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feelling let down & insicure
Me & my boyfriend have just got back together after a few months of breaking up & he's acting different this time, walks ahead of me when we are out, hardly sits next to me at his mams & always saying 'I'm going to plan a lovely night for you tonight' then never does or forgets, I'm starting to feel insecure, we've had a few problems in the bedroom lately aswell with him going down on me.. He's also supposed to be trying for a job & get a house but it seems to be me doing all the work.. I know he loves me I'm his 1st proper relationship I just don't know what to do/: I tell him how I feel he says sorry & he will make it up to me.. Never does, empty promises, what should I do?
He's 20 I'm 17 we have a little girl 9months
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I am going to ask you a question. When you answer this question, forget the fact that he is the baby's daddy. Base your answer only on who he is as a male to you.
Does this man strengthen you or weaken you?
If you need clarification, strengthen means, someone who supports and upholds you, loves you as you are, and gives unconditional love. You never have to wonder what to expect from him because he is a man of his word, he sticks to his morals and beliefs, and so is dependable.
And weakening you means: Asking you to change who you are to suit him, the love he gives is conditional to how he feels at the time, his concern is for himself only, he is not a man of his word. etc...
So again, does he strengthen you? Yes...stay with him. No, leave him. I married at 20. The husband said he loved me but never treated me like it. Many years later after confronted by our friends, he told us all, he loved me as a person but was never in love with me. Believe me, there's a big difference. At your ages, you still have much to learn what real love is. So if he says he loves you. Maybe he believes it is true based on how he evaluates love. But as I had to learn...there is so much more. Making the break with kids involved is hard, but life is never easy. Learn the lesson now because you can't run from it. At some point or another, you'll need to choose a man based on his character and how he treats not just you but all women, who is the man at core...his values and morals as far as women are concerned. I hope this gives you something to think about for you have some important decisions to make.
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