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At school, there's this classmate on mine who teases me and bully me a lot. Often, he would throw the basketball at me and act as it were nothing. Sometimes, he would also tease me when i look at him when he said something weird or done something stupid. What's confusing me is that no matter how hard i ignore or tell the teacher about his bullying, he just keep on doing. Occasionally he would spurt out something stupid like '*Joanna wants to be in the dance' or something when i clearly dread those things.And then, what really trouble me is that he seems to know when i glance at him and will took that opportunity to tease me to the rest of the day.
I don't really get it, I'm the type that is fat and ugly and don't pay much attention to guys ( I avoid them ). One of his friend told me that i was fun to teased. My friend told me to ignore him and sooner or later he'll get bored, but its been almost 10 months now and it's not helping. I tried to confront the person several times before, but he just wont listen.
I wonder if should just go and filed it to the teacher as a minor bully case......
Help anyone? I'm totally confuse what i should do.
Okay lets put this in its proper prospective. Any bullying between a male and female can be interpreted not only as bullying but as sexual harassment as well. His throwing a basketball at you is assault. His teasing, depending on what exactly he says, could also be interpreted as sexual harassment.
Bullying, sexual harassment and on-line harassment or Internet has taken on National attention in recent months. I very surprised by your statement that; "no matter how hard i ignore or tell the teacher about his bullying, he just keep on doing." Teachers have been told to watch out for bullying and sexual harassment. School systems across the country have adopted zero tolerance policies on this issue.
You have several choices:
1) If the teachers are doing nothing to protect you, you can and should go to your school principal and report this problem.
2) You need to tell you parents what is happening at school and have them talk with the principal and demand that he/she do something to correct the situation.
3) You and your parents should contact your local police or sheriffs department and report the assault and sexual harassment as these are real criminal charges in most states.
Personally I recommend going with choices 2 & 3 as they are the best options. The principal needs to be told what is going on and that his or her teachers are not watching out for student safety from bullying or harassment. The police need to be informed because not all school punishment sends a proper message through the school.
Filing charges with the police does not always mean this boy will go to jail, that is up to a judge. He may be arrested and charges may be filed. The police will investigate and that is the message that will get around th school. That bullying,teasing and assaulting others is a serious crime. To participate in such activities can result in serious legal problems. That is the message I would want sent if you were my daughter.
Jail time is not something you need to worry about. That is for him and his parents to worry about. He is the one who bullied and assaulted you. A judge will decide if he is old enough to know better, if the school system did enough to educate the students that these actions were wrong. Based on how the judge see these things the judge will decide on an appropriate punishment.
My concern here is for you, not him., You have every right to attend your school without fear of being harassed or bullied in anyway. This should be your concern as well.
I was dating this guy on and off for awhile, and we're officially done for good after this incident.
What happened is that he told me he was short money for rent last month and his dad would kick him out if he didn't come up with it, so I felt bad and I lent him $300 on the terms that he would pay me back by October 31st, because his work hours were supposed to pick up in the next weeks and he'd be able to come up with the money. I even had him sign a contract with these terms and we both signed it and so did a friend of mine as a witness.
Basically what happened is that I found out he lied about the rent, he was never short money and he was never going to get kicked out. He just wanted to buy a new stereo for his car. I called him out on this and he said, "I'm done with you" and I haven't heard from him since, but he still owes me the money.
Can I take him to local court for this if he does not get in contact with me and return the money? I have the contract that we signed. Will I have to get a lawyer into this case, or is it straight forward enough that I wouldn't need one? If I need one, then it would suck cause the cost of a lawyer would be more than what he owes me anyways. I really need advice, thank you.
How he uses the money is not the relevant issue. The issue is will he pay you back according to the terms of your agreement.
If October 31st goes by without his returning the money lent to him by you: You must first send him a registered letter with return proof of delivery receipt, demanding payment. The letter does not need to be long just to the point.
Dear Mr. So and So
On this date you agreed, by copy of
agreement attached, that you would
make payment in full of the $300.00
loaned to you by 10/31/2011.You have fifteen (15) days from the receipt of this
demand for payment to make payment in full or I will seek restitution in the courts.
Sincerely
If payment is not made to you by the 15th day following receipt of your demand letter; on the 16th day you go to district court and file in small claims court. Bring a copy of your, contract, demand letter and the proof of delivery with you in case the court wants to include it them the filing.
