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why does every conversation turn to a fight
My boyfriend and I have been dating on and off for the past six years. We have had our share of problems that in the past we could resolve peacefully. Now the simplest thing will turn into a screaming match. We are rarely intimate or even sleep in the same room. Im only 28 he is ten years older then me and has a son. I love him but I find myself depressed and very lonely. I don't know if I should stay and continue to try and repair this very broken relationship. I need advice.
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If you were able to resolve things peacefully in the past but not now, I wonder what changed.
Heres a possible answer: Likely, nothing has changed and the problem was still there before, just not noticed yet.
My ex husband and I sound much like what you describe, all sorts of issues that set off arguments...although i learned early on to not shout back,,thats like adding fuel to a fire and he got angrier. We were a Christian couple who had all intentions of sticking with our relationship but what we did not see is that something visible thing that even when we were both happy would make us feel at odds with each other when in the same room, not even talking to each other and as a result the sex life was poorer than poor. I stuck with him because of 3 children for 30 yrs before I left. You say the kid is his, so it might be best if you left, you have nothing to tie you to this relationship.
Don't think of it as you failing at a relationship. You are like two opposite ends of magnets. Ever try that as a kid, to force them together by sheer will power and muscle power. It was impossible. The repelling action could only take so much pressure before one magnet shifted off to one side or the other as it had no where else to go. Two people who aren't meant to be together will have a history of on again off again relationships, lots of kiss and makeups before one or both tire of the cycle. Then there may be two immature people who will have the same results because of their immaturity. Thats not the case or I doubt you'd have written in asking what we think. It isnt a failure if the two weren't capable of having any kind of relationship at all because their energy patterns, their spirits, all work at a totally different level and frequency and irritate each other like fingernails on a chalk board. I know it is hard to start over. You can't imagine that you will find someone better than him, but it is possible. I did...4 yrs now with a man i can call my soulmate. Think hard and make a list of what about boyfriend you didn't like and a list of what you did like. Also make a list of who you are and your needs and wants. This will aid you when reviewing any men in the future who have interest in you. Good luck dear
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