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Sex-advice
Hello,
I do not have sex all the time, however I did last Sunday. Everytime I have sex I get super paranoid. Best thing you'd say is not have sex, but face it we all do it and it's natural. I had sex this past Sunday, and he wore a condom. He mentioned it was tight and I thought omg.. Anyways condom didn't break. I'm still super paranoid!! Could I be pregnant? I took a test and I know it's too early but I'm very anxious. The thing I keep telling myself is not to worry you aren't and quit having sex. Any advice as to not get so anxious about this? Besides possibly be on the pill.. I hope I'm not preg.
Please help.
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Reading between the lines a bit, the problem does seem to be one of paranoia. You seem to have such a deep fear of pregnancy that a perfectly safe sounding encounter, in which his condom did not slip off or tear/split has got you worrying if you're pregnant. And apparently does every time you have sex? Condoms can feel a bit tight. Some types/brands more than others. But a tight condom doesn't mean you're pregnant. Of course, for a woman becoming pregnant might be a wonderful thing, or might be a disaster. I assume you're in the 'disaster' camp at present? Condoms are just about the most effective form of contraception around, as long as they stay on, intact from first penetration until after he's fully withdrawn from you afterwards. Millions use them daily. Indeed the 'quit having sex' thing you mentioned is about the only MORE certain way to avoid pregnancy, but as you say...we all do, it's natural and very pleasurable too. You need I think to be realistic...sex does not equal pregnancy. Are you OK with the biological facts? Pregnancy of course can only result if he ejaculates (cums, spurts, 'does it' whatever you like to call it) inside you. With a condom on his semen (which contains live sperm which impregnate a woman) cannot of course go inside you at all. The condom is a barrier, providing it hasn't slipped off or torn. Any help? It's a very reliable method of birth control, for occasional or very regular sex. So try and relax. Do you find that recently you're tending to see the worst outcome in everything? To see threats everywhere? Not just the sex/pregnancy one? Might just be a phase where you're tending a bit towards seeing the negative in everything. They usually pass.
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There is a good chance you're not pregnant since the condom didn't break but since you're so paranoid, just get on birth control. You'll never be able to fully enjoy sex until you are comfortable. You're obviously not comfortable because you start freaking out if something is wrong. So the best thing to ease your mind is to get on birth control.
As for right now, just don't worry about it. Easier said than done but you're probably not pregnant so just take it easy and do other things to keep your mind off it. Then take a test later to make yourself feel better.
Next time, just get on birth control.
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if you are truly that worked out about it, you should be on the pill. its easy, and (dont know your age, amusing ur under age, not sure) according to a law Congress passed you can go to the doctor and give you a superscription and you r parents dont have to know.
anxiety, specially over a possible child if u dont want a child at this time in your life,.... isnt necessary. the pill you just take every day and you dont have to worry about if the condom broke, altho i would wear a condom (well have him wear) even if i was on the pill.
the best of luck to you :)
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