ok i love my boyfriend ok and so im kinda like a lil shy to go somewhere with him like ya know alone like at the movies or the mall so i always have to bring one of my friends and i can tell he kinda gets sick of being around them and that he only wants to b with me i need sum advice on how to b more comfortable around.
signed..
shy girl
Do everything you can for yourself to be comfortable: makeup, hair, nice outfit, etc. Then suggest going somewhere more public at first: the mall, a park during the day, lunch. Eventually you will be more comfortable being alone.
Tell a friend where you are going and if you have a luxury of a cell phone, have them call you to see how things area going. You might could arrange to "meet" some friends or have a plant looking from afar if you are uncomfortable. I have actually told a friend to hang out somewhere when I am meeting someone new in public.
Talk to him and tell him how you are feeling. It might help him to help you be more comfortable. Think about why you might feel this way.
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ok almost all the time my parents get on my nerves i dono if its hormones or wat but like my mom will yell at me just for not like putting my clothes away and i think the reason is b/c her dad did the same thing to them like ya know verbal abuse but my mom isnt verbally abusing me its just a lil bit like that and im just kinda like u dont have to yell and shes like YES I DO! and then when i try to talk back to her my dad sticks up for my mom and so i cant say wat i want to.:( and then like the next day there all like so how was ur day today and im like leave me alone and then there like y hunnie y and im like b/c u said i was acting bitchy yesterday and shes like go to ur room! and im like ok...
i need sum advice please help me!
signed,
*sigh*
All right you have two things going on here. You are a teenager and that's stressful on the parents. Mom may or may not be going through menopause and is having emotional things of her own. At least she apologized. I wouldn't suggest talking back to your mom. Wait until things cool down and tell her how you feel.
Emotion is bouncing all over the place. As long as your mom isn't telling you that you are worthless and sorry and stuff, you aren't being abused. I wouldn't let the sun go down on your anger. Forgive her and move on.
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Okay, I just turned 16 a month ago and I have found myself to be interested in this girl who lives down my street. The problem is she is 14 (two grades below me), she goes to a different school, and her older brother is in the grade above me. On top of that her older brother used to be my best friend, and I know the family from back when I was his best friend. We are both afraid to do anything above being friends because of this situation we are in. Any suggestions?
IF you know the family, it can't be that bad. Telephones are great for this situation. Age is only going to be a problem if you are 19 and she is 17 (depending on the state). And if you aren't doing anything naughty that shouldn't be a problem either. After a while, age won't matter at all. My boyfriend is 37 and I am 32 and I love him to pieces.
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I have a very busy schedule...and i dont have time to go to a gym...so does anyone have advice on what I can do to help me lose weight? or at least to get in great shape and to have a nice firm body?
There are these exercise bands that you can get and put in your purse. They are portable and fit into a purse or backpack. I know Brookstone and the Discovery Channel had them. You could check at Wal-mart. They provide a little resistance and can help fill the gaps for when you can do a really intense workout.
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ok my parents dislike my brother just b/c they dont like his girlfriends parents and they think his girlfriend will b a bad influence on him and sumtimes when im on the computer i hear them talking to eachother and there like saying bad things about him and i feel like really bad b/c i for 1. i dont like hearing bad stuff about my bro b/c he is my own flesh and blood 2. is b/c i feel like im caught in the middle of them b/c my bro tells me stuff about my parents and then my parents talk about him!
help i need help on how to bare this situation!
and when i do tell my parents about this situation there like stay out of this and im like ok but... there like no stay out its none of ur business and im like i HAVE MY OWN RIGHT TO EXPRESS MY FEELINGS! and my bro says the same thing to me! and i try to help and all but they seem to not want it and the never take it into consideration...
help!
signed..
stuck in the middle:(
Ok I stole this from Dear Abby. Every time your brother or parents say something rude or mean about the other say "I thought you just said...." Eventually they hear themselves and get the hint. You can also trying to bring up another subject equally as boring and ignoring theirs. Hopefully they get the hint.
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okay first of all i dont think im fat at all and i like the way my body looks. however im very health conscious and eat healthy food most of the time. i count calories too. if i didnt eat the daily number calories i think is efficient ill go eat until its exactly the number i want it to be, because i don't want to become too thin. i think about food a lot. i never thought i was fat and i know im not and i love my body. im a cheerleader (a flyer) so i try to remain small. oh yeah and i love cooking and food overall, mostly healthy food. i mean ill choose a grilled chicken sandwich over a big mac you know? could this possibly be anorexia?
I think it is good that you are paying attention and counting calories. My worry is that you are really active as a cheerleader and might not be adding enough calories to compensate for that. Your doctor can give you a test that rates your metabolism and may give you a better idea about how many calories you can consume in a day without sacrificing.
