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well it's been a year since me and my ex boyfriend broke up, and its pretty weird lately i keep getting these next feelings, basically yesterday on twitter i posted a picture and he Favorited it, a while later he un done it, i don't understand whats wrong with him? Something in me tells me he doesn't want to admit to himself deep down he still has feelings, he hasn't had a girlfriend since we broke up, it actually shocks me.
I think he isn't brave enough to admit to himself nor to me that he still likes me, (i am his first love anyway), and i know some guys are too stubborn to admit to anything.
But from my point of view if your over your ex you would't still have them as a contact or like their pictures right?
I can't lie i still have feelings for him but i do try not to think about it.

He's on holiday atm, and i got the weirdest phone call it was a number from another country and a feeling in me said it was him, we have not heard each others voices in a year, as a women I have this sort of 6th sense that tells me he still likes me, but his pride is getting in the way of telling me.
i really don't know what to think anymore ...

Your subconscious mind could be reading more into it than there is. I think there are plenty of people who keep somewhat in contact with each other. I am in my 50's and remarried. The guys I dated are still FB friends. I read their postings and click like on what I like but I don't write to them. They have new girlfriends. My daughters all have my last boyfriend on FB too and he likes many of their postings and comments on them, but not mine. My oldest daughter really bonded with him and wished he had been her dad. Stuff like this is okay, its normal. He can enjoy keeping tabs on you but not harassing you. You didn't say why you broke you broke up. People who aren't compatible in some way usually break up. Just because one heart still cares about the other or both do, doesn't mean you get back together if you had some major differences or fights that could not be worked out or stuff like not having that spark or chemistry in sex. It takes the hearts a long time sometime to let go...cus the emotions and feelings come from our subconscious mind. While our conscious awake minds remember what logica there was for breaking up and that it is best that way.
If he still hasn't gotten over you, it's for him to find a way to deal with it. You can't help him.
So the real question here is, is there any real good reason for getting back together. ONly you can know the answer to that dear. Good luck.

I would like a fabric cover suggestion to go with floral wall decals, please can you provide me options?

Use the same technique people use for choosing clothing. If the skirt is plaid, choose one of the colors in the plaid to be the top. If the top is flowered, pick one of those colors for the pants.
There are some decorating shows that find ways to go against that and mix different designs one wouldnt think go together. So for more expert help, ask at your local library and have the librarian show you some books that might help give ideas. Rather than rely on us, who can't view the types of fabrics and patterns available, It might be better to ask for fabric samples and designs you can take home and invite your friends over to have a look and give their opinions. Have fun with your decorating

I am a 33yo female with a fiancee (38) and a baby girl (10 mos). Because of financial problems that my fiancee incurred after a loss of a job (for three years) and a baby, we begrudgingly decided to move into my almost in-law's house for a year to try to recover and start our lives over. His mother is old school Russian. Never leaves the house. Goes to and from the store, etc. Her husband takes care of most stuff and she takes care of the house. She works three days a week and takes care of our baby by choice. I try to get home as quickly as possible to relieve her, but I take a Tuesday night writing class as an outlet for myself and I see a therapist once every two weeks. Over the last month, we have tried to co-exist peacefully. Just recently we were informed that his mother is feeling the burden of us living with her. The last three weekends, I did ALL of the cleaning. Not to mention, their house is excruciatingly unorganized. This weekend I visited family and took the baby with me the entire time. She is mad that I didn't clean her messes, after her cat (that pees in the closets) and said to her son that she "just can't do it all". When he offered to take our baby for the day, she said no. In other words, I feel like she thinks I am her maid. I understand I have obligations, but this is ridiculous. I work 40 hrs a week, hardly get to see my baby and now she is mad that I didn't stay home to clean her house. I contribute to much of the cleaning. I have no idea what to say to her because it wouldn't be anything nice if she approaches me with the subject. I am trying to remain her friend.

You did say she said things to her son, your fiancee, but not that she said any of her grievances to your face. Does your husband to be stand up for you and try to reason with her?
It sounds like she is playing one of you against the other in a way. Trying to get rid of you not your husband, just you. Doesnt sound like a good family to be marrying into.
If I were you, I would humble myself and start asking every aquaintance if they or anyone they know could use a little extra amount per month to let you basically stay for almost no cost. I think 11 more months with a stranger can't be any worse than mom in law for the next 11 mos. What about her husband in all this? He is the one who pays the bills. Doesnt he have a say in all this? Or does he let his woman run the house and attempt to run the lives of all who live there...
There's nothing old school about her if its as you say it is...she is just an unhappy, bitchy old woman who is lazy and sees an opportunity to take advantage of you. Talk to both men and see if they will take a stand with you against her. If they won't, you might want to test your fiancee now to see who he loves more. Tell him that he has to make a choice to support you and tell mom to give you a break, or the break will be in your relationship, that you will leave him and be prepared to do so. As an unmarried female with a child, it should be easier to find agencys that help. Your threat means nothing if you don't have anything to fall back on. So do some checking around for emergency houseing and daycare for single moms. Once you know somewhere you can go, give the ultimatum.
If your husband will not chose between you and mom, he doesnt have enough backbone, she has already programed him from childhood and she will always meddle in your marriage if it suits her even when you're back in your own place. Better to find out now if he just loves you or is in love with you. A man in love with you will not stand for anyone to be abusive of you, even if it is his parents. Sorry for your situation dear but you have some very hard times ahead no matter what. Pray and ask your angels for guidance too.

