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How can I talk to him?
I've had a crush on this guy for about 3 1/2 years now... I don't talk to him very often because of his "social status" but I can't seem to stop fawning over him because when we see each other, there's a weird glance passed between us, like "I KNOW YOU LOVE ME". Haha it's unexplainable and very teenager-ish but I want to talk to him.. How do I get past this dilemma with his popularity? Oh my this is ridiculous haha
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When you say "social status" I assume we're talking of the "popular crowd" at school and the non popular, just regular kids. In our adolescense, all of us worry lots about how others see us, and what they think about us. It is something called "Fear of Man" plain and simple and since I didn't learn when I was your age to deal with it...I finally had to learn when I was 30. I can not say if he will fear his 'status' if it was discovered that he and you liked each other, assuming you're not in the same popularity crowd. Then again, some of the so called popular people are really down to earth nice sweet people like the rest of us. How other teens assumed a person belonged with and invited a person into the popular crowd does not always have any real good reason. If you've had a crush this long, it will not go away unless you explore a possible friend ship with him. If you feel that energy exchange, like a spark when your eyes meet, there's something there..yes. Whether its strong enough for a dating relationship to start, who knows. Can you find him on FB and start off talking to him there? Maybe write him a note and pass it to him. I assume he knows who you are by name. So what do you say? If you think you could handle having a conversation with him at school, ask if he would agree to meet you for lunch one day at school and talk then. Or if its too scary for you having other students watching you, see if he will meet you after school or on the weekend, maybe at the mall or some fast food place. Get him alone so you can tell him about "what you sense, are picking up on when you both look at each other. Ask him if he feels that strange feeling too? You could say you've been interested in him and watching from a distance for a while and finally decided you'd talk and see if you have some things in common or what ever it is you feel best to say. If he does respond favorabley that he is interested, then the real test will be if he doesnt mind being seen with you in front of the popular kids at school. If he is too worried about that, he isn't worth the time, no matter how much you are attracted.
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