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I'm a 15 year old with a little sister who's 14. We are not allowed to date and outr parents are pretty strict but they love us and just want the best for us. Anywayz lately my sis is rebelling(wearing revealing clothing, getting car rides from guys, etc) and i'm kind of worried about her, i just don't want her to get into trouble from rebelling or from my parents. Also next year i'll be able to drive and i'm expected to drive her but she's got plans to let her friends drive her to and from school and when i tell her it's not a good idea plus it's not fair that her rebelling may get me in trouble if she gets caught since she's supposed to be with me. She tells me that i can't tell her what to do. i don't know what to do can u give me some advice?
Trying to control your sister's actions is futile. I would pull her aside and voice my concern. I would also not cover for her because she could get into real trouble and no one would know where she was. I am not suggesting tattling on her (unless you feel she is truly doing something dangerous). I am just saying don't agree to lie for her.
She is a brat and bent on rebellion. Its like a vicious circle strict parents + rebellious teenager= about 8 years of strife. Do what you are supposed to do, and hopefully your parents won't punish you for her actions. Eventually, she will get over it, but apparently not any time soon.
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another 1-
The day will come when you must choose, will you gain or will you lose.
Tell them now, choose with care, the one you love might not always be there.
So tell them now, dont leave it to fate, tell them now before its too late.........
Like it?
I am printing this one out. It sends chills.
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Ok, Well, my hamster Cocoa is acting very sick latley. I love him so much and would do and thing for him. He seems to be shaking almost and sneezing/sqeaking and i think he might even be trying to cough! He is now forming this crust around his nose and just a lil around his nose. I'm so worried about him, does any one know what sickness this could be or how i should handle this?
I would get this little guy to a vet pronto. When a small rodent like this gets sick, if you don't get them help quickly they won't make it. I had a little guinea pig that I woke up one day and was shaking. I carted her to the vet, and he didn't get a chance before it was too late. Hamsters and guinea pigs don't live very long. Hamster about 2 years. But it sounds like he has a little cold of some sort. I would put a little cotton bedding in there for him and call the vet if you can find one.
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Alright, I'm a Christian and last night me and my friend were talking about her dad bieng in the hospital and I told her that I would pray for him, and she said "whats the use in praying since God allready has your life planned out for you"...that totally made sence to me, I mean what is praying going to change. I believe in praying for your sins...but now I'm stuck on this one. What do you guys think?
-Zero
Phillipians 4:13-I can do all things through Christ who strenghtens me.
James 1:5-If any of you lack wisdom, let him ask of God, that giveth all men liberally, and upbraideth not; and it shall be given him.
Matthew 7:7-Ask, and it shall be given you; seek, and ye shall find; knock, and it shall be opened unto you;
Prayer is how we ask God for guidance, mercy, and forgiveness. As the person about 3 answers down said, we have freewill to learn from our mistakes and choose wrong from right. If you are confused about this, pray for wisdom. God is the first and last person to turn to when there is need or nowhere to go.
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ok..i have a boyfriend right now but theres this kid that really likes me and it gets really annoying cause hes always saying how much he likes me and even though i have a boyfriend he still asks me out and stuff and it makes me feel really bad what do i do?! help!!
Ok talking to guy about his behavior is a great idea. If you can avoid slamming the door in his face, that would be good because you never know if you might really want to be with this guy someday. I know it sounds weird and unlikely, but you could need his friendship in the future.
If he's hanging around every corner, meeting you at lunch and on the bus, then you need to get rid of him completely. Every once in a while is ok, but constantly hounding you is not good.
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how do you kiss when do you kiss i need help
Ok. Take a deep breath. You are not weird because you haven't kissed anyone yet. I have answered this one in my column recently. You can look at my answer (and if you click on view a bunch more excellent answers). In short, brush your teeth. You kiss when you feel like it, but usually you would be staring at a guy (or girl) and they keep moving their head into your face. Some people close their eyes at this point. Hold your lips together and touch yours to theirs. You can practice on a pillow.
Don't rush. There is no time line on when you should start kissing. Best Wishes!
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Is it ok to have a make-out buddy? I mean, not a sex buddy, we're not having sex...but we're only making out once in a while. We dont like eachother, but is it still ok? Does it make me a slut?
I don't think it makes you a slut. It makes you unusual. Be careful that it doesn't lead to sex. My biggest concern is that you don't like each other. The second is that you might be using a spot meant for someone else with this relationship. I know its not a "real" relationship, but you two are obviously taking some intimate time for yourselves. Just be careful.
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Okay...for the past 3 days I have had nausea, indigestion, and some dirrahea!! I have run out of ideas and don't know what else to do!! Can someone give me some suggestions on what to do??