We've been together for over a year, he's my first boyfriend, I'm his first girlfriend and it started out brilliantly. He's going to uni in a month or two and I'm not and I wanted to make the most of the time we have left because I think a LDR is unlikely to happen. He's been so good to me, I have a few medical conditions that make life hard for me and he's been amazing, I really don't want to lose him. However, he recently has been trying to get me to go away with him for a weekend or so with his relatives (about 10-11 of them). I keep saying no because I've never been away from home, I'm not the sort of person to go away, I'm not great with people, I've had panic attacks in cities before and my parents aren't keen on the idea (we're both 18 & still live at home with parents). Any stress makes my medical conditions worse but I'm in the process of getting it sorted and I don't feel ready to go away yet because of them. I've tried to reason with my boyfriend and explain this but he won't drop it. I've told him I would consider it in the future if we're still together, when it's more serious but not right now. Also, in the past few months we've been arguing a lot more, and I've gone to bed at night in tears on many occasions because of how much our relationship has changed but then again, I am very easily upset. I don't know whether it's me being oversensitive but I don't understand why he would make me do something that he knows makes me very unhappy. All I wanted to do over the next couple of months is have fun. Every time I speak to him now I feel pressured, we end up arguing and it's ruining our relationship and I don't know what to do about it. Days where we don't argue are great, we have fun like we used to when we first started going out. Has anybody any advice about what to do? Thank you very much if you do.

It might be that in this one case, he is thinking of himself and want one last time carefree to spend with you. But if he's not going to see you while at Univ. then one more time is really not going to make a difference. He may be scare of losing you, or the feelings fading as you're apart, maybe even for him, and those fears could be what causes him to act so irritable and get upset so easily and fight. As I see it, due to your delicate condition, it's best you stay home, you both say goodbye and agree to keep in touch by FB or skype or something or promise to let each other know if someone else comes into your life that you want to date. No hiding it. Life isnt going to go the way you dream it should in your mind. You need to learn early on to roll with the punches that life tosses your way. This could go 4 diff. eays.
1. may be the end of your relationship with him
2. He meets a gal at Univ & they become a couple
3. You meet & date a guy your age around town
4. When he finishes college he comes back to you

No one can know. You need to be able to be flexable and continue on with life no matter what path presents itself.

Okay, I was talking to this teacher (I shall call him B). B and I were alone in his classroom talking - which is something we do quite frequently. Anyway, my friend walked in and later when I was speaking to her she commented on how there was 'a lot of tension between me and B when she came in' and that she felt very awkward walking in and as though she was interrupting something. I wasn't really sure what to think seeing as I didn't notice any tension between us (it's not something I'd ever really thought about).

But then since that day I've noticed that whenever someone (other teachers included) comes into the room when it's just me and him they always look awkward and quickly leave. Me and B will often look and them and each other awkwardly when that happens but other than that I feel things are normal around us.

I'm just not sure where all these people are getting the impression there is something between us from? Is he experiencing tension around me that other people pick up on? I don't know what he's usually like around other people so I can't judge if he treats me differently or not.

I don't know, this is all too confusing for me.

