats when the portion of our brain that is responsible for good decision making is finally done growing and complete.
So until she reaches that age, she is not going to be able to make good decisions for herself. Since she is still underage, anyone having sex with her at that age is illegal, or if forced, is rape. She at her age is still under the care of her parents who need to know all that is going on with her in her life so they can do what they feel is best for her as the parents. In two years time, I doubt she'll be able to make any better decisions than the bad ones she's already done. Let her know of your concerns and point out why you feel he's not good for her. But I really think your parents should be involved. They won;t know unless she tells them which she won't. Or unless you tell them. But only you know if you must do it or not. If you don't you will always wonder if telling the parents could've made some change for the better for her. If you do tell, perhaps she will dump the boyfriend but not want to speak with you and be angry and avoid you for a long long time. Neither scenerio sounds good. So, really it is up to you to decide. Sorry to hear about your sis. But it is wonderful that you care so much about her. If a friend of yours was talking about committing suicide, would you also think it s not right for you to butt in and tell her parents? Situation might be different but I think the principal behind it is the same as it is for you.
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If she doesn't want to become pregnant by him then that's rape, and you need to tell the police if this is the case.
You need to talk to your sister. Let her know you want what's best for her first. Ask her if she honestly wants to be with him, considering everything. Whether she wants the father of a child to be an ex convict.If she insists, then there's nothing more you can do. You tried at least.
So whilst you can not force your views on her, you can tell her them and hope she gets it. In psychology, males who are desperate to reproduce are just desperate to pass on their genes. It does not mean that he wont be there for the child, but she needs to make sure he'll be there for her.
You could ask her whether she can afford a child? Or for that matter whether he can? Will there be financial security? And wouldn't she prefer to have a child when theres enough money for herself as well?
All points to consider, but really its down to you. Either speak to her or write a note. Lame I know, but it just may have more of an impact.
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