Ask for and pay for Sheriff service of the filing and include in you filing a request for the $300 and costs in your request for restitution.
If your ex boyfriend refuses acceptance of your demand letter you are free to file as soon as the letter is returned to you. Keep the return letter as you may need it in court.
The reason I am asking you to send a demand for payment letter is you need to show the court you have made every attempt to resolve this matter civilly. This will weigh in your favor.
i want to get lasik surgery. how much does it cost, how well could you see afterward?
As the two previous answers prove, Lasik' like any other surgery has it's risks and rewards. Like some other totally elective surgery' Lasik' has some extremely qualified and not so qualified clinicians. So it is important to find a center that has a history of successful procedures.
Lasiks does not correct all vision problems. Before undergoing a Lasik procedure I would get a second opinion from a non-participation Opthamologist, meaning one that does not do Lasik procedures.
As to cost; I have seen the procedure advertised costing anywhere from $2,000 to $5,000. It is the type of surgery that can charge whatever the traffic and community will bear as it is generally not covered by insurance. Insurance will only cover this procedure if the problem is the result of a medical condition or an accident.
My boyfriend is a gorgeous guy who is well mannered (yes sir no sir yes ma'am, no ma'am to all adults) He is athletic and really smart (straight A's in school)but for some reason he always wears his paper napkin tucked in the collar of his shirt when he eats and I don't think that is what most 16 year olds do when they eat. I have not done that since I was 10 years old. Should I say something to him about it. My mom thinks it is cute and told me not to say anything because it would probably embarrass him. I have seen his younger brother (14) do the same thing at dinner one night so I guess maybe his parents require this. What should I do?
This habit may not be something you see very often but as an adult I have seen it many times mostly during the lunch hour. It is a great way to keep ones shirt and tie clean while having lunch. It is very embarrassing to return from lunch with a stained shirt.
I suspect you bfs mother has trained her children to do this to cut down on the food stains on their clothing. Thus cutting down on her laundry work. Unless you are dining in a fine restaurant I would say nothing. This custom is more popular than you may think and it is really not out of place in a fine dining atmosphere, just something you don't see as often as during the lunch hour.
So unless you are in a fine dining restaurant I would say nothing to your boyfriend.
me and a friend had sex and we didnt use a condom and im not on birth control. I knew he cummed in me because it didnt just cum back out in my shorts. I have had little signs but not much to tell im really pregnant. SO how can i know for sure without taking a pregnancy test, becuase if my parents found out im screwed.
Technically speaking you've already been screwed and if your pregnant your not going to be able to hide it much longer. The only way to know for sure is with either a home pregnancy test or with a pregnancy test by your doctor.
If you are over 14 years old the law provides for you medical confidentiality in matters of this nature. Meaning you can visit your doctor, get a pregnancy test and your doctor cannot discuss the test or results with your parents without your written consent.
The law is called HIPPA; Health Information Personal Privacy Act. A section of the act specifically covers children 14 years and older so they can have consultations with their doctors without parental knowledge for problems such as you might have and other things.
This also means you can ask the doctor for birth control pills and not need parental consent. It also means that if you are pregnant and want to abort the pregnancy, unless you state has a law forbidding it which in most cases have been held unconstitutional by the Supreme Court, you can also get one without parental knowledge.
In the same vain you can not be forced to have an abortion by your parents. The same law that protects your confidentiality, protects you in this manner as well. It is your body, your decision.
You can also just buy a home test, take it then hide the evidence and get rid of the evidence at school.
Okay so i'm 12 years old and i know my body isn't finished developing but all the other girls in my class are and fully chested and curvy and im a pencil and flat chested! I even get made fun of about being tall and skinny. Any advice because i seem to think about this quit often and i feel confident with my body at home but the second i hit school EVERYTHING changes! Please help thanks bye!
Jasmine23 pretty much said it all. We are each different in how we develop. If you are more athletically active then your friends you are going to develop slower than your friends. I'm not sure why this is, possibly your doctor can explain this to you. I can only point out Olympic athletes. If you ever take a good look at some of the female athletes who are in their late teens they look, developmentally like they are in their early teens. They have little to no breast development and very little body curvature.
