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What to think?
Hello,
I have a friend at my work that I have a crush on. He's a team leader, aka supervisor. I am not on his team however. But, what I'm saying is.. I guess I kinda like him. We flirt constantly when we both had the night shift or at least he started to. He'd come up to me and start talking or even pull up a chair to hang out. Sometimes when I dress up he even says where are you going tonight or are you going on a date? There were other times he has flirted. He looks at me from across the room. Now from hearing from guys at work, all I hear is he's a player in which I doubt since I know a friend that lives by him. I want to know if he's interested, but I don't want to be blunt. I want to play games do I don't seem too attached. Any advice? It'd be nice to hang with him too, he's playful. Idk what to think of him.
I don't want to be obsessive, I want to be calm and collected
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Honey, there's nothing obsessive or abnormal about spending time away from work to get to know someone a bit better. Does he flirt with all the women at work? Or does he flirt only with you? I would not base my assessment of a person based on what others say. Only on what I personally observe. And at work is a totally different environment, men have to abide by strict rules so they aren't found to be sexually harrassing women. We all have to be on our professional behaviour at work. You and he are not likely to really let your hair down and relax and start to be yourselves until you meet somewhere other than work. You will need to flirt back in a way that you ask a question and get answers you need. Next time you dress up and he asks if you're going out to dinner or on a date. Tell him no,"No I don't like going out to dinner alone. But the position for dinner date is open if you'd like to apply." and smile prettily at him. If he doesnt pick up on that and say he'd love to go out to dinner and actually suggest a time, date and place right then and there, then he's not interested enough to go with you. Some people simply enjoy flirting but don't want to go anywhere further than that. If he is one of those, don't wait for him to invite you, go with the next man who shows a true interest in you. Hope it all goes well for you
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