There are so many rules to protect under legal age people. And some of them are not well defined. We know a teacher can't have sex with a minor, but there is less said about what is a harmless teacher student relationship and at what point the so called harmless relationship is in the same stages as those of the ones who made the news headlines for sex with a student. If it were a female teacher, I don't think you'd be getting as many strange looks.
What every single person is picking up on but some don't yet realize what they sense. .. is not a bad tension like angry at each other...they pick up on sexual tension or attraction...a chemistry if you want to call it that between a male and female, a pheremon connection. While you two may never do anything about it...realistically if everyone else is picking up on "something" between you two, then there is something there. One or two people can be mistaken but not every single person reacting the same way. If you and teacher feel awkward, when others look weirdly at each other, then ask yourself why....is it you fear what others are thinking, or because deep down, you feel what you are doing is starting to go further than it should have. If you have never seen the teacher spending time chatting in private with other kids, then he's playing favorites. Why? He is older than you so for intellectual friends, he would normally hang with those his age. Even in high school seniors have problems with hanging out and being friends with freshmen and sometimes sophomores...it's usually a maturity thing.
At this age there can be some who are more mature than others which could possibly be the case for you and why the teacher doesnt mind having a friendship with you.
But ask yourself this...if he is of marrying age, shouldn't he be dating a woman or married, and if he was, why would he need so much communication with a student he connects with?
It could be that things are not normal in his personal life...for whatever reason, causing him to place so much attention on one student.
Even if it is innocent and you make it through high school without any problems, once you're 18, if he's still single, you better check him out closely because his behavior is not normal. Teachers would be spending time with other teachers for fellowship. Its one thing to help with a lesson and its another to daily chat whenever you can squeeze in a moment to do so. Thats how a dating couple or engaged couple who are in love with each act. They can stand being apart and enjoy talking and do whatever they can to be together, whatever excuse they can find.

If you were watching this going on with lets say your best friend and she has no more time for you cus she's always hanging out with a male teacher, what would you be thinking? So far, you're not breaking any laws and neither is he but in the eyes of all of us who have read way too many news stories of the like, it looks fishy to everyone else. Only you can know if it is normal and innocent or whether you are choosin to ignore your or his feelings if there area any carin for each other, love feelings.

Hey y'all. I'm 20/f and I have been living with my boyfriend happily for 2 years. I am incredibly attracted to him sexually and would never ever cheat on him. There are some nights that I will have sex dreams about him while he's sleeping right next to me.
But, last night and the night before I had dreams about 2 of my coworkers-one of whom is incredibly attractive (but I am not actually attracted to) and the other has an incredible gentle personality, but I would never pursue. At work, I spend most of my time with the two of them, so I guess it would make sense that they make an appearance in my dreams, but these dreams were both sexual. The first dream I had was with my kind, caring coworker. He confided in me about some dark things, which led to us kissing, which led to sex. When I woke up, I felt guilty and could barely look at my boyfriend. The second one (last night) was with the good-looking coworker. He snuck into my room while my boyfriend was in the shower, and just got on top of me without a single word. Both of these dreams are confusing and uninvited and make me feel like a horrible girlfriend. What do these dreams mean and what can I do to stop them?

Your subconscious mind controls dreams and many other things among them emotions and feelings too. So if your conscious awake mind is not attracted, there must be some reason your subconscious mind is attracted enough to dwell on it recently. The only way is to treat your subc. mind like another person and just ask it why it is attracted to the other guys enough to have sex dreams. You may have to ask a few times but the answer will pop into your mind. Get used to talking to yourself/really your sub. and giving it a voice. It is helpfully for when you will out of sorts or a little fear and just dont know why. Its alway something that your conscious mind has no problem dealing with, looking at logically...but the sub is like your inner child and logic is not going to work with a child. So you have to learn to listen to it. Once it knows you mean to help by making the best decisions for both of you, you can usually resolve it well.
I hope this helps you. As weird as it may sound, it works.

You attract what you are, not what you want.

For most people they are thinking of relationships when they see that phrase so I'll base answer on that.
Who is any person at core, on the inside? We don't take time to evaluate ourselves and see where we may need to grow and mature. If you have a hot temper, or have trouble keeping commitments, you will attract exactly the same kind of people to you.
They in effect are then like looking in a mirror.
What ever you have a problem with in another person is likely an area where you need to grow. Once a person has learned a particular lesson and grown, there is no longer a need to be with a person who has not learned yet. We don't all learn and grow at the same rate.
It also works in lets say wanting a successful career. If a person can not be successful with the small stuff and have enough confidence in themselves, they aren't ready for the successful career they want because they are not in a state of mind to be able to make it happen.

I'm trying to go for a trendy look so i was thinking about doing this: 2 converse shoes of the same style but different color (green and yellow), neon orange shorts, neon green top, funky jewelry. Do u think that i should try it out?

Of course you should go for it. You may set a new trend too. This world is a drab dull place. No one has imagination with cars colors for example...all are black white, grey, champagne or red for the most part, even houses are rarely painted in bright flamboyant colors unless perhaps they are a bed and breakfast place. So bring color into your life.
Color is good therapy too. If your soul is crying out for a change and some bright color, its a big YES!

recently i searched the net and googled James Taylor and Neil Diamond on the image secetion but all that came up are differant photos none of them were in the excat same photo so how can you make it happen

Unless someone has put both photos side by side in one complete photo before, you won't find one just like that on the net. If you have any skill with a photo and image editing program, you might attempt to do it yourself or ask around your friends to see who can help. I sadly struggle with that sort of thing and have no idea how. Since you wrote directly to my inbox, no one else will see your question. If you repost for all to see perhaps someone can talk you through it but you might to make it clear that you want one photo of two photos side by side of the two people. How to do that.