If your not athletically active then your body will change when your brain releases the hormones that triggers the changes. This can't be rushed. What you can do in the mean time is make sure you are eating properly. Getting a proper amount of the right nutrients, are not underweight and in good health. All of these things do have an effect on puberty and development.
My parents are strict and I have always been required to answer them with yes sir, no sir, yes ma'am, and no ma'am. I am required to answer all adults this way and some of my friends think it is weird and they have been teasing me about it. I have talked to my dad and he will not let me off the hook when it comes to respect and manners. He will not let me just say yes or no I have to keep using sir and ma'am even though my friends never have to with their parents. Any ideas on what I should do?
There is nothing wrong with having good manners. Having good manners never fails to place you above the rest of the crowd and can always be the deciding factor in many situations.
I remember the principle in my sons middle school telling me one thing he admired about my son was his manners. No matter how out of control he may have been at any time he was never disrespectful. If it came down to him having to chose who to believe in any given situation my son always got the benefit of the doubt. His reason was that anyone who could be that out of control, as my son could be, and still be respectful could not lie at the same time.
So good manners are always a plus. So let your friends laugh if they want. In the end you will be the one laughing with the better jobs and better life prospects.
so i'm 14 and i been dating this boy for a couple months now and we had sex twice now and i keep hearing that sex at a young age makes u stop developing. is that true?
I agree with Zane. At 14 you should not be having sex in the first place. In the second place you should not be having sex unless you know what sex is all about and what the consequences are. Besides the obvious one of getting pregnant do you really want to go through school with a reputation that you are easy. because that is what will happen.
Teenage boys cannot keep secrets. Your sex partner will tell his BFF about his conquest of you. He has to, to show that he is now a man. His BFF tells some one else and so on. Next thing you know your name is on a bathroom wall. "Want a good time, call _____".
The other thing is sex is not meant to prove your a women or a man. It is meant to be something two adults do in a loving relationship. They don't have to be married and they don't have to be living together. They do have to be in a relationship that they intend to build upon and not change two weeks down the road.
There are too many diseases out there to be sleeping around, at any age. The younger you are and the more partners you have, even with protection, the more chances you can get an STD. Then your sex life and possibly your life can be ruined for ever.
So like my answer or not, please rethink having sex at your age. It can wait and it will be much better 4 or 5 years down the road.
hi my name is damien i am 201 pounds have long brown hair and i am looking for a girl friend i am looking for some one that likes me for who i am
I agree with bobby67 that on the surface it appears that there i no question here. If I read into it a bit I could see you asking us as to how to find a girl?
If I'm right the first hing you may need to do is lose some weight. Being 201 pounds like you are overweight possibly in the medical category of obese, not knowing your height and frame size.
If I'm correct and you are asking how to meet girls more information is needs. Information such as your height, weight (again) and frame size (large , medium or small). It would also be nice if you told us just a little about yourself in snapshot form, one or two paragraphs. Nothing really long. The shorter the better and the more advisers that will respond to you.
Homework, relationships (platonic. I can't even get past the friend stage, I'm afraid of not finding the right guy), and other general life things. I can't reach my goals and I'm just fed up because this has been a growing problem these past 3 years and I'm just sick of myself and I socially isolate myself even though I desire friendship from others (I just can't comprise who I am in the process.. I feel like I'm different from everyone in my town. I've been living here for 3 years and I still feel like an outcast) and try to be nice (but then sometimes I feel like I'm being mean or awkward, even when I'm trying to be nice, friendly, and pretend everythings ok. I'm 17 and a senior if that makes a difference. i've essentially f***ed up my high school years and i'm just so g9ep0oej. im not suicidal or anything but im just so sick of repeating the same stupid mistakes and getting further into procrastination and perfectionism to where I can't even accomplish anything anymore. like i planned on fixing mistakes this year and I'm nearly about to fail a lot of classes this first semester. im intelligent, and interested in world affairs and everything but I just self-sabotage and limit myself. I have big dreams but I have so much trouble starting them.. and I don't know why. here I am on the internet because I literally have no one to talk to about this. my parents would just criticize me (I'm very sensitive to being overtly criticized) and I have no friends in this town. I feel like I rely on other people too much, though. like I see relationships in a practical way almost but I don't like it. I'm too rigid at school when I'm really fun and everything like at home or w/e. nobody at school really knows me yet. and it's been 3 years! what do i do what do i do what do i do. i cant live like this my whole life, i have too big, yet attainable (if I can work hard) dreams