If you haven't already seen a doctor, do so. I have IBS but it isn't too terrible unless I am stressed, upset, or have eaten a bunch of fatty foods. Believe it or not, some yogurt helps a little bit because of the "good bacteria" that is in it. Bananas also soothe my stomach some. Do you know if you are lactose intolerant or not? That could be a problem too. I would definitely avoid eating later than 2 hours before bedtime and monitor what I am eating for a while. You may just have to resort to chicken soup and crackers until it all calms down.
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HI Im a 14 year old girl and i told a guy I liked him right before graduation. we aren't very good friends but a friend of mine told me "he didnt want to ruin the friendship" and im pretty sure that is just an easy term for the words "i don't like you" but then at the dance two days after my friend told me the news he wouldn't stop convienently running into me and kept walking up to me like he wanted to dance but then would just say something sweet and walk away then he asked me to dance and kissed my hand. Was he just being sweet? Do I have a chance with this guy in high school? Is there a chance that he is thinking about me? And if so in a good way? Should I call him?
Thanks so much!
Sorry it has taken so long to answer. I think he does like you if he is obviously going out of his way to bump into you. He might not want to get into a relationship just yet, but he is interested in you. The only way to find out is to call him and talk to him. Have a plan when you call him. I wouldn't make your question the first thing you ask. Try starting with what's up, how's summer, etc. It won't hurt anything to call and talk to him if you have his number. I think he is looking favorable on you, but I can't tell you if he is thinking about you right this minute.
After you make the call, stand back and see what's next.
Hope this helps.
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My boyfriend is a punk and i am like a cheerleader and im like a prep and stuff i dont know if i shold break up with him because later on in life i mean we might not work because he is a punk and he told me to choose him or cheerleading i am half hawaiian so like i have been doing hceerleading since i was 5 and surfing since i was 2
please help
If he is pushing you to choose between him and something you love, forget him. It is not bad to date someone different from you, but he should care for you just the way you are no matter what. Just because he is different now, doesn't mean you won't like each other later. It also doesn't mean you will. Forever is a long time to be hooked up with someone who doesn't care what you like.
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when should i look into a boyfriend? i'm 11 now, and i think i'm way too young. whenever i have sex, it will be when i'm married. i will not ever use a condom, because it's against the catholic religion, which i am. so i'll have two kids at the most (maybe). and i will definately be having one child. when should i have a bf? i don't want to go throuhg a break up...should it be when i am old enough to get married, just in casE?
Unfortunately break ups are a necessary part of the learning process. You will know when you are ready for a boyfriend. I didn't have one until I was 16. It is a good thing to wait to have sex until you are married; just be careful out there because there are lots of wolves. My boyfriend has waited, and I think its really exciting.
Good luck and I would discuss getting a boyfriend with your mom because she can be your best friend.*******************************************
I do think God gave us sex for pleasure and multiplying, but only in the presence of marriage and eternal love. If you have sex before marriage, you are unnecessarily attached to that individual and have a hard time separating that image and feeling from yourself to make room for the person you really love.
Granted, our first goal is to be fruitful and multiply so that we spread the good news across the earth.
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I'm a 24 year old woman and I don't live with my parents anymore, but recently I stayed with them for a couple of months and I accidentally found out that my father's been looking at pornography on the internet. To say it was a shock is such an understatement. I'm still shaken up and upset after 6 months. My parents have been happily married for over 30 years and I've never ever thought my father would be the type to look at porn. Ever since I found out, I kept a close eye on my father and I started to notice that he does look at young women in mini skirts etc. when we go out. It's raised a lot of questions like, have I been a fool to think my parents are happily married, are they hiding something from me or is he having an affair and on and on. I can't see or think of my father in the same way I used to anymore. It just feels like I've been traumatised. Please help me. How can I get over this?
I would have a talk with your Dad. Tell him how it makes you feel. The fact that it still bothers you after 6 months means you really need to let the feelings out to someone. I remember when I found out my Dad was divorcing my mom. I can't point straight to it, but I think the porn is where there marriage ended too. I don't mean to scare you, but hopefully if you get your Dad to talk to your mom about it, maybe they can put the spark your Dad might be missing into their relationship.
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i've read your advice column, you seem to give really good advice. um..well, i'm not overweight, and i'm happy with my body, except for my stomach. i have a huge flab on it. what can i do that doesn't involve a whole lot of time, cuz i'm super busy?
I don't feel I have the answer to your question. I do know that even a few minutes of exercise a day does wonders. Most people do crunches or sit ups. If you figure out how to have a flat stomach, let me know because I could use one myself. Sorry that I am not much help on this one.
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i know this isn't really important, but im doing a poll for summer school.. im not in summer skool, but were supposed to be doing this to get ready for our upcoming high skool year, and well here's my poll...
Bush?
or
Kerry?
moderators, plz don't rate this low, it's for skool, also please don't delete this Q!!!!
Nader.
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