hi so my bf and i were together 3 months and he was so protective to the point he wouldnt let me go to the bar with my friends or talk to my guy friends, he also got really mad when i told my closest friends about the problems we were having so i broke up with him but about two weeks later we got back together and he promised things would be different and i believed him... now its been about a month and the things aren't changing. He's still really jealous and he always gets really mad at me when he's drunk . a couple days ago he went through my phone... if a person goes through your phone that means to me there is no trust any more and he says it isnt that but what else could it be. thats a big thing for me so i told him i need time to think if i want to be with him or not. since then ive got tons of texts saying thats over and he gets one more chance and he will change. will he change of is this just a bad cycle?

Please, i need someones advice :(
Kaaitlyn

Many people will admit that they need to change and maybe truly in their heart mean it when they promise to change BUT as you know even for yourself...any kind of change is hard for humans: change of job, change of school, change of place you live, change is just plain scary. Or if its not fear, some people may have addictions to certain behavior, smoking, drinking, even addictions to sex, and lastly a person's upbringing and emotional or mental background can make change hard.
The truth is, with jealous, controlling behavior, there is often some kind of mental disorder undiagnosed. they can function well enough in society but when it comes to relationships they mess up royally. This will not change.
People rarely change for the better in their life time. What little changes we make character wise is so little...big to us but not big enough to be noticed by others or have any good impact on relationship.

SO what I am saying is that what you see here is what you can expect for the rest of your life if you choose to commit to him.
Relationships need, trust, good communication and unconditional love and a whole lot more.
My advice is no matter how much your heart feels the pang of parting, its best to drop him and find someone better instead of settling for less.
Warning: sometimes this level of abusive controlling behavior escalates into verbal and finally physical abuse. Best to avoid such types.

16/f I wanted to try these pills off amazon they say they are safe and natural, would they mess up my hormones? all the reviews say its has worked really well for them. I like my boobs but I want them to be bigger because I have a big butt and I feel unportionate. yes I know they are still growing but im just wondering if it could help and if theirs any harm. they are called Bustmaxx pills on amazon

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The people are paid to say those things. Its a company trying to make money. What you need is to be okay with your looks. Some man will find you attractive just as you are.
Take a look at the photos and comments of teen, young females and breast feeding moms of their breast to see what real normal breasts look like, how they varhttp://www.007b.com/breast_gallery.php. I hope this helps how you view your breasts because you cant change them.
When I was a few years older than you and first married, my ex made my try all the stuff out there that is supposed to make boobs larger. Why did he marry me if he didn't accept me as I was. I am inexperience and didnt know any better, wanting to change myself to please a man. DONT ever do that for a man. I hope you listen now and dont have to learn the hard way. There is nothing that makes boobs bigger than surgery and inserts and that is dangerous. THhey dont let on how often things go wrong and all the corrective surgery. I used to work in a medical claims department as a filing clerk. I got to see tons of photos of poor women with mutilated deformed breasts as a result of breast enhancements gone wrong. Its safer to learn how to love yourself just the way you are. Stick with padded push up bras and learn clothing tricks and fabric tricks that de-emphasize a larger bottom.

Help!!!! I am a 23 year old female currently in a relationship with a male who has a baby girl from a past/current relationship. me and him have been dating for 3 years now and one bad summer evening him and i got into an argument which lead to a brake up. He went back to his ex and got her pregnant. after 5 months of not speaking to each other i forgave him and decided it would all be okay. It has been over a year and things have gone from bad to worse. Every time we argue, no matter how small the argument is he decides it okay to seek "meaningless attention" from his ex who is in a different state. I have found multiple texts, pictures, and even videos, on his phone from her (and other women, also different states) which he claims to have only received during times of arguments or when we are not speaking to each other. I don't believe he has actually cheated on me, we are always together but I'm extremely worried he might if this behavior continues. He is not abusive at all, he has never cursed or even attempted to insult me in anyway. the outside picture of our relationship is perfect. I wish the times were always that good. He has tried to get me pregnant and he has even tried to leave the state in hopes we'd never see each other again but he always comes back looking for me, it never fails. I cant seem to stay away either obviously. Any Advice in this situation?