I'm so socially awkward with relationships I don't even know how to harness friends that I can hang out with or anything, from school. I haven't hung out with anyone from school (outside of school activities) since 10th grade, and I'm currently in 12th grade. that's how bad it is. family friends is easier, but i still rarely meet with them. like i've missed homecoming, prom, etc cause i feel like i dont have anyone to hang out with and I dont want to feel lonely or like i have to cling to someone else or w/e. im just a basketcase right now and its ridiculous. i feel like i cant relate to other people very well because a lot of people have lived in this texas town all their life, or in nearby towns, but i've just come here from the northeast and i've lived abroad and traveled abroad.. so i have totally diff music interests (indie.. people only listen to lamestream here), and etc (like i'm very interested in world events and i cant even hold a convo with most people about current things
I feel like people want to pigeonhole me into a stereotype, too, because I'm black. like I feel they think it's weird im not into "black stereotypical" things when it's just what I like.. I don't understand how it's so hard to think that people are unique and not caricatures of racist ideas
One of the worst things we as parents can ever do to our children is pick up and move during their high school years. Sometimes it is unavoidable as job situations change and transfers or relocation's become necessary.
While the adult acclimates well the teenager faces many problems. If a relocation takes you into another area of the country there is a culture problem, and of course there is the different accents. The biggest problem is fitting in. The kids in school have, for the most part, been together since grade school or at least since the coming to this school from their respective middle schools. They all have their clicks and friends groups and unfortunately they are not open bringing new people into their group(s).
The fact that you are Black should not enter into the problem but it does. Especially in certain parts of the mid-west where Blacks and non-whites are truly a minority.
First and foremost you need to get out from under this cloud of depression you are under. Talking with a therapist should help. While talking with the therapist or on your own make a list of things that interest you. Such as Hiking, Photography. Your interested in World Events, Possible Politics as well. These things all have clubs you can join. We have a major election coming up with candidates for federal and possibly state and local offices as well where you live.
Several years ago I was an assistant campaign manger for someone running for the U.S. Senate. We always needed campaign help and were grateful for anyone who volunteered especially teenagers.
Be it a high school sanctioned club or a club meeting in your church, a political campaign or something else that interests you. The interest in the subject is the common denominator for finding people to talk to a build friendships with. Given your interest in World events and the fact that teenagers are needed and wanted to help get the young vote out. I would suggest you start the as this would be a place, in a federal campaign you are most likely to find young people at or near your age with a common interest.
I thought I got over my depression, but recently all I feel is sad and exhausted. I'm so stressed out and I feel like I'm alone sometimes. I don't have anybody to talk with this about. My parents think I'm overly dramatic and I don't have any close friends anymore. I just can't take it anymore.
I too suffer from depression. Depression is something that is never truly cured. It in sense goes into a form of remission through either talk therapy, where you learn to deal with the stressors causing the depression or medication. In most instances it is combination of the two.
If you have been in therapy then you should be able to identify the symptoms of depression and know when you need help. Your parents thinking your being overly dramatic is wrong and is like turning a blind eye to the problem.
The phrase; "I just can't take it anymore," scares me as I'm not sure how to interpret your meaning. If you are unable to convince your parents you need to see a doctor and get help then I would like you to do one of two things.
If you think you could possibly hurt yourself then I want you to pick up the phone and dial 911. Stay on the line with the 911 operator until help arrives and make sure your parents let the police and paramedics in the house. Actually that is why the police are being sent to make sure that you are safe and that the paramedics get to examine you and if necessary take you to the hospital to be seen by the doctors. The police are there to ensure your safety and well being so do not be afraid.
If you are not thinking of hurting yourself then talk to a trusted teacher at school. The school system has procedures to follow, once you talk with a teacher or principal, to see to it you get help.
You can get help for how your feeling you just need to ask the right people. If their is a fire station in your neighborhood you can go to it and ask those on duty for help. Fire Stations are safe havens for children in the U. S.
