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My father and pornography
I'm a 24 year old woman and I don't live with my parents anymore, but recently I stayed with them for a couple of months and I accidentally found out that my father's been looking at pornography on the internet. To say it was a shock is such an understatement. I'm still shaken up and upset after 6 months. My parents have been happily married for over 30 years and I've never ever thought my father would be the type to look at porn. Ever since I found out, I kept a close eye on my father and I started to notice that he does look at young women in mini skirts etc. when we go out. It's raised a lot of questions like, have I been a fool to think my parents are happily married, are they hiding something from me or is he having an affair and on and on. I can't see or think of my father in the same way I used to anymore. It just feels like I've been traumatised. Please help me. How can I get over this?
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I would have a talk with your Dad. Tell him how it makes you feel. The fact that it still bothers you after 6 months means you really need to let the feelings out to someone. I remember when I found out my Dad was divorcing my mom. I can't point straight to it, but I think the porn is where there marriage ended too. I don't mean to scare you, but hopefully if you get your Dad to talk to your mom about it, maybe they can put the spark your Dad might be missing into their relationship.
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Well guys will be guys of course there going to look and some guys just hide it better then others-trix
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Try and talk to him about it! I dont think because he looks at porn means he's having an affair you should really ask him before you start to run it around your head, you'll just drive yourself insane! good luck!
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Your mother may know, telling her you know may only make the situation worse also just forget about it lots of people do it.
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well he is a guy but the thing aboput younger chicks is wrong and you should talk to him about that. im sure your parents marrage is fine. your dad just might have some issues just talk 2 him and be like "y r u lookin at those girls like that dad?"
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Well most guys look at girls, I guess it's just a habit... Just try to think about other things, when you talk to him just try to be nice and not think about what you found out or anything...
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He's a guy just deal most guys look at porn. Since you are 24 you should really talk to him about this and tell it bothers you. I'm sure your parents are happy together.
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Dont worry about it to much. Hes a Guy! Guys look at Porn thats =, sick yes but we cant help it. Since your 24 you should be old enough to talk about it to him (if you want) tell him how it bothers you.
--Julie
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Well there is nothing you can do to change that i never knew my dad but everyone said he looked at porn and stuff so i know how you feel and you rent the one who did it so u shouldnt worry about it '
you should tell your mom
good luck
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