It's gonna be hard to hear the truth dear, but I can't lie. This man in your life has been in-lust with you, not in-love with you. Doesn't matter if he has ever said he loved you. Words come easy, but the right actions are harder.
You can tell by his actions that he will never be able to make a commitment to you.
Just having babies with others means he is financially responsible to those kids and will have to be financially,part of their lives until they turn 18. That already is a big strain on any goo relationship money and budget wise.
Some people are just not monogamous. If he knows he is never going to commit to just one woman, he should go get his tubes ties so at least he's not getting any other women pregnant but this is about you. Why would you want him back? You must see something in him or you would let him go.
Is that something enough for you to stay with him.
Can you see yourself happily married to him 10 yrs from now? 20? You dated for 3 years and dating is not all about calendar appointments to go to a movie or out to dinner, or out dancing. It is a time to learn what you like and don't like about the opposite sex. Find out more about the person you have interest in which happens only if you start seeing each other regularly making it a conscious choice. If there are too many dislikes, start over again with someone new. Or take this to the next level. Usually a move to being a steady couple happens automatically without any conscious thought.
Next comes Steady relationship: This is meant to be a time where you have plenty of opportunity to spend in each others presence getting to see how they handle themselves 24/7 under all sorts of conditions, their good days, and bad days. Many choose to live together at this time. There isn't much that can be hidden when you live with someone, like their housekeeping habits, what their usual diet is, any mood swings, and by now there should be a good idea of what their normal sexual habits are and sexual needs are. You don't want to get matched up with someone who is the opposite libido level of yourself or not monogamous.

In 3 years of dating you both should be able to progress to the next step and soon be able to make vows of love to each other and choose to grow old together. Is he that man? At any point in a relationship that one is not ready to progress forward like the other, that means it is time to separate ways and start dating others to find the one who will fall in love with you.
Which is what you want? Right? But then, you wrote in for advice so you must have some standard for your life that you feel isn't being met. In any relationship, even the bad and abusives ones, there will be a heart tie with feeling and some level of love, but not strong enough for a healthy relationship. >These feelings come from your subconscious mind. It's not on the same page as your conscious mind. So it will be hard but you need to have some honest talks with yourself so you can let go of him if thats what you want to do. You will have to ignore your feelings because they are misplaced and he doesn't deserve them dear. Start dating. Once you have met a wonderful man who is committed to you, in love and treats you like a Queen, I guarantee you won't see the ex coming back to see you any more.

Committed relationship: Here there are vows and oaths made to each other, a professing of mutual love and devotion for each other and it goes beyond words to living it out daily in how one treats their partner. This person will be your life mate with a marriage license or without one.

So I had a friend, he was 3 years older than me. We ended up getting close and started liking each other but never officially were in a relationship. But I ended up ending all communication with because I felt betrayed. He was talking to other girls, to a point that I think he was engaged. I thought that we were just seeing one another, but he always wanted a open relationship, I didnt, but things happened, we stopped talking for 2 years now we are talking, he says he loved me, I have feelings for him. But I am hurt from a past relationship. Should I talk to him or move on.
Should I clear everything out? We never really talked about everything that happen. he says that he has changed. Any advice on how I should handle this?

I may be reading this wrong so write me and clarify if thats so but 2 things stick out at me, you thought he was engaged and him wanting an open relationship. There are several ways to look at those two 's phrases with 2 totally different outcomes.
Did you mean engaged as to be married? Or just engaged as very into the other girls, very active in their lives?
The term open relationship or open marriage can have totally different meaning too depending on circumstances. In the marriage, when it's open, both partners have decided that each could have another lover on the outside of the marriage but the marriage partner still came first in any marriage decisions. In a dating relationship, it might mean the same thing but it also may not.
An open relationship may have meant that he prefers females for friends over males. I happen to prefer males over females for friends. Both my hubby and I understand this about each other and it in no way threatens us or affects our love for each other.
Since he didn't explain at the time, its high time that the two of you talk. In the beginning, it would be hard to trust until he's proven himself over time to be in-love with you.
Ask him these questions:
Do you prefer having females for friends over males?
Do you truly feel monogamous or do you feel you are more polyamorous?
I would suggest you read up on what that is because if he is, you'd need to know if you cold be on the same page or just let him go. Polyamorous means there is another love outside of the core relationship of you and him, either another couple or two singles, one for each of you if you're blessed that way. Its more about relationship here, not just about sex.
Swinging on the other hand is ONLY about the sex. I am well acquainted with what I speak about.
Neither option is a good idea for a brand new relationship or one during child bearing years. It much better to decide after 10 years or more of a committed relationship/marriage if the two of you would go that path.
You might also ask if he feels drawn to wanting to experience a variety of women in sex? Whether he has been sexual or not. He should know the answer.
He is allowed to feel the way he does. And you are entitled to feel about things the way you do. There is nothing wrong with having friends of the opposite sex and there is nothing wrong with openess about extra relationships...it's just not for everyone. So you must be able to be openminded in your talk with him. Not condemning so he can feel free to tell you the total truth, not just saying that he loved you and still does. Thats fine. But it's the other issues that will affect the relationship if both of you see differently. If that's the case, neither one of you should offer to change who you are to be in a relationship together.
Takes the biggest mistake any one of us could make. I did, I changed who I was to try to be something for him that I was not. It was a bad marriage no matter what I did.
If you agreed to open relationship as in other close female friends for him or lovers on side, then you would never fully develop trust because you aren't being true to yourself. You comes first before you with another.
So instead of you making the change, lets say your male friend has admitted he feels polyamorous but will make a committment to be devoted only to you. AND he may truly in his heart have meant it. But if he is lying to himself and going against who he really is inside, he sets himself up for feeling unhappy in the future once the stress of remaining devoted to only you finally catches up with him. He can feel resentful of his situation, not you necessarily but it will affect the relationship, you will feel a distance or detachment on his part and notice he seems unhappy and it could 's end eventually one way or another.

