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curious to know what this actually means?
You attract what you are, not what you want.
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Really one of those generalisations, akin to 'you get back what you give' etc. Clearly we do not always get back what we give, and we can play a perfect game and still lose. But we kind of want these platitudes to be true, don't we? I assume it was used to suggest that you tend to attract to yourself the sort of friends, acquaintances and admirers who share your values, principles, outlook on life, social standing, looks etc...any or all of the above! May be a criticism, or compliment depending on context. If you are a bright, confident sort, with exacting personal standards & ambition it might be complimentary, ie. you will draw similar friends and male admirers/partners to yourself because they feel an affinity towards you. Obviously, if you are clearly NOT that sort it could be a put-down, ie 'How do you expect to attract this sort of person when your character/appearance/background is so different?' We could argue 'opposites attract', or we could insist that at the most fundamental level 'like attracts like'. I'd take it as a bit of homespun philosophy, not an undeniable fact by any means. The dynamics of human relationships are far too complex to sum up and dismiss with a catchphrase. Of course we need common ground and shared ideals with our friends/partners, but the precise nature of the attraction and/or connection has no simple explanation. Any help?
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You attract by being who you are as a person, You don't always attract what you want.
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For most people they are thinking of relationships when they see that phrase so I'll base answer on that.
Who is any person at core, on the inside? We don't take time to evaluate ourselves and see where we may need to grow and mature. If you have a hot temper, or have trouble keeping commitments, you will attract exactly the same kind of people to you.
They in effect are then like looking in a mirror.
What ever you have a problem with in another person is likely an area where you need to grow. Once a person has learned a particular lesson and grown, there is no longer a need to be with a person who has not learned yet. We don't all learn and grow at the same rate.
It also works in lets say wanting a successful career. If a person can not be successful with the small stuff and have enough confidence in themselves, they aren't ready for the successful career they want because they are not in a state of mind to be able to make it happen.
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