Alright, I am female and 17 and he is 18 male. We are going on 10 years of friendship. Through those years, we've developed and became so much more closer. We feel so comfortable around each other. I love the whole aspect of him always being there for me, promising he will never leave me especially when I need him, listening to my problems no matter what time of the night or morning, he's just an all around amazing guy. I never saw us as anything more than friends, for ten years he has always just been my best friend but EVERYONE thinks we like each other. Everyone says he's just so different around me but I am different around him as well, I look at it as us being comfortable around each other to be our true selves, not different because we like each other. Of course, we argue and we bash heads a lot but we never go more than three days being angry at each other. We've hung out together outside of school watching movies or getting ice cream together, everyone thinks that's a sign because when he hangs out with "just his friends" they just go to his house and play games, with me, we go out and spend money and have a good time. We had this big project we had to do for school, I was nervous and he could tell so he told me to calm down, he knows that I will blow them away. He also asks me to remind him of things because he forgets everything if he doesn't write it down or put it in his phone, so he always asks me for help with things. All of the people that are on our case call this one 'the big kahoona' it's the biggest sign to them that he likes me, he plays his guitar for me and sings to me, I look at it as a friend thing because I've never heard him play before and for the longest time, he has avoided playing for me and he finally gave in and played for me. We also took a picture together, he never lets people take his picture but he took his picture with me and I set it as my phone background and everyone sees it and squeals with happiness because they think of that as a sign that we are finally together, which it isn't. I also tend to stress over a bunch of small things that pile up and when we'd text, apparently I wouldn't be acting myself and he would completely stop our conversation to tell me I am not being myself and if there is something wrong, he would love it if I would talk to him about it. I remember one time, I was going through something and it was about 2.30 in the morning and I texted him to remind him something, he knew I wasn't okay so he asked me what was wrong and I told him it wasn't a big deal to keep him awake longer and he said "no, tell me if you want to, I promise I will listen" he's just always there for me and I love that about him.
I know it's a lot to process and read and it's kind of all over the place which I apologize for, I just typed my thoughts as they came to me. Do you think he likes me or are we just best friends? If we did like each other, I can guarantee nothing would be done about it because we value our friendship so much but I am curious as to what an outsider that doesn't know the two of us thinks. Thank you for bearing with me!
My advice is not to try and take this relationship beyond where it is at or you stand to loose a great friend.
While it is possible you could have a successful love relationship the fact that sexual knowledge of one another; that is generally part of that type of relationship, means you can never go back to just being friends. Even if you moved this relationship into just being friends with special privileges puts your friendship into a different dynamic.
You have the type of relationship with this friend that everyone should have with someone but most do not. This is a valuable relationship that you should think very carefully about before doing anything to ruining it.
17/f
Ok so I'm a Christian and my boyfriend isn't. I'm fine with it and stuff but I'm afraid that somehow we'll argue about it and it'll get to me.
I'm not like gonna try and change him or anything, I just want advice from people who is with someone that isn't of the same religion and how you get through it and how you deal with it.
Thanks!
My wife and I are of two different religions and have been married going on 41 years. Enough said, Hope this answers your question.
Hello I was just wondering how old do you have to be to volunteer at the salvation army? If there are certain rules and regulations for certain salvation army places I would like it to be in the area of Cleveland Ohio 44111. There is one around the area of 44111 but I dont know how old you have to be. I looked but it didnt say anything. Please help if you can. thanks.
Here is the number and address of the Center for the zip code you supplied. I would suggest you call them and ask them yourself as they can best answer your question.
I have on many occasion had contact with members of the Salvation Army at some disaster scene I have been at. I believe you will find them very friendly and welcoming of you desire to help. So give them a call.
(216) 252-3593
12645 Lorain Ave
what do you say when a boy asks you to rub his balls at school
My suggestion to you is that you say no and go tell a teacher. What he is doing is sexual harassment and even at your ages it is illegal and has harsh consequences for the offender. You have every right to walk the halls of your school without being bullied or harassed in anyway.
You owe him no warning and you do not have to wait until he does this again. Seek out a trusted teacher and tell him/her what he has been asking you.
I have a 2004 Chevy Ventura mini van. It dies a lot usually when driving but sometimes when ideling. I had a local mechanic check it once when it wouldn't start and he found it was getting no spark. He replaced the electronic ignition module and the crankshaft sensor but this did not fix the problem. He checked an air flow sensor and determined that was not the problem. It usually starts after 5 to 40 attempt to restart, except once it didn't start for two hours. The Chevy Dealership can find nothing wrong with it. It has a new battery. It has about 100,000 miles. Today it died five times in twenty minutes. Please help me. Thank you.