I just want you to be aware of the pitfalls of forcing a relationship because of feelings when the two ideals and morals and ethics of what you live by are so different. Hopefully everything goes well for your in your talk with him. Good luck hon.

I had a child really young. The father and I didnt get along after the baby was born he wanted to go out (which is understandable) I grew up. I ended up moving 12 hours away. I dated he dated. I ended up married. We always keep in contact (obviously because we have a child together) we always would talk about old feelings and that we still loved each other. Talk about the fun we had. My husband and I split recently. Our marriage was pretty bad we just stayed together for the children. When we did separated, I have absolutely no feelings for him I dont miss him at all. I moved back I have two kids. My ex has a girlfriend. and if I started a relationship id want it to go slow. Long story short I think I love my ex. Like love love. I think about him all the time he texts me all the time. his current relationship has been 4 years but mainly off. Im moving again two hours away because my father lives two hours away and my husband took my car and all my money and I have no support system where i am no place to live long term until i get a place. thats my story now i need advice on it thank you.

So have a talk with your ex. Having a girlfriend that a guy dates from time to time and loving her to the extent that his heart and mind have made a commitment to her are two very different things.
Ask him how he feels about his girfriend. Or ask him where does he see that relationship as being in 5 years from now or 10 years from now. If he asks why you care, then you can tell him how you feel. Perhaps he has finally matured and grown up and could make a good partner and a good atep dad for kid #2. You will never know unless you give it a try. Hopefully he's of the mind to give it a try too. And afterall if it works, he's the father of one of the two. That sounds like a pretty good deal if he is ready to settle down and is in love with you. not just loves you as a person but his heart can't bear not being with you. It could be why he hasn't been successful with the other lady for the last 4 years.
Not trying to get your hopes up but if I were in your shoes, and I didn't give it a try, the what ifs would haunt me the rest of my life. At least your mind would be at rest if it does not turn out and you will feel free to move on and find another man.
Blessings dear!

I'm13 years old so I can't use tampons yet, and whenever I use a pad, it always leaks after like five minutes. What other methods are there. Also, what is the best way toget blood stains out of my underwear? Thank you!

I am not sure why you can't wear tampons unless you've heard something about the toxic shock syndrome. As far as I know, it's not about the age but the person leaving it in too long. So are 13 year olds more susceptible? Perhaps the argument is that they may be more forgetful or too embarassed to get to know their cycle and be comfortable with whatever is entailed in use of menstrual products and proper hygiene.
There are alternative products as you will see in the video link I post below. Before you watch it, most of it either entails being comfortable with getting your fingers inside of yourself, or not being squeamish about getting your own blood on your fingers. The sooner you can get comfortable with that, the easier times you have and of course more options open to you.
You may also want to watch all the other sex positive videos by this gal as the schools no longer have sex ed or a poor version of it. You owe it to yourself to get self taught on some of the stuff thats up ahead for you including dating and relationships. Check your laundry detergent aisle. Some stores will carry expensive tiny bottles that are specific for just one kind of stain, like one for blood. Or you can soak the underwear in a sink with ammonia, or hydrogen peroxide. The article on that says not to rub the cloth or the blook might get worked into the fabric worse. Sometimes just the soaking wasnt enough so I used my fingers to rub the panties between as I rinsed with water. I will post this article too. Good luck dear.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?annotation_id=annotation_616334&feature=iv&src_vid=e1x5xvHmhqo&v=Ualuem6zFT0

http://www.howtocleanthings.com/stains/how-to-clean-blood.htm

Hi everyone I am so embarrassed and don't know what to do but last night I peed in my sleep and I woke up took care of it and than while standing I did it again.. Only a little bit though. I have been feelings like for the last while all I do is pee. I feel like I have to pee when I don't have to. I'm 17 years old and I don't know what to do or if maybe I should go to the doctor or gynecologist. Please someone help me

Honey, if you've never had a bladder infection before, this is what it feels like, a constant urge to pee even when your bladder is empty. You need to see your Dr or gynecologist to get medication for it. Normally when I have a bladder infection, I don't pee involuntarily so it could either be something else that is treatable medically or your infection is so full blown because it wasn't treated right away.
Your entire life, you will get bladder infections. It usually happens for me after bouts of diarrhea. even though I take care to wipe from front to back and sometimes use a wash cloth to wash the area.

