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Unwanted Sex Dreams
Hey y'all. I'm 20/f and I have been living with my boyfriend happily for 2 years. I am incredibly attracted to him sexually and would never ever cheat on him. There are some nights that I will have sex dreams about him while he's sleeping right next to me.
But, last night and the night before I had dreams about 2 of my coworkers-one of whom is incredibly attractive (but I am not actually attracted to) and the other has an incredible gentle personality, but I would never pursue. At work, I spend most of my time with the two of them, so I guess it would make sense that they make an appearance in my dreams, but these dreams were both sexual. The first dream I had was with my kind, caring coworker. He confided in me about some dark things, which led to us kissing, which led to sex. When I woke up, I felt guilty and could barely look at my boyfriend. The second one (last night) was with the good-looking coworker. He snuck into my room while my boyfriend was in the shower, and just got on top of me without a single word. Both of these dreams are confusing and uninvited and make me feel like a horrible girlfriend. What do these dreams mean and what can I do to stop them?
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Relax your normal. Your subconscious is taking a flight of fancy that you conscious mind would never do. We do a lot of things in our dreams we would never do in life. You could say are dreams allow us to experience things we would never allow us to experience or could never experience in the conscious world of reality.
Have you ever wanted to go hang gliding or bungee jumping but afraid to do so. You can do so in your dreams. You can even relieve some exciting event that could not in other ways be relieved.
There is nothing wrong here. These dreams mean nothing and certainly do not mean you love your boyfriend any less. I've been married to my wife for 42 years. When we married she told me I can look at the menu as much as I wanted. If I ever sampled or tried to reorder she would cut a very important appendage from me. In those 42 years I have never strayed in real life. In my dreams I have sampled from the menu many times. It does not mean I love my wife any less. In fact in 42 years my love for my wife has probably grown if that is possible.
As far as I'm concerned you are perfectly normal so stop beating yourself up over this.
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Your subconscious mind controls dreams and many other things among them emotions and feelings too. So if your conscious awake mind is not attracted, there must be some reason your subconscious mind is attracted enough to dwell on it recently. The only way is to treat your subc. mind like another person and just ask it why it is attracted to the other guys enough to have sex dreams. You may have to ask a few times but the answer will pop into your mind. Get used to talking to yourself/really your sub. and giving it a voice. It is helpfully for when you will out of sorts or a little fear and just dont know why. Its alway something that your conscious mind has no problem dealing with, looking at logically...but the sub is like your inner child and logic is not going to work with a child. So you have to learn to listen to it. Once it knows you mean to help by making the best decisions for both of you, you can usually resolve it well.
I hope this helps you. As weird as it may sound, it works.
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Maybe deep down in your subconscious you may be attracted to your co-workers? Fantasising about someone other than your boyfriend is normal, but if it is bothering you maybe you should stay clear of these people to avoid any temptation or talk to your boyfriend, although this may cause him to become jealous or paranoid. If you are 100% certain you would never cheat then just roll with the punches, enjoy your saucy sex dreams or spice up your relationship in the bedroom. Something new and exciting may take your mind off your co-workers.
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