If it was a much older car I would say it sounded like a vapor lock. Ask a mechanic to check the vacuum system and replace the vacuum canister.
In today's cars, the fuel is pumped by the vacuum system and if there is no vacuum or there is a collapse in the system there is no fuel pumped, the care stalls. After time the the collapse loses the suction that caused it, the car starts and works until the system collapse again.
If it is a weak hose or a bad canister it is hard to trace as the car operates properly for the mechanic.
19/F
Due to the recent Adderall shortage in the nation, I have to switch my medication to Concerta.
I took Concerta when I was 12 and it made me depressed, which is why I switched to Adderall.
Does Concerta have the same side effects as Adderall? (loss of appetite, dry mouth, headaches, etc.)
Does Concerta work just as well?
And is there anything else anyone can tell me about Concerta that I should know?
Thank you!
Below is a link I found on yahoo that should answer all of your questions. I hope this helps.
http://health.yahoo.net/goldcontent/methylphenidate/2#H7
I'm worried I could be pregnant.
I'm 21f. My boyfriend is 18
The reason I'm worried is because I've been on the pill for about 4 years now and I take it at the exact same time every day. Well me and my boyfriend went to a concert on Friday night and he held my phone for me and I told him to let me know when my alarm went off so I could take my pill. Well I went to the bathroom and came back and asked him what time it was and it was like 9:11. I usually take my pill at 9. And then I'm also worried because my boyfriend was a virgin before this and so I'm not sure if he put the condom on right. When we were done and got up he said "Well it looks like it worked"
We had sex Saturday morning. I'm just freaking out! I wouldn't be as worried if I took my pill on time the night before. I don't even think the condom broke but I'm just worried my boyfriend didn't put it on right or something. Now I have stomach pains, but I think it's because i'm stressing myself out so much thinking about it.
I would suggest you stop worrying. Certain medication need time to build up in your system to be effective. Birth Control pills are one of those medications. In general when you decide to have a child you can't conceive immediately upon stopping birth control pills as the medication needs to leave your system. The longer it is from the last pill the higher the chance of conception. Being 11 minutes late taking your pill makes you chances of getting pregnant about zero. That is the same effective rate of the pill itself.
The fact that you piggyback condom usage as well brings that chance even closer to zero, which is a better effective rate than the pill alone. So stop worrying. The stomach pains I would guess are nerves. If they continue see a doctor as it is too soon for a home pregnancy test and I feel it is really to soon for you to feel any effects from a pregnancy.
Why can't I orgasm during sex?
More detail is needed to answer this question; age and sex, if you masturbating or having intercourse. Without this information I would only be guessing on the why of your question and any answer I might put forth could be totally wrong.
Okay I've been having problems with my boyfriend for quite sometime and there are times when we have these arguments and i tell him how i feel and stuff. He would always end up saying; "I have no reason to live anymore if you don't love or care for me." I always tell myself he is full of crap, but it bothers me sometimes. He is eighteen years old and i am seventeen. He was never like this before considering we've known each other almost all our life. Ever since this new friend he's been hanging with he's been acting like that. I've met his friend too. His friend wants to kill himself too. I've been real nice to his friend and everything. Giving him those talks that he shouldn't be thinking like that. Then when i got to know him real better. He's a big jerk. I honestly think he's a bad influence and i don't know what to do. I'm not a bitchy girlfriend. I care about my boyfriend and i think its a bad idea that he hangs out with him.. What should i do?
First I don't think it is safe for you to continue your relationship with your boyfriend while he continues to hang out with his new friend. You are correct that his new friend is a bad influence on him. Your first concern though needs to be for your own safety and if your BF is out to harm himself he may harm you in the process. You need to put some distance between you and him.
As to what you should do to keep him from harming himself. You say you have known him all your life. I would take this to mean you probably know his parents. I would suggest you try and talk with his mother when his is not around. Tell her of your concerns and your concern of how his new friend is being a bad influence on him.
For know that is all you can do unless you are sure those two have an actual plan to hurt themselves or others. If you know of a plan and that they are or have the capability to carry out that plan; then you notify the police immediately.