For the future:The thing is to learn what the earlier stages of a bladder infection feel like and go out and purchase some cranberry juice and drink nothing but that for the next 3 days and you should see it clear up on its own. Dried cranberry in capsules can be purchased from a health food store and work as well but the juice is more readily available. If taking juice isn't helping in the future, perhaps you didn't catch it in the early stages and it is full blown like it is now.
Do not resort to cranberry juice right now. You have much too full blown of an infection right now to have much help from the juice.

My husband and I just celebrated our one year anniversary. Come to find out just a few weeks before this he's been sleeping with another girl for over half of our marriage. We've had threesomes with this girl and they justified it that way but turns out he got her pregnant!!! I love my husband very much and I want to give him another chance but how can I accept this? I told him our marriage was over if he ever talked to her again and at first he was fine with that and willing to do whateve it took to make our marraige work but she keeps popping up and she wants him to be involved with the baby and I think its confusing him. We are only 20 years old well almost 21 and I'm just not sure what I should do. The real advice I want is say we stay togetehr and try to make it work and dont be involved with that baby, do you all think our marraige will make it for the rest of our lives.

I married at 20 and realize now that I knew so little back then due to lack of life experience and maturity that comes with time. I won't say you married too young. It is too young for most of us but there's always an exception to the rule. However, marrying someone and from the start adding a 2nd women into the mix for a 3 some is a strain on the marriage. Yes, there is such a thing as polyamory...I have been there and done that. The same would go for swinging, which is just the extra sex partners but without the relationships as well.

If both marriage partners had a long established, and stable marriage, past the child bearing years, then it is safe to engage in alternative relationship styles, whatever suits your fancy. as long as all the adults involved are on the same level all desiring to do so of their own volition not because they were being forced or talked into it by someone.
So what you did do wrong is attempt this in a brand new marriage and during childbearing years.
In any 3 way or 4 way relationship, a number one must for them to work is trust and communication and its even more critical now that there are more people involved. If he wasn't asking you for some nights alone with her...then either you never set up ground rules, or he was breaking the rules by not asking you. You got involved way over your head. Was it your idea to have a 3way? Or was it his? If it wasnt your idea and you went along with as a way to "Keep" him, you now know that it doesnt' work.
Right now you are married to a man who is not honest with you and will sleep around with other women. People do not change quickly in life, even if they promise to. Change is difficult for the majority of humans, thats part of human nature. Some take an entire lifetime to change finally in their older years and others never change at all.
So there is a good chance that what you have now with him will never improve. Can you be happy with that 10 or 20 years from now.
If he ever has kids in the future from many other women as well that he has to pay child support on, thats all money leaving your household budget so there's nothing left for you and any kids you have together. Thats a hard reality.Right now there will be child support for one, even if he stays with you. As young as you are, you realistically have much dating and learning about men to do yet. I made the same mistake. MIne ended up being a verbal abuser for the 30 years I decided to stay.

I just wish to save other girls from deciding to "settle for less" cus if they took the time to learn what they like and don't like and learn to spot bad character traits and avoid those guys,then you have a chance at finding a wonderful man who doesn't weaken you but builds you up, he is in love with you and his heart beats only for you, you are his Queen and he treats you like one.
There is such a thing as happily ever after. I found that at age 50 with my new husband. If you stay with your husband, I can't guarantee that yours will be happily ever after.

i had a relationship with 8yrs..we are happy but then things changed..this last may 2013 he became active in his facebook he is messaging his old highschool friends..i know because i know the password of his account.one time they had a reunion knowing that this was not planned even i know that they msg on facebook he still insist that its not expected..i let it pass.but this thing last month he msg on facebook another highschool buddies.he ask about her life and what makes me shocked is that he told to girl that he misses her and if she already ate bfast and so on..and last week she message the girl again that he wants to go abroad with her and that he will cook dishes for her and that his parents really liked her...i feel ashamed,stressed,hurt ..i dont know what to do some times we talked about it i asked him why am i feeling that he is not the same man that i met before and he told me that things changed that he want a baby thats why..i really dont know what to do

Starting at the end, He says he feels different about you because he wants to have kids. Does that mean you don't want to have kids?
If that is true, he may have been keeping his heart on hold for a long time, hanging with you unless someone else came along that initiates that spark in him. Thats not fair to you if he never told you so. If he had told you and you were okay being friends with benefits until each of you found the person that really rocked your world, then there would be no problem now. Most people are not going to be honest about something like that because of the kind of reaction they fear getting, that no one will understand him and be willing to go along with such an arrangement.
I am not telling you that you did anything wrong to check his facebook...something deep inside, in your subconscious did not trust him 100% and felt you had to check up on him. But the ideal is a relationship where there is such trust between the two that there is no need to check on each other.
I will say one thing about him...something he may not yet realize. Love Relationships we had in the past where somehow you end up going other paths are always a big unanswered question in the mind. ALl the memories of what you had. I had a chance to meet up with someone from my past. I no longer felt that chemistry I felt in the past. Both of us had changed. It was amazing how things had changed. He may be in love with a memory. If he took off after her and left you, he could find out, they still have that spark or that its no longer there. Then he may come crawling back to you. You have to be mentally prepared for him leaving you to chase what he thinks he has better chemistry with. No matter how great a relationship you had for 8 years, inside his heart, he never really made a commitment to love you and grow old with you, and thats why he finds it so easy to chat with and long for and make promises and plans with another.
There's a difference between a guy who can tell you "I love you" and a guy who is "In love" with you. The I love you type is still negotiable depending on what life brings his way. This would be like the lady getting disfigured in an accident and he dumps her now because he doesn't like how she looks. The "In love with you" type in response to the same situation, stays by your side and tells you how beautiful you are to him...and a look at his eyes shows he is not lying to make you feel good but he truly sees beauty in you. It's much harder to find the latter type of relationship. I hate to have to tell you hon, but your man of 8 years was never deeply in love with you. If you are okay with that level of relationship you have with him, you can talk again with him and give him the permission to feel free to go meet with her and see what she is like and see if there is any chemistry and relationship still there. Be okay with giving him up. But also be okay with him seeing her and having sex to see if they still have anything worth working on. If he discovers she's just a friend from the past he had a relationship with but there's no chance for anything now, then he will come home. If this is the only case and he doesn't really care about having kids, then he should come back and pick up with you where he left off.
Or, you could choose to end things now if you don't feel strong enough to allow him the freedom to go see his old flame and wait to see if he comes back to you. Sorry to hear this dear. Best of luck to you

can you be born with an std

For you to ask such a questions makes me wonder what prompted the question in the first place. If you are having some symptoms that cause you worry...get it checked out by medical professional. Go to planned parenthood if you don't have your own doctor.
Herpes is one of the STD's that can be transfered to a child, either through vaginal birth or later in childhood through kissing if a parent gets those cold sores. While a parent is not going to kiss a child when there is a sore cus it hurts and is too tender, there is a short period of time when the herpes virus which lays dormant most the time in a persons system can travel to the surface and the invisible germs of the virus be present on the skin before there is an eruption of sores whether the oral or genital herpes.
And that is why 4 out of every 5 people are a carrier and don't know. A person can be a carrier for life and never have a break out. Only when a great stress occurs in their life does it sometimes kick start the erupting of the virus into sores. Also, the oral herpes can be passed to the genitals by oral sex. No one knowingly engages in sex when they have a sore...its too painful. I didn't know any of this until after a divorce, when I began dating, I went to get a STD test done at my regular female appointment. I asked if herpes was covered in the test. they said normally it isn't cus it is an extra expense so you have to ask for it. That is a major problem! Many go for screening and assume tdue to stress hey've been tested for herpes too. My test came back positive. But I was an older person and never had an outbreak, neither did ex. The only way I could be a carrier is to have got it from my mom whom I remember having ugly cold sores she got on her mouth all the time. Eventually, due to a great stress, I had my first outbreak.
So if you want to get tested yourself, ask point blank if they include the herpes virus in the test.

Ok so this is for my friend. She is 13 (yes she has her period) So she had sex with her boyfriend (and her bf also went through peburity)and so they didn't use a condom. And he said he did cum.. is there a possibility that she could get pregnant? She is just really worried and wants to know.
~Thanks :)

If she was in her ovulating time frame, YES she can be pregnant. If its still 72 hours since she had sex, her mom could buy her plan b at pharmacy, the morning after pill. If it's been longer...she can purchase a pregnancy test and read the instructions that tell you how long after sex, how many days or weeks before it can pick up a pregnancy or not. there's such a thing as taking the test too early.
Relying on a period coming on time is not a good thing because her stress of wondering is going to have an affect on possibly making her late, just as being sick can make her late.
Any female, even if only age 10, if they are being sexually active, need to go to planned parenthood and get on a contraceptive. they don't turn anyone away because of age and the parents